 Which city should I move to to maximize my dating potential and do dating apps still work guys? These are two common questions We see a lot on the internet concerning dating and hopefully we'll help yeah We pulled these off reddit. These are two commonly asked questions. Hey guys, what city should I move in? Which city will I thrive in as well as does online data even work anymore? I got like a hundred matches and no girls wanted to meet up So make sure you like subscribe and turning notifications because hopefully we'll get to a deeper level of understanding of these issues Or perhaps I should say Andrew deeper layer, but you know what else has layers? Smala sauce got a lot of layers of flavors and a delayed Sichuan kick in a little stature You know get your tongue buzzing in the background. So anyways check it out smaller sauce calm I mean of course to answer the first question Andrew location and environment do matter, but it goes deeper than that, right? Yeah It also matters what you have to offer that environment because every environment is different and there's voids in every market Right, but it also depends on what you're offering. So as much as I want to say hey guys move to this in that city Obviously New York LA for Asians. That's not a wrong choice. Never wrong choice Never a wrong choice Toronto is not a wrong choice either never a wrong choice, right? But still also how you fit into those cities matters a lot Yeah, I know this guy that I grew up with in the suburbs of Seattle He was an electronic Korean DJ one of the only Koreans in the whole city He moved to a rural Tennessee town because he met a southern bell that was sort of obsessed with that Steve Aoki Sort of like foreign Japanese Korean DJ look Do you know I'm saying so he wouldn't have been able to like go to Tennessee and like kill it on the online dating apps But he ultimately found his southern bell wife in Tennessee had something to offer guys Obviously if you're an outgoing social Asian bartender guy You're gonna have something to offer a lot of cities because you can work at any bar and you're gonna meet a lot of women So here's the interesting choice and if somebody just asked me off the bat Yo shit as an Asian guy shot I moved to Tennessee and do online dating the answer would be no right, but this guy Found his biggest. Yes. So it goes to show you it's it varies. It depends on what like layer you're looking at Right, so yeah, there's the simple answer, but the detail the answer can get way more complicated As far as this guy Andrew who's saying I got a hundred Matt of matches on online dating, but no IRL dates How do you explain it first of all this is very common and I want to say on our experience of online data I'll speak for myself You will end up swiping a lot and then from that There's a certain percentage that you'll match with and then from that There's a lower percentage that will even talk to you and then from the people that you talked to It's a lower percentage that you're actually gonna convert to meeting up in real life Right, it's like an inverted pyramid. It is very tough I'm not gonna lie guys from the conversion rate is David Is there a statistic that says what 1% of matter like 10% of matches you actually meet up with or it depends on You know also again what you're offering if you invite every girl out to omakase your rate of meeting up in person We'll probably be higher because people will find that appealing right if coffee or boba versus omakase You might have a different conversion right right exactly So what I need people to understand and and this is having been in the online dating world for several years now Okay, back on the website. There was websites. Obviously. I've done it in real life dating plenty, but We've been on we've used the apps You need to understand that the online dating apps now It's a sport and what I mean by sport is that there is technique There is practice. There is a learning curve There is stamina involved and there is a way to prepare and get yourself better for it Hmm, there's all these things and there's different layers to it man I well is there a reason why isn't that the reason why there's so many people making so much money off those subscription base? Courses to try to teach you to learn exactly. There's so many coaches out there And I'm not saying like you could ask your friend who's really knowledgeable or you can pay for one of these online dating coaches Sure, whatever you choose to do I'm sure they have real information But literally guys were like, oh, no, I haven't been successful on the dating apps That's like saying hey man when I go to the park I can hit seven out of ten free throws How come no one wants me on their five on five? Recreational league team or someone's like, hey, I'm pretty quick How come no team wants me on their flag football team as their number one wide receiver or it's like Hey, I know how to cook some chicken thigh in the air fryer. How come people don't think I'm a chef guys You're one dimensional you might have hey, I have a good education or hey women have told me I'm good-looking But I'm still not doing well. It's a multi-layered game. Yes. Yes. Yes I mean, I would say it if we're gonna compare it to sport Andrew There's like your layer one players which are looking up in the face-up ISO That's like