 The narcissist will never see this coming, they will never realise what is about to happen, they will never expect this unpleasant event, because it is the result of their own actions and they don't think that they can do anything wrong, but they end up shooting themselves in the foot, they inadvertently make a situation worse for themselves, they do something that causes more problems, something that damages and impedes their own plans and progress, because they're very foolish and unwise, they lack good sense and judgement, so they don't see how their behaviour is hurting them in the long run, they're very impulsive, they act suddenly without careful thought, without any planning or consideration of the results, they're always in the moment, they're not thinking about the future, they're not thinking about the consequences of their actions, they're always lying, they're gaslighting, they're manipulating situations, they lie about everything, even things that are obvious, even things that they don't need to lie about, and they destroy everything in their path until people do see that they lie, until people do see that they're insincere and deceitful and then the very people that they were trying to manipulate and control are the very people who don't want to deal with them anymore, but they also don't expect you to get better, they don't expect you to heal, they're so used to you reacting to them, they're so used to you being under their spell, you take the bait and then they get supply, it's predictable for them but when you stop taking the bait, when you're no longer triggered by them, when you're no longer angry, they don't expect it, they don't see it coming and they don't know how to respond to it because they don't expect you to deal with the situation in a healthy way, they think they've got you under their thumb because they're so used to you taking the bait, so when you drop your anger and forgive them, it surprises them and it's better for you, but that doesn't mean you're willing to tolerate it, when you set strong boundaries and you tell the narcissist that you're no longer accepting certain things, they're not prepared for it, they're not happy about it and they're not going to change, but they're also not expecting you to leave and go no contact, they're expecting you to stay, they're expecting you to keep tolerating it, they're not thinking that you're going to leave, that's why they do it, if they thought that there was a chance that you could leave, they would change their behaviour immediately, the narcissist loves you the most when you have one foot out the door, but leaving the narcissist is the right thing to do, you must protect yourself, you must set strong boundaries, you must drop your anger, you must forgive them and move on, but they won't see it coming, they won't expect that to happen, they won't see how their behaviour is hurting them in the long run, they will never see it coming because they don't think there's anything wrong with what they do, they justify it and they don't consider the consequences of their actions, they don't consider that a lot of the things they do could backfire and have an opposite and undesirable effect what was intended. Thank you for watching, I hope this video is new to you, please like, comment, share and subscribe, if you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description, coaching inquiries, you can email me at coaching.narcsurviver.uk, thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.