 Okay, I'm a 40 here. I love this topic of the lives we tell ourselves because I sponsor people in 12-step program and I notice that people tend to tell themselves a lot of lies such as you know get this done tomorrow Doesn't really matter my boss isn't gonna pay any attention to this and so I Ruminate it on this in early stream today And then I did some research and there's some great articles on the lies we tell ourselves So there's a best-selling book on the topic But I found some great articles the three biggest lies we tell ourselves about happiness and success. So what do you think they are? All right, I need X to feel Y You know, I need to have a beautiful spouse or I need a million dollars in the bank before I launched into the the life that I want or The world owes me something so that that's a Very common lie that people tell themselves the world owes me something and there's nothing I can do right this It's passiveness this victimhood mentality. There's nothing I can do. That's a very common lie that we tell ourselves So life is a constant gamer playing hide and seek with the truth For many people it's just too difficult to live honestly, right? Most people can't face life without rationalizations lies half truths because reality the truth is just too painful so I Remember what one of the most common things that my parents told me is you know, stop rationalizing because I always would have an excuse for everything All right So I need X to feel Y very common lie that we tell ourselves so You know, I need to get this sorted I need to get this fixed and then Then I'll be launched right here's another article nine subtle lies that we tell ourselves If I could just if I could just X then my life would be amazing Like there's this one person who will fix my life or there's this one job or this one opportunity or this one skill If I had more time I would do X now I'd write novels I'd learn to dance if I say or do X people think I'm stupid Most people don't think about us very much right most people are not thinking about us If I just say or do X then that person will finally change. We don't get to control people We can have an influence over people, but we don't get to control them Everything is great or everything sucks, right? Either either approach is exaggerated. There's something inherently wrong about me very common lie that people tell themselves I Would change but I can't because of X because of my childhood because I'm too old I can't live without X. I can't live without this person. I can't live without alcohol or I can't live with a high-paying job Or I can't live without status and prestige. I know what I'm doing very common lie that people tell themselves Sure, you do buddy right here a tent subtle and damaging lies that we tell ourselves I am just not good at X right. I'm just not good at paying attention I'm just not good at tracking my time not just not good at tracking my money. I'm just not good at earning money If he would only do X then I could finally do Y If I don't say anything nobody will think I'm wrong Don't regret anything I'm unlucky. All right, one of the most common lies that we tell ourselves. I'm unlucky like you know I just had bad breaks when I'm ready. I'll finally do X. I Never have enough time Never had a chance If someone so disappeared I just couldn't survive right? We're dependent upon other people or processes or status. Oh, that's just who I am Right very common lie that we tell ourselves. I'll get it done tomorrow. That's just who I am That's my excuse for not being financially responsible. That's my excuse for not volunteering That's my excuse for not stepping up. So We need for things to make sense. We need an explanation. We just can't accept things the way they are and So we invent stories to try to justify our reality Right, and we like to think that how the world is is because of us right locusts of control So we tell lies to silence our brains. We want to shut down our brain so that we can move on with our lives So we tell ourselves a lot of subtle and innocent lies then have very adverse effects in the long term They reduce our motivation to work hard. They destroy our self-discipline They ingrain themselves into our minds and we become the lies that we tell