 It's May 40 here, top of Runyon Canyon, looking out there towards, see if that's westward or Century City, downtown, in the Griffith Observatory, about 3pm on a Sunday afternoon March 26, I'm up where we belong, and just talking to a maid of mine, and he's a secular Jew, but he's doing such a Kirish Hashem on Tinder. I'm just a truly righteous man, he's not revealing his religion, but when he's getting inappropriately propositioned by women, he's turning them down, like there's this 38 year old woman who came over, and she told him that he could be the fourth man that she was regularly hooking up with three other dudes, she was kind of homeless sleeping on people's couches, and he just wasn't interested. Another woman sent him inappropriate videos of herself with another guy, and again he just turned right out, so he's just being a match on Tinder, and so he's giving man a good name, giving Jews a good name, like you can go to a place where no one's made a bracha, you can make a bracha, and what an elevation that is, so normally you think ah, what's a Jew doing on a Croatia place like Tinder, but such as the holiness of a Jew, they can go to a place like Tinder, they can make a bracha, they can conduct themselves like a mensch, they can elevate the holy sparks, so it's very easy to degrade and drop down to the lowest level when you leave the Kihila, leave the community, and it's just you and the app, but when the signs of recovery I think is to be as transparent as possible, so if you're working from home, you conduct yourself as though your boss was watching you every move, so that there's nothing that you're ashamed of, I think in general, the more transparent your life the better, like adopting the attitude of everybody knows everything, it's really holy, transparent, recovery, way to live your life, so it takes less energy because you're not worried about hiding stuff, you're not ashamed, you're reducing double life, so a lot of people work from home and they may only put in like four hours of work, and then when they're off work they don't feel good, so then they're kind of dreading going back to work, so they know when they go back to work, they won't really be doing much working, so then they get to enjoy your downtime, but put in an honest day's work, all right, and when you're off the clock, it's a lot easier to enjoy the downtime, how you feel good about yourself, you feel strong, and then you take that in to your weekend, to your off hours, to every activity you do, because you know you've been fair dinkum, right, when you're fair dinkum, when you're authentic, and you're giving a fair go to your boss, to your clients, like everyone's got a boss, you don't work for someone, then your clients are your boss, customers are your boss, so give your clients your boss, your employer, customers a fair go, then makes you feel strong, you can take that strength into your off hours, and then strength you build up during your off hours, all right, you then take that back in a virtuous circle, into your work hours, so I'm all about building the virtuous circle, so getting up early, taking a cold shower, having my protein drink and my supplements, prayer, meditation, all set meetings, and I get good inspiring stuff inside me early on in the day, and you just build that virtuous circle, all right, you put in fair days work, put in fair dinkum effort, even if you're working from home, then when you go on Tinder, you can be fair dinkum on Tinder too, all right, so it's not like Tinder then becomes a dispiriting experience, all right, take that strength, a positive charge, keep refilling it in each aspect of your life, so I was listening to Dr. Donnelly Snipes, and she had this like 12 point program for grounding yourself in reality, and one point of her program was that you write about your urges, so I thought, oh that's cool, you know how long it's been since I've written about my urges, he don't accept your urges as determinative, they're not the last word, they're just the things that blow through you like the breeze, I asked my friend if he'd never journaled about his urges, and apparently never journaled, he's a big believer in repression, so apparently one of the reasons why people have trouble sleeping, they have a busy day, and the first time they're not busy, then they lay their head down, and they have to do all their thinking, and all the thoughts and worries and cares and concerns, right, rush over them, bloody hell.