cam Thomas cam Thomas is an incredible score within a layer one face-up interaction There's layer two players dame Lillard dame Lillard likes to come off that high-picking role and then operate off that right But then there's a layer three player like Steph Curry Andrew where he got layer one layer two in the bag But if you take away all that and the play breaks down, guess what he's gonna reset and relocate Run halfway across the floor and still get an open shot because that's his level of IQ and understanding of How deep this game goes now to I think most guys are still stuck at level one, but they need to be at least level Two I'm not saying you got to be level three and master the game ten out of ten Obviously it would help if you thought about it that much, but you need to be layer two You've got to up your game It is no longer just opposed to pictures and then I match with girls, but then she wasn't interested F online dating apps. I hate them. It's like dude. That's so simplistic for sure I mean Andrew some people were arguing that it's all the city that matters These are the people who are basically saying for the guys who don't want to develop the layer two or levels layer three Understanding of it. Just pick New York for just pick a city with the fashion industry Dude like we say it again LA Toronto, New York You can't go wrong. Give it a swipe change your location swipe in those cities If maybe if you exhausted those cities swiping Asia can swipe in Houston, Texas But yeah swiping San Francisco I could see Houston working better for some people than New York though Even though Houston would never rank as high on a layer one answer Let's say you're kind of like a you know a thicker Asian guy with tattoos I would say give Houston a shot. Why not deep voice. Yeah, but also New York in LA still always New York LA in Toronto Always for sure guys always LA, New York and Toronto But for example, Andrew if you have Ivy League education You went to a high-rank college, but not a lot of people know about that college go to New York or Boston Where they tend to value the college that you went to more because those are the metrics and that's like the way The analytics are structured in that environment, right? Right? Somebody said just go to any city in Asia Somebody said please go to Hawaii. I'll say this though It's important to go places where the type of girl that you like or that you the archetypes You're attracted to are also attracted to you. Yeah, that's a pretty key thing That's like a layer to understanding that a lot of guys don't have they're just like, oh, yeah I'm like a computer engineer, but I love ABG's and it's just like I just don't know how many ABG's Like computer engineers. Well, I do know I do know yeah I know some computer engineers by the way some software engineers that are kind of come from that background that are buff and tatted and Know how to spend their money and those guys are gonna do fine It's not necessarily about your occupation, but it's it is true. Do you come off as a software engineer? Do you appear to be a software engineer? You know, it'd be cool a software engineer who doesn't look like a software engineer Right, right, right. Let's move on to the next post This is the guy with the 50 hundred matches in a month or whatever, but no dates This guy said man, you need to just focus on IRL game and live in an awesome life in real life So my my life is so awesome with all the cars and the watches and all the places I fly to on my Instagram I just message girls on Instagram. So I don't even need hinge And then somebody else said yeah, that is true that that's a good point But having a cool online dating profile is possibly one-tenth or maybe one-one hundredth the effort of having a damn Bilzerian life in IRL Yes, I agree that having a truly cool and Substantial and multi-faceted and holistic cool lifestyle the jet-set lifestyle is so hard to achieve Gosh the said the best thing you can do is at least make yourself appear as if you're a good man on Online dating guys. It is true that if you are a baller and you know how to spend your money And you're well put together. Yeah, your systems usually you'll you'll know people if you live the life of a celebrity You don't read you I think that you could use the apps But you don't need it because the life you'll be living will be so dynamic and a certain like how about this? Let's just do a test. I don't care how you look or what scene you're in But if every weekend you have multiple people Invite you out to things and you're a guy You probably live a well-oiled social life because that's usually for girls girls get invited out to a lot Guys we do the inviting so if you're a guy and you get invited out to multiple things every weekend You're probably somewhat of a social cool guy. There's a reason why and this is an extreme example We know a guy who cashed out his shares of a startup in Silicon Valley. He ended up with like, you know He was light rich. He moved to Shanghai and became a bartender not he could he had enough money to Capitalize and own the bar, but he didn't want to do that He just wanted to be a bartender and sometimes you just want to give him the life He wanted the exposure that he wanted dude Being a bartender for example is like already being on the dating app all the time because