 Why 254, imagine? Hey, I'm just laughing at the comments we are getting on social media from our question of the day. And this question is one very controversial one. Una kuwangana fedoms, gani kama a single person. Let me just take a few comments and we're going to resume the part B of this conversation. Remember I still have my panelist in studio, Roda and Cynthia. And we're going to be continuing with that conversation. But let me share what I'm laughing about. Someone is here saying, pombela kizungumengia kulokusumbuana nae. We people are suffering out here. Then there's someone else saying, turning my house in a club every weekend, watching the show from Narumoru. Kupikawgali na sufuriha. Bi yanyelipi kamboga. Allah. Okay. We can talk and share with anybody. Bila boundaries. Okay. What I need hold up or let me take a chill pill as I continue engaging my panelist. Roda, I think I'll start with you. You said you gave me a very straight niko single nasisumbuani namto straight single. Because I even don't mean it. She said it but I am single straight. So single straight. What are the things you're missing as a single straight? Nimengi. Okay. So the first one is after a long day you need someone. As in when you're single, utakuja tuwewe na shidasako na stressiako unyamaze ulale. But then when you have someone you're dating, utamami a you'll share your day. You'll share your disappointment with someone. So that is one thing you're missing. You're missing cuddles. You're missing hugs. Kupikako. Let's just ask your curious question. Are you curious? Are you single by choice or single by circumstances? Okay. Wow, that's a hard one. Okay, I'm single by choice. Let me say that. Wewendulia chana ama wewendulia chua. If you are in a relationship, I assume you will have a relationship. And I'm getting personal. It's all your fault. It's all your fault. Are you single by choice or single by circumstances? Why? Wewendulia mkukajpana. Cocktail. Umoja. It's fat. Apu tell us the cocktail bit about it. Because... Yeah, should I speak for my... Okay, yeah, I should. Okay, let me just say I'm single by choice. Because wewendulia me decide. Niki, sayi niki decide na takakunia kwa relationship. Sayi niki sayi niki decide na takakunia kwa relationship. Sayi niki sayi niki decide na takakunia kwa relationship. Sayi niki sayi niki sayi na takakunia kwa relationship. I have made it a point to myself that... No. That you want to remain single? Yes. I think to define kukua single by choice, kukua single. Like ulichuus amani jumtu alichit, ukamu waku wachana naiai, ukamu waku baki single. Jumtu saka mani jumtu alichit, ukamu waku kukua single. Circumstances. Circumstances. Acha basmiki many circumstances. Exactly. Exactly, tell us the truth. Okay, okay, okay, okay. In fact, nisakamstances. I don't know you at home. Uku singles by choice. Uku singles by circumstances. We are all here saying I am single. I am single by choice. Kuhume uli piwa karakter development. Miwa was telling my friend yesterday, actually yesterday last night, that Mimi, I went to KISCD, Kenya International School of Karakter Development, University Nikola PhD. Like nili piwa karakter development. So if I am single, kuna time nimi wakua single by circumstance. But sayi where I am at. Ni choice amani circumstances. Ukua single by. Do you want to review your answer? Okay, I say them. I am still single by choice because I feel like right now I am not ready to you know, nikamo na hando lingi another humal apart from yourself. I don't think I am ready for that. Priorities, I don't have. Okay, it's not a priority right now. Wow, Cynthia. As a single complicated girl. I am adding that intentionally because you said it's complicated. So I hope you don't mind though. As a single complicated girl, what are the things you miss? What are the things you miss out? Vi tu mingi. Vi leto me say ma, you need somebody to talk to. I am believing uki kwa in a relationship. This person is supposed to be like your best friend. So wundu na kujanga kumambia, vi tu roh and kandid. So at that point, ukua single hauna mtu kamo yo. Yes, hauna mtu kamo yo. Vi tu tu wundu gondogo, ukisike hukula chips, ukisike hukula quick snack. You know, somebody to call, somebody on quick dial, una zampigia any time. Ya, those are the things that mtu ana miss when you're not dating. Una smile in a goofy way like you want to say something, rather say something. Okay, just I still agree with her. Like you miss a lot. Caddles. Ya, kwanze yo ea Caddles when kwanza sayi kuna baridi na irobi. Kuna baridi kueli? Ya, like okay, baridi mekua, baridi mekua. Like you need, on a cold day you need a hug, you need a Caddle. Jugo kwa single by choice, stay strong in your decisions. I shall not, I shall not review ever. You want to review your decisions? No, I am not. You know you can review your decisions? Kuna mtu apara kwa kwa mwa the change mind ya kia, ali kuja kusama, I am single straight. She wants to leave this studio saying, guys we will say kuna kumtuni mo na pa around. Ha! You want to review your decision? No, I am firm. To be single. Akun na tamtu anjaribu kuku. Now, let me throw in another factor into play. Before I read something quite interesting that I have seen on social media. There is this aspect of money. I don't know money, how money plays out in a relationship and in being single. That is, don't you guys, mimi I enjoy that freedom ya, I don't have to give a man's money. You guys, have you been in such situations where you have to help a man with money? I love your reaction Cynthia, can you bring it on? Of course, kuna iletu mezoia na adia no na ni kama lakini oniku, ok. No na ni kama haneza kuku omba pesa. Lakini no na ni kama tukuna double standards in some way. Because mbonasizi tu na feel ni kama we can ask them