 Okay, so you want to, I'm like breaking things over here. You want a man to see you as a priority. You want him to cherish you and love you and think of you as somebody that's different than any of the other women that he's ever met in his life. You want him to look at you and think that you're special and feel like you're somebody that he wants to be with and commit himself to and be with forever, right? So how do you do that? And today we're going to be talking about one of the most important components that you possibly can use in this regard and this is your belief systems, the way you think. So because the way that you think actually translates into the real world and I'll talk about that and how to do that and why that is here in a second. My name is Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. And if you're really serious about getting into a relationship where a man sees you and loves you and values you, then make sure that you go to theforeverwomanformula.com. There should be a link above or below this video, wherever you're watching it right now that will take you to go check that out. You can get it for free. So I've been in the dating industry since about 2005 I've been teaching and back in the day I was in the men's side of the dating industry. And when I was on the men's side we had this, I had this woman that would come out with me. She was my wing woman and we would go out with guys and we would go into situations and we would get these guys that were kind of frustrated and didn't know what to do. We would help them get into situations where they could talk with women and my wing woman would help do that for them. She would help them get into kind of these different groups and stuff with women and start conversations. And one of the really interesting things about my wing woman was that she used to always complain to me just all the time. She would complain that men never hit on me, men never flirt with me, men don't like me. I hear that all the time from her. And so one day I decided that I was going to try out a little experiment. And so what I did was I took her to this club that was popular at the time in downtown Denver, Colorado. And it was one of those clubs where it was like there's like this line that goes from the beginning of the club all the way out through the entire rest of the club. And so I knew that she was going to get hit on if we went and walked down this line. Because I mean she wasn't just like a total stunner or whatever. She didn't do herself all up and all that kind of stuff. But she was a very pretty girl. And so we went walking down this line. And she got hit on by like every dude in the club. Like they came over and they were like trying to grind on her and trying to high fiver and trying to talk to her. I mean just guys were coming out of everywhere. It was like cockroaches coming. And they all came out and they just started trying to talk to her and all this stuff. And she's like pushing them away and hitting them like, get away from me. Like screw you. Like all this stuff. We're walking through the club. And this is going on all the way through the club. I had to like grab her and pull her. And she's like, you know, like elbowing dudes and stuff. And they're like, you know, like trying to get. It was the funniest thing that I had seen in quite some time. And we finally we get to the end of the club. And I turned around and I looked at her and I said, her name's Emily. And I was like, hey, Emily, I thought you said that guys never hit on you. And she looked at me like all confused. And she's like, they don't. And I was like, oh, OK. You know, one of the things that I realized at the time was that, well, I didn't realize it at that time. But I figured it out over time was that she had belief systems in her mind that told her that she wasn't attractive, that she wasn't lovable, that men don't like her, like all that kind of stuff, right? And so when guys came up and they would flirt with her or they'd approach her or they'd hit on her, she thought that they were just messing with her or just being nice or doing something weird or whatever, right? She didn't realize that these men were actually hitting on her. And what I found is that our belief systems create our reality, right? So if you believe something deeply enough, you'll find that you experience that in your world. And not only do they impact how you experience things, it impacts how everybody else experiences things as well around you. And so if you have belief systems in your mind where you believe that you're not worthy of a great guy and that you have to prove yourself and do all that kind of stuff, what's going to end up happening is whatever guy that you're seeing, whatever guy you're with, will start to adopt whatever belief system that you have if it's stronger than whatever his is. And so if you believe all these things about your level of worthiness and you believe that you're not really worthy and all that kind of stuff, he will eventually start to believe this as well, even if initially he believed that you're amazing and that you're special and that you're lovable and that you're worthy. And so it's really important that you take control of your belief systems and how you view the world. And so what you want to do is you want to find what belief systems you have that are preventing you from living the life that