 Free ways the narcissist will screw you over. The narcissist will deliberately put you in an unfearable situation. They will put you at a disadvantage or in a difficult position. They will lie to you. They will give you a mistaken impression. They will deliberately cause you to believe something that is not true for their own personal gain. They will blame you for everything. Everything will be your fault. They will be verbally abusive to you. While you're trying to give them everything, you're giving them all of your time, energy and money. While they're doing all of these things to you, while acting as though they don't know what they're doing, or they will tell you that they're going to stop, but they never do. The narcissist will screw you over. They will ruin your life. They're not interested in building a life with you. They're only with you because of what you can give to them. They just want to take something from you, whether it's your emotional support or your money and possessions. Narcissists are very dangerous people. Because they have a hidden agenda, they have an ulterior motive. They're not really interested in you or anyone else. You're either an obstacle or a means to them getting what they want. All they care about is getting what they want, which is why you will notice that they don't take any interest in you. They don't care about your thoughts, feelings or beliefs. They don't care about your ideas or preferences. They want everything their way. The only reason they got with you in the first place is so that you can provide something to them, whether it's your emotional support or your money or possessions. They're like leeches. They will habitually exploit and rely on you for something. While making you feel like you're not good enough or that you don't do anything, they cannot acknowledge anything you've done for them because they always want more. They want you to produce something automatically, without much thought and in large amounts. They want you to keep churning things out for them, without any thought for the reason why you're doing this or how this is even benefiting you. They want you to build a life for them and then they will steal it from you. They will steal your life and everything that you have created and then they will claim it as their own. They will ruin you. I want to make you aware of some of the ways that the narcissist will screw you over so that you can prepare accordingly. So here are three ways that the narcissist will screw you over. One, they will turn people against you. They will talk about you behind your back. They will take something you've said or done and blow it out of proportion. They will treat a particular event or problem far too seriously. They will turn molehills into mountains. They will cause something to become larger than it should be or to be treated as something worse or more important than it really is. And they will then use this against you or they will just make something up. They will do this to turn people against you because narcissists want people on their side. They believe that more people equals more power and the less people you have on your side, the less support you have. They want to isolate you so that they can maintain influence and authority over you so that they can control you. They may catch them making snide remarks about you. To other people, they will criticize you in an unkind and often indirect way because they want people to see you in a bad light. They want to make you seem like a bad person. They have to beat you to the punch before you get the chance to expose them. They have to tarnish your reputation. They have to cause people to have a worse opinion of you and also try to do this in work or business. When they're finally done with you, the last thing they want to see is you moving on with your own resources. They will assassinate your character. They will discredit your work. They will make false accusations. They will do anything they can to destroy your career so that they can unfairly deprive you of your advantage or in a difficult position where you are unable to thrive. You are unable to prosper. Two, they will gas like you. Deep down, the narcissist is fully aware of everything you have done for them. They're aware that you are a good person but they will not give you the acknowledgement or praise that you deserve. They will not let you know just how great you are because they want you to keep tuning things out for them. They don't want it to stop. So to keep you doing what they want, they invalidate you. They play down everything you're doing so that you never feel like it's enough. You never feel like you've accomplished anything or done anything for them. You always feel like you're not doing enough when you're actually doing too much and they know this. You have gone above and beyond their initial expectations of you. You have exceeded their expectations and demands but instead of giving you the praise and compliments that you deserve they will withhold that from you because they do not want you to know how great you are. They're jealous. They feel like that takes something away from them and they have these insatiable desires. They can never be satisfied. They always want more. So instead of letting you feel like you've won the race they have to make you feel like there's always another lap to go. They have to move the goalposts while making you think that one day it will amount to something when really they're just sitting back while watching you run yourself into the ground free. They will abuse you financially. Narcissists are focused on money and material wealth rather than personal growth and fulfillment and because it's so important to the narcissist it becomes the main focus of the relationship. It's all about how much money you spend or what money goes where which often results in financial abuse because they're just trying to milk as much out of you as they can which will cause you a lot of stress. It will cause you to worry but they will always find a way to rationalize their behavior. They will always make you feel like you're not doing enough or that you're neglecting them regardless of what you have already done for them they will always find a way to get more they have an exaggerated sense of their own abilities and importance which results in a strong sense of entitlement they believe that they are inherently deserving of privileges and special treatment they believe that they have your right to your money or material possessions they believe that you owe them something they lack the motivation and drive to produce anything on their own but they have an obsession with money they are addicted to the finer things in life because they see it as a status symbol they see it as something that people will respect and admire them for they are more focused on money rather than personal growth and improvement when a person is more focused on things that matter to them they are more focused on growth and positivity but when a person is heavily focused on external motivators and goals it increases their bad behavior they will lie to you they will deceive you they will steal from you and they may even become involved in drug and alcohol use narcissists are attracted to empathic people who have a lack of boundaries they are attracted to people who give because narcissists are takers they want to take everything you've got for themselves and this could affect your property assets personal belongings bank accounts and investments they will destroy your personal possessions in a fit of jealousy when they ruin your personal items it makes them feel powerful they don't feel any regret and they will never offer to pay for or replace anything that they've destroyed instead they will shame you for forcing them to act in the way that they did they will refuse to contribute to any shared expenses fuel repairs or utility bills if there is a mortgage or rent to be paid or money is needed to fund a family vacation it will always fall on one person the person who is not the narcissist the narcissist will have their own money hidden away somewhere while they try to shame you for your spending habits while they try to shame you for how you choose to spend your own money they will always hold you responsible for anything that they do to you these are three ways that the narcissist will screw you over thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you please like, comment, share and subscribe if you would like to donate my PayPal link is in the video description coaching inquiries you can email me at coaching at nartaviva.uk thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon