 Did you, if you had to design our pleasure schema in our relationship, what would you add? I really didn't understand the question. Okay. Well, I guess I'm more so just asking, are you disappointed that I can't orgasm from vaginal penetration? I don't think that. Lovers and friends. Lovers and friends. I have a podcast now, Hi Lovers and Friends. It's called Lovers and Friends, inspired by my YouTube community. It is available everywhere that podcasts are available. So please go take a listen. But here is a snippet from the episode where I went to a cosmetic gynecologist to get an O shot to see if it could increase my pleasure potential. Can I always say confidence is a result, not a mindset. It's not a thing that you just decide one day like I feel confident. It's the results of feeling successful and putting the work in. And this might be part of the work for some people. That's right. Absolutely. And so if somebody comes to you and says, I don't feel confident, what are the variety of procedures that they can look into to get their confidence back? So the number one thing we do would be a combination procedure called labiaplasty with clitoral hood reduction. And then there's another group of women who are seeking to have a tighter vagina, be it after delivering babies or just naturally. Everybody comes in different shapes and sizes as do their partners. So most people who come in, do you feel like they're coming in for themselves or are they coming in because we live in a society that has a one size fits all idea of what a vagina should look like? And as a result, they wanna fit into that box. Most women are coming in for comfort and confidence. There are certainly the subset of women that are coming in because they've seen someone else or they've seen porn or they've seen photos, which is so funny to find out how much those were photoshopped. We've had several models come in, some playboy and they photoshopped the labia. So yes, that is our goal to destigmatize and let women come in and use their voices to describe how they feel in the realm of sex and in their vulva. You would be shocked at how many have never looked at it other than standing in the mirror and they see something dangling. So then I go in with every single patient with a mirror and I say, hey, look, this is your labia. It actually starts on your clitoris. So then most people who come in come in for comfort. Some people come in because they want a look. I came in because I want a feel. And it's strictly, purely selfish. How can I get more pleasure in my life? What percentage of your clients represent me? I would say about 15%. Oh, great. There's more of us out there. There are definitely more of you out there and why not? Let's not be shamed for wanting it to feel good and wanting more of it. Come on, it's absolutely the essence of human nature. Why not is exactly what drove me in today? So break it down. When you are coming in here, because why not? What are the options for you? So the things that we offer women for better sexual experiences include two non-surgical procedures and then there's a surgical procedure. The non-surgical would include the O-shot, which is a platelet-rich plasma injection directly into the clitoris, the glands of the clitoris, as well as into the G-spot. And actually not just the G-spot because everybody's in a slightly different location, but it's injected into the anterior surface of the vagina. And so the platelets and the growth factors go in and they stimulate all of the cells to be more responsive. And those more responsive cells lead to increased sexual pleasure, as well as as you described the mound, right? Yes, the pitcher's mound. The pitcher's mound gets fuller. Therefore, it is easier to strike. The other thing that we do, probably even more than the O-shot. We do the O-shot a good bit, but even more than that would be our laser. It's called the Vive. And it's a vaginal laser that emits radio frequency waves. And those radio frequency waