 Right, so yeah, so I'm just curious to know how did how did the session go? I think they were about six six groups seven groups and Yeah, so did everyone get to share Was there anyone who did not have time to share Okay So looks like okay. I don't see any hands going up. So everybody got to share a little bit at least okay So yeah, so so the the question that I wanted to ask was Okay, you got to share a little bit now these are very superficial things of course food and you know what it takes you and Etc. So so yeah, so maybe we can just ask from one group Okay, how did it feel like was it uncomfortable to hear? You know was it uncomfortable? Was it comfortable? You know to talk about these things. I just wanted to hear maybe one group group one breakout group one your experience Who was in breaker group one? Yeah, I can't see the Any group probably you can you can just share Was it comfortable Uncomfortable Yeah, and then I'll ask for the question. So any group anybody from one group probably Okay, go ahead Chris So, yes, I think it was it was quite comfortable In a you know float quite well and you know Everyone was everyone in the group in my group was you know quite keen to you know to share and you know expand on on on what they wanted to you wanted to share Okay, so in my group there was say there was nexon and Kennedy, okay, and yeah, I thought pretty well In fact, we had some time after each of us shared and we started talking about something that You know it's has been in the news for some time and just how it could impact any of us And that is basically this this incident that happened in the Oscar Awards You know we will Smith went and slept Or Chris Rock. So yeah, we just we just felt that you know sometimes at our At a highest moment and it was actually mentioned by someone in as one of the actors You know they will can really can really be a Play a part in you know being everything back been everything you know to a very Unpleasant and You know what situation okay? Oh, yeah, so we everyone got to yeah, that's fine So so when we were talking about what is your weakness and what you need to work on? So, how was it was it? You know for you personally Chris like did you feel that okay? Do you feel any reservation any inhibitions about talking about it? No, actually mine mine was I didn't have any inhibitions. It was it's kind of a general sort of Area that I need to work on I'm just to share with the group. It is basically about you know the dependence on God And having it you know better do that as you know as as much as possible I mean if you all want to achieve, you know achieve hundred percent, but for me, it's it's you know Sometimes even less than you know, I mean much less than hundred percent, you know sort of you know We just get caught up in other stuff other stuff. All right, so that is where I think I have to work on So yeah, I don't have any reservations Okay, okay Thank you. Thank you Chris. Thanks Any group where it was very silent? There's maybe one word answers and it just kept silent most of the time And he was any group like that, I don't think yeah, really, okay But it was like they all they all spoke but in very short because I Then we had at the time we had a little time at the end so we prayed for each other Misses and strengths to the Lord and we seek this Grace in all areas. So we had three four minutes at the end to pray also Okay, we all could share we but yeah, we were comfortable Comfortable sharing with each other. Okay two years now. We are together in the classroom even though online, but we know each other like Virtually, so probably we could share with each other. It was a good experience So so what do we're hearing where New that you this is information that you didn't know about the person was it like that for everyone like in the group Yes, yes. Yeah, it was okay. Okay, right. Okay. Thanks. Thank you. Yeah. Yeah. So the thing is this, you know, like We don't have a you know, this kind of a forced Time where everybody look a share. So in in real life, I mean, you know in a in a Worksetting or ministry We may or we may not, you know, we might have some workshops or you know, we might have some Things like that, but but really, you know as as life happens as you know the day-to-day things happen While we well these things would help, you know, it could be one-off events That would help us understand the person and also the other person to understand you But to really have this do this as as part of your life to really do this To to maybe ask questions to and also to share about oneself in casual conversation Okay, and and this would really really help relate to another person. Okay, so when it comes to, you know, things like weaknesses, you know Maybe, you know, we could be guarded in certain things Of course, we need to be discerning and choose what we need to and depending on the on the context and the To the one to whom we are sharing. We need to know, you know, can this person be trusted at so on, you know, it's like Very personal Things so, you know, you just need to be discerning about that, right? Yeah, so this is something that would really help, you know, if if let's say in our lives We are not used to it if we might be highly competent highly skilled and really good at what we do, right but You know, when it comes to Certain things when it comes to social I won't say social skills, but you know when it comes to relating to people socially and maybe, you know, we we struggle Right. So these are things that would really help us to to relate to people to to do well to to make ourselves approachable and also to to to build trust right to break down preconceived notions or prejudices or biases that people might have against us about us and and build trust, you know, I remember going on an outbound training with with some of our senior managers in the last company that I worked for and I mean, this was a you know, typical outbound training where there was this rappelling There was this hike. There was these shallow rivers where we had to build our raft and You know, it was almost impossible to stay afloat You know falling into water and all those things and there was one zipline which we had to go across You know, it was raining. This was one of the rainiest places in the south so You know in one of those coffee growing places, so, you know, we we had to kind of go across that and Things like that, you know and learning from all that So we were with some of the senior Managers and then I remember one of the you know my reporting manager is pulling me aside and saying hey, you know, I had some Reservation some thoughts about you When we started the whole thing, you know, I mean he didn't say about you said, you know one had Certain mindsets about the I know about you, but that has changed You know that that is that has really changed and it's you know Now I once one can see you in a different light and I was glad for that You know, it's just that that opportunity gave us I mean that whole thing it gave us an opportunity to interact and get to know one one each other better And that really helped, you know, and I wish that okay that had happened during the course of our professional, you know life or professional work day But yeah, obviously it didn't happen. So I was glad for that right so it can really help Okay, so if we and especially if we as leaders if we would think on these lines, okay Okay, the other thing that we see is it's something called the foxhole principle meaning that you know That your life is, you know, it's not something to be spent alone Right when you have a friend and the foxhole typically refers to a hole which is dug in the ground It's an American term which a whole dug in the ground by a soldier to protect himself and this is a big enough for one person or at the most two And it's like a trench. It's like our trenches would be a slightly bigger So it's like a dugout in the ground. So the soldier is is at You know in a battle and protect oneself from the bullets or even if there was something, you know Some explosion nearby to protect oneself from the you know from the shrapnel And the dirt so it's below the ground, of course. So so that's the foxhole So so the foxhole principle is that, you know, when you have a foxhole, it's for It's for you and one one more person So it's good to have a friend in times of adversity. You know, it's too good to have a person whom you can trust in times of adversity and always we can do something to You know have that kind of relationship and if you look at problems 18 and worse 24, it's a very You know A verse which which highlights a very important truth. It says a man who has friends must himself be Friendly but there is a friend that sticks closer than our brother So man who has friends must himself be friendly in the sense, you know, I To ask that question. Am I friendly with others? You know, rather than saying, okay, I have no friends I have, you know, no one to complain to complain in that manner But really to check and see, you know, do I have am I friendly with others? Right when people when people invite when people Ask and say, okay, you know, would you like to, you know, go go together? You know, there's a group and then they and then we hold back for some reason And and so we need to check and say, okay, am I Am I really friendly because I might come across as someone who's Very distanced very aloof and not wanting to you know, be friendly So well, you might have your reasons for doing that But but really, you know, when those opportunities are there to be to be friendly to show yourself friendly Which is what you are and so that's that's that's scripture and The second part of it is of course It says that there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother, you know friend For seasons of adversity. I'm sure, you know, we all have experience The goodness or the timely help of friends in seasons or in times of, you know, great difficulty and The stuff that they did what they, you know, maybe something simple You know, I I always appreciate appreciated, you know, the A friend who stays close by He's part of the church also when You know, my my father passed away a year ago and this was On the third of jan january Yeah, last year so so when I like we heard in the evening and We had to travel about six hours from here from from banglow to go to the house and We heard the news probably I think about six No, about eight or seven o'clock in the night in the evening And by the time we left it was about eight And I remember this person just came home and he didn't do anything. He didn't do much But this is what he did, you know, he knew that we were driving So he just went down to the car. He just, you know, wiped the car He took some newspapers wiped the windshield clean, you know, made sure that there was water in the dispenser to clean the windshield because it was on the highway and Made sure that the windshields were sparkling clean and and that's all, you know, there's no You know, great speech I think he just asked, okay, is there anything else that I can do? Do you want this thing? Do you want me to, you know, You know, will you be okay driving on your own because just I was just driving straight for seven hours They'll really be okay. I said, yeah, and it was first time I'm driving at night through the night rather So he was a little concerned. I said, no problem. I'm, you know, I'm quite sharp I won't go fast and and the thing is his what he did was a great help, you know, in times of that difficulty It was a small action that he did But it really, you know, it really meant a lot for for me for the family He was just there in just a few minutes. He was there He made sure he was there till we left and And and that was it, right? I'm sure there, you know, there have been times like that when People stepped into your lives and said, okay No, we'll do that. So there are people like that whom I can count Count on Maybe and say, okay, this person will take care. You know, I can depend on I can anytime of the day or night, you know I can just call and they would help and it's great to have such friends and I remember one one time when Yeah, I'll just share this because it was we were in this all night prayer and there was I don't think we had phones mobile phones. I don't remember but we were in this all