 Hi, it's me again. Thank you for staying with us on White in the Morning again from 7, 2, 10, 8, and the hottest breakfast show around Hata than this song currently that is stressing our lives. Yeah, but winter is almost here. And I'm on my new new around like this, like this. The clouds are coming out to play. So it's generally a good day to be alive. It is the eighth day of April and you're watching, yes we're in the morning but it's the time for Man Crush Monday. We were talking, we are still, no. I told you we are going to talk about, eh, you can zoom in on me, yes. Distant love, long distance love. Like how does that work out? Does it even work out for guys? But here my day I'm squeezy, let's even first do this. Let's define what a working relationship is, yeah? Before we get into the distance and no distance part of it. I am at Calamity Val on everything. Please do get with us, give us feedback, tell us what you think if you, if your boo-boo or your bae is far away. How do you make it work? How do you manage the situation? At Y254 on Facebook, at Y254 channel on Twitter. Hi guys. Hi. How are you? Good. I'm Nakabzujie. Thank you. Can I start with my queen over there? Hi queen. Hi queen. What is your name? Emma. Yeah. Emma, what do you do? I'm a farmer. I had to ask her because I'm so impressed. I'm so very impressed. Are you on social media? Yeah. Please give her my hand also. Instagram, arimi, underscore N. Arimi? Yeah. Kido go arimi's. Yeah. Arimi's minus the S, underscore N. Facebook, Emma, arimi, yeah. Hi. Hi. How are you? I'm good. What's your name? My name is Siko Cakston. Well, you can actually call me MCO Kesa. MCO Kesa? Yeah. Wow. What do you do MCO Kesa? I'm a student at the University of Nairobi. And at the same time, I'm a business man. I'm a business man. I'm a business man. Wow. What's your CV? I'm a ticket to social media for now. Social media, MCO Kesa, Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. What's your Twitter? Twitter? Twitter. Sir, hi. I like your melanin. Thank you. What's your name? My name is Orinda Peter Kevin. But my friends call me Vokebuda. Vokebuda? Yes. Wow. Yes. Hi, Vokebuda. Are we friends yet? I'm not sure. I think we're going to be friends at the moment. I don't know if I'm going to be friends with Kevo. No way. Kevo is the one that I'm going to be friends with. Kevo, J-mo, Braio. John T. John T. Nima. Oh. I'll tell you a story. But we are Vokebuda. Welcome, Vokebuda. I do a lot of things. I'm a comedian. I am a cook. Yes. Hi. You make up say I am a cook. Yes. I'm a cook. Really? Yes. What's your favorite dish you like to make? And the taste and everything? Ah! Yes. I can do chicken curry. Wow. See me in my office after this. I'm a go- Oh! I'm a go-zema-lipua. Voke and a Skobuda. On Facebook is Kevino Rila. And on Twitter is Vokebuda. Ladies, he cooks too. Hi, sir. Hi. How are you? I'm fine. What's your name? My name is Matoke Patrick Osebe. Matoke? Yes. Wow. Uh-huh. Layas and Basada. Yes. That's Ndizi, Mandizi and Matoke. Matoke, yeah. That's your name. Yes. Hey! So you can tell where I come from directly. Clearly. Okay. Okay. Wow. What do you do, sir? Matoke. I'm a student at Shuka University. I'm the youth governor at Mira County. Wow. That's why you have a presence. I see you now. Sure. Uh-huh. Uh-huh. I'm also... Social media handle. Yes. My... My handle is... Matoke Patrick Osebe 01. Slowly. Matoke Patrick... Uh-huh. 01. Ha ha ha ha. I want you to say how. Ha ha ha ha. Yes. Matoke Patrick Osebe 01. Uh-huh. Down to whatever. Okay. On Facebook and Twitter and all those things. I'm on a rep for Matoke. Wow. Yes. I have three handles. So it's on a rep for Matoke 01. Uh-huh. On a rep for Matoke Patrick. And the youth ambassador in Matoke. Because I have many friends so I have 12, 3. Why? Yes. Wow. Yeah, wow. I'm very excited to meet all of you. I did not expect such lovely personalities. Okay, let's get straight to it. What do you think is a working relationship before we figure out if long distance works or not? Queen, can I start with you? Yeah. Yeah, what do you think a relationship that works looks like? Okay, personally, I think a working relationship. Uh-huh. There's the emotional support. Uh-huh. And there's the physical presence. Uh-huh. Okay, when I get mad at someone, when I'm at my lowest point on to get someone in their house, someone that can comfort me, someone that I can talk to, I really don't like making calls. I'm lazy on that and I don't like texting. So I think the physical presence and the emotional support is working. It's important for you. Yeah. You need to see... Mm-hmm. Yeah. Oh, see, doctor, you need to be at the corner and you need to be at the table. You need to be at the table. Hey. Okay, at least during 24 hours, I have to see you somewhere. In the clinic. Yeah. You need to have a appointment somewhere in between. Wow. What do you think a working relationship is? About long, long distance, I think love is all about a feeling. Love that feeling. So it's not about to be close to somebody. Somebody can be somewhere, maybe in the UK, but it's all about love. It's a feeling you have in your heart and I think the goal for that distance relationship mostly is for marriage. That's my point of view. Okay, first, before we go any further, I have a couple of people who might disagree with you. Love, we don't... We have come to the conclusion before on such platforms that love is not a feeling. Love is a verb. It's things that you do. Because feeling is coming. We do not agree with each other. We do not agree with each other. You're feeling not relaxed. We do not agree that love is a feeling. Love is a verb. Love is action. And that's my next question. When your significant other is in the UK, or wherever