 A friend of mine said to me recently, after going through something awful months ago, someone did something terrible to him. He said, I know I need to forgive and forget. He said, but I'm really struggling to forget what they did to me. And I feel bad that I can't forget. I said, no, I don't think the goal should be forgetting. If you make that your goal, you're really going to suffer and struggle. I said, instead, why don't you try remembering and softening each time you remember? Remember and soften. Remember and soften. Remember and create space for something new to emerge. Remember and remain open to repair for the damage that they did to you. I think, guys, that's often as good as it gets. So don't feel bad today for not being able to forget what they did to you. Stop trying. Remember and soften and try to grow from it.