you want to live and attracting the men that you want to attract and creating the relationship that you want to create. And you want to get rid of those belief systems to the best of your ability and replace them with better belief systems. And so how do you do that? How do you find the belief systems that you don't like? Well, one way to do it is to listen to what I'm about to say. Because what I'm about to say is a list of a bunch of different affirmations. And when you listen to this list of affirmations, what's going to end up happening is if you have a negative belief system in your mind, what your brain is going to do is it's going to start making up things about it. So these statements are completely neutral statements. They don't have any power one way or the other. But you're going to listen to one of these statements and your mind is going to be like, yeah, but that's not true because or you're going to say, yeah, but or you're going to start making excuses about why it's not for you and you can't believe these things. And this is out of touch with reality and all these other things. And if you find yourself doing that, you want to start paying attention. Because what's going to come out of your mouth when you're making these excuses and coming up with all these yeah, buts and that's not true because is what you say next. Because those are the beliefs that are sabotaging you. Those are the beliefs that are stopping you from having the relationship that you want, from attracting the man that you want to have in your life and from living an amazing life that you want to live. And so I want you to make sure and listen to what I'm about to say. And then when those things come up, the negative ones come up, make sure you write them down and then what you want to do is you want to question them, right? You want to question those beliefs as to whether they're true or false. And what I think you'll find is that all of them are false because our beliefs that we have in our minds, most of them aren't true. It doesn't matter if they're true or not, we experience life based on our beliefs, whether they're true or false. And so I'm going to give you a list here. Next I'm going to go over some affirmations to help you raise your value, not only in a man's eyes but in your own eyes, so that you can start attracting the type of man in relationship that you really want to have in your life. And so before I do that, if you're here with us right now, make sure you say hi in the chat and let us know where it is in the world that you're watching this from because it's really cool to see all these people all over the world watching our live streams. You guys are awesome. I love you guys, I love you guys. Okay, so first, the first affirmation is this. Men want to prove that they are worthy of my time, attention and commitment. It's number one. Number two, I will only commit myself to a man who has proven that he has committed himself to me. It's a boundaries one. It's very, very important, very important. Number three, I don't need validation from men. They need it from me. Number four, I am the prize that men are trying to win over. I know that one's gonna be a controversial one because there's a lot of women out there that are really trying to like, they kind of look at it like it's kind of like this objectification thing but it's not, right? We all want to be somebody that somebody else values and that's what I mean when I say the prize and that's how you should look at it too. The next one is I only allow men into my life who live up to my standards. The next one, I deserve, have permission and can keep an amazing man. Next, I only accept into my life men who respect my time, myself and my property. So if he disrespects any of that kind of stuff, you don't wanna have them in your life. Next one, I radiate confidence, love and charm that men find irresistibly attractive. Next, I am confident and comfortable in my own skin. I am confident and comfortable in my own skin. Next, I can control myself and I can wait. I don't need it right now. Very, very important, patience. Patience, a lot of people out there, especially women in our community, they're constantly trying to get validation or they try to get texting, a guy to text them back and he hasn't messaged me yet and it's like, take a deep breath in and relax, right? A lot of times we look at things where it's, we think about things and we're like, we want it right now, you know? And in reality, like there's kind of this thing out there where a lot of people are like, oh, life is short, like live for now, you know, live for the moment or whatever. And the same thing can be said kind of that life is actually kind of long if you think about it. Most of the short-term validation things that most people go for are too short of a timeframe and looking at things. You don't want to waste your time, but at the same time, you don't need to be kind of forcing things or trying to make things happen that don't want to be made to happen. The next one, I am beautiful inside and out. The next one, I captivate men with my beauty, charm, and energy. The next one, I am indifferent to the outcome. Next, I have fun and I am playful around men. Next one, I understand that men want relationships as much as women do. Okay, so that's it, that's with the 15. Now, just again, if you listen to those and your mind started