 Ni mainu pione bari Kmoothu Ni kad arriveda to runière Kwa ni kofu k utila katu Inishaครu Ni katu crowni katumb Ni nana kwa wiki wvention gelinu fiamingo ahaga pinihundia koo piewa kuwa pihama pengalimbi kuwambinda práarumatpidia hantu wiki kuo wiki jutwe kuchu kha kwa hukla na kwa wajnwe kwa wajnwe katia. Ni, indiki watafako ni kwa wajnwe wajnwe wajnwa wajnwe. Nkwa wajnwashiki naku talo wajnwe wajnwe. Nkwa wajnwe wataf mondi wajnwe wajnwe, wajnwe kwa wajnwe wajnwe. Nkwa wajnwe wajnwe wajnwe wajnwe. Kwa wajnwe wajnwe wajnwe wajnwe. Na hwad wajnwe wa wan people empurwa women in unorganizasi ...and just leave them to thrive as women and not try to transform them or mold them to be things that they are not. You get a lot out of a woman. Yes, give me baby girl and remain so. Guys, wapu me chumka. Buena wake. That would have been part of the question I wanted to ask you before this conversation ended. I would have asked you, is that statement that women say what a man can do, I can also do, you know. What do you think about it? And then you just brought it out. Me, I know you can do it. What do you think makes, why are women not all women but why is a subsection of women not contented with being feminine? What would you attribute it to? To their childhood and how they have grown. Cause, and I'm speaking this on the side of being a counselor or something how a child is brought up between each zero to seven years really shapes, gives them identity. How the parents treat them, what they see what they are fed in school or at home. That is what they will pick up. So a lady that, so their mother abuse their fathers, abuse their uncle, talk ill about them or even fight their husbands. That is the children's father. So if you see your mum, when you grow up and then you see your mum doing that to your dad, you completely lose respect for men. And that will happen subconsciously until you are 28 and you cannot respect a man. And now you want to be the man because you know how you ought to be treated. You get, like it comes from, what is this information that you received when you were a child? Like who taught you how to disregard women? Who taught you how to just hate being a woman? Maybe you are abused. Maybe you are, your opinions never mattered in your home. And so you just felt like ununabinye kitamburukotu na ambiwa when im toto, toka kwa i usikari biwa geni ama you are a lady, you should not be where men are. So all these ideas just keep building up, building up and when you are old, when you are a bit older, you feel like, okay, let me try be a man so that the society will hear me. Let me try voice out my, let me try dress like this so that I will be respected and not abused because people think that you get raped because of how umed dress. No, a rapist is a rapist. Whether you have dressed decently or not, it is their mindset, it's never about the one who has been abused. It is you, your character is pathetic and that is where you took advantage of this young girl. So the girl grows up and thinks, I have to look like a man because if I look like a lady, nijambu wa na va vibaya and now, nijambu wa na va vibaya nijambu wa na va vibaya and you end up calling them tomboyz. That's true. Baka na feel kamae niya de lele in discussion. Ni moto. Buu bisha jubka. It's very, it's just very, I don't know to say sad or what to call it, how the society is turning out. Now, in your opinion as a counselor, does the macho thing, I want to be like a man thing work for women? It does not work. That is not how God created us to be. Honestly, we have been created to be these tender human beings. We have power, we carry power as women. We are powerful and that is why God called us to submit, to be submissive in homes because that submission is like power under control. That is what is said and it's so true. Submission does not mean that you are weak. It means that you are powerful and you know your power and your place but you choose to be humble enough first of all to follow God and if you are married to be humble enough to allow the man lead. So there is no point in life that the word of God will come to change and now accommodate the society. Oh, now we are transgender. The word of God let it twist a bit and now it is okay to do this it is okay to look like this or choose. I feel because that is what I hear people say and I see on social media like what is called transgender. No, there is a transgender where you feel as a woman, as a man and as both at the same time. There is nothing, there is that that has come up and you are like well you must be a demon but like you cannot but you cannot put yourself in such a state and just I feel like no you didn't create yourself it is you are a man or you are a woman all these other things are just illusion So we stick to the script Yes Let me take you back to Dwellisa What are some of the challenges you are experiencing now? As a baker Yes The prices that are rising right now but I can say that there