 Good afternoon, Pastor David. Hey, John. Welcome everybody to Unfiltered, a random moment with Pastor David and today, Pastor, I still want to continue talking a little bit more about marriage and the family as you have started the series and we've been going through, you're going to actually, you started the series and you looked at the institution of marriage and on Tuesday, we looked at how evil has infiltrated specifically the LGBTQ question mark, has infiltrated the minds of our children and in our marriages. Today, I want to speak a little bit about the role of the husband being the head of the marriage and so many times, we can hear the first part of Paul's addressing of marriage and the family's wife's submit to your husbands and men can take that and run with it. But the next, it says that Paul says, and husbands, love your wives as Christ has loved the church, saying that there's a role that us men as husbands must play. What does this include, Pastor? Does it include dying to ourselves? Does it include removing the mask of this male role? Because I think there's this misconception with even husbands that can say, well, wives submit to me but yet for that to happen, there must be a role that the men play. Well, yeah, I mean, prior to the Lord's word through Paul to submit, wives submit into your husbands and all. For that, he had just said submitting to one another in the fear of God, right? So the church is actually the body of Christ that is submitted to the headship of Christ. And so within the confines of the church, there is a, in relationships, there's a mutual submission. You know, the people of the body, for example, the members of the church are submitted to Christ, but they're also submitted to Godly leadership, you know, and they're submitted to one another in the sense of being there to minister to care for and subordinate themselves on occasion because that's how a body works, you know, the body actually works together as a whole. So we will strengthen the body strengthens itself and something's injured. I have, I injured my leg recently and the whole body is rallied, my body is rallied to take the pressure off of the one area that's hurt in order for it to be able to heal. That's what bodies do. Well, the body of Christ is, is working in unity is to be submitted to one another in the fear of God and ministering in the same way and all of that. So when we talk about submission and husbands very often, those who are familiar with the term in our day, it's really not, it's really not that understood anymore, frankly, I think they're quite a number of people who think that's so archaic and, and all it's just out of, out of fashion now. And we do see house husbands now and house fathers who are raising children while, while the wife goes out to earn their daily bread and all there is such a, such a twisting and turning and changing of society that it's something like this may seem old fashioned speak about, but it's been said and rightly so that if there are two heads on one body, it's a monster. When you have two leaders who are vying for the position of leadership or headship, then there's no unity. You're going to, you know, how can two walk together unless they'd be agreed. So when you have this kind of vine for leadership and all, it's, it's not ever really good. Every baseball team has a single leader. Every football team should have a leader, not multiple leaders, but you'll have your offensive leader, you have your defensive captain, whatever, you know, militaries in the same way. You know, we have ranks and orders for a reason. And so I don't see why people don't understand that in the body of Christ. And so, yeah, the wife has the responsibility to voluntarily subordinate herself to the leadership of the husband. The husband is to love the wife the way Christ loved the church. And how did he do that? Well, he was sacrificial in his love for, for the church. And so we as husbands, we, we love our wives through the sacrifice that we voluntarily yield to her and yield for her. I was in another state recently where a man came up to me afterwards. I was speaking at a conference, but he wanted to speak to me about his marital problems. I don't know him. I can't stay there and help him through those problems, but he's asking me to. And as we were speaking, he was speaking about how he's the leader of the house. And he had this bravado, this machismo that's misunderstood, you know, that's another thing. I should use the word macho. Macho isn't what people think macho is, you know, it's not your bully in pushing and stuff like that. It's, it's a man who can be respected, a man who's a man of his word, a man who is a man who is a good man, you know, that's, that's true machismo, but that's a different subject to talk about that's another time. But because he had this misunderstanding of it, because he thought she was to be subservient and he used that word, well, she's to be subservient to me. I said, listen, I said, you are to serve her and what, and he got really irritated over that. What do you mean? I'm supposed to serve. I said, who's the greatest in the kingdom, the servant of all. And a man loves and serves his wife without the expectation that she's supposed to do that. That's what he does. And as he does that, and he's loving her and cherishing her and, and he knows her, you know, like Peter says to us, you know, husbands dwell with their wife according to knowledge. Well, when you make her the center of your attention in your study, when you get to know her, you know her ways or moods. You know her as a woman, you know the things she likes, the things she doesn't like, the colors she thinks are nice, all of those things. When you really study your wife and you know her friends or history, you know things of that nature, not because you're trying to control her, but because you want to know her. And she realizes that you're studying her and caring for her and cherishing her and loving her and, and doing the best you can to be that man. Then you begin to understand what the role of the husband really is, you know. And so Christ showed us what the role of the husband was to be because he's the husband of the body. He's the husband of the church. And so he showed us what the perfect husband is. He washes with the, the water of the word, you know, he's sacrificial in his love and things of that nature. And so, you know, my wife submits to me not because I, because I bully her into submission, not because I force her or raise my voice or, or act in an untoward way towards her. She, she submits to me because she's submitting us into the Lord. And because in my love and care for her and cherishing of her and, and willing to sacrifice myself for her. But she knows all those things. It has made it a much easier thing for her to be able to submit. And so it's, if we love our wives as Christ has loved the church and we do our job as husbands in loving Christ and loving our wives, then it's just natural for her. It is. Our wives to love. Our wives respond. We initiate. Versus, as you're giving this example, you're a subservient to me and blah, blah, blah, blah. There's nothing to be. Meaning the woman, you're not, you're not valuing her. You know, you're not cherishing her. You know, to cherish means to, to treat with tenderness and care and concern. You're not cherishing her. You know, so first Peter chapter three and Ephesians chapter five, give to us insight into the love that a husband ought to have for, for his wife. And we look forward to hearing that when you return as we get into that study. So pastor, thank you so much for sharing a little bit about this. And then just want to remind our church that we have services at 830 and 1045 Sunday morning and look forward to having you guys come and join us. And, and again, we have our Israel sign up still going on July 10th. We're going to have a bill full of honor coming out from inspired travel. But July 3rd, we're going to have our church baptism. So we want to have you guys come out and join us. I think you tried baptizing me once pastor, but my It took three of us. My legs didn't stop kicking or no bubbles came up. You wanted to swim in the pool. I'm not sure that. Thank you pastor so much. Thank you guys for tuning in. God bless you and we'll see you soon.