coming up with excuses, your mind started coming up with, yeah, but your mind started coming up with, that's not true because type of things, just listen to those, those are your limiting beliefs and make sure that you write those down, create awareness around those. I'm gonna be posting all of these affirmations a little bit later so that you can use them at home so that you can say them to yourself at night so that you can do all of those kinds of things. And if you're with us right now in the chat, just if you get what I'm talking about here, say I get it. And if you don't get what I'm talking about, ask questions, ask questions about the different affirmations that we have here, ask questions about what's coming up for you when we're talking about these internal belief system type things, just any questions that you have about any of this stuff, feel free to talk about them. So what I want you to do moving forward if you really care about kind of switching things for yourself and seeing yourself as an amazing valuable woman that men want in their lives, my suggestion is that you take these and you say them every day when you wake up in the morning and before you go to bed at night. And if you want extra credit, what you can do is emotionalize them, right? Because emotions are what make things stick. So if you get yourself into an emotional state, get yourself into a state of like feeling really strong and confident and powerful and maybe like remember a time in your life where you felt really strong and confident and powerful and then you say the affirmations, that's a really, really powerful way to kind of internalize the affirmations. And if you want super extra credit, the next thing that you wanna do is find evidence for these, right? Find evidence that you do these things, find evidence that it's true, find as much evidence as you can because the more evidence you start finding about these things, the more you'll start believing it and the more you'll start convincing the people around you that these things are true. And so you wanna believe these things as much as you possibly can. And so remember when you find yourself disagreeing with the affirmation, making excuses, et cetera, that's when you know that you have a belief that needs to be fixed. When I went to college at Arizona State University in Tempe, Arizona and when I was going to college there, we had this, these researchers come into one of my classes and they brought in these big kind of jars of Kool-Aid. And so they're different, like all the Kool-Aid jars were all different, the Kool-Aid inside were all different colors, right? There's like purple and red and orange and green and all the different colors of Kool-Aid that you can think of as Kool-Aid. And they put these jars on a table and they got out little cups and they filled all the cups with the different colors of Kool-Aid and they put the Kool-Aid in front of every single student. So every student got to drink one of each of every color of Kool-Aid that there was. And then our job was to name what color was what flavor. And so what the kids would do, what the guys in my class were doing is they, you know, it was like, you know, typical stuff, right? Like you look up and it's like, okay, red, most people guessed that red was cherry, right? Most people guessed that green was apple. Most people guessed that orange was orange. Most people guessed all the course, that purple was grape, right? Like all the corresponding colors. That was the majority of guesses was that the color of the Kool-Aid was the flavor that normally somebody would associate with that color. And so at the end, they made this big reveal, right? And what the reveal was, was that all the Kool-Aid, all of it was all the same flavor. It was all apple. The only difference was that the people that were drinking it saw a different color. And so their mind convinced them that they were drinking cherry, that they were drinking orange, that they were drinking a different flavor than what was there, right? And so the important thing to think about with this, the whole point of this, is that what you experience in your outer world is a reflection of what you believe and what is going on in your inner world, whether it's true or not. And so it's very important that you pay attention to what you're thinking on the inside and what your beliefs are, because those aren't who you are, right? We get a lot of women that are like, yeah, just be yourself and all this stuff. And I think it's important to be yourself. But I also think it's important to realize that most people don't even know who they are, right? A lot of people are like, oh, I'm my beliefs, right? I'm what I think, I'm what I do. Those are all things that can easily be changed. And most of them are learned things that you grew up with. They aren't things that come from you as a human being. They're things that you developed because of where you live or who you live with or what your parents or school taught you about life. And so what I wanna emphasize here is to think and believe good things about yourself. Think and decide, consciously choose the things that you think about yourself and about the world, because those things will have a dramatic impact on how you experience your life in the world. And so I'm gonna go back over the 15 affirmations again. And then what I want you to do is if you