 I'm really happy to be here with Helen Giles who's going to be sharing with us the beginning of her business journey. And I think a lot of you will be will relate to this because a lot of you watching are also beginning your business journey and even those of us who are so called further along always always enjoy I always enjoy and benefit from hearing the insights that are coming through as someone begins their journey. First of all, thank you for doing this. Welcome. Good to have you here. Thank you, George. It's always a pleasure to spend time with you. Thank you. Thank you so much. Well, Helen is a member of my group coaching program this year and she's always been so helpful among the communities that she's been part of that I've experienced her in so really grateful to be able to bring her here and so we're going to be doing this several times, you know the interviewing Helen several times this year. So you'll get to see the progress along the way so the beginning is where we start pressure, pressure, but but yes pressure No, loving supportive accountability publicly. So, the beginning is where we start and I'm excited about this so first I know, because you are still shaping your introduction about your business and your work. I want you just to tell us what you've got thus far, and you'll just keep on telling us what the iterations are as we as we talk again. Yeah. Yeah. So, it's been fun actually to practice because that's something that you're such a supporter of just practicing and that's been really helpful for me and hearing other people do theirs has been super helpful too because there are things that I've been trying to work out in my own language that other people have already worked out. Yes, I've been able to take snippets from other people's intros and be like, Oh, I love how they said that piece or that wording. And I have a doc where I just like copy and paste and add all these different and slowly meld it into what works for me. I just want to pause you right there I mean that is a great idea. I wish I had been that organized. And I, I probably should start being that organized. No, but yeah I think that's a really organized way. If you can be, like you said part of some community, whether it's mine or somebody else is where you can practice your production regular basis here others do it. I love that you're taking down these words and snippets and and shaping it because words have power and certain words really resonate with you and probably will resonate with your ideal audience and you're going to test it of course with your audience over time and but tell us what you've got this far. So, I am a teacher and a nurturer at heart. And I love to use a systems approach to bring more structure organization and grounding to the often chaotic process of inner healing personal work personal growth work. I help people see understand and feel their way through the various threads that structure their lives and shift them as they want to. And focusing on spiritually oriented people. I haven't quite figured out within people what what segments to work with I tend to work actually a lot with people in their 40s 50s 60s especially parents, which is something I'm still wrapping my head around because I'm young and there's a part of my brain that says oh people. To late in life would not want to work with me. But it's, I do tend to attract just that audience I tend to resonate with a lot. And people. And what do you think that is do you have any I, I'm not totally sure I mean I'm always been an old soul, I will say so I've never resonated with people my own age I've always felt 20 years older than everybody my own. I think that's part of it, and then think the other part is actually that my parents are in that age range. And so I've done so much work on my own self my family dynamics my family relationships. I tend to provide people who are also struggling in their family dynamics and family relationships with like what their kids could see or say, if their kids had the emotional growth work, or like communication skills. Like I tend to see things from that perspective and can communicate that in a way, especially in families where there is growing distance or hardship or past hurts. We'll see if that is that sticks or not. That's so interesting that the work. It's true like the work we do within ourselves, somehow reflects out. And this is one part where I do believe in the law of attraction. I do believe the law of attraction attracts to us the kinds of people we are ready for. And yeah, so it's really, really need to hear you say that. Okay, so there's so much you've been learning as you've been starting this business. I don't know where we want to start with this but maybe maybe here's here's what I want to here's where I want to start actually for those who are like in the beginning stage and when I say beginning. I want to just for say like I see business, especially authentic business as a spiral of growth, like maybe I'll do it this way spiral spiraling to heaven, you know, like as we grow more and more. And so really begin to me is begin again. Like we're always beginning again, beginning again. And so but but you've been like, you started out like thinking a website was important and. Well, it's funny that you say begin again because in many ways that's one of the things I'm doing and encountering is that I know at different points you've talked about this rubber band. And it's like we start too far it snaps back right and I have started this business probably three or four times before. But never made a lot of traction like never actually kind of got it off the ground. It was always just kind of this idea that I wanted to do. And I'd be really excited I kind of take some forward motion but not really enough for not really in any kind of consistent way. By the way, is that a cat. This is my dog Rosie. Oh dog. Okay, I couldn't tell Rosie hello Rosie. Of course we have to bring the animals in. So yeah, the rubber band just for those who haven't heard me to talk about like I talked about stamina and really growth it's like you like our capacity for any area of growth is like the rubber band where you stretch a little bit and if you consistently stretch a little bit. The rubber band gets more capable of holding more. But if you stretch too fast too quickly. And it breaks, hopefully not but already snaps back with violence. And there's your, that's a cat right. Yes, this is another. I'm so confused. Okay, both are black that's why I'm like, wait, let's just see. Okay, so please keep going so you try to before and it just never got traction. Yeah, for years it's kind of been I've had this dream of starting this business for years and I've gained a lot of growth in terms of like where I've been guided into the different jobs I've been working in it feels like I was getting paid to learn all the solopreneur skills you know I've been working in digital