for money and when they ask us for money tu no na ni kama like kani ya not in your bag. Kani ya not in your bag. Ya, si na yo pesa huku patia bato kini ma pesa ya nils pesa ya nui. Na kuna hulasi kumzima. But still they are not supposed to ask us for money. Have you ever given a man money for any reason? My mother will hear. We are protecting you patia. We already know the answer. Roda, the money factor in being single and being in a relationship personally. What do you think? I feel like it's two way. A guy can borrow me money and they can also borrow. But what they are using that money for is what in a different way. Lakini say to you every time ma nani yo ma pesa okay I'm still a girl you know. But I don't mind giving money. Maybe in as much as we put guys in this situation they have to be the ones to give us money all the time. In Afikanga that day we didn't have money. It's not his fault. You can just come in say to you kwa iti wekila siku niku receive. Kwa ni umekua. At least you can give at times but say to you kwa mazoe kwa all the time unampea pesa unampea pesa all the time. But when it's amefika place hana illesiri astu unampea. Na pia mi, atami ni kitaka na fahupewa So that's a freedom you enjoy that you don't have to share your man with anyone. Ya. Are you really enjoying ama una choice? Are you really enjoying ama una choice? Because we decided kwa single so una takana niya kupa ti e pesa unless we kwa nambaba. I will say you're enjoying kwa sababu if you don't have to give someone money I think it's a privilege it's a freedom I'm enjoying right now that I am single that I don't have to give someone money that I don't have to be there for someone your back or shoulder to lean on you know. It is. It's a freedom. It's a prone and it's a kone. It's a prone and it's a kone. It's a prone where you don't have to give anyone money but it's a kone where you want money. Ya. When you want to receive money when you want to when it is your end now when it is your end now. Ya. You still look like you're processing something quite deep. Ebu shia. Me have a question. How do you feel about naja kuna is this relationship zene the woman is done who's earning more. So how do you feel about that? I'm okay. This comes to the type of person you're dating if you're dating that is kusabu there's a guy when ya ata kuna weevu like when the lady is earning more ata feel insecure like nika this lady will be on top of him and then there's this guys when you're earning more they'll want to bring you down do kuna and lesser than them kus they insecure they feel like they should be on top of ladies in terms of financial gain Ya. I watched a movie sorry I watched a movie the other day where they were married their wife got a promotion at work she got paid twice 2-3 times more than the happy aunt and the minute she said it alisema because he was so happy honey you've got a promotion and then the minute she said guess how much money then the husband was like how much then she was like 1.2 and he was like that's like more than 2-3 times my pay she was like ya ya it's more money for us it's more money for us that guy pinukad from that time he beat her he brought it and the factor in the house was dependent on you have more money than I do you have more money than I do so that ended up in in the later story like after the movie ended now should you declare your social status like that is your financial status to your potential person as we wrap up this because now that's one of the freedoms we've gotten to enjoy that as a single person are enjoying your freedom of having your own money having you don't have someone asking you for anything now you're here probably you're bound to meet someone eventually will you be at that point where you'll declare your financial assets Roda depends on the person I'll be with if this person is insecure then I won't if me saying what I own and my riches and all will make our relationship go down I won't be insecure and treat in a certain way but if this person is okay and supportive enough if there are people who are dating and pushing you to get the best that kind of person but I am dramatic I have ego even when they are above that's what I want to say Rosafie Sintia I can't say I can't say if I'm like I can't say to range I won't tell you the exact digit why because you can't trust people you can't trust people but you want to get into a relationship with this person that you do not trust mani mataz mani mataz yesterday there was a psychologist here who said I agree with the thing that couples do and I believe it's the same concept I don't think you're supposed to tell your partner how much you earn and how then that means you don't trust them then why are you in the relationship that you don't trust mani mataz I believe mani is a very sensitive kwa relationship you can be trust in each other with all these other things kwa mani mataz ina leta shida ina bring the whole thing down kama tuvlu me sema a man who is earning less than the woman ata kwa insecure this is the same thing kwa mani mataz what will happen but then I don't get why when men are earning more than the woman it's okay but then when it's the woman wahala pro mani I know like it's not even fair wahala pro mani mataz I don't know I think it's the society's greatest that mani is always supposed to be on top in terms of mani on top in terms of his leadership I was watching some clip and the other day the lady was saying that as a man if you come to me you must come correct with your leadership come correct with your content come correct with everything so I think it's that status to make ya wanume that you need to but then again it also trickles down to this man's egocentrism because there are men who have a very big ego than their bodies bigger than their