have a question about your situation or something that's going on with you or what we're talking about or anything at all, any kind of question at all, feel free to put it into the chat and I will go over each one of them. And so the 15 affirmations, again, are men want to prove that they are worthy of my time, attention and commitment. I will only commit myself to a man who has proven that he has committed himself to me. I don't need validation from men, they need it from me. I am the prize that men are trying to win over. I only allow men into my life who live up to my standards. I deserve, have permission and can keep an amazing man. I only accept into my life men who respect my time, myself and my property. I radiate confidence, love and charm that men find irresistibly attractive. I am confident and comfortable in my own skin. I can control myself and I can wait. I don't need it right now. I am beautiful inside and out. I captivate men with my beauty, charm and energy. I am indifferent to the outcome. I have fun and I am playful around men. I understand that men want relationships as much as women do. Now, if you have an affirmation that you say to yourself or that you use, please put it in the chat. I'd love to hear what it is. I'd love to see what it is. I'm sure the other women would love to see what it is as well. So if you have any affirmations that you use, put them in the chat. And again, if you're really serious about getting into a relationship with a man where you're seen and loved and cherished and valued, make sure that you go to theforeverwomanformula.com and check out getting my whole system for how to do that for free. Okay, so let's see what kind of questions we got here. God's girl says, oh, a man will adopt your belief system absolutely. A man will adopt your belief system, whether it's good or bad, if it's stronger than his belief system. So, let's see. Yeah, okay. Diana said, will giving him space make him come back? Been almost three weeks now. Well, it depends. It depends. I mean, it won't necessarily make him come back. I mean, it depends on what was going on before he left, why he left and what you've done since then. If a guy leaves you, you really have to work on, you have to figure out why he left, right? You have to figure that out. Most times when guys leave a relationship and they end up coming back to it, they come back for one very simple reason. The reason that men come back to relationships after they left is because they think that they're getting into a different relationship than they got into the first time. When a guy leaves a woman and leaves a relationship situation, he usually left for a good reason. And so, if he ends up coming back, he usually wants to get into a different situation than he got out of. Otherwise, he wouldn't want to come back, right? Like, why would you wanna go back to the same situation that you thought was so bad that you decided to leave? It's rarely how it happens, right? Like, the only way is if he feels like it's gonna be different. Sissy said, I'm glad you are talking about these affirmations. I talked about these in my live streams. Wow, cool. Love, love, love all what you do to empower women, Matt. Thank you, I'm glad. And again, if anybody wants to give me compliments, I'll tell us. Such a sucker for good compliments. If you have any great compliments, I really like them, so go ahead and, not that I get my validation from them, okay? But they do stroke my ego and I do like it. Okay, Diana says, well, giving, yeah, you already asked that. She says, I don't get it. Yeah, you said the same thing three times. Okay, Julie says, I am very playful around men, though, for real. Good, good. Liz says, I get it, although I didn't know that I didn't know that I did until listening to your list. Okay, you didn't know that you didn't know that you did. Yep, I will post the whole list, Diana. I get it. God's girl said, I started greeting my sig nifo by smiling and keeping it light. We both had fun and a deeper bond, trying to keep it light and fun. I'm happy you're not expecting any outcome. Thank you for your advice. You're welcome. Yeah, Diana has now posted this six times, the same thing. Better watch it, you better watch it, Diana. Don't be spamming the chat, okay? Don't be spamming the chat. Helen says, I see myself as expensive. That might be a, okay, okay, I'll go for that one. I'll go for that one. As long as you have it in the right context. It's good. Darla says, yep, I will post them. So Sabine says, great hair today. Are you talking about me? Thank you. Thank you. Better late than broke. Do you have a video on being a friend to becoming a couple? Yes, I do, actually. And you should search it. It's how to turn a guy friend into a boyfriend or something like that. How to turn your guy friend into a boyfriend. Something like that, it's a live stream, it's a good one. You should go watch it, it's amazing. It's amazing. Julie Tree says, I love your gorgeous smile, man. Oh, thank you, you're so sweet. Such a sucker for compliments. Better late than broke says, you're awesome. Thank you, thank you. Sissy says, aha, you love compliments. You're so cute. My younger bro, I'm your older bro, okay? If you don't know, I'm your older brother giving you advice about men, okay? This is how it works. I'm the older brother giving my younger sister's advice on how this works, on how