 The following article is condensed from the chapter on Moral Education in Herbert Spencer's Education, Intellectual, Moral and Physical. While it is seen that for the purpose of gaining a livelihood and elaborate preparation is needed, it appears to be thought that for the bringing up of children, no preparation whatever is needed. In the absence of this preparation, the management of children, and more especially the moral management, is lamentably bad. Parents either never think about the matter at all, or else their conclusions are crude and inconsistent. In most cases, and especially on the part of mothers, the treatment adopted on every occasion is that which the impulse of the moment prompts. It springs not from any reasoned out conviction as to what will conduce to the child's welfare, but merely expresses the passing parental feelings, whether good or ill, and varies from hour to hour as those feelings vary. Or if these blind dictates of passion are supplemented by any definite doctrines and methods, they are those that have been handed down from the past, or those suggested by the remembrances of childhood, or those adopted from nurses and servants, methods devised not by the enlightenment, but by the ignorance of the time. Let us go on to consider the true aims and methods of moral education. When a child falls or runs its head against the table, it suffers a pain, the remembrance of which tends to make it more careful for the future. And by an occasional repetition of like experiences, it is eventually disciplined into a proper guidance of its movements. If it lays hold of the fire bars, thrust its finger into a candle flame, or spills boiling water on any part of its skin, the resulting burn or scald is a lesson not easily forgotten. Now in these and like cases, nature illustrates to us in the simplest way the true theory and practice of moral discipline. Observe in the first place that in bodily injuries and their penalties, we have misconduct and its consequences reduce to their simplest forms. Though according to their popular acceptations, right and wrong are words scarcely applicable to actions that have none but direct bodily effects, yet whoever considers the matter will see that such actions must be as much classifiable under these heads as any other actions. Note in the second place the character of the punishments by which these physical transgressions are prevented. Punishments, we call them, in the absence of a better word, for they are not punishments in the literal sense. They are not artificial and unnecessary inflictions of pain, but are simply the beneficent checks to actions that are essentially at variance with bodily welfare. Checks in the absence of which life would quickly be destroyed by bodily injuries. It is the peculiarity of these penalties, if we must so call them, that they are nothing more than the unavoidable consequences of the deeds which they follow. They are nothing more than the inevitable reactions entailed by the child's actions. Let it be further borne in mind that these painful reactions are proportionate to the degree in which the organic laws have been transgressed. A slight accident brings a slight pain, a more serious one, a greater pain. When a child tumbles over the doorstep it is not ordained that it shall suffer in excess of the amount necessary, with the view of making it still more cautious than the necessary suffering will make it. But from its daily experience it is left to learn the greater or less penalties of greater or less errors, and to behave accordingly. And then mark lastly that these natural reactions which follow the child's wrong actions are constant, direct, unhesitating, and not to be escaped. No threats, but a silent, rigorous performance. Still more significant will these general truths appear when we remember that they hold throughout adult life, as well as throughout infantile life. It is by an experimentally gained knowledge of the natural consequences that men and women are checked when they go wrong. After home education has ceased, and when there are no longer parents and teachers to forbid this or that kind of conduct, there comes into play a discipline like that by which the young child is taught its first lessons in self-guidance. If the youth entering upon the business of life idles away his time and fulfills slowly or unskillfully the duties entrusted to him, there by and by follows the natural penalty. He is discharged and left to suffer for a while the evils of relative poverty. On the unpunctual man failing alike his appointments of business and pleasure, they continually fall the consequent inconveniences, losses, and deprivations. The avaricious tradesman who charges too high a rate of profit loses his customers, and so is checked in his greediness, and so throughout the life of every citizen. In the quotation so often made at proposes of these cases, the burnt child dreads the fire. We see not only that the analogy between this social discipline and nature's early discipline of infants is universally recognised, but we also see an implied conviction that this discipline is of the most efficient kind. Have we not here then the guiding principle of moral education? Must we not infer that the system so beneficent in its effects, alike during infancy and maturity, will be equally beneficent through youth? Is it not manifest that as ministers and interpreters of nature, it is the function of parents to