 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast, head dating coach and founder at CommitmentConnection.com and in today's video I'm going to tell you the number one rule for attracting and keeping a guy in a long-term committed relationship. Now I realize this may be the first time you've ever visited our site and so I just wanted to give you a little bit of a background on me before we get started. I grew up in a broken home. I came from a family of dysfunctional relationships and when I became an adult I kind of brought a lot of that dysfunction into creating relationships that I had in my life and so originally I got into the dating industry as a client. I came in because I really wanted to figure out what I was doing wrong. You know why was I having such a hard time attracting an awesome woman for a long-term relationship that would lead to marriage and having kids? And you know I figured I was just like it shouldn't it doesn't seem like it should be this hard and so I spent years kind of doing trial and error learning everything I could. I'm a huge nerd and I really spent a lot of time just studying things going out there and approaching women meeting as many as many women as I could. Eventually I got really good at getting into relationships and guys started coming to me to get advice and eventually I ended up becoming a men's dating coach and to keep a long story short at some point I eventually switched over and started helping women because I learned a lot about what men what men really wanted, what big frustrations they had, what challenges they had, you know why they would pick one woman for a long-term relationship and another woman just to be a casual fling and I brought that information over to the women's side. Now our dating advice here each month reaches millions of women every single month and I've helped a lot of women get into long-term committed relationships, I've helped women get married, our advice has helped heal broken hearts, I've helped fix broken relationships and there's been a lot of really cool things that the women from our community have gone on and done in their own relationships in attracting men and I've learned a lot from that and I've taken all that information and put it together to bring a lot of this stuff to you right now. But first I want to set the record straight, you know I'm not here to be your guru, I don't have everything figured out I'm not going to pretend like I have all the answers for you. What I do is I study patterns, I look at what works, what doesn't work, why some women stay in long relationships, why some women seem to be in these patterns of attracting the same wrong guy over and over again, you know why does a guy pull away, what makes him want to come back, what you know what helps relationships, what hurts relationships, I spend a lot of time studying research, I spend a lot of time looking at just tons and tons of different information from different sources in order to give you the best information that you can possibly have on this topic. So what's the number one difference between a woman who attracts a guy and keeps him and a woman who doesn't and so there's a rule that I want you to kind of pay attention to and it's something that most women either they don't know about it at all or they misconstrue what this rule actually means thinking that it means that they need to pretend like there's someone they're not or act different than they would normally act or try to be somebody that they wouldn't normally want to be and I don't agree with that at all. So let me tell you what the rule is first. The rule is that the more masculine a man is, the more that you need to connect to your feminine in order to attract and keep him and like I said it's not about being somebody that you're not it's not about trying to pretend it's really about connecting with the biological parts of yourself and you know I've talked to a little a lot of women that have done this and really connect to their feminine and they say that it's relaxing to them like it makes them feel carefree and better and it's just it's kind of empowering for a lot of them and so anyway that's what you need to know in order to if you want to keep if you want to attract and keep a man in a long-term committed relationship you need to connect with your feminine and you need to connect with it to the extent at least that he is a masculine man and so what does that mean we're going to talk about that in some of these future videos and I'm going to give you tons of great tips on really how to attract and keep the guy that you want so thanks for that thanks for watching and if if you haven't subscribed yet to our channel our YouTube channel make sure that you hit the subscribe button I think it's on the bottom right hand side of this video to get more updates and more videos and lots of cool stuff and be an even bigger part of our community here