 I'm gonna ask you about ranking and what's the problem with ranking women um? I think I do agree that we rank everything in life Women I wouldn't say that we rank. I would use a different word. I think we categorize men Which may be a type of ranking, but I mean So when you say ranking are you referring to you're comparing them? Yes To each other or just to your standard No, see you're 32. Mm-hmm. You've been married. No any children Yeah Well, when a man asks you to go out you decide what may you give your information to or what may you don't give you information to That's a ranking That's all of you By five five five. Do you care for manners of only five six when you date in? Um, that's a ranking the pause is a ranking Y'all got no problems with ranking men if a man was working and making 15 dollars an hour Would you marry him if you were there for the rest of your life? But that's all he was gonna make 15 dollars 37,000 is what the median income for a man in this country was you'd be happily married to him and submit to him for a lifetime Um, if he's married to me he's proud that's gonna change so no no no no no no I said he's just an average and the average man see y'all off that had the power No, no, no see y'all all think you have the power of Thanos to make sure he not what it is I said if a man was just an average earning man See the fact that you can't even I can't you're right I can't live off that because I'm sure you can if anything were to happen um To to me and if he would have to take care of everything I wouldn't be able to sustain like I would have to What do you mean you couldn't sustain I mean they're half the country's doing that I mean like I would I would have to um Change some things if if if we were living just off his income I would have to to change like did you go to college? I did Is your mother go to college? Um, she didn't your father go to college. Did your father go to college? He had to trade So your mother and father didn't go to college. They made you And it's funny that the very people who come from nothing Got so high of a standard for the next group of men What does a traditional housewife entail? Well, you tell me because you said you're not one You picked the right one, you know housewife I'm just imagining Kind of being a slave So Let me stop you right here. Let me stop you right here. Let me stop you right here. Mm-hmm Where are your people from? Um, my mom's from Trinidad and my dad's from Jamaica So I see that's not hold on hold on hold on why we don't need white we don't need white supremacy racism Well, now we got is this that you think that the women who came before you were slaves It's not it's not that necessarily but just what I'm seeing in in the media And just all around me. I see women Trying to be this housewife From a traditional housewife for men And they're just getting like you talking about when women A woman who's let's do it. Let's do it traditional housewife. What media are you talking about? Uh So let's uh, I mean, I don't know like I said, I want you to define what traditional house No, no, no, no, no You can't over talk me. That's how we don't we don't do that. Okay. What media are you talking about? social media What do you see traditional housewives and social media? Everywhere do you I mean that I know of just women getting taken care of and not working. No So that's what a traditional housewife is taking care of and not working to me. Yes. Oh, okay. So, uh, and that's getting the stick From what I've seen so far. Yes So who's supposed to teach you how to be a wife? How to be a wife? Yeah So how to be a wife you can learn that from your mother. Yes, but I was raised by my father Now my mother is in my life right now But I could say that my father taught me how to be a wife Or a woman to a man I could say that And how to be one exactly because the way women teach us how to be a wife and the way men teach us how to be a wife Are completely tuned. Are you married? No, I'm not. I was engaged, but I'm not married The men teach men customized women for them See, but that's the thing my father didn't come I'm 31 What do you want to talk to me about? Um, you know, I'm a boss woman I just was out at my booth, you know doing my pop-up shop today and I went to college and I believe that I can have a family one day I believe that. How many kids you got? No kids Okay, we believe you're gonna have a family Yeah, I believe I can meet my match Hold on hold on hold on hold on, hold on hold on, hold on hold on, hold on. Roll it back now, no Don't do I'm sorry We don't know but talk, you know, that's one thing we don't know I'm sorry. I'm getting people go to my page my website because I'm talking to you. So it's like wow Talk that. Well, turn off the comments and have the conversation. Let's talk. Help me out, Kevin. I don't know why. I don't know why. I mean, if you already have it, I'll figure it out why you need my help. I mean, I want to help your viewers, too, see my point of view and talk to you and have a conversation. I don't think my viewers want to hear a woman tell them anything. I don't want to tell them or to answer your questions. You said you want to talk to me. Go ahead. I just want to talk about your conversation about how I can meet my match. How can I make my match? I don't know what your match is. I don't know what your match is. What do you want? I want someone that can match my drive, my ambition, someone that can bring to the table what I bring to the table as a woman. I want someone that can meet my match. How's that working out for you? This was working out great. But honestly, I don't think guys at this point in my career are what I need to focus on. I just want to focus on myself. And then when I get to a level where I'm comfortable, I want to settle down. And that's what's in my vicinity. What percentage of men earn $650,000 or more? Well, from the conversation I heard you speak about earlier, it sounded like it was less than 10%. 