 and I know of one mom who she could have written this article. She did everything that I just mentioned. Everything was done in her home and a few years ago she called me and her son was in college and she said you know my son just called me and he told me he's not praying anymore. He told me he's not feeling the Dean and she said it really calmly and I said to her why aren't why aren't you panicking? Why aren't you freaking out? How can you tell me that he's not practicing the Dean or praying anymore so calmly and she said because I have a high opinion of my Lord. She said from day one I have been praying for my children's Akhira, for my children's Dean and I know that those du'as didn't just disappear into thin air. I know that they have reached Allah and I know that those du'as will be answered in his time not my time but I know I can insha'Allah face Allah and say I did what was required of me. Now he has his journey. My child has his own journey. We all have our own journeys and we're not responsible for the end result and the first time I told this story, the first few times I told this story I cried because it was just so heart-wrenching you know but I'm happy to report now that her son is back and he's practicing the Dean again and he's praying and what she did was she kept an open door. She kept relations with him. She was loving to him but she kept doing and her husband kept doing and the other children kept doing everything that they believed was correct in the Dean and the kids saw that. He saw that they were they're willing to leave him behind. Fine you don't want to pray? Don't pray. We're still moving forward towards our Lord and he came back.