night prayer and we We suddenly realized that a friend's knees was No, was stuck in a railway station And she the train got cancelled and she didn't know what to do You know, anyone here? so They contacted arthy, I think probably we had phones He called arthy and said, you know, can we my wife said can you go pick her up and They said hey, we can't, you know, we were leading. We're part of the all night prayer and you know And obviously, you know, I'm leading there and then I can't go so so who who do we check? You know, we called a friend and said, you know, can you go pick her up? Now he hasn't seen her. He doesn't know anything about her. We just said this is her name And she's you know, there's one place we said, okay Let us stand there and can you just go and we didn't know what he was doing, you know What other responsibilities he had But he said, yeah, sure I'll do that. Okay, and it was late at night And it is I think close to midnight or and then he went picked it up Brought her dropped her home and you know, so Things like that when then you don't know, you know, where to go what to do a friend who helps in adversity So it is really good to have a friend and and that's the foxhole principle, you know Which really leads us to the next thing which means that For us to be friendly. Yes. That's that's that's definitely a starting point to to be able to have friends The other thing is also to invest Investment when we talk of talk about investment, of course, obviously with you know, what comes to our mind is money and maybe investment in terms of shares or, you know, other options, maybe Short-term long-term deposits and and so on But really investing in relationships is key For developing again, you know, when it comes to with I mean, sorry Winning with people when it comes to relating to people when it comes to leadership nurturing relationships okay, so Anything that you want to nurture It's going to take effort Right. It's not automatic That's we wish it could be but it's not it's going to take effort It's going to take time and it's going to take energy Right. You're putting them effort. So, um Especially when it comes to human relationship, it is going to You know, we need to invest in order to nurture Relationships, okay, so so let's let's look at the video. I just want us to You know, probably make notes as you watch this video But john c. Maxwell and he's talking about relationships and investing in relationships Let me just play that in a bit just one second five people principles in the investment stage number 17 The gardening principle the gardening principle says all relationships need cultivation Samuel butler said friendship is like money Easier made than kept And the question I must ask myself do I occasionally or continually Cultivate my relationships Let's look at some ways to keep cultivating important relationships What does it mean to cultivate a relationship? Whether it's as a spouse parent or a friend you could start to cultivate a healthy growing relationship by focusing on the following six things number one commitment Researcher dr. Kinsey observed There may be nothing more important in a marriage than a determination That it shall persist With such determination individuals force themselves to adjust and to accept situations which would otherwise seem sufficient grounds for breakup Scott peck wrote a classic work on human psychology in the late 1970s called the road less traveled This book really marked my life Since that time he has Offered ever-increasing insights from his lengthy practice as a psychiatrist and one of his points involves laziness dr. Peck says Laziness is a contributing cause of evil primary cause of psychological illness and the main reason that americans are increasingly failing at human relationships He knows that meaningful relationships require commitment and work Those who are lazy or seldom willing to expend that kind of energy Many marriage counselors would concur that laziness is the major cause for failure of marriages Too often people know what needs to be done to restore relationship, but won't put forth the effort Relational slot Has become an epidemic that we must honestly address Number two to cultivate a relationship communication Number two is communication Just the ability to have a system to communicate one of the things that helped me And my wife Margaret Is early in my marriage what what I would catch myself doing Is I catch myself working all day and when I come home she said well, what happened? It's well nothing Wait, what do you mean nothing? Well, all right. Well something happened, but nothing important Well, you can tell this is not a good thing So many many years ago I'm talking about we've been doing this for oh 25 years at least Is that During our day if something Happens that we just learn about or something fun happens or something funny happens or something that wasn't good happens But but anything that happens that that is kind of noteworthy We take a card out and and we write what it is. We just make a little note to ourselves Now this is huge 25 years ago. I made a commitment That if something happened that was Noteworthy I would not tell anybody about it Until I told Margaret first Because what happens is if you tell a dozen people what happened during the day something By the time you get home, it's old hat The first time you've got all kind of energy isn't that true and oh my goodness Guess what just happened now? You know what's interesting is what that means is not every day, but most days I've got to call her in the middle of the day Because something just happened and I got to tell somebody You follow me and I call some art 60 seconds. Just guess what did you know? Well, you're kidding me. Oh, okay We laugh hang out Now tell us you have no idea What that's done to cultivate our relationship She knows that she's not the last person in the food chain to hear She does the same for me by the way number three friendship Obviously to cultivate a relationship. There needs to be a friendship Samuel Johnson remarked if a man does not make new acquaintances as he advances through life He will soon find himself left alone a man sir