 And so the story that I'd like to start to share here is one that I've shared often and that I really enjoy from the hadith literature And it's a young companion of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam young when this story takes place. He was a young boy And his uh nickname was abar omeir and abar omeir was You know a young boy Who was very close to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam him and his entire family the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would often go to their home and Visit and was well acquainted with the parents and the other sibling and Abul talha a father and umsulayn the mother of this young boy Were uh very close to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as was his brother who was probably more famous than This particular companion abar omeir and he was done other than anas ibn malik and Because of this Closeness to the family the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was well acquainted with The the emotions and also You know the everyday happenings of this particular family and on one day one occasion The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam entered into their home to visit them And he found abar omeir Isolated kind of a you know taking taken a corner and was tearful And i remind us how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is always somebody who is very very busy and has much much To do and then the affairs of the umma way on his shoulders his blessed shoulders sallallahu alayhi wa sallam yet He acknowledged and made It was clear to him that there was something happening even with a young boy It would have been very easy to dismiss this Incident or to you know to say to oneself. I have a lot to do. I don't have time for this Right, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made notes of this and wanted to sort out what was happening But also didn't want to go directly to the young boy and ask him so that he does not trouble him further And here's we learned so many different lessons in emotional intelligence of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam The first thing the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did Is he asked the family members he asked the others What's happening with other hamaid What is happening here with him so that he understands the backstory Before trying to give any advice Especially in a way that of course any advice coming from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would be fully welcomed but think about us Think about us who are not divinely inspired We often will give unsolicited advice to people without fully even understanding what's happening with them Clearly he saw that this young boy was distressed. He was crying. He was in distress But he didn't immediately go to him and try to sort it out. He talked to the people around him And once he sorted out what was happening, then he thought to himself This is what I need to do next and look at this beautiful story and how it plays out He then approaches the young boy And He said his very famous statement that we now have in the hadith of how it is We know this story because it's part of the hadith literature. He said to him. Yeah, aba omeir Oh aba omeir maa faa lannu ghayr It's beautiful. It's a beautiful thing. I mean just even the eloquence of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he literally Arrigned the name aba omeir to The story at hand So here's what the story was the story was the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam learned when the family members that little the little boy Aba omeir was crying and tearful and sad and distressed because His pet bird had passed away had died and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam goes to him and he says to him Ya aba omeir maa faa lannu ghayr Anu ghayr is the translation of this word is a small bird It's a play on the word bird and it rhymes. He could have used many other Words for a bird, but he uses this one to rhyme his name just the eloquence upon all the prophets in the body of sin And and it was just a short phrase That's it. It's a short sentence. There's not this long hadith that follows And we think about the kind of this too is from emotional intelligence when a person is in a state of distress In that moment and at a cute moment. They don't need a lecture They're not ready to hear a lecture. They're in a moment of distress So as light as you can tread the better And we don't see a whole hadith that follows this It actually was a playful Justful boy of the prophets will lot is them talking to this young very distressed boy And understanding at the boy's level coming down to his level and understanding that in his world This is a big deal So he also doesn't brush it off like some of us do with our own family and friends And even to ourselves we do this we brush off distress And sometimes we say things like well, at least I don't have a bomb falling on my head Mailer protect all of us including our sisters and brothers that in fact you have bombs falling on their heads But that's not your reality if you're not in a war-torn situation And maybe your reality Is comparatively smaller, but in your world, it's a big deal The prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would go to people at their level And meet them at their level and this was part of his emotional intelligence And then look at the way in which he asked the question It wasn't just that it was playful It was also very purposeful because there's nothing that the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says except that it is said With accuracy and that it is said with purposefulness And so he asks him not what did you do accusatory? What did you do to the bird? He asks him What did the bird do? Okay in a playful way right as in to say what did that bird do? Right and in that way he he was able to get up or made to you know to kind of Not feel that level of stress to kind of bring it down Right and be able to engage With the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam And understand that he was there to comfort him There was no accusatory piece sometimes we do this to our friends and to our loved ones Our family members we kind of they're going through a tough time and we say well, you know you brought that upon yourself Or things of this nature Right, but that's not from emotional intelligence emotional intelligence of the prophets and the laudio sallam from his sunnah Is to meet people where they are to understand their level of stress at their moment of distress Empathy empathy is putting yourself in the shoes of someone else In order to feel huh, what would it be like? What they're feeling You know ibn hajar Has said about this hadith That there are at least 60 60 rulings of sharia derived from this one little hadith That is how weighty this hadith is It's phenomenal. There are so many lessons to be derived here