see that their children habitually experience the true consequences of their conduct, the natural reactions, neither warding them off nor intensifying them, nor putting artificial consequences in place of them? Probably, however, not a few will contend that already most parents do this, that the punishments they inflict are in the majority of cases the true consequences of ill conduct, that parental anger, venting itself in harsh words and deeds, is the result of a child's transgression. But observe that the discipline on which we are insisting is not so much the experience of parental approbation or disapprobation, which in most cases is only a secondary consequence of a child's conduct, but it is the experience of those results which would naturally flow from the conduct in the absence of parental opinion or interference. The truly instructive and salutary consequences are not those inflicted by the parents when they take upon themselves to be nature's proxies, but they are those inflicted by nature herself. We will endeavour to make this distinction clear by a few illustrations, which, while they show what we mean by natural reactions as contrasted with artificial ones, will afford some directly practical suggestions. In every family where there are young children there almost daily occur cases of what mothers call making a litter. A child has had out its box of toys and leaves them scattered about the floor. In most cases the trouble of rectifying this disorder falls anywhere but in the right place. If in the nursery the nurse herself, with many grumblings, undertakes the task. If below stairs the task usually devolves either on one of the elder children or on the housemaid. The transgressor being visited with nothing more than a scolding. In this very simple case, however, there are many parents wise enough to follow out, more or less consistently, the normal course, out of making the child itself collect the toys or shreds. The labour of putting things in order is the true consequence of having put them in disorder. Every trader in his office, every wife in her household has daily experience of this fact. And if education be a preparation for the business of life, then every child should also from the beginning have daily experience of this fact. If the natural penalty be met by any refractory behaviour, then the proper course is to let the child feel the ulterior reaction consequent on its disobedience. Having refused or neglected to pick up and put away the things it has scattered about, and having thereby entailed the trouble of doing this on someone else, the child should, on subsequent occasions, be denied the means of giving this trouble. When next it petitions for its toy box, the reply of its mamma should be, the last time you had your toys you left them lying on the floor, and Jane had to pick them up, so that as you will not put away your toys when you have done with them, I cannot let you have them. This is obviously a natural consequence, neither increased nor lessened, and must be so recognised by a child. The penalty comes too at the moment when it is most keenly felt. A newborn desire is balked at the moment of anticipated gratification, and the strong impression so produced can scarcely fail to have an effect on the future conduct. Add to which that, by this method, a child is early taught the lesson which cannot be learned too soon, that in this world of ours pleasures are rightly to be obtained only by labour. Take another case. Not long since we had frequently to listen to the reprimands visited on a little girl who was scarcely ever ready in time for the daily walk. Of eager disposition and apt to become thoroughly absorbed in the occupation of the moment, Constance never thought of putting on her things until the rest were ready. The governess and the other children had almost invariably to wait, and from the mamma there almost invariably came the same scolding. Utterly as this system failed, it never occurred to the mamma to let Constance experience the natural penalty, nor indeed would she try it when it was suggested to her. In the world the penalty of being behind time is the loss of some advantage that would else have been gained. The train is gone, or the steamboat is just leaving its moorings. And everyone, in cases perpetually occurring, may see that it is the prospective deprivations entailed by being too late, which prevent people from being too late. Is not the inference obvious? Should not these prospective deprivations control the child's conduct also? If Constance is not ready at the appointed time, the natural result is that of being left behind and losing her walk. And no one can doubt that after having once or twice remained at home while the rest were enjoying themselves in the fields, and after having felt that this loss of a much prized gratification was solely due to want of promptitude, some amendment would take place. At any rate the measure would be more effective than that perpetual scolding which ends only in producing callousness. Again when children with more than usual carelessness break or lose the things given to them, the natural penalty, the penalty which makes grown-up persons more careful, is the consequent inconvenience. The want of the lost or damaged article and the cost of supplying its place are the experiences by which men and women are disciplined in these matters, and the experience of children should be as much as possible