 Welcome to another Narc Survival Live video everyone and in this one I'm going to be telling you what will trigger the narcissist to come back and this could be for those of you who want the narcissist to come back or maybe you don't want them to come back but either way it's still really good to be aware of this information depending on whether you want them to come back or not this information can still be very useful for you and it's exactly what you're going to find out by the end of this video you are going to know what triggers the narcissist to come back and this is very effective it is highly likely that it will work for you in your situation before I begin remember to give this video a thumbs up down below it helps to support the channel let's get this message out there to other survivors as well okay let's begin this triggers the narcissist to come back first let's talk about what will not trigger the narcissist to come back because narcissists are not like us you know if you're with someone maybe they're sad they're upset you had an argument they're not feeling too good they need your love they need your support if you're an empathic person like myself you are going to be running to them and pouring your love all over them because that's just what we do as empaths we cover people with our love but with narcissists doesn't work that way with them they have no love to give to you or anyone else and in fact when they see that you're down you're sad you're going through something maybe they've hurt you they've abused you they've left you all in your throne it does not matter how you respond to that situation it's just going to make them more bad the more that you cry the more that you beg them to come back even if you try to take your own life that's not gonna make a difference that's just gonna make them hate you even more and then they will really want to ignore you because that's just triggering them to go in the opposite direction you're triggering their shame you're making them feel bad so they will run away they're not really running away from you they're running away from this reflection of themselves that they do not like but either way no no matter how much you beg you cry you plead that does not work with narcissists with normal people with empaths yes of course if someone comes crying begging to me of course I'm not just gonna turn away from them of course I will give them as much love as they need of course I will do that but narcissists no they are not going to do that instead that's going to push them away it's like when you're sick it just irritates them it just makes them want nothing to do with you because they're self-absorbed and they lack empathy everything always has to be about them it always has to be about their situation their interests their feelings once in needs it can't just be about you or we can't even be about you even a little bit if it's not about them it has to be all about them so that is certainly one way to not trigger the narcissist to come back begging crying pleading that is not going to work with narcissistic people that will work very well with empathic people you won't even have to do that if they just see that you are down your side you're upset of course an empath they will come running to you just as I myself I get on here every day just to support people who are going through this this is just what empaths do this is our duty but it's not something that narcissists will do so now that I've made that clear we understand that now let's get into what will trigger the narcissist to come back and this is highly effective I can't guarantee it but if anything's gonna make them come back it's gonna be this because first you have to identify what is making them stay away in the first place clearly they must be getting narcissistic supply by staying away from you that has to be giving them supply and how is it giving them supply well it's giving them supply if you are still miserable if you're going through it if it is bothering you by being alone or by not being with them if it is affecting you it's giving them supply it's making them feel significant relevant important powerful attractive and desirable so how do you trigger the narcissist to come back well you just do the opposite of what you're doing that is making them stay away so instead of feeling down and depressed you need to raise your spirits remain unaffected by their absence and instead learn to enjoy your time alone find pleasure in that they will immediately sense that your energy has shifted they will no longer get supply from abandoning you leaving you on your own if you're no longer miserable or depressed it's no longer getting to you and instead you're actually enjoying it if their absence is having the opposite effect to what they're intending then they're gonna stop doing that it's going to trigger them to come back because the whole point of them being away it's to try to make you miserable it's meant to serve as a punishment and if it's not working as soon as they become aware of it they are going to stop doing it they're not gonna keep doing something if it's not having any effect but even then and why I said this is not a guarantee it's because narcissists do not always have all of the power in any given situation it's not always down to them on whether or not they can come back what about you if the narcissist came knocking on your door right now would you let them in would you let them come back I don't know about you but if I open the door and I saw the narcissist outside the door I would just shut the door I would have let them in I'm sure many of you it's the same thing because now you're aware you're awake you're wiser you're no longer susceptible to their manipulation you see right through them you're no longer under their spell they can no longer pull the ball over your eyes they they can no longer trick or deceive you and they may already be aware of that so they may not even waste their time trying to come back even though they may see and they may be aware that you are a lot happier without them they may still not trying to come back because they are not going to put themselves in a position where they already know that you are going to take pleasure and find satisfaction in rejecting them which I know many of you will do after all of the times they manipulated and abused you all of the times that maybe they rejected you of course you're gonna find satisfaction in rejecting them and they're already ahead of the game they're already aware of that so of course they're not gonna put themselves in that position and if anything what they're gonna do what they typically do this was done to me before as well they're gonna twist it on you and they're gonna act like actually no you didn't reject them they rejected you it's not that they can't come back to you it's that they don't want to come back yeah that's how they will portray it not only to you but to everyone