 Hello and welcome to Jonathan from the heart my name is Jonathan assay from Jonathan assay.com and I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today our topic can a man love again love love again after his heart's been broken can a man love again after his heart's been broken all right real quickly if you're new to my youtube channel please hit the subscribe button hit the bell so you can be notified of new content these are my Saturday morning videos where I get a little more personal with everyone today so can a man love again love or is it love love again love again after his heart's been broken um this is a really tricky tough or this is a real tough subject because I know from personal experience where I felt what I felt was deeply in love with a woman and I was incredibly attached to her that it felt very hard to you know even though I wanted to fill the gap like okay so here's the thing I was in a relationship with someone where I loved her deeply very deeply attached and when it ended I had this need to immediately fill the gap immediately fill the gap and what I mean is because there was this whole inside of me right there's this person that was in my life is no longer in my life and so um oh by the way my mug says love yourself and the t-shirt says humankind be both if you like my mug or shirt please post a comment below okay so I had to fill that void right away this oftentimes happens when someone has left our life this need to immediately fill the void and while we might seek companionship connection and even sex does that mean we're actually ready to love again to love again and I believe the answer is every man is capable but most men might get stuck when they've had an experience that didn't work out from them and they're stuck on that other person and I say that because I was there for a long period of time after my divorce I um some years later I met a fantastic woman we went on a six-year on and off relationship believe me I might be a dating relationship coach but I'm not perfect I'm human like everyone else I have my foibles I'm still learning about myself and our relationship lasted six years and after it ended the last time thankfully we had a couple breakups along the way which allowed me to wean myself from this from this person that I was very attached to attached to okay the word attached now if you're not familiar with the book getting the love you want by Harvelle Hendricks this is a such an important book to understand yourself and to understand men because what happens is we oftentimes choose partners in our life that are very familiar to our family upbringing so we might actually be like what the book says attached and if you check out the book attached to understand how we might attach ourselves to another human being based on what Harvelle Hendricks talks about the Amago or Amir Levine talks about our love attachment style which isn't true love it isn't true love and I say this because how can we truly love another until we love ourselves love yourself this is why I'm a big proponent of reading my book what the heck is self love anyway check out the links below I've got my Jonathan recommends book so understand that man or woman we can get attached to another human being believe that it's love real genuine heartfelt love when it's simply following a pattern from our childhood or in a love attachment style please read these books so you can understand these dynamics so today as I want to introduce you to a new book and if you're not familiar the work of David Data David Data wrote a fantastic book called the way of the superior man the way of superior man but he also has another book called it's a guy thing it's a guy thing an owner's manual for women to understand men and while I don't agree with everything in this book what I appreciate most is that when we start to understand the opposite sex when men start to understand women and women start to understand men we can predict behavior we can predict what's going on and when we can predict things we can make better choices in our lives so when it comes to understanding if a man can love again I want you to understand the dynamics of men not through the female filter through the female filter but through the male filter the male filter this is why I want you to check out this book it's a guy thing so you can understand how men operate differently than women because it's not about men and women it's about human here we'll go humankind it's about we human beings are you we're similar and yet we are different but it takes time to go I want to understand the opposite sex and then I invite the opposite sex to understand the opposite for those that are seeking heterosexual relationships by investing in understanding the other person this is one of our big problems and this is why what I want to say is can a man love after being hurt absolutely after having his heart broken he is capable of that when the work is done on oneself to heal to heal this is why I'm such a big proponent of reading and going to workshops and doing personal development self-help and spiritual work so when one is healed they feel like they're in a good place I know for myself I wasn't in a good place after my relationship ended it took me it took me a year to really heal from that and then sadly I lost my mother I lost my son my business I didn't feel like working and I've spent the last few years really healing myself and I only share this with you I've worked on loving myself because I'm a big proponent of self-love I'm a big proponent of self-love and now in my coaching program I help women vet men so you can recognize the guys who are ready for a relationship and the guys who are not and if you want some help with that check out my link for a free discovery call to see if working with the coach is right for you because when you understand which man is ready for a relationship and which man isn't then you can make better choices and I'm here to to do that for you I'm here to help make better choices sometimes I yell and scream and sometimes I'm a big protector and sometimes I act like your big brother and sometimes I'm cursing oh I just realized I didn't curse okay fuck I just cursed sometimes I act parental all these things is because I want to shake things up and invite you to look at things a different way and I hope today you got a sense of that all right I'm going to wrap up today's video oh by the way check out the links below in the description to see if any of those would work for you okay I'm going to wrap up this video as I always do first off giving myself a big gigantic job the mere hug of self-love I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm going to ask you to turn to somebody and give them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love and we can all use more love in our lives I want to thank you so much and wishing you a super duper wonderful day bye bye now