Should keep his friendship in constant repair That goes for old friendships as well as new ones I think we sometimes take for granted The people closest to us and as a result we neglect to try being good friends to them first Number four is memories the cultivate relationships you want to create Memories I really work hard on this Because here's what I believe here's what I believe about your children I believe that your children won't remember what you bought them at christmas time 20 years from now Maybe they remember a key bike when they were 10 years old they they remember three but can I tell you something You'll buy them hundreds of things and they'll remember three or four Because people forget things But people don't forget memories The experiences you do together are more important Than anything else And so I determined a long time ago To become a maker of memories And I literally every month work on two or three things that I believe will create memories For maybe somebody I work with perhaps somebody maybe maybe for margaret maybe for my kids But I've always working on memories Because here's what I know If we do something together we experience something together They'll never forget those experiences my kids when we lived in san diego We were away from most of our families which was back east So margaret and I determined when our children were very small that we would go up to a little place about I don't know about 45 minutes from our house called laurence well village and and it would have a little little golf course and swimming pools and a place where you could fish and just all this stuff And we decided that we would we would go and we'd get a little place there a little timeshare there And every year we'd go back to that same place I was the other day I was back and we were going up to los angeles play golf and I was with my son And all steve miller And when we passed the village steve I didn't say anything about it steve said let me tell you something said every time we passed this village Your daughter lives with my wife Goes back into length of telling me All the things that she's done Well, she's not forgotten To to cultivate a relationship create memories number five growth To cultivate a relationship there has to be growth Benjamin franklin said promise may get friends, but it is performance that keeps them When you begin any relationship it is filled with promise But you have to find ways to keep it fresh and strong so that it continues to have potential and not just good memories One way to do that is to grow Together make your growth intentional with your best friend Number six spoiling each other Just practice spoiling each other Or tear out If the first law of friendship is that it has to be cultivated The second law is to be indulgent When the first law has been neglected Just Spoil spoil your friend Do just wonderful things for them People principle number 18 People principle number 18 is the 101 percent principle The 101 percent principle says Find the 1 percent that we agree on and give it 100 percent of our effort Daryl Zanuck says If two men on the same job agree all the time then one is useless If they disagree all the time Then both are useless And the question I must ask myself is can I find common ground? And will I give it 100 percent of my effort? Now when do I practice this 101 percent principle? It is an incredible tool in anyone's relational toolbox. However, it's not something that can be pulled out and used all the time I say that because this principle takes a big commitment of time energy and thinking Therefore before practicing this principle you need to ask yourself some questions I'm I know that I'm a little vulnerable when I start helping you ask these questions But but this principle takes such time and effort you have to ask these questions Number one is the person worth the commitment every person Has great worth But they don't all have the same relational worth to you So you have to ask yourself Where do I use this 101 percent principle? Where do I find that one percent we agree on and give it a hundred percent of my effort because there's a lot of things We're disagreeing on well, I get family Inner circle people But you can't give 100 commitment To one percent you agree on with everybody. So you have to kind of evaluate. Who do I who do I do this with? Number two is the situation worth the commitment A lot of situations you don't have to do this 101 percent principle all because it's just going to pass It's just here. It's going to pass whether you give it a commitment or not Number three is the issue worth the commitment. What is the issue? Is the issue worth you giving a hundred percent of your commitment and number four is the return worth the commitment So let's talk about this 101 percent return Practicing the 101 percent principle can benefit you in many ways here six one It allows you to build a foundation for change Why very simple Change always begins on common ground just recently I was In washington dc And I was spending a day with the cia they they're going through a lot of changes And so they said john we'd like to have you meet with 14 top leaders and have a long lunch But then we would like you to talk to address about five or six hundred of our people That are kind of leading departments about all the changes we're going through and and how leaders view change and how they handle change And so it was a wonderful wonderful time But what I shared with them that day I shared with you When change must occur There's a temptation for us to look at differences Well, if I change this is going to be different and this will be different and then and what happens is differences tend to separate us And what we do is when we want to see change accomplished the first thing we want to do is we want to find common ground What do we all agree on? Let's start there Let's start on on something that we can you know Let's find the one percent we agree on and let's give it a hundred percent of our effort That's that that's the beginning of a successful change a lot of times change ever occurs because we find the one percent we disagree on And we give it a hundred