has been favor in my business when you realize that these there is a change in the economy and you just adjust the prices and you talk to the clients they are able to understand that okay if last year I was selling our KG at 2000 I cannot sell it in June 2003 at 2000 chillings sugar is in me panda unga in me panda you understand how you just add your profit margin na unga zabeya keiki So that has been one of the challenges there isn't challenges but people are accommodative of the new prices and I can say my business has great favor that I cannot explain Yes despite of the challenges I cannot complain I cannot complain What will you tell a young woman trying to navigate through life she's just started out started out in life and she's just figuring it out What will you tell such a woman? Get a community Get a community of either women or a church where you can plug in and be accountable again I'll just bring it back to accountability because the more you stay alone or secluded it drains you as a person like people cannot see you see when you're serving for example in church or you volunteered in any organization they are like you come alive they are your gifts that people can see and they are able to point out oh sure you're good at this try this tomorrow but when you have just you're just on your phone the whole day scrolling on Tik Tok or Instagram and there's nothing you're doing you're not showcasing your talents or whatever you can do your abilities out there in a place where you think that everything will just come come to you on a silver platter but that is not how life works I think that is that is a very bad mindset that the generation right now has that one day two like 100k will just be in your account like things will just happen while I'm on Tik Tok you get but that is not how life is I had that mentality a while back because at the time I usually thought what someone will come out of town and bless me with billions it's just giving which I did yamaze too it doesn't work like that even the word of God tells us that the one who is diligent in their work the work of their hands will be blessed so if there's no work in your hands if there's nothing you're doing you know as a human being you are created to work because people think that kazi teshatua pa dunia ni na that will be it but there is work in heaven like that is the natural way that God has put life that is work that will be done even in heaven so you have to put yourself in a place where you are growing as a person you're adding a value to your community your society do something that will serve another person again servanthu is a really precious thing to God and you can start there by just having people you don't have to get paid because you have to this generation want to take anything that will bring in money when I was let me share something I really want to employ someone my baking assistant so he sends the word out there and people started applying do you know there is one of and I know very for sure any generation I can text for email text for email I'm saying that because I look like I've seen you have a position even to like there is no there is nothing like hi and there are two emails that I look at the same and I'm like this people are so entitled like we just have to reply and chat on email like I have time to just chat with this person and get to know them ya I mean they're assuming you have time looking for someone I mean I'm here baby girl ya jumpitani ku geniko ita kupata to and there is no effort but if you really want to make a change and come out of that the mindset of this generation right now follow the word of god and how it is work God append laziness God append laziness the word of god in a sema that a little sleep And a little salamba. And poverty will come. So poverty is always on the move. Inanguo jitu konole mone ako very lazy. And it will come and pounce on you. You get. So put in the work. Read books. Ata maybe hauna pili se kubulontia. But build yourself. Have knowledge of different things. Then they don't have to be like in your field. But get to know. Add knowledge to yourself. By the time you get an opportunity is coming, you will be ready for it. It's not the time that you now start gathering things beyond you so that you just get that job, no. The more you're faithful in the little things, when God brings big things, it will be a smooth ride. And my pastor says that that is what success overnight means. You've worked for long years. And then one day an opportunity came. And you jumped in. And now people think, oh, they have just come from nowhere and God has just blessed them. But it's been preparation. And preparation is not wastage. Prepare yourself. Get out of that mindset of there's someone else who's coming to rescue me. There's just someone somewhere who will help me out of my laziness. It will be 30 and realize you've wasted a lot of your time on TikTok, a lot of your time on Instagram, as long as much as