marketing for over four years now. It for mostly small businesses small solopreneur type operations. In my own self doing it for my own self is a totally different ballgame. So I can you can have all the technical skills, but the readiness or the, you know visibility stuff or all the inner stuff that we encounter, when we go to create something in the world of any kind is a different it's a different game. And I think what happens is you try something and then you know my system would get overloaded and then I would basically snap shut. I'd shut down and I just wouldn't touch anything for months and months and then I'd be like okay I'm going to try again and I'd kind of get up the hoodspot to like do some things and then I would just like go my and into what I call my Heidi hole for another eight months or like each time you have more and more resistance because all the past times didn't work and so that voice in your head says, Oh, well you can't really do this or oh it didn't work before or, you know, that you're never going to be able to get this off the ground because x y's you know it's just every time you start to have the pattern that proves back to yourself that you can't get it off the ground. So that that's so good. I that's so interesting. Yeah, I actually, I know that from my own experience and I've seen that know the people but just the way that you you just described it, like, lit up something for me so thank you for that. So, now, this time, how are you getting the getting over the resistance to start again. And how are you starting. Yes. I, my word for the year is slow. And I, I'm realizing that I have to go really slowly, and that the part of my brain. When I start to take action when I begin again each time says, I should be here, but I'm here. So when I start to take action. It's like I'm, I'm actually trying to catch up so then it tries to make me move faster to get to where it says I should be. And instead I'm having to get rid of all of that, and just move really slowly, even if my, you know that part of my brain says, you need to move faster you need to catch up you need to build the audience you need to build website you need to do all of the things. The truth is that I am not there, and I'm having to reckon with the fact that I am truly just at the beginning and that I'm not where my brain says I should be. But by allowing myself to do that by moving slowly by taking actually baby steps which is much slower than what that part of my brain says I should be moving. It's the only way that I seem to be able to move forward with any sort of consistency. And in terms of where I'm beginning that same part of my brain used to say that beginning was all the action steps was all the stuff. You know, posting on social media building the website, starting a newsletter, you know, all these things that are important and are necessary as we build and grow. And they're visible. They allow people to see us. But the steps that I had skipped pretty much every other time was really getting grounded in myself first. How do I want to be in the world. How do I want to be of service. What does this business want to be what you know all of those kinds of questions. And I think the challenge is that sitting with those questions and getting clear on those questions is really important, but there's not a lot of tangible outcomes. I can't sit with those questions for two hours. And then, Oh, I have this product that I just built, or I didn't have a newsletter and now my newsletter is written and sent. You know, there's not a lot of like tangible things you sit with those questions, and you get some clarity and you get some grounding, but at the end, you don't actually have a lot to show for it in this very tangible way. It feels like, or at least again to that part of my brain, it feels like you're not doing anything. What are you doing, not actually taking action. And, and I'm not necessarily but it's a really important part of the process that I'm realizing now that I had never really done before. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I bet a lot of people watching listening can relate to that feeling of ungroundedness and therefore needing to ground so tell us a bit more what is helping you find more grounding so that you can actually go and create the posts or the website or the whatever's Hmm. I think the thing that I'm. Well, gosh, there's a bunch of different things I could say. Sure, sure. A lot of it is I learned in TLC is which is now called joyful productivity. Yes. But so much of what what I've had to learn is that to be in business, I actually had to get solid and consistent in myself first. Like just me my life that to sell, especially in this kind of business, something that is heart hurt based that that is asking other people to be in their hearts to coaching deep inner work spirit like these are things that mean things to us. So ultimately, anything that I sell or offer the world, like I am the product. And there's a certain reckoning that has to happen of realizing that I am selling me I'm selling my wisdom my knowledge my insight. Your energy signature, your energy signature my vibration. Yeah, exactly. And to do that, I needed to actually first go back to basics of like, can I go to bed at the same time every day can I wake up at the same time same time every day and my eating foods that feel good to my body. And I'm meditating every day which for me provides my like anchor point and a space to process my emotions in my life. Things like journaling or movement, you know, exercising. It's so basic that it feels kind of funny or silly to be talking about it but that had to come first. Just for my own nervous system regulation and to have a sense of solidness trust in myself showing up for myself, having a solid base to then offer because I am ultimately offering myself. Yeah, my wisdom my vibration my energy. Yeah, has been really important first. It's, you say it's so basic, but it's like so many, even adults like so many of us need to return to the basics. I mean, it's like, Oh, sleeping on time. No, that's a big deal for most of us. Right, like sleeping or getting enough sleep, which usually means to have a good evening rhythm, which means to start our evening rhythm at a reasonable time, routine at reasonable time and stuff like that. And then eating well, constant ongoing, you know, journey to figure out that better and better, or to stick to it, that kind of thing. So good. It's starting with essentially like self integrity practices that then kind of bolster your authentic confidence, grounded, sort of grounded readiness for others to be able to hold others in their transformation. So, okay, so that's really good. So you, you are working to continue developing your drill for productivity practices super important. So what else what else helps you feel like okay I'm going to now be able to be more visible. Yeah, I think one of the other