percent of our effort number two It prevents unnecessary conflict This one hundred one percent principle really eliminates a lot of conflict general grant said There never was a time in my opinion Some way could not be found to prevent the drawing of a sword number three It reduces the odds of making enemy Emerson observed He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare While he who has one enemy will meet him everywhere number four It keeps something of value that could have been lost When you practice this one hundred one percent principle You really get to keep those things that you value and those people you value in the paragraph in your notes How many potentially rewarding relationships have you missed? Because you focused on the differences instead of the common ground How many potential friends have slipped through your fingers? How many productive business associations have been forfeited former new york yankees manager joe mccartney observed Any manager who can't get along with a 400 hitter is crazy number five It helps you to feel good about your part of the relationship The reason it helps you and i feel good about our part of the relationship is because we know we're doing our Very best i'm right now personally going through a An issue in a relationship that is extremely difficult pretty much I've got bad news for somebody that i care a lot about And the only thing that gives me strength in this whole process the only thing that gives me Peace in this process is i know without question that i've given this effort 100 percent I mean i have not Slided it in any way i've i've done my very best to make it work now what i'm saying is When you have done your very best to make it work, it doesn't always work. Isn't that true? We've all come up to the place where a hundred percent Wasn't enough when i walk away from a situation that doesn't work out good And i know with integrity that i've given it my best shot and that my motives have been right and my effort has been Total disappointed yes But not devalued Because i gave that individual the very best that i could number six One more thing about the 100 percent principle It enables you to make the best of difficult situations The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make The best of everything Adopting the 101 principle makes the best of every relational opportunity and no one can be expected To do more than that people principle number 19 the patience principle The patience principle says The journey with others is slower Than the journey alone or the friendship of two the patience of one Is necessary And the question that i must ask myself is do i Take others with me even when it's inconvenient By the way When i when i wrote this relationship book i can tell you Sometimes when people look at an author they think that the author writes those things which he or she Really is good at When i write I have to have about four or five timeouts Kind of like excuse me i'm writing this because i know it's true Not because i'm good at this In fact what i wrote the 21 air fuelable laws of leadership six of the 21 laws i don't do well at all In fact i would rate myself average or lower than average six of them In fact that's one of the reasons why i know i have to have a team around me. Are you with me? Because i'm not good at them in fact if you think you're good at all of them You need a therapist around you you need a real friend that cares for you Because you're in deep ways Well, it's also true about these relationship rules and this one here this patience principle this whole issue of Of taking people on the drink you have to understand i i flunk this Okay, i'm not a patient person When i was in school what i hated more than anything else about school was review day Where the teacher would say now tomorrow We're going to review our notes for the last six weeks because we're getting ready for a big test And we'll review the notes so we can get ready for the test and i'd raise my hand and say do i have to come She'd say of course you have to come Why wouldn't you come Because i took notes the first time Excuse me If i got it Do i have to come And they always made me come And i hated it I'd say here i am sitting in the classroom Did my stuff on the front end Now i'll wait for everybody on the back end Hit the ball and drag charlie hit the ball and drag charlie hit the ball and drag charlie after a while Don't you just want to hit charlie? This has been a hard one for me to learn One of my leadership lessons is i learned about what leadership is is i learned that leaders aren't the first To cross the finish line They may be the fastest But they reduce their speed So everybody else can cross the finish line with them What leaders do and what leaders know is That the very fact that you're a leader is that you bring people with you That's where the patience principle comes in in your notes I constantly cast vision for the people of my organization And then i left them behind not a good thing for a leader I had to learn to connect with people and develop patience These are two critical steps in relationship building Patience without connection and the relationship lacks energy Connection without patience and the relationship lacks potential Connection with patience The relationship has energy And potential And if you want relationships to last You need both energy And potential So how do you become more patient in relationships number one? Prioritize patience as a virtue worthy of developing In fact Aristotle said The greatest virtues are those which are most useful to other persons Nothing is more useful to other persons than patience Number two understand that it takes time to build good relationships Number three Practice the exchange principle. We've already talked about that instead of putting others in their place. What do we say? Put yourself in their place to develop patience You need to appreciate other people How they think and be sensitive to how they feel every person thinks His problems are the biggest his jokes are the funniest His prayers should get spatial attention His situation is different His victories are the most exemplary And