of how many people you meet And this is why you put yourself in a position to meet a lot now whether it's online dating I'm not saying everybody got to be a bartender But whatever puts you in front of a lot of different people is key because then you're gonna get an exposure And you're gonna get a chance to talk to everybody and plus it is hard I'm not gonna lie to be the Dan Bilzerian Steve Aoki's listen their dads actually live that jet set no They were already baller playboy lifestyle their dads were essentially mini Hugh Hefner's yet already That's why they were able to build on top of it and take it that far. Yeah There was a lot of arguing back and forth. No, it's all about IRL approaching people or online dating a lot of people Defending online dating obviously and a lot of people saying that this guy Andrew how important is text game in your opinion? Like for this guy was saying if you have a hundred matches and you can't actually convert any of them into a IRL date You must have bad text game. Oh My well my opinion is if you had he said 50 matches Oh, and he said he usually has takes about 15 messages back and forth before he asked a girl to go on a date And he's has no conversion. All right If you have 50 matches and you have not gone on a date with any of them It's something that you're saying probably you gotta be coming across As a serial killer. Yeah, you may be coming off weird. You say something offensive. You're taking too long You are not proposing anything of substance. I'm not saying omakase, but I'm just saying even like just hey You want to check out a couple bars in this area? What are you doing? That's like 50 bucks 60 bucks like, you know, I'm saying like Still offer something especially if you're in the city if you're in New York You have to offer something so this guy's obviously doing something something wrong Hi, Tensushi if you don't want to pay spring for omakase because I get it Yeah, some girls the girls who's down for something humble usually are I would say I would say generally if a girl Likes your photos. I would just ask her out within the first five volleys Vol one volley being like a ping-pong. I would say just ask her out one after five down in backs Yeah, yeah after I would say just within the first five Just say hey, do you want to meet up? Oh, do you like are you free here and here? Yeah, like a lot of dudes don't even have maybe there's another video on how to even ask out a girl on online dating But anyways, yeah, listen guys like we said, there's a layer one understanding layer two layer three Some people and they stay at layer one their whole life I see a lot of uh, you know, I'm just gonna call it out under a lot of kids from China They love basketball basketball is the number one sport in China. It seems like sometimes if they didn't go to a basketball academy Their understanding is like always just face up isos and like fancy moves forever. There's no like Play action. There's certainly no off-ball movement. Listen guys. I'm just saying Somebody got to teach people the layers. All right Ultimately, I'll say this and I think there's more Asian guys in the online dating game than there ever were I think impossibly in previous generations a lot of Especially the more technical guys they either just opted out of the dating pool or they just got set up at church or something like that So it's kind of reminds me of the first time investors that Robin Hood got interested in investing So people are buying like options and Calls and stuff like that. They're looking at the VWAP on Weeble But these are like layer one people that have like all of a sudden looking at a game that goes super deep Right, but who's gonna teach them all the layers? Mmm. So it's not a man I went through it with investing to to be honest. I mean like I'll look at all the I didn't know what I was whether it's investing or learning basketball or learning how to date online It is better to get in real life coaching somebody who's sitting down with you Who can talk to you get a feel for you cares about you? That's gonna be the best But until then guys, you just have to know there are different layers to this you do probably don't understand the game and You know if you make yourself appealing and you've done what you think you can to lose a little weight Hit the gym get a new haircut get a little couple photos of a professional photo shoot Dude, there's AI now. I'm not saying lie, but I'm just saying use AI to like, you know touch stuff up Let's say you first of all don't necessarily recommend the gym selfie. There's a old man his naked butt is in the gym selfie use the Crop feature on the Google Pixel Pro 8 man. Dude, even Instagram has a AI now filters You can say select this subject and put it on some background. Anyways, I'm just saying get creative guys Anyways, let us know if you guys want more specific advice. I'm down to maybe do like a Coaching video like an online coaching video. I guess of what I suggest listen man You can score 30, but steps 30 dames 30 and cam thomas is 30. Those are a different 30 Yeah, let us know what you think in the comment section below Leave a comment on both these popular questions one what city should I date in as an Asian guy and number two Should I pick online dating or IRL until next time with a hop-hop boys. We out. Peace