things that's been really important for me is we talk a lot in this world, especially when we're moving through different emotional inner things about the inner child relationship, you know connecting with our inner child, feeling our inner child sitting with their fears or pain or, or emotions of any kind. And I've done a lot of inner child work, as I imagine many in your community have this is not a new realm. I was confused for a while why with the amount, you know the years that I spent doing this inner work. Why was this still such a challenge to be visible in the world. And this dawned on me a couple weeks ago. I'm actually very comfortable being in my inner child visibly, you know, to be kind of to express to others fear or grief or anger, big emotions. I can do that with a fair amount of capacity. I've built that muscle. The part where I struggle is being in the inner warrior, the warrior, you know, being visible in this space of claiming that I do have things to offer. I have knowledge, I have wisdom. I'm not just going to kind of bend there are things that I actually believe to be true that other people may disagree with to be strong in that kind of place and to really claim that amount of power and be visible in that like I can claim her in my own self. But to be seen by the world as the inner warrior archetype in me has been that that part I realized is that's the visibility struggle. And I think that that's something probably many people can relate to, but I do think especially women, you know the way that our culture currently raises women is, you know, you're supposed to be agreeable you're supposed to be kind don't be mean, don't be too aggressive, you know, keep your voice quiet, be the, you know, provide for others, be of service even, you know, even just in being of service, there is this way that service gets twisted to bend only to what others need. Or what others think or oh if they say something's right it's right but without really consulting your own self or your own needs or saying no even something as simple as that. And then to be visible from that place tends to have backlash when we're kids, we get punished whatever that looks like it may not be abuse but just oh time out. You know, that's something that I have definitely had to reckon with being powerful being strong taking a stance on things, not being agreeable all the time. Yeah. Wow. Noose bumps as you talk about the stuff in a warrior I haven't heard that term, or at least haven't heard it recently and that's a really good term. Yeah, I can't claim it. I got it from someone else. Sure, of course, no, I. Yeah, but but it's, but it's it's not out there enough I guess is what I'm saying or I haven't I don't hear it enough and I like that archetype as a way as a kind of a role that you that you that you play as you as you become. Yeah, so so good. So, unbelievable we're almost running out of time with our interview but I want so I want to make sure we talk about two things one is, since we're going to check in on these interviews several times this year I want to hear about your priority. So that next time we check in will be able to check in on how it's going with your priority or priorities. And secondly you can tell us about what your service currently is and what people might be able to hire you for but but go ahead with your priority priorities first. Yeah, so in this vein of taking it slowly. This is probably something I realized just I guess yesterday or the day before maybe I always thought my website was the next step. Once, once I got clear build the website. And what I'm realizing when I actually check in with myself is that the website still feels like this big thing. Whereas a newsletter feels more doable. I don't have that yet I'm excited to do that I've wanted to have a newsletter for a long time. I felt like I had to like something told me that I need to have my website done first, and then the newsletter. So to get to the thing that I was excited about I had to cross this big mountain. That was the website. And so I'm finally saying oh maybe I don't have to do that maybe I'll just build the newsletter and start to get consistent with that. I always kind of thought I had to have the website before I do YouTube videos to have a place to send people, which makes sense. And maybe I just start doing the YouTube videos and let the website come when it comes. So, all that to say my focus for the moment is getting consistent with YouTube videos and putting together a newsletter and doing that each week and enjoying that writing process. That's awesome. Amazing. So that that means you're going to create both in writing and in videos which I love that means you really both the sort of the two extremes I guess, covered. And I love it. I love it so where shall people I don't know if you have a link yet for your newsletter. Obviously I could put your YouTube channel below but yeah, can people sign up for your newsletter yet. I will pass you I don't have it like in this moment but that's actually by the time we upload this, I will I will put the link so that's great so please folks. Follow along how I'm sure any you could do it through the newsletter. Just to be sure you get the get the her her writings and and in your newsletter will you link to YouTube. Sometimes yeah videos. Okay, I love sharing my voice but also resources I love being I said things that I'm interested in or vibing on. Yeah, well as whatever videos or things that are coming. Okay, okay very good. And what about your current offer are offering. Yeah. Yeah, it's still coming together as I figure out what I want to do and be but I think moment I'm offering intuitive readings. I love to work towards wholeness and balance and that sense of working across the physical emotional mental and spiritual planes. I have this way of bringing structure and organization and bringing to light things that people can't see because we're not single points in time. We are ultimately threads and all of the threads that collectively make who we are in this moment also relate to things from our past whether that's in this life past live ancestral lineage experiences and who the things that make us who we are so when we want to shift something in ourselves today we often have to engage with the threads and how those connect to all the beingness that we've had up to this point that has put that thread in place. So, I offer intuitive readings basically helping people gain clarity and feeling their way through those threads of who they are to be able to shift them. Awesome. Great. Wonderful. Well, I look forward to, you know, getting getting updates from you and sharing that, you know, we'll do this again in a couple months. So, thank you for doing this. Thank you for your courage and your experiments of visibility. So thanks for doing this. Yeah, it's been great. I'm so glad to be here and yes, here's to the next few months. Yeah, thank you.