men work, on how to connect with men. Cause I've got the world of experience above me and I know, I know the secrets, I know the answers. So you gotta listen to my advice. Helen says, given space to man, then it takes longer and I get frustrated and give up on him, I move onto another man. Okay. Barbie says, I started seeing someone who is totally into me when we are together but he disappears for a couple of days and then pops up again. He says things to indicate I'm his girl then stopped himself out loud, yeah. Yeah, he's probably, so one of the things you gotta realize about men and one of the affirmations that I talk about in this affirmation thing that we just went over is that men are trying to impress you. That's one of the things that you really need to get in your mind is that men are like, they're legitimately like scared that they're going to screw things up with you. And so what they do is they look at advice as well, right? There was some woman in our community today, I think it was or yesterday who was talking about like, oh, women, we're always working on ourselves and we're always developing ourselves and we're always trying to learn how to get better relationships with men but men don't ever do this with women. What's the deal? And I pointed out that one of my friends, he's a man, the men's dating space. He has a YouTube channel that is many times bigger than ours. It's definitely a huge, I only know one women's dating channel that's bigger than his men's dating channel. And it's just one of those things where like, guys, it's the same thing, right? Like a lot of women are on this channel and they're going in our community and they're watching videos and stuff and they don't post at all. And so we have hundreds of thousands of women that watch our videos and they never leave a comment. They never say anything. They never show any indication that they're watching this stuff and going through this stuff because they feel embarrassed about it, because they feel scared that somebody might find out that they've been watching this stuff or whatever, right? Well, men are the exact same way. There are, the guy's channel that I was talking about, he's got 800,000 subscribers, right? And there's tons and tons of men trying to learn about this stuff. And so they go on there and they learn things as well. And what he is, your comment here, Barbie, is talking about is that he's probably learned or he's experienced, he's either learned from the dating advice that's out there or he's experienced for himself that when he starts indicating to a girl that that girl is his girl, what he's found is that a lot of girls will ghost, right? They'll disappear on you, they'll leave you and all of a sudden the dude's like, what happened? I thought things were going so well and I liked her so much. And then I said this thing where I said, oh my God, you're my girl and like I called her my girlfriend or I did this or I did that. And all of a sudden she freaked out and ran off, right? It's the exact same thing that happens with guys that are trying to attract women as well. It's exact same stuff, you know? And a lot of women are like, oh, it's just us trying to do this stuff. And it's like, no, no, no, it's really both sides, right? Like everybody's learning about how to be better people and everybody's having problems with it. And so it's just one of those things where that was kind of a tangent, but I just wanted to point out there that men are doing this stuff too, right? They're learning about this stuff as well. And he might just be scared that you're going to run off on him if he shows too much interest. So, Negrita says, Diana, that's why he left. Oh my God. Oh man, I'm not sure if that's a trolling comment. So, Angela, Angela, Angela, Angela says. My ability to pronounce names is just horrendous sometimes. She says, I love him, he doesn't judge me, he calls me. Okay, Gianni, Gianni says, I wish I would have listened to this advice before getting into my current relationship. Yeah, yeah. Manon says, thank you for cheering me up. You definitely have a great day. Sharing me up, you definitely have a great smile. Thank you for saying that, I appreciate it. Renee says, love your laugh, thanks. Karen says, great hair. I do appreciate this. I have messed up according to your videos. This guy still keeps messing with me. Yeah, it's because, you know, go back to our affirmations. He's trying to impress you. He wants to be worthy of you. He wants to prove that he's worthy of you, that you guys can be in a good relationship together. Diana says, yeah, but been almost three weeks now. Yeah, sometimes it takes months, sometimes it never happens. What you need to do, what you need to do now, instead of sitting around paying, trying to like sitting there obsessing, probably looking at your phone, like going over it, like, when's he gonna contact me? Instead of doing that, here's what you need to do. Go to theforeverwomanformula.com. There's a link above or below. And go get my program and go through that system. That's what you need to do. You need to let go of this guy, because right now, the place that you're coming from, Diana, is a place that is just gonna drive him away again. Because you're coming from this space and you're showing it all over our YouTube channel right now, where you're going, oh my God, what's going on? Like, well, why isn't he