10% of men earn $100,000. OK. Top 5% around a quarter of a million. 300,000, you start dropping around 3%. You get over 500,000, you're talking about 1%. And you're talking more than that. So you're talking about a fraction of a percent. So if you can meet, so if a man, they can meet that. And you said, y'all talk five what? Say that again? How tall are you? Can you say that five what? I'm 5558 with heels. OK. So how tall does he need to be? Anywhere like 58 and taller. I'm flexible. OK. If this man can meet your socioeconomic standard, which is rather on the higher side, I think it's fair to say he can meet most women. What do you think a man who makes that kind of income? What are some of the things they would want from a woman? I definitely feel they want a baddie, for sure. A what? A baddie. Like they want somebody who is like a 10 and 10 for sure. Somebody who is well kept, well put in a dress as well, speaks well, articulate, great conversation and be in a crowd with anybody and be able to be put together. You just described a man. I described a man. You're describing the prototypical Tyler Perry sex in the city of metro female fantasy. You said you had a nine year marriage that you divorced from and you had a relationship that you left because he was cheating. Yeah. And you never cheated? I have. Exactly. And how long ago did that end? About maybe seven years ago. And what have you been doing since then? Well, that's when I started working on myself. But see, that's what I don't understand. Seven years, man. That's 37 or 44. Jesus Christ, how long ago I was supposed to French toast word? What do you need from a man financially? For him to hold it down. What does that mean? So what that means is, you know, as a woman and I. Put a dollar value on it. Don't give me the yearbook answer. At least at least a minimum of six figures. My problem is, is that I tend to attract narcissists. And I'm the complete opposite of a narcissist, like a board. Oh, OK. And I know I'm literally saying, like, I'm serious. Board is a reason a lot of women leave. But see, so honestly, what what men here is there's no reason to be a good guy because, you know, when I was a good guy, women left me when I became a player. Yeah, it's not many options. That's another thing. Oh, there are plenty of options. Fifty one percent of black men are single and child is sixty four percent in another class. See what they're not a lot of ugly. Oh, no, no, no. First off, check that. Because you start that I'm going to get real raw with you. I'm going to get real raw with you. Check that because I have not made any presumptions about looking at you. So I'm not just so mean. You can't. I look a mess now, but I don't think I have to settle with a man that I don't find. OK, let's do it. Well, what would you rate yourself on the scale from one to ten? Just your face. You cannot accept a ten. Poor baby. Now, let's try this again. So I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world. Cosmopolitan ain't trying to get you to be on the cover. People they deemed you one of the most beautiful women in the world. You first thing you came out of your mouth, you said you were 10 and you're not a 10. My face is not a 10. I don't have no makeup on and my hair is not done. And this is all real hair. Mm hmm. So I think I'm definitely a 10. Cool. I bet you do. So when was the last time you did any runway model like a print model? I've never been involved in that. Why not? 10s, that's what 10s do. Not all 10s. Oh, yeah. Not all 10s, but you know what? You live in New York, right? Mm hmm. Right. See, when you're a 10, people discover you at the bank, at the bodega, at the gym. That happened when I was younger. Yeah, OK. We don't keep on moving. You're not a 10. You're living in and a lot of you ladies just say this because you're not. You're not a 10. What would you rate me as, my favorite? America, no, no, you're not a 10. Because you're rating yourself up there with Rihanna and Halle Berry when she was young. That's what you're rating yourself. What would you give yourself on a scale from one to 10? Fresh face, out of the shower, your natural hair, you cannot use seven. On a regular Schmeckler-Degler Day, I'd say maybe a six. OK. I would give you a six. And a six is cute. A five is average. So if you're a cute woman, that's one step above average. OK. Average means average. Look at your, look in your, your, your family history and most people are average right at the top of the bell curve. But if you take an average, if you take a cute woman who's overweight that adjusts her SMB up or down. Thank you. So that makes her average isn't that makes as those two numbers, they kind of average out. You would be an average woman. And as an average about an average woman in this country, an average black woman, the average black man in this country earns $41,500. For a lifetime. No more, no less. No Herculean methods, no lottery, no businesses. That's what he's going to make. That's your husband. Lord, I have degrees. Thank you. See. See, I want you guys to understand she just asked me and I told her, what is a woman SMV. Now these women actually think because they can make themselves higher SMV