 Hi shoes seven. I'm back. Okay, so today we're gonna be talking about women who are too available Women who are over available women who invite themselves women who text first women who make the first move women who take the role of You know Initiating things. Okay. I y'all probably already know I don't believe it. I say don't do it. It's not worth it And the reason I say it's not worth it. It's because if you initiate things if you're the one always calling texting making plans Being available whenever they call answering on the first five seconds that they text you and this is isn't it You're too available and you become boring and old news quickly Okay, you're not a challenge and men like challenges. Believe it or not They like easy women too, but after their finished use of those easy women Then they remember that girl. That's a challenge and then they go I'm gonna go for her next because I still can't get her I've got this girl this girl this girl because they were easy, but the one I really want I can't even get you know, she didn't pay me any mind. She doesn't text me back You know Why so they're gonna go all out for that girl. They're gonna be like, what does she want? What do I have to do? What's a funny joke I can text her maybe she'll text back if I if I make her laugh, you know They're going through all this stuff in their mind. Oh She won't go out with me. I I tried to invite her to the nicest restaurant She didn't like that kind of food So now they have to actually think and invest time and what does this girl like, you know They need to pay attention to you, you know If they watch you online and they pay attention to what kind of food you pose the places you like to go So they can say oh, hey Do you want to go out to such-and-such place and hey if that's your favorite place? You might just say yes So they have to actually work put an effort and get to know you spend time researching you It's and you're a challenge and once you get something that you have worked very hard for It's not so easy to let go because you've spent time money effort you become emotionally invested and trying to get this person, okay, so Ladies if you're answering on the first ring if you're texting back without You know thinking and texting back in the same minute if you're saying yes to everything He asks you if you tell him your whole life story. He there's no mystery to you He's gonna get bored of you quick. Okay. You have to always stay a challenge and change it up When he figures out what you like stop liking it and start liking something else So then it's more of a challenge. I'm trying to tell you I've been married for a long time and with the same person Whatever and he still don't know Every day, you know every two weeks I change You got to keep up. You got to pay attention. You got to get it together because When you when you're constantly challenged in life, you're always improving as well. So You're also making this person a better Man like you're making them more attentive. You're making them more Thoughtful you're making them more considerate. So these are all the qualities you wanted to mean anyway, right? So if they have to do all these things to impress you Because you're batting down everything that comes from them and they have to keep trying harder and After they go off like a lot of women. This is this is where a lot of women mess up They'll get jealous if the guy starts stops paying them attention for a little while They'll be right back as soon as they find the easy girl get what they want from her Get bored of her and then they'll be right back to you because they could never get you That's not what they want it They thought they would help them or satisfy them It was too easy to blah and they're still thinking about you while they're with them. They're like, dang How come it was so easy to get this girl? But I couldn't get that one, you know now they're insulted and they're like, dang Well, why didn't she want me? I'm not good enough for her or something. So they're gonna go ahead and leave the easy girl Not call her back ghost her out and go back to the girl who challenged them This is the type of women men marry women who challenge them. Okay, I promise you If you are not challenged If somebody doesn't have to work hard for you if somebody doesn't have to go out of their way for you They're probably not the type of person That wants to marry you okay because you can trick You can even trick a man into being like this over you if they probably weren't gonna be this way over you anyway It's mind games all is mental you guys. So You might have like a situation where you're dating a guy and he keeps going back to the same girl And she's like not all that but she doesn't take any of his crap. She tells him off. She says no It's because men like challenges. Okay She doesn't do everything you do she doesn't do this she doesn't support him She doesn't support his dreams because she knows some of them dreams are stupid and That this is the real world and in order to be with me you need to have this this isn't that you know so You know while the easy Convenient woman will do all this this and that for the guy He knows in the back of his mind. That's not going to make him into a better man. So consciously he knows that It's not gonna help him. He knows this other girl over here is wife material and what she says Will make him a better man will push him into his greatness. He's she's not settling for mediocre. He can't stay the same average Dude and be with her. He has to step up his game to be with her So in the back of his mind, he's like, okay Well, whoever she ends up with it's gonna be better than me and I can't have that So if I really want this girl, I got to become better or I got to do better And so he'll leave the easy girl who did everything for him And his mediocrity and