 Your journey with sex and like, you know Discovering that for yourself and finding out what's good and you know for me. It's a constant journey. I mean it. Oh, yeah, like I'm still my biggest project. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, and that touches on even another thing like why we're coaches but um Man, what what was that? You know, what is what is bad sex? So I hear you throughout the word, you know sex addiction or getting into like some sort of sexual unhappiness like What is that? Like where do you see that? Where do you see that with other people or yourself or the world in general? It's I mean figuring this out for myself bad sex like things that that make me Like feel crappier is basically sex with people that I don't really enjoy the company of yeah When I've got to like act in a different way that yeah, they like me and I know how to be attractive But I mean at the end of the day I it's like, okay Like will you sleep with the person and yeah, that's done And then it's like then you can actually look at them as a real human being and say well Wait, I don't actually enjoy spending time with you whatsoever I was just kind of tricking myself into thinking that I enjoyed your company Yeah, just because like I had this this this desire for for sex And so that's what I would refer to as a sexual addiction when when you're putting that need first and exhort ignoring everything else So a process that's been for me is to look and say Do I before I sleep with them? Am I am I just am I tricking myself into thinking? I'm enjoying their company am I subconsciously like playing but I don't Really trying to look at a person as if I had just slept with them to say Okay, like do I really like hanging out with this person to our personalities actually really mesh And then if if you got that and you're really you've got that deeper that deeper place It's coming from the sex is awesome But if you don't it's it's kind of like, you know, you wake up the next day and you feel like crap. Yeah, you know There was a point in the convention there were a lot of females at this convention, which was actually very cool but there was a point where It was like there was a girl there and I was just like fuck You know like yeah, you can't think you'd be But there was a point where it was like fuck and And this is what you got to understand like people are like, how do I get rid of the fear? You have the fear like the like you I did not I would not have known what to say But this was one of the few girls where you're inspired to do the whole like direct thing I don't believe in like categorizations of game, but it's like I really couldn't say anything other than like you're hot Like that's not my in front of me. I usually like let my intention known with my Well, that's the best way man because we're especially sexually I think the closer we can get even if we're not physically close But the closer humanly we can get people feel that and sex is not determined by like, do you like me? Yes, it's like this other language that's happening with sub communications and feelings and women here I was attracted to knew I was attracted. Yeah. Yeah our conversation. Yeah, actually, I've seen I've seen the animal come out like Plus every this is another thing. I was talking to this guy John, man, you should meet him He was not in the convention John Lichenberg, but he's one of the few guys that I'm like an ah listening to him about sex, but He has sex with everybody he's one of the few guys where this is his lifestyle, you know It's not like he didn't become polyamorous because it's cool and some sexual deficit and I want to do that for like He's made it a life, right? But he's like, you know if I'm friends with somebody I don't really know them if I don't know their sexual side You know if I don't if I haven't experienced that and you you put that out there, man You're like yeah, I saw you with the like but everybody has a different style, right? But I'll get like super aggressive But that being said, man, you haven't even seen Baby and yeah, yeah, Marty is here and it's amazing and I'll get killed You will literally yeah No, it's pretty pretty vicious dude strong woman. It's yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah But also I'd even say to that like she's had just as much experience as me. So there's no I mean Jealousy happens. We'll get there, but like she's gotten a lot out of her system and myself too, but No, we saw this woman and you're like, holy shit. Fuck like see even now thinking about it I can't think because it was like it's just too much. But that being said When I see a hot woman like that my My the next thing I know and you're kind of talking about this wisdom of like don't have bad sex is How can I see her like how can I see her sexuality to see if I like it? You know, it doesn't necessarily have to be her emotion, but that could be part of it But how can I see What she's about other and if I can't get that then then it cuts, you know, that's where like I said I'm still work in progress. No, no, no, but how do you talk about the ideal thing of you know I'll be really enjoy their company, but then something like that happens and it's like it's very very hard To keep that in mind. It's like I just want to be next