they are, what are you doing in the name of love during that space? Like, do you have another person who's giving you entertainment? Like, you just anticipate seeing them once a year. Or what does it mean? How does it work? I think for me, I have friends. We can have fun, I have girlfriends. They're not just boyfriend, I have girlfriends. Girls, who are your friends? Girls are my friends. Girls are my friends. Girls are my friends. We just go hang out. We have something. I think that one keeps my mind... Sometimes, I just get comfortable. But just to ask about... Maybe to differ with what he's saying, he just said love is a feeling. Okay, I've been watching so many movies lately. And I fall in love with characters every time. So I don't know. Alejandro. Joseph Morgan, Keith Harrington. Those are my crushes. But people that I wish I would... Okay, I'd love to meet them. So my question is, am I in love or am I fantasizing? Because you just said... Am I only long-distance? Do you want to come back here? And then I have my 24-hour schedule. Just you're crushing on someone. That is not love. You're just crushing on that person. You wish. That's your wish. But you've seen something with that person. That makes you want to be close to him. To him, maybe. You just wish him. That's a fantasy. Let me say it. That's a fantasy. People that I wish I were in love with, they are more likely to be in a long-distance relationship because of... We like the idea of fantasy, the idea of perfectness, if it is what it is. But if it is what it is, we communicate in all these things. It might be true, it might not be true. I'd like you to answer me that. But I don't know one thing. So if you want to go out with your friends who are girls that you go have a good time, it takes... I went to the UK, and she sees a picture of you with five girls around. How? She doesn't know. Let us prefecture. Let us. Let us prefecture my brother. You cannot tell me that I hang out with other girls. How? We are out there. What are you doing, hang out with girls? For example, I'm with them and other friends. Who are guys, who are men. And then you are telling me that now, we are just hanging out here with them. We are doing nothing. That is impossible. Because the one is holding your hand. Let's take a selfie. Hey, hey, hey. How do you feel about this? First of all, let me define relationship. Relationship basically is intimacy and affection that you have between somebody, somebody that you love. And then about long-distance relationship. You know, I personally, I can accept to do long-distance relationship. For example, let's say I'm working in Mombasa and my girlfriend is in Nairobi. Each and every weekend she can be coming and visiting me. We have fun together. And she come back and I keep the communication and everything through social media, WhatsApp. To text, to goodnight babe. Good morning. You know ladies love, love, love attention. They love being communicated to each and every day. It's true. If you're not giving it to her, someone else is. Someone else will. But okay, one thing. I have a friend actually. She had a guy who was in US. But back in Kenya, she had another good. They used to live together. But the guy in US used to send rent. But she was already living with the other guy. So the rent money was somehow a pocket money. And the guy came back, they got married. Wow! A week later, she went back to US and then left the lady back. They were back on her ball. Back on her ball, she lied to the other girl. That it's his? Yeah. Oh God, Buster. That's me back when I'm pregnant. I mean, surely. It's not about love. It's not about your physical presence here. Okay, we all talk about being in love. We all talk about that. But there is that physical presence. And then, okay, maybe we've been together for two years. And then we've been intimate for the two years. And then all of a sudden, you've gone to UK or somewhere else for a whole year. You see, I don't know when you're next to a guy who's like, I don't know. You don't feel anything. That is lying. It's not called self-control. Yeah, you talk about self-control like for a month or two and then later things will catch up with you. You touch it the first time and you'll regret. The second time, you'll regret. And the third time, you'll know. The boyfriend doesn't know. You go to your fully serviced. What are you talking about? No, I'm sorry, I'm shy. Hey! Wow. I'll go. Before you continue. You try to tell us that we should not date. We should not date ladies who are far or men who are far. No, he had a nice idea, by the way. And he said, ma, I'm working in Mombasa in Nairobi. I go for a week. You come over for the weekend. You go to the tenant for a week. It works. Your weekend, weekend, really, it works. But don't tell me to make a tattoo. And I'm still back at home waiting for you. Our moms used to do that, by the way. Our mothers used to do that. And our aunties and our grandmothers. Then what happened to this generation? This, okay. But we don't know. We're saying the girls' child have been empowered enough. But now, to make it our right. Make it our right. We're so nervous, you're doing it. No, we don't know. We've known our right to society. Okay, we went to the school for four years to do your degree. The guy went for four years to do the degree single. But back at home, when I was at home, I didn't feel like your degree was short-term or if I didn't feel like I didn't feel like I didn't. No, now we know. We went for four years, I went for four years. So, easy for you to do. Me? So now you're feeling like you're at Pearl with a man. So, you can do what a man can do. Yeah, and he can do it better. He knows how to cheat. He can cheat better than he does.