contacting me again? And you're posting it over and over and over again. And what you're showing us through your actions right now is that you're coming from a space of neediness and desperation. And if you're coming from a space of neediness and desperation, what's gonna end up happening is he, if he does end up coming back and he does end up talking to you, you're gonna totally sabotage and destroy it. Because he's not gonna feel like he's getting into a new situation. He's gonna feel like he's getting back into the same old desperate clingy, this woman's all over me and smothering me and it sucks. And I just wanna get out of this kind of situation that he probably just left from. And so you need to regain your power. And you need to get into a situation where you're feeling strong so that you can go back into it. If he does come back, you can go back into it in a space where you're strong and empowered and you're feeling loved for yourself and you're feeling valuable. And if he doesn't end up coming back, you can end up finding a guy that really treats you well and loves you and feels like you're the most amazing woman on earth and you don't end up smothering him and driving him out of your life. That's what needs to happen. If you want to move forward and you want to get into a great relationship, you need to stop being all over the place and start like relaxing and connecting with yourself and getting into your feminine energy and leaning back and start doing all the things that I talk about where you raise your value, your own perceived value of yourself from my program and just start doing that. I'm telling you, that's what you need to do right now, Diana. If you want some serious advice, that's what you need to go do. So Sissy said, haha, older brother, I definitely listened to you, great? Brenda says, you know what, Matthew? Julie Tree says, I need to find one out there like you, Matt. Kathy says, hello, Matthew, you are big brother, I must be more than that. No, I'm your big brother too, okay? Mulima says, hello, enjoying and following faithfully your teachings, great. Thambia, Thambi, Thambi says, love your hairdo. Thank you, I appreciate that. Yaziznia says, my guy just slowly stopped calling and messaging me, so I did the same and just stopped. Now he's liking my posts on Facebook, yet won't call or text, so I will not accept crumbs. Why not just call? I am worth more than that. Therefore, I just dismiss it, meaning I won't respond, call or text until he steps up. Okay, so Milani says, Melanie, yeah, I'm good at this stuff. Melanie says, what happens when these affirmations work too well? I have a couple men who seem to want to lock me down pretty quickly. Well, all of a sudden, you come from another space and what you need to do is make sure that you are, well, I mean, I would say, one, I would say that's a quality problem. If you've got a whole bunch of dudes and they're trying to lock you down, that's a quality problem. It means that you're coming from a really good space and you're in a spot where you need to be more choosy and you need to figure out what's right for you, right? And if guys are trying to lock you down super quick, I mean, it could be that he's coming from a healthy space and he's just like, most guys out there, they don't want to go around and date a whole bunch of people either, right? Most guys out there who aren't players and aren't abusive and aren't, all that kind of stuff, what they want is just to find the one and settle down and get into a relationship that leads towards marriage. That's what most guys want. And so what you need to do with guys like that is you need to make sure that they're in a healthy space and that they're not coming from a space that's really needy or desperate or they're trying to do that because they're coming from kind of this desperation space because if he's smothering you, it's the same thing with men and women when it comes to like attraction and love, right? If you smother a guy, he'll lose his attraction and his love for you and you'll drive him out of your life. It's the same thing with a guy. And so if you get into a situation with a guy and he's like talking about marriage and stuff, it's a red flag because what ends up happening is he's so enamored by you and he's so in love with you and he thinks you're so amazing that he's gonna end up driving you out of his life and so he needs to chill out and there's not a whole lot you can do about that other than just calm him down and be like, hey, let's get to know each other a little bit first and see if he gets the fact that you're calming him down and chilling him out and if he doesn't get that fact, then it's gonna be a problem later down the line because he's gonna be so all over you and so enamored by you that he's gonna end up driving you out of his life eventually. Brenda says, you know what, Matthew? I like to think you're like my brother giving me advice to have better relationships. Actually, you look physically like him and we don't have any contact because of him. Okay. Eurystians says, it's nice to be here and listening some advice. Thank you. You are absolutely welcome. Thank you for being here. Sarah says, hello, Matthew. I'm dating this guy, but his acting too gay talks a lot about what happened to gay community. So what must I do? Should I ask him or I must let it go? Yeah, I mean, if he talks a lot