there are content creators, but you're not going to create content at 70. You're not going to create content at 82. When your grandchildren are there on a create content about TikTok, it might not even be there. But what can you do? Look at the longevity of what you're doing right now and how far can it go? We need to impact people. We need to be relevant after 100 years. I am preaching the gospel because even after 100 years, the gospel will still be relevant to people. Even to one generation from another, it will still be relevant. Yeah. Amazing. As we approach around this conversation, how do you think we can tackle our challenges as women from the point of strength? Most of the challenges come again in how you see yourself. I think I normally say that self-awareness is the greatest deliverance that you can do. You can go to many churches to be delivered generational curses, but when you are not aware yourself of, you know what, Sha? You sleep a lot, you sleep eight hours a day. Like there is that challenge and you call yourself out and you see you're lazy in that area or you have strength in another area. When you're very aware of yourself, you're able to receive corrections, to receive guidance and even lead your life in a meaningful way. The other one is grit. To be resilient in anything. Challenges come and this life will give you the hardest curses, let me tell you. Imagine if I give up now because it's 2017 and my parents have passed on, so my life has just in Mekwama, you know, they couldn't have been. There are so many souls that have come to Christ because of me preaching kwa streets. You understand? Me winning someone to Christ. But if I could have given up and just say, you know, I'm depressed, I know grief is hard, I really know it's hard and God is the solution again. But if I could have stayed at that stage of self-pity and it's over and I'm a victim, there are so many lives that could never have been transformed if I didn't take that burden to God again and leave it there. Don't take that burden to God and then when I talk to Namsigo, leave it there and then you keep going because God is always your backup. Amazing. We've had such a good conversation. I didn't even notice time to song up. What would you tell your younger self? No, we are done. We are winding up. What would you tell your younger self? That she will make mistakes, a lot of mistakes and the challenges will come in life, a lot of challenges. But your value and your worth is not in how fast you bounce back from any challenge. It can take a year, it can take how many years, but that does not equal to your value and your worth as a person just because you are slow in one area does not define you that your value is in God, your worth is in Jesus Christ and what He was able to do for you and pay that price for you. And there are opinions of people and they don't necessarily advocate to shut off opinions of people because these are the same people that you need to help you grow. People's opinions are good and may not be good. So, take each and every thing that you are told positively and save and get to know what works for you, what doesn't work for you and live without offends. Yes. Amazing, amazing. What's that one thing you can't live the house without? As a girl. My pen. My pen and my notebook. I love writing. I thought it was just a lie. I wish I would, but I'm not that. I don't want to make up. But I love my pen. I feel sicko complete without having a pen and a notebook. Yes. Or a book at least. Okay. On the road, are you a cheetah or a tiger? Tiger. I'm a tiger. You love speed? Oh. I love people who work raka raka. Yes. And myself as well. Nice. Use that camera to give us a patting shot and also tell us where we can find you on social media. Okay. On social media, I'm Jolissan Creations. Should I say the work? Which ever. Jolissan underscore creations on Instagram and on Facebook. And my personal handle is Shia Onamishon. So if you just click that, you will find me. And I'm patting shots. Be real authentic with your work and yourself. There is no there is no award for fake. There is no award for fake. Just be who you are and find your identity fully and wholly on God. He is the one who knows your end from the beginning. So stick to God. Clean to Him even in the hardest and happiest days. Let God be the constant of your times. Yes. Thank you. Thank you so much for coming. Welcome. Thank you. Thank you for having this conversation with us and for your time. My thanks a lot. My thanks. Look forward to having you again and again and again. Thank you. That was Shia. Shia Runatino. She prefers to be called Shia and she has given us a lot of insights so much about women empowerment, the strength of a woman and what she does as a person and what she does in her work with Christ. Today's take home on strength of a woman is there is no award for being fake. Keep it real, keep it authentic and be true to yourself. That is the strength of a woman.