goal for this girl who wouldn't settle for it. Okay? And by the time he gets this girl, he's gonna be a better man He's gonna have stepped up this game the ABC and D. Whatever took to get her. He's gonna be a changed person He's gonna be doing things for her that he would never think of doing for you Okay, he's gonna be buying her gifts when you never even got a birthday gift, okay? Why because men like challenges and if you fear losing a man because you don't want to do what they want to do Then that's part of not being able to play the game. Okay, you're afraid to play You're afraid to play because you fear losing and if you fear losing Then that means you don't think you're good enough or you're worth it, you know There's two type of women the ones who know exactly what they want And how to get it the ones who don't know what they want and don't know how to get it. Okay? There's nice women and There's women who are challenges Which which one gets wiped up which one has the better lifestyle which one has what they want in life The women who challenges? Okay? A man can get a woman like this. Just like a woman can get a man like that To sleep with them to do whatever but they cannot get someone to commit to them and marry them unless They blow their mind Feel like there's no other there's no replacement. I can't do any better than this. This is it Okay, you can't get those feelings with a woman that's gonna do everything You ask when you ask how you ask cuz you can get bored. You were like, okay. Thank you, you know guys get ported and They want the woman who won't do stuff like that for them because it's a challenge Okay, so guys, I know guys are gonna chime in and say, no, that's just not true. You're giving good It is true. Okay It is true. You know why? because When you have a good girl and she does everything right you're always looking at the girl at the side of your eye and Wondering about her and wonder why she's not paying attention to you and wondering if you could have got her if you didn't have her You know, and then she ignores you because you're not a type now You're more intrigued with this type of person now. You're looking at her Why because guys are never satisfied in a situation where everything is freely given if you're worried about your woman leaving you and if she's gonna fuss and fight with you tonight or if Which you got her for her birthday was good enough You won't have time to be looking over here at this chick, you know if you're worried about you gonna get some a night for your woman or if you know You picked out the right Flowers or whatever and if she's gonna be happy with where you taking her for dinner tonight because you know She's crazy You're gonna be looking at this girl over here, you know, because you're gonna be too worried about this girl Okay, when your attention and focus is on a challenge, you don't have time to look at other stuff Okay, you're focused on the challenge So women if you're too easy if you're too nice if you're too gullible if you do this and you do that chances are you're probably gonna be ditched ghost and You know by these guys And they're gonna keep going back to the one woman who don't want nothing to do with them and who's really probably just playing the game You know sometimes women do have a plan and they're like I want him to do ABC and D before I even go on a date with him You know, he has to get this he has to get that he has to get this he has to get that And so this man will some of these men will work months Just to get one date with a woman, you know, they'll be like dang You know the woman will keep it friendly. They'll keep them in the friend zone and they'll kind of tease them a little bit Like oh, yeah, when you get you get that convertible. Call me. I want to ride You know these might seem like gold diggers, but these are techniques that women do To you know, get the type of men that they really want, you know, oh, yeah, when you get your new car, give me a ride I see you, you know And those guys will call those girls when they get the new car They're gonna be like oh come right come take a ride with me, you know They'll scoop her up before they even tell you they bought a new car You won't even know they bought a new car until you see them driving it. Okay, so I'm just being honest and I'm being real Know it's so funny a lot of guys have flipped the script these days and what about love y'all didn't care about love What five ten years ago y'all really don't care about love when y'all are trying to date anyway, okay? What's about is getting what you want? Getting the type of person you want in your life Compatible the person that's going to treat you right do nice things for you and who you know You want to be around who's not gonna board you, okay? Dating is supposed to be exciting and fun and Keep you on your toes all the time. It's not supposed to be predictable boring and bland Okay, which is which is what happens when the person is too easy. Okay, that's why they get dumped quick So y'all keep it interesting fun switch it up be a challenge to these guys because that's what they really like They're gonna say otherwise because they want to get in with the easy real quick But as soon as they're finished with that person they're on back to the to the challenging woman and One day they're gonna get one Because they're gonna know the game so good They're gonna figure it out, but they're not gonna settle with one of these easy women They're always gonna go for the ones that they could never get okay And if you don't believe me look at all the celebrities who dated these type of women the good You know the dark ride or die and as soon as they blew up and got famous Because they couldn't get these type of challenging chicks That's what they go straight to okay, so I'll leave y'all with that piece. I'll see y'all later