bodies they can't handle the success of a woman so I feel like on the other end if I would add 2 cents into it is that that's also a freedom that you get to enjoy you get to I don't know how to say it but that aspect of your self-esteem as a woman ya you achieve more because you're on your own you don't have to be brought down by another person it's you against the world ya you get ya I agree ya um unakani kama kuna kitu me kushiks in this entire story apana fada I agree your aspect ya you get to enjoy your own money by yourself kupika chapo na uneshi peki ako yo ni kukosa kazi you must be very idle that's someone saying on life juriya veja tuu someone had commented kupika chapo I can't get to cook chapos I can't get to do whatever kupika chapo na uneshi peki ako I don't do you cook chapatis? okay I do cook why is it not okay ya I cook I was so sorry I didn't know what to say I don't know okay let me say this why is it not okay to cook for yourself mauna upiki when the man is there but when it's you upiki jutu na takani mua lunch babe please order take out sigeski kupika leo see that's what we say ya most okay they say Cynthia just said it hapa tu kwaitu interview that one of the things you get to miss is those small expenses you make like kukula amans will provide for it so you see why it's a play where everything is a play I agree let me take a few comments on Twitter someone is saying my number show big ups sana gotia Rizan Romeo thank you so much Kenya Mauso Femins mbo ne moja amboso come through na wapenda hearts of production is saying tune in from Kikuyu town guys we appreciate your feedback let me read some on facebook um weh kwaenda kwinga Dorcasi saying kwaenda na inga usiku na hakuna mitu ana ni uliza uli kuawapi weh women who have you been dating please kukunya hene si na pigeshe reha hadi late usiku na friends nasi ulizu uli kuawapi sa hi na hakuna mitu waku pelika magikwa na pelika kwa pelika manju api just read it again someone is saying na hakuna mitu na pelika magikwa bafu this is where we were discussing mpa kwa relationship gadi yajem naishipa moja wuko symbol naishipa moja na amja define you remember that na pelika ena ga magikwa bafu those men must be where those men who are enjoying those privileges mga na sema bringing my girl home that's a guy kupari all the nights frances someone is saying kwa single sila zima usumbukane kwa oga kilasiku na kupigalu kupigalu ku unao gade una takanu na va vene una jiskiya kuwa those are men out here so alo ga ngele skuwa na kuja kutuona why should you have to bathe because of a lady like it's you have you ever met a man this is A.O.B have you ever met a man that smells I can't even explain it nice old bad what's the prettiest thing you've not you refuse to date someone for chapped lips what's the prettiest thing you refuse to date someone for chapped lips what's the prettiest thing you refuse to date someone for mbonau na nuka mdomo it's your body order I know how how do you just kwa oga sila zima upigalu kukilasiku I don't know I don't look your direction in the other day good morning kwa lala vilauna taka hakuna kusumbuliwa usiku ati babe kuka uchi niki toka bafu adi muliwa kuka uke kuku nyo madru kitumiya jag kwa nda out kila time kwa hotaki ku foot bills kua hamnakupimiwa okay good morning tuning from tika kwa kungeni thank you freedom niki tu miya jag ekie camera mo ya kutembe niki kwa uchi kua nyumba na freedom Acha kuna freedom. Good morning. Ukiwa single uneza lalatimu na taka. Okay. Let me take one more no stress una...una pulaya tumasa. Okay. Kukuliwa kwa sufuruya na nikimaliza na ilambandio. Recycle ya kutumiwa sufuruya. Mwaza kupika. Everything's ina time. Kuna komentimu kwa repeated a lot of times. Ia kukuniwa jag na kutumiwa sufuruya. Men out there. We will not eat at your houses. Please we are done. Anyway, I want you to give us your parting shot. Bina single straight girl, like straight single. Tell us, tell a girl out there. Mwene ako single maybe and I feel they are making the right, the wrong choice or they've been asking themselves, what am I doing? Just in 30 seconds. What will you tell such a girl out there? If you're out there and you're single or you're not or you're confused, just make your priorities like if you want, as in if your priority is like study or growing yourself fast, like if you're not ready to accommodate another human, just do you, just grow yourself fast so that you can be ready for another person if the time comes. And if you want to be in a relationship, just do it. But as long as you're happy, remember you come fast. Don't compromise your happiness for another person. That's all I can say. Mwene, I would like to say that. Usi kwen aharaka kwaimaisha. Usi wai confirm to the pressures that unona's dream, bestia kwa me post. Si dream a kuna boyfriend ya ke si dream happy. Maybe when they're not happy together. So uskwen aharaka, just go at your own pace. Put your priorities straight. Put yourself fast. India. This has been Roda and that has been Cynthia. You've had it all from them. I don't know you're out there. You're a girl. You're a man. You're out there. You're single and you're wondering, am I making the right decision? Yes, at this particular time. This is a personal opinion that it's time, take time to grow yourself. Take time to be independent. Take time to, are you able to date you? Like ask yourself when you're single at this particular time. Now that you want probability, you want to date someone and you're wondering, are there freedoms to being single? Ask yourself, are you able to date yourself if today you were to ask yourself out? That was it from us here at Wai in the Morning. This being Woman Crush Wednesday. Thank you for keeping us company here at Wai254 TV. My name is Grace Maengi. Do have a lovely day.