his faults Should be overlooked That's just how we are number four realize that people have and Create problems When it comes to people There are good news and there's bad news The good news is that some people in your life are going to be the source of your greatest joy And the bad news is that those that those same people may be the cause of your greatest problem That's true not only at home, but also at work and the higher you climb in leadership The more difficult the problems The findings of leadership experts Warren Venice and Bert Nannis bear this out. They state What we have found is that the higher the rank the more interpersonal And human the undertaking our top executives spend roughly 90 percent of their time with others And virtually the same amount of time concerned with the messiness of people problems Sounds familiar doesn't it? number five Identify areas where people need patience with you Oh my goodness Now this has helped me a lot. I'll pass this on to you because it's amusing to me, but it's really helped me a lot Because I have a problem with patience with others One of the things I have done is I have gone to people who love me the most My inner circle And I've asked them To give me ways that they have to be patient With me It's very embarrassing First of all, they always randomly say oh, yeah, we'll be glad to do that that in itself Tells a lot In fact, what really bothers me is when they say You need it in five minutes in other words They're not grappling With ways to think of how they have to be patient with me They've got a list already In fact the other day I asked Linda for this lesson. I said Linda. I mean You know you you're my assistant. You run my whole life What what areas do you have to be patient with me? She just started rattling them off. I said, oh, that's a fast Shouldn't we think about some of these? I think about it She she said here's just part of her list I am constantly losing my glasses My cell phones my pins And then she probably just says John you lose everything If you've had it You've lost it If you find it You'll lose it again. I have probably 30 pair of glasses I have them everywhere My answer to losing glasses is put them everywhere So when you come through my house, you'll you go through my house Well market price will pick them up today because companies come and that's always disgusting too because then I can't find them again But if she if she just leaves them where they should be You'll count a dozen 15 pair yourself Because it's just kind of like if you lose them then don't carry them Just wherever you sit have some Then she I mean she goes I mean this list doesn't I'm she just she said john anytime we're discussing planning You want lots of options That's very true I like options. You don't know anybody likes options as much as me So when you say we're going to do it this way I will say well, are there seven other ways that we could do this too because you just never know when you need an option You realize how much time it takes for her to give me all the options I want in life. In fact, she's been with me now for several years And now she'll probably say John I before before we go through this There are five options here for you She gets very proud and then I'll find another one or two that I want She said I'm constantly changing my travel plans. Well, I do that You just never know where opportunity is going to be All of a sudden opportunities over there. So you got to go over there I over schedule myself and as a result projects take longer than the time I lot it I hate to say no. Oh my goodness This morning I had a request from some university and I put yes and then I scratched out and said well, no Then I wrote a note and said well, maybe And I hand it to her Take care of that. Take care of that Another one I she said I want her to be to be able to call her 24 hours a day seven days a week And that's part of the requirement. I said they'd be have the cell phone on 24 seven I stopped right now pushed one button. She'd answer. Okay. It takes to bed with her. That's the old time I try not to awaken her much But you just never know now This list can go on and When I looked at that I thought I'm a terrible person But you know what that helps me do helps me be patient with the rest of my people Because what I'm really realizing is I have a bunch of idiosyncrasies and my team has to put up with those all the time number six Recognize that all relationships have give-ups give-ins And give and takes That's a fact If you're in a relationship, you're going to have to give up some things You're going to have to give in on some things and you're going to certainly have to do the give and take all Okay. Thank you. I think that was uh That was good on patience, especially as he's writing down I think that's a good way to find out How others need to be patient with us and then we can Extend the same thing to others on our team. Okay, so just um this goes on to say that You know that relationship takes time relationship takes effort And uh, it's our responsibility to nurture relationships Yes, this is a very important aspect of it because we can be uh, really focused on Uh, I mean, it's an important area that we I mean in the sense that we need to focus on goals we need to focus on Accomplishing goals, uh, because that is you know, that is something very very important. Uh, we need to focus on on the vision and everything and We need to focus on sharpening our skills Etc that will you know, take us there and and put in efforts to do that Um, but this is a very important area because in in all that we are doing it involves people and uh, then you know You know, you're not making that journey alone, but all of us are making that journey, uh, you know as as a body and in professional setups in family in You know ministry Set up so where we interact with people where we leave people and work with people, right? So these are some important things. Okay, we'll stop here And then we'll we'll continue next week. Okay. God bless. Have a great weekend. Uh, we'll catch up next week. Bye. Bye Thank you, pastor. God bless you. Thank you. Thank you, pastor. Thank you Bye I say not less