 Sometimes people want to change the partner first instead of connecting with self. Sometimes people will choose the repetition pattern. Sometimes other people, though, will choose the oppositional pattern. Well, it can look a couple of ways. Sometimes people swing in romantic relationships, so they choose somebody who is super-compative in communication or conflict, and then the next person they date is the total nice guy or gal, like you said before. And then they swing back, and then they swing back. Or you grow up in a family system where high conflict is really charged, maybe high conflict means a lot of yelling, or it might mean abuse, or it can mean so many different things to so many people. But this idea that because this was so painful for me, I do a 180. So instead of being attracted and drawn to what is familiar, I 180 it, and I am drawn to the person who will never bring up anything. And even though the latter may be enticing, because no conflict sounds good, looks good, right? But the reality of it is, is that when we are existing in repetition or opposition, we are not existing in integration. And I think it's really important because to the public, I think we talk about repetition a lot. Oh, it's the same thing as when you grew up, and we don't give opposition enough of a spotlight. And so I'd like to just give opposition a moment here with us, be like, you have to look out for that part too, because that is not resolution, right? That's an avoidance of something. And an avoidance isn't the resolution that we're looking for. And that opposition can come in many forms. So as a parent, you might say, well, my parent's abused alcohol, so I'm never going to touch it. Right. You can look for opposition in behaviors that don't actually heal you, but you're acting in a totally different manner. So you on the surface think, OK, well, I'm not doing, I'm breaking that pattern. I'm not doing what my family did to me. So therefore, I'm healing and moving forward when in actuality, it's surface level. It's not meaningful to the wound that was caused. But it's so subtle, right? Because no one's going to argue with you if you choose not to drink. Right. They're not going to say, you should be drinking. Right. They're not going to be like, oh, that's a bad decision or low conflict. No, tisk, tisk, right? It's like these are the ones where it can feel like, oh, you can get away with it because you're making a choice that objectively looks pretty good to the observer. Right. And so it's so important. Right. This is such a nuanced conversation of, no, if you just choose that path without the resolution, right? You are not actually addressing and healing it properly.