else as well because they've got to be seeing a superior they've got so much pride and ego very egotistical very arrogant and delusional so they will do it like that they will act like no it's not that they can't come back to you they just don't want to come back that's if they know that they can't come back otherwise you know what they probably will they probably will give it a go if they think that they can if they think that they still have a chance especially if they can see that you are much happier without them that will trigger them to come back because remember the whole point of them staying away is that it's meant to hurt you it's meant to serve as a punishment but you got to think why would you want someone like that back anyway I mean someone who is deliberately trying to harm you deliberately trying to cause pain to you to get under your skin to punish you narcissists or not clearly a person like that it's not going to be any good for you if they aren't going to be any good it's gonna be if they're as far away from you as they can possibly be that's the only way that they can ever possibly serve you is by leaving you alone some of you I know despite that you will still want to get them back even though they may have harmed you even after everything they may have done to you you may still want them back in your life and maybe it's just that validation you're looking for closure an explanation for why they left in the first place but I can tell you if you were dealing with a true narcissist you're never going to get that from them you are never going to get closure a reason an explanation for what they did to you or for why they left we're never going to get that from a true narcissist that is just never going to happen no matter how much you may want it in fact the more that you want it you should know by now anything that you want from a narcissist you're never going to get it anything that you desire it's always going to be the opposite and that is why it's good to be ahead of it by pretending to want the opposite of what you actually want because then for example if you act like you want the narcissist to come back then they're just going to leave you alone but when they can see that you're happy without them you're moving on that is when they come back so that can help as well but be very careful because sometimes they may already be onto that as well but either way like I said it's not always up to them if they can come back or not narcissists think that they are omnipotent as though they can have anything do anything whenever they want however they want they got all of the power in the world no no no no they haven't they are not that powerful they can try to come back but you know what you can do you can say no and you can lock that door so that they can't come back in and guess what there is nothing they can do about it so clearly they're not that powerful after all and that means you win you have overpowered them you have defeated them by shutting that door and locking it keeping them out because I've said it before there is no winning with a narcissist as long as you have a narcissist in your life you are losing because they will never be any good for you they will never serve you you will always be getting the short end of the stick everything you try to build with them it will always be coming out of your pocket they will never invest anything into you or the relationship and that's always a red flag when it's just one person doing all of the work you're the one you're paying for everything they're living in your home they're driving your car you're cooking all of the food you're doing the washing you're cleaning their dishes and they're just sitting around doing nothing they're not even working let me that's how it's only ever going to be which is why the best thing you can do the most empowering thing you can do for yourself is to shut that door and keep it locked that is the best thing that you can do for yourself and by doing that you have won you have defeated the narcissist because the whole point with their false self it's meant to be they can do whatever they want they can have whatever they want whenever they want it however they want it and with whoever they want but when you deny them of that and you keep that door shut you are invalidating their false self their false narrative and their false reality their illusions of grandeur you're denying all of that and what does that translate to them fells on full of shame tells them that they're not good enough so you win at that point you have defeated the narcissist you have annihilated them and that's great let me congratulate you let's throw up hearty a no narcissist celebration because life is so much better without narcissists life is so much easier without them and in fact I have done a video on that a few years ago as well because it is the truth life is hard work with a narcissist without them it is a lot easier life is a lot greater it's more enjoyable it's more satisfying instead of having this miserable person over your neck all of the time bringing you down what kind of a life is that that's why it's best to keep them out but those of you whether you want them back or not if you want to know how to trigger them to come back this is it do the opposite of what you've been doing up until now you may have been miserable depressed thinking about them all of the time messaging them calling them looking at their social media as long as you're doing that it's giving them supply they don't even need to come back to you because they already know that you want them back they already know that if they came back you would let them back in right now so that's not gonna make them come back what will make them come back as if you actually find pleasure in your solitude or you involve yourself with other people and you're happy without them you don't need the narcissist anymore you don't need their closure the validation you don't need anything from with them when you get to that point they will immediately sense it they will know when you're beginning to heal when you're beginning to move on from them and that will trigger them to come back in most situations not all but in most because then they're not getting the narcissistic supply if you're no longer longing and yearning for them so that is it that is the message that is what triggers the narcissist to come back I hope it was helpful and if it was you can show your support by giving this video a thumbs up down below very important as it helps to get this message out there to other survivors as well and you can let me know what you think about this video in the comment section down below also hit that subscribe button and click all notifications so that you will be notified of my future videos if you'd like to book a one-on-one with me you can go to my website it is not survivor.co.uk and you can follow me on 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