assimilated to theirs. We do not refer to that early period in which toys are pulled to pieces in the process of learning their physical properties, and at which the results of carelessness cannot be understood, but to a later period when the meaning and advantages of property are perceived. When a boy old enough to possess a pen knife uses it so roughly as to snap the blade, a thoughtless parent, or some indulgent relative, will commonly forthwith buy him another. Not seeing that by doing this a valuable lesson is lost. In such a case a father may properly explain that pen knives cost money, and that to get money requires labour, that he cannot afford to purchase new pen knives for one who loses or breaks them, and that until he sees evidence of greater carefulness he must decline to make good the loss. A parallel discipline may be used as a means of checking extravagance. These few familiar instances, here chosen because of the simplicity with which they illustrate our point, will make clear to everyone the distinction between those natural penalties which we contend are the truly efficient ones, and those artificial penalties which parents commonly substitute for them. Let us note the many and great superiorities of this principle over the principle, or rather the empirical practice, which prevails in most families. In the first place right conceptions of cause and effect are early formed, and by frequent and consistent experience are eventually rendered definite and complete. Proper conduct in life is much better guaranteed when the good and evil consequences of action are rationally understood than when they are merely believed on authority. A child who finds that disorderliness entails the subsequent trouble of putting things in order, or who misses a gratification from dilateriness, or whose want of care is followed by the loss or breakage of some much prized possession, not only experiences a keenly felt consequence, but gains a knowledge of causation, both the one and the other being just like those which adult life will bring. Whereas a child who in such cases receives some reprimand or some factitious penalty, not only experiences a consequence for which it often cares very little, but lacks that instruction respecting the essential natures of good and evil conduct which it would else have gathered. It is a vice of the common system of artificial rewards and punishments that by substituting for the natural results of misbehaviour certain threatened tasks or castigations it produces a radically wrong standard of moral guidance. Having throughout infancy and boyhood always regarded parental or tutorial displeasure as the result of a forbidden action, the youth has gained an established association of ideas between such action and such displeasure as cause and effect, and consequently when parents and tutors have abdicated and their displeasure is not to be feared, the restraint on a forbidden action is in great measure removed. The true restraints, the natural reactions having yet to be learned by sad experience. As writes one who has had personal knowledge of this short-sighted system, young men let loose from school plunge into every description of extravagance. They know no rule of action, they are ignorant of the reasons for moral conduct, they have no foundation to rest upon. Another great advantage of this natural system of discipline is that it is a system of pure justice and will be recognised by every child as such. Whoso suffers nothing more than the evil which obviously follows naturally from his own misbehaviour is much less likely to think himself wrongly treated than if he suffers an evil artificially inflicted on him. And this will be true of children as of men. Take the case of a boy who is habitually reckless of his clothes, scrambles through hedges without caution, or is utterly regardless of mud. If he is beaten or sent to bed, he is apt to regard himself as ill-used and his mind is more likely to be occupied by thinking over his injuries than repenting of his transgressions. But suppose he is required to rectify as far as he can the harm he has done to clean off the mud with which he has covered himself or to mend the tear as well as he can. Will he not feel that the evil is one of his own producing? Will he not while paying this penalty be continuously conscious of the connection between it and its cause? And will he not, despite his irritation, recognise more or less clearly the justice of the arrangement? Again the tempers both of parents and children are much less liable to be ruffled under this system than under the ordinary system. Instead of letting children experience the painful results which naturally follow from wrong conduct, the usual course pursued by parents is to inflict themselves certain other painful results. A double mischief arises from this. Making as they do multiplied family laws and identifying their own supremacy and dignity with the maintenance of these laws, it happens that every transgression comes to be regarded as an offence against themselves and a cause of anger on their part. Add to which the further irritations which result from taking upon themselves in the shape of extra labour or cost, those evil consequences which should have been allowed to fall on wrongdoers. Similarly with the children. Penalties which the necessary reaction of things brings round upon them penalties which are inflicted by an impersonal agency produce an