 Just like you're going to see tonight, when there's girls who are feeling good, who are feeling open, who are signaling to everyone in the world, even though they don't even realize they're doing it, that they feel amazing, looking around, smiling, moving around, doing that like loud girl laugh that girls sometimes do, we're like, why is she laughing so loudly and obnoxiously? She's signaling to every single guy, hey, I feel good, I feel sexy. Come talk to me, please. And if you go and talk to that girl, as long as you're not just reeking of closeness and discomfort and, I don't know, a stack of, I don't know, as long as you're not just radiating that you're very, very close, she is going to give you a positive response. She is going to, you know, light up a little story just to highlight this. I was working with some guys, Bar in New York City, and corner of the bar, there were three girls, by far the most attractive girls at the bar, hands down. Every other guy there saw them, every other guy there noticed them. One of my guys says, man, I want to go talk to those girls, so we observed them for a little bit, observation, and they were just closed as shit, they were all circled tight together, frowns on their faces, and I said, not yet, not yet. So the thing about all of this is that, you know, if a girl is closed to start out, she's not going to stay that way. Some girls are, I feel bad for them, because they've got some real shit to work through. But most girls, most people, what happens? They spend a little bit of time at the bar, they start having fun with their friends, they start to loosen up a little bit. Maybe she has another drink, maybe a song comes on that she really likes, maybe she starts getting, talking to some good friends and they have some laughs. People open up over time, if you just give them a couple minutes, depending on the circumstances. So, this guy said, I want to go approach them, I said, not yet, not yet. And sure enough, we watched some other guy, saw the exact same girls, just like all the rest of the guys did. You know, he was the one guy who had the balls to approach him first, so he walked up and I said, give him 15 seconds, girls will be rejecting him. Sure enough, about 12 seconds later, he was walking away with his head down, the girls were, you know, closing in the ranks, and every other guy saw that. And I mean, no harm no foul to that guy, he had the balls to do it, props to him, cheers to him, all the respect in the world, but all the other guys were watching them like, I'm not going to go talk to those girls. I'm not going to be the guy to get rejected in front of everybody else, like that. But, me and my guys continue to observe, we continue to keep an eye on them. And sure enough, because those guys, because that one guy went and talked to them, they started to loosen up a little bit. Maybe they said to themselves, you know what, we came out to the bar to have fun, maybe we shouldn't be so stiff, maybe we should have a little bit more fun. Maybe that guy, I don't know, kicked something loose, like inside of them. And they started to smile more, they started to laugh more, they started to turn out more, they started to look around a little bit more, so I said to my guy, okay, now go, perfect, talk to him now. And he went up, made sure that we'd already gone over, open, close, I made sure he was expressive, eyeing, moving the body around nice and loosely. He went up and go and talked to them, simple line. I think it was something just like, guys look like you're having a great time, I had to come say hi, nothing to it. And sure enough, the girls blew wide open. They were all laughing, they were all touching him. They were all like, you know, he was part of the circle. And every other guy in there was looking at him like, oh my God, this guy's some kind of master. This guy is, oh my, I wanna learn from him. He is, he knows something that I don't. He, what is he doing? What did he say? No secret to it, no secret to it, observation, paying attention, not just having the gear spin a million miles an hour up here, focused, watching, observing. Most important thing when it comes to opening, by far. Five minutes, really? Holy shit. Okay, really, really quickly, I wanna give you something for conversations, something for that, you're in a conversation, things are going. That'll change your life and every conversation you'll ever have. I don't say that lightly. Conversations, even as Fran was talking about earlier, they always tend to happen where the guy talks way too much, way too much. Girls love to talk, right? We all know that, we've all heard it before. Girls love to talk. Why is it that we seem to be dominating the conversation a lot when we're talking? Well, because we're nervous, well, because we don't wanna lose the conversation, we're afraid that if we keep quiet for too long that things are gonna drop. What? Oh, that was a question? That wasn't a five, son of a bitch. Oh, I'll slow down then. What's that? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, I was like, hold on, questions at the end. I'll save, I'll save a couple of minutes. Oh, jeez, oh, it happens. It was fun. All right, what am I supposed to do with this Anthony? What am I? Okay, so we're a conversation, change your life, yeah, yeah. Guys talk way too much when it comes to conversation. So they're afraid that if they stop talking, if there's any silence, the girl's gonna lose interest, so they have to keep her attention. That is some of the most self-destructive thinking that you can possibly be doing. You really should not be talking that much. It's the truth. Girls really do like to talk. So what's a technique that you can keep in mind to swing things back in your favor? Everything that I teach, all the techniques I use, they're simple as possible. They're very, very, very simple. And why? Because when you're nervous, when you're going haywire, I want to give you just a simple objective that you can focus on, concentrate on, and do that's going to have the most positive result. Why? Because everything that I teach is very simple, but at the same time it's very difficult. Why is it very difficult? Because you're actually looking that fear, you're looking that anxiety, you're looking that doubt right in the eye, and you're stepping through it. You're not trying to circumvent it, you're not trying to look around it, you're overcoming it. So the simple thing to focus on when you're in those situations, you're talking, and you just want to do one thing. I like to call it the buffer, it's beautiful. Why? How do most conversations go that a lot of guys have, a lot of guys that I work with, how do their conversations go? Well, they start the conversation because that's what a guy does. He says something, and then she says something. And then he says something, and then she says something, and then he says something, and then she says something, and then he says something, and maybe she doesn't always say something. So he says something again, and then she says something, and then he says something. She says something, and he says something. Back forth, back forth, and sometimes if there's a silence, he'll say something to try to get her back into it, right? Has this happened to anyone? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? How would my conversations look? And especially in those first five or 10 minutes when you're not sure, like once she opens up, once you guys are laughing and you're having a great conversation and everything's flowing, I mean, shit, do whatever you want to at that point. But it's always at a time when you don't really know each other and you want her to be more into you and you're not sure how it's going to go yet, then you're trying probably way too hard. How do my conversations look at that time? Well, of course, I say something first, I'm the guy, more often than not, unless I'm wearing silly bands and she starts a conversation with me. I say something first, and then, of course, she's going to say something more often than not, she's going to respond, and then I pause. Silence is your most powerful verbal weapon. I know that doesn't exactly make sense on a literal level because silence isn't verbal, but silence is your most powerful verbal weapon.