 There are some people you should never socialize with, be within a social setting on your own because when you're on your own with them it's only then that they feel safe to start pouring out this negativity or toxicity or divisiveness or gossip and they wouldn't dream of doing that when others are present in the room with you. There may not be a bad person to be around per se but you know the bad version of them tips out when they have you on their own. So to keep them in your world and to survive them as it were relationally, to manage them relationally, only ever be with them with other people. And you have this marine's motto between you, non-left behind. We arrive together at the house and we leave together from the house, none of us are left on our own to be cornered by them. Who do you have in your world that you need to make that decision about, use that wisdom about, never be with them on your own and then it's a manageable person in your life. I learned this the hard way, trust me.