because of a degree. That does not work. Men have never picked women based upon your degree. That is why you could be on fries at McDonald's, but if you look like Kelly Rowland, you can marry a millionaire. But you could graduate from Harvard, but if you look like Precious, you ain't got none coming. But a lot of my Jewish friends were married during college. Exactly. And so when I ask you, why don't you marry? You look like I asked you something difficult. Why don't you marry yet? No, I don't think it's difficult. Don't want to get married this young? I'm, I love my boyfriend. I'm happy being really. You better say that you're going to see the video, but why don't you marry him yet? He wants to get married. OK, so he's broke. No, he's not broke. So he's, so he's, so what's wrong with him? Nothing's wrong with him. Let me get this right. He's not broke and he wants to marry you, but you don't want to get married. What's wrong with you? I never said I don't want to get married. Well, I asked you, why don't you marry? We're just not married yet. How long have you been together? We've been together. We're going on two years. Why don't you marry? I'll take the six months. So let me get this right. He wants to get married. He's told you he wants to marry you. Yes. And you told him to go buy a ring and he has it. Oh, I have a ring, yeah. He's dropped on one knee and proposed to you. Yes. And you said you had. Of course I said yes. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. Whoa, whoa. Of course you said yes. That would make a fiance not a boyfriend. I mean. No, no, no, no, no, no. I was very clear. He dropped on one knee, ring, proposed. You said yes. That makes a fiance not a boyfriend. Yes. So why are you calling your fiance your boyfriend? Because it's very new. That's bullsh**t. Most women who are ha- That's not bullsh**t. It's not no. That is bullsh**t. That is bullsh**t. That is bullsh**t. That is bullsh**t. When women get engaged into a man they like and they got a ring, they can't wait. No. That's why I think about the threshold, OK? So there are several things I'm thinking about and then I know strategy. So I could take a plumber and have him have an entire business because that's the way that my mind works. And so I would make that work for us. Put your penis up. It's somebody laughing. You see what you just did? I just... You see what you just did? I gave you a man who's out doing just fine on his own and you got to go make him earn one and be like you. That ain't going to work, boo. It's not. So you're going to have to get the hell out of him. Because it's going to be like, well, now I'm trying. Thomas, you've been a plumber for 20 years and you just happy, yeah. Now she got me trying to have a truck and this and that going over here and that. Why? Well, cause she's used to working bags and, you know, she thinks we can become a credit investors. And what's that going to be like sitting up in the bed on Sunday when Thomas wants to sleep in? Hey, you know, you should get up and start their website. We can do this, we can do that. Now you see why I say somebody got to be on the same frequency as me. Somebody that enjoys preparing and creating the negative. But you're on a masculine frequency. Oh, okay. You're not on the right view on a masculine frequency. Okay. So if you want somebody on that, okay. Are you all right being one of five? Oh, I already had this scenario and I didn't like that. Well, then are you all right with letting Thomas just be, are you not going to accept Thomas? Well, this Thomas have to be my scenario though, when I'm surrounded by being that I'm like engineers and other, you know, homeless. So they don't know about your mamas. I can't. They're 40 years old. The bottom line is you don't want it to be 50-50. But here's the thing. Okay. So listen, this is important. Ready? That means this career you're talking about, you're going to give it up anyway because the real career is your husband. He's going to be bringing in all the money. If you get the man you want, he's going to be the major breadwinner. You are not going to be responsible. So this extra degree, extra thing, is all actually not going to an outcome. It's just sitting on the wall. You think so? Man, if you have a husband paying 75% of everything and you're paying 25%, you are not in a career. You got a job. He's carrying the lion's share. So why do you need a master's or anything else like that to cover 25%? No. No? Why not listen? I was going to give him a five. Because this is what so many sisters don't do. They just go, talk about jobs and careers and this, but when it gets right down to it, I really don't want to have to be the one responsible for their financial load. I hope God blesses me with a man that I can be, and that's fine. So start with the end in mind. Okay, I have, I need some, I haven't need some advice. I'm a 37 year old woman. Two children. I do not have a problem getting a man. It's just I attract weak men. Okay. I am celibate. I've been celibate for two years. What? I've been celibate for two years. Where do, where did that come from? Is I'm going to know, is that the reason why? Hmm. Two people that came out of you, what you talking about? I'm sorry, I'm trying to understand. What's the, what's the philosophy here? You're on a virgin. You got two people came out of you. What's going on? Oh, that's, oh no, you did not. Oh no, you did not have the nerve to bring vagina out of here and close it up at 37 years old with two kids out of here. And I'm going to tell you the reason behind that is because when I do open my legs, they, the men, they get crazy. P-whipped? Yes. So the resolution is, so let me get this right. So let me get this right. So you meet a man that's a high value man, a good guy. You think you're going to be celibate for what? What, do you marry? Yes. You got your goddamn mind. I wish, I wish I would meet a 37 year old with two kids and think you're going to shi- separate checks, separate checks, check please. No, no, listen, listen, listen, man. I'm making light of it because it is crazy. You're almost 40 years old with two kids talking about celibate. You need to be trying to get that shi- way to secure a man. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Listen, listen, listen, no, no, no, no. You're talking about, okay, what you said if you attract lower value men? Not really. Okay, not the right men, crazy men, whatever, not good guys. Weak. Okay, lower value is weak. Okay, okay. So when I said if you attracted a higher value man, you think you're going to make him wait until marriage? How do you think that's a- It's sweetheart, I'm gonna tell you like this. My cookies is worth the wait. Well, first off, check that sweet. No, your cookies ain't worth the wait because you ain't made nobody wait. You got two kids without a marriage. I was married. Name me the product that gains value with age and use. I wanna say your mind, but I may be different. I said a product, where can you go buy a mind? A product. A product, a product. I don't know, but I'm pretty sure you're gonna tell me. Yeah, nothing. Oh, I am. Nothing. And let's just talk about your cookies. They're getting older and they've been used. That don't mean nothing. You're right, they don't. Oh, you are on rate, you are on rate. No, I'm honest, I'm honest, ma'am. What can you, an individual do about an industry that's dying? Positives? Excuse me? Positives in your own. Stay positive. There are people who, there were, okay ma'am, there were people who sold horses and buggies. But when the automobile came along, you could have made the best of it. But when the automobile came along, you could have made the best horse and buggy and the best horse whip. You could be as positive as you want. When the market died, you were out of business. Or are you just downsized? There's downsize for no demand. You can't downsize. Okay, how can you downsize if you were a small, that person had a nine to five job? How could she downsize being one year in business? And see what I'm showing you guys, this is a 20-some-odd year old woman who was too stubborn, sign language, to admit that she don't know what the hell she's talking about. This woman is young enough to be my daughter. She ain't completed nothing in life. She ain't even complete college. And that's the point. And this is the problem. And you wonder why women who look like you, who think like you, and who act like you are chronically single. You need to understand what a man that you would want, what he would want in a girlfriend, wife, or significant other. Like a good, like a good mother, a good wife. That changes from every man. That changes from man to man. Where's your father? Oh, I don't have, I didn't grow up with a mother or a father. All right, so, due respect, you don't seem to get that men judge the way we judge. And yes, like I said, you have no problem getting men to pay you attention. You've got no problem attracting men, but getting a man to take you seriously. And would you like to be married? I would. Okay, and that's a problem because you're asking a man to become a stepfather. You're asking, let's say you're asking me to come in and take care of one man's child. A man's two children. I didn't create those. It's all downside. I've been a stepfather. It's a horrible deal. What about the men that have children of their own? They want a stepmother. Well, again, you still act as though you're the most man at this age. Okay, listen, I'll answer. See, you're still speaking as if you have leverage in this thing and I'm trying to level set you. Even if I have children, I got more options than you. I can go find a woman with no kids because I can afford both of you. If I can afford to take care of you and your kids, I can afford to take care of her and no kids. Why would I pick you and your kids? When I know your kids are not going to, I'm not their father. They'll never look at me as their father. I got all the responsibility in none of the upside of being a biological father. Can I discipline those children like they were my own? They don't need discipline. I see that's your problem. There you go, right there. I'm not saying we should have a special victim status, but our circumstance is different. We are women. Is your circumstance 24 years old? Is your circumstance harder or easier than your grandmother and your great-grandmother? Exponentially easier. We have access to information we didn't have. Exponentially easier, but you're handling it worse. Your grandmother and your great-grandmother actually could work with a black man with more trauma. Because they understood that the black woman and the black man are on the same side. Now that we are all free and independent and we could do whatever we want to, why would we seek to be one with the black man? We even think that being- Thank you, thank you, thank you. Clip it, slice it, put it on WorldStar. She said it, not me. Now that you're independent, you don't need to be with- We don't have trust. There you go. We don't have trust with the black man. And there you go. And there you go. There you go, black man. There it is. She's finally got one to say