irritation which is comparatively slight and transient whereas penalties which are voluntarily inflicted by a parent and are afterward remembered as cause by him or her produce an irritation both greater and more continued. Just consider how disastrous would be the result if this empirical method were pursued from the beginning. Suppose it were possible for parents to take upon themselves the physical sufferings entailed on their children by ignorance and awkwardness and that while bearing these evil consequences they visited on their children certain other evil consequences with the view of teaching them the impropriety of their conduct. Suppose that when a child who had been forbidden to meddle with the kettle spilt some boiling water on its foot the mother vicariously assumed the scold and gave a blow in place of it and similarly in all other cases. Would not the daily mishaps be sources of far more anger than now? Would not there be chronic ill temper on both sides? Yet an exactly parallel policy is pursued in after years. A father who punishes his boy for carelessly or willfully breaking a sister's toy and then himself pays for a new toy does substantially the same thing inflicts an artificial penalty on the transgressor and takes the natural penalty on himself his own feelings and those of the transgressor being alike needlessly irritated. If he simply required restitution to be made he would produce far less heart-burning. If he told the boy that a new toy must be bought at his the boy's cost and that his supply of pocket money must be withheld to the needful extent there would be much less cause for ebullition of temper on either side. While in the deprivation afterward felt the boy would experience the equitable and salutary consequence. In brief the system of discipline by natural reactions is less injurious to temper alike because it is perceived on both sides to be nothing more than pure justice and because it more or less substitutes the impersonal agency of nature for the personal agency of parents. At present mothers and fathers are mostly considered by their offspring as friend-enemies determined as their impressions inevitably are by the treatment they receive and oscillating as that treatment does between bribery and thwarting between petting and scolding between gentleness and castigation children necessarily acquire conflicting beliefs respecting the parental character a mother commonly thinks it quite sufficient to tell her little boy that she is his best friend and assuming that he is in duty bound to believe her concludes that he will forthwith do so it is all for your own good I know what is proper for you better than you do yourself you are not old enough to understand it now but when you grow up you will thank me for doing what I do these and like assertions are daily re-iterated meanwhile the boy is daily suffering positive penalties and is hourly forbidden to do this, that and the other which he was anxious to do by words he hears that his happiness is the end in view but from the accompanying deeds he habitually receives more or less pain utterly incompetent as he is to understand that future which his mother has in view or how this treatment conduces to the happiness of that future he judges by such results as he feels and finding these results anything but pleasurable he becomes skeptical respecting these professions of friendship and is it not folly to expect any other issue must not the child judge by such evidence as he has got and does not this evidence seem to warrant his conclusion the mother would reason in just the same way if similarly placed if in the circle of her acquaintances she found someone who was constantly thwarting her wishes uttering sharp reprimands and occasionally inflicting actual penalties on her she would pay but little attention to any professions of anxiety for her welfare which accompanied these acts why then does she suppose that her boy will conclude otherwise but now observe how different will be the results of the system we contend for be consistently pursued if the mother not only avoids becoming the instrument of punishment but plays the part of a friend by warning her boy of the punishments which nature will inflict take a case and that it may illustrate the mode in which this policy is to be early initiated let it be one of the simplest cases suppose that prompted by the experimental spirit so conspicuous in children whose proceedings instinctively conform to the inductive method of inquiry suppose that so prompted the child is amusing himself by lighting pieces of paper in the candle and watching them burn if his mother is of the ordinary unreflective stamp she will either on the plea of keeping the child out of mischief or from fear that he will burn himself command him to desist and in case of non-compliance will snatch the paper from him on the other hand should he be so fortunate as to have a mother of sufficient rationality who knows that this interest with which the child is watching the paper burn results from a healthy inquisitiveness without which he would never have emerged out of infantile stupidity and who is also wise enough to consider the moral results of interference she will reason thus if I put a stop to this I shall prevent the acquirement of a certain amount of knowledge it is true that I may save my child from a burn but what then? he is sure to burn himself some time and it is quite essential to his safety