 being vulnerable is the number one thing that creates intimacy in relationships. So if we constantly worry about being hurt then we find ourselves unable to be vulnerable anymore in the relationships that matter to us who don't know why they're on the receiving end of an unwillingness of us to be vulnerable when they weren't the ones that ghosted us. So when you're ghosted and it affects you in a significant way the people that love us and do life with us suffer and new relationships suffer not knowing that you bring to that new relationship this sense of gardenness and unwillingness to be vulnerable so what you do is you are unable to be intimate where you want to be because the ghosting has damaged you once bitten twice shy and now you are not good at intimacy and this happens in people in serial relationships where they travel into new relationships with a hangover of previous hurt that makes them less willing to be vulnerable so ghosting is not neutral it's not funny it's not some digital thing that's interesting it is a new dynamic in social relationships that's killing us.