about the gay community, I mean, it might not be a big deal if he's like liberal and he spends a lot of time in those kinds of gay communities that are all like gay, whatever, going on. I used to have a lot of friends that were in the gay community, and but I wasn't like going on dates and talking to women about it all the time. So I mean, if it really is a concern to you, if you're like, you know, is this guy gay, right? Like, and he's just talking about it all the time. Like, I mean, you could legitimately ask him about it. I mean, how else is, it's one of those things, especially if you're physically intimate with him, if you got to the point where you're physically intimate with him, you definitely want to talk about things like that, right? Like you want to bring it up if it's legitimately a concern of yours, where you're like, is this guy like bisexual or something like that? You might want to talk to him about it just so that there aren't any surprises. You know what's going on. You know kind of how he feels about those sorts of things, right? Cause if he is into that, it may or may not be a problem depending on the way that he views relationships and all that kind of stuff, you know, not to totally stereotype the gay community or anything, but as somebody that has known a lot of people that have been into in the gay community, I know that there's a lot of kind of open kind of relationship type stuff that goes on in those community and that in many of those communities. And so it's important to kind of ask and talk to him about his viewpoint on open relationships and those sorts of things just so that you understand and just come to it with a completely open mind and completely non-judgmental and being more curious than anything else. That way you're not like throwing judgments on him and he feels like you're judging him so he shuts down about it. You want him to open up and talk about those kinds of things as much as he possibly can so that you're making sure that you are getting yourself into a good situation. So Jackie says, I have just been on a first date with an internet guy last Saturday. Okay, he has gone on a boys weekend this weekend. I'm like, have a great time. He fixed a second date with me for next Thursday before he left. Think he liked the way I was happy for him. Proud of myself because normally clean. Awesome, well congratulations Jackie. I'm glad that you're not being clean. So good job. Diana says, that was harsh. Okay, it's the truth. That's what you need to do. That's the reality of the situation. People don't come to me because they want some kind of airy-fairy nonsense thrown at them. If you want the truth and you want reality that's what I deliver here. I don't talk around things. I don't pretend like things are something that they aren't. If you're going to jump on our chat and ask a question the same question eight times and then I give you the total truth to it. Just, you know, just accept it. I'm not trying to hurt you or anything. I'm just trying to give you a wake up call that what you're doing right now is probably not the best thing and that you need to be coming from a space where you're feeling strong and confident. That's what you need because that's the only way you're gonna end up getting him back. Liz says, yes, consider keyword wealth, investment in self value. It's right. It's right. Spend some time thinking about that. Barbie says, he did say that when you become more than friends is when it's the beginning of the end but I'm pretty aggressive when I want someone. It's no secret but it's been a week this time. Should I give up? Well, I would not be so aggressive when you want someone. I don't know what you mean by I, I'm pretty aggressive when I want somebody but that's usually the opposite of what keeps somebody is being aggressive, right? Like you want to, you want them to be aggressive with you. You want them to invest in you mentally, emotionally and from a time standpoint. And so if you're being aggressive and you're turning things into more than friends and it's been a week, I mean, just chill out, lean back, relax and yeah. Steve says, I love your hair wet look. Is that what, is that what this is, the wet look? Melanie says, thanks Matt, you're welcome. Cindy says, one after five months I tried, tried to hover several times after other one after three weeks of no contact. I let them know a wonderful man found me while they dilly-dallyed, okay? Did a wonderful man find you while they dilly-dallyed or were you manipulating and throwing that in their faces? Pepe says, do guys test girls on purpose to see if they'll react emotionally? Everybody tests everybody else and they do it subconsciously usually. Do guys test girls on purpose to see if they'll react emotionally sometimes because emotional investment creates commitment, right? It creates interest, it creates desire. And so if a guy is, if a woman is kind of getting emotionally involved in a situation with a guy then that he may know or he may not know could be that he knows that. And so he's doing it on purpose. It could be that he doesn't know that and he's doing it kind of just because it's something that he's learned or something that he's done or something that maybe has helped him in the past. And so it could be either one of those. So, okay. So I think that's it for now. 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