in life that he should learn by experience the properties of flame moreover if I forbid him from running this present risk he is sure hereafter to run the same or greater risk when no one is present to prevent him whereas if he should have any accident now that I am by I can save him from any great injury add to which the advantage that he will have in future some dread of fire and will be less likely to burn himself to death or set the house in a flame when others are absent furthermore were I to make him desist I should thwart him in the pursuit of what is in itself a purely harmless and indeed instructive gratification and he will be sure to regard me with more or less ill feeling ignorant as he is of the pain from which I would save him and feeling only the pain of a balked desire he could not fail to look upon me as the cause of that pain to save him from a hurt which he cannot conceive and which has therefore no existence for him I inflict upon him a hurt which he feels keenly enough and so become from his point of view a minister of evil my best course then is simply to warn him of the danger and to be ready to prevent any serious damage and following out this conclusion she says to the child I fear that you will hurt yourself if you do that suppose now that the child perseveres as he probably will and suppose that he ends by burning himself what are the results? in the first place he has gained an experience which he must gain eventually and which for his own safety he cannot gain too soon and in the second place he has found that his mother's disapproval or warning was meant for his welfare he has a further positive experience of her benevolence a further reason for placing confidence in her judgment and her kindness a further reason for loving her of course in those occasional hazards whether as a risk of broken limbs or other serious bodily injury forcible prevention is called for but leaving out these extreme cases the system pursued should be not that of guarding a child against the small dangers into which it daily runs but that of advising and warning it against them and by consistently pursuing this course a much stronger filial affection will be generated than commonly exists if here as elsewhere the discipline of the natural reactions is allowed to come into play if in all those out of door scramblings and indoor experiments by which children are liable to hurt themselves they are allowed to persevere subject only to discussion more or less earnest according to the risk there cannot fail to arise an ever increasing faith in the parental friendship and guidance not only as shown before does the adoption of this principle enable fathers and mothers to avoid the chief part of that odium which attaches to the infliction of positive punishment but as we here see it enables them further to avoid the odium that attaches to constant thwartings and even to turn each of those incidents which commonly cause squabbles into a means of strengthening the mutual good feeling instead of being told in words which deeds seem to contradict that their parents are their best friends children will learn this by a consistent daily experience and so learning it will acquire a degree of trust and attachment which nothing else can give bear constantly in mind the truth that the aim of your discipline should be to produce a self-governing being not to produce a being to be governed by others where your children fated to pass their lives as slaves you could not too much accustom them to slavery during their childhood but as they are by and by to be free men with no one to control their daily conduct you cannot too much accustom them to self-control while they are still under your eye aim therefore to diminish the amount of parental government as fast as you can substitute for it in your child's mind that self-government arising from a foresight of results in infancy a considerable amount of absolutism is necessary a three year old urchin playing with an open razor cannot be allowed to learn by this discipline of consequences for the consequences may in such case be too serious but as intelligence increases the number of instances calling for peremptory interference may be and should be diminished with the view of gradually ending them as maturity is approached all periods of transition are dangerous and the most dangerous is the transition from the restraint of the family circle to the non-restraint of the world hence the importance of pursuing the policy we advocate which alike by cultivating a child's faculty of self-restraint by continually increasing the degree in which it is left to its self-constraint and by so bringing it step by step to a state of unaided self-constraint obliterates the ordinary sudden and hazardous change from externally governed youth to internally governed maturity lastly always remember that to educate rightly is not a simple and easy thing but a complex and extremely difficult thing the hardest task which devolves upon adult life if you would carry out with success a rational and civilized system you must be prepared for considerable mental exertion for some study, some ingenuity, some patience, some self-control you will have habitually to trace the consequences of conduct to consider what are the results which in adult life follow certain kinds of acts and then you will have to devise methods by which parallel results shall be entailed on the parallel acts of your children