it. Build businesses with us. Your grandmothers and your great-grandmothers had more trauma and more stress and did it better. Okay. If you went to work for a company and you gave them five years, and in that five years, they benefited from your creativity, from your ingenuity. They increased their profits. All these things happened. You gave them your blood, sweat, and tears and the employment terminated for any reason. You could not continue to expect to be paid for six months. You would cut off at the last day of your employment. You could not go back to that office. You could not use a computer. The company, listen, I need you to listen. I need you to listen. I didn't cut you off. You couldn't use the company car, the company credit card. It would end. And you couldn't say, well, you guys owe me this because you've made so much money. That's not how it works. It's over. Do you accept that? Do you accept that in the work world? First off, do you accept that in the work world? That's how it happens. The reason I don't accept what you're saying is because in the work world, unemployment, so unemployment is not paid by the unemployment is not played. First off, unemployment is not your full salary. And it's paid through the state and you have to qualify. If you get terminated for cause, you don't get unemployment. The point is you're still asking. You're still getting the same benefit as if you were in an active relationship when it's over. So when I asked if he could actively have sex with you, that would be ridiculous. If it would be no more ridiculous than someone expecting to get full benefit of a company when they've been terminated or when they quit. I was no longer getting full benefit. It was just partial, the home and the car. I was not getting my hair, my nails, my trips, my shopping, my whole entire life anymore. It was just whatever left of it that I had because that was what I was stuck with. Okay. How much money would you want your husband to really earn annually? To live the life you want, to eat, travel, hair, makeup, shopping, caring for family. Come on, give it to me. Don't hide it. 500,000. All right. What percentage of men earn that? Very little. What percent? I mean, if you're talking all races, I would think... I just said, what percentage of men earn that? Oh, maybe like, what, seven percent or something? Not one percent. One percent. Three percent earn around 300,000 more. 500,000 is the top one percent of all men. And guess what? Men don't go and do what they have to do to become those kind of men. And what age do you think those men are when they're earning that kind of money? 40s. Right. And what do men want who have fought in corporate America or fought in the work world for 20-plus years? They want kids and a legacy. True. But I do want kids now. That was my past. But that's recent. What you said earlier was what I believe to be the truth. I want to focus on my husband. Great. That will make you a good first wife or a starter wife but what typically men want, legacy, they want a woman who's going to give them three or four kids for that half a million dollars they're earning because they got to pass it on somewhere. They don't want to leave it to their dog. So the kind of men you're dating, probably are these guys who want a woman that can do the power couple thing. They'll own some 50-50 split in the bill kind of shit, which is fun. Oh no. Oh no. Some of the misperceptions and misconceptions about some of the things I said in that video that I want to go through real quick. First and foremost, okay, I don't think all men are trash. And I also want to again, I'm going to shut this shit down. Tommy Lauren is teaching black women a very valuable lesson. A very valuable lesson. What is that? You cannot just drag men and get away with it. The point I made is notice Tommy's demeanor. Notice how she's coming in to fix this. She said all men are trash. That's what she said. All men are trash. She didn't edit anything. She doubled and tripled down. She was full of that, uh-uh-uh, because she didn't get any pushback. Because what is why? Because this playbook had worked in the black community for 50 years. But see the white community, other communities where they have family system, patriarchy family values, if nothing else they have seen what is happening in our community. What happens? You let this gender war take root. Men are pushing back. And they are shutting this crap down. Tommy Lauren's got something to teach you. Think about it. This was going on in our community for 50 years. This didn't even get a week. She made a video on Monday, and on Thursday, she was back, she was moon walking backwards like a mug. What would you rank yourself on a scale from one to 10? You cannot use seven. Would I rate myself? Mm-hmm, just your face. My face when I wake up, five, but when I put myself together, six. Okay. And how tall are you? Five, five. Dress size. I'm sorry? Your dress size. I'm three. Okay, so that makes you, if you give yourself a five, that's average. Yes. So average-looking women tend not to get high-earning men. They tend to get average men. So, um. Did you, I mean, stop right there. Stop right there. Stop right there, breathe and digest. You're 35 years old and you can look around and see the world. You don't tend to see higher-earning men with average-looking women off-rip. If you do see them, they got them, they got their average-looking woman when they were both really young and he built his way up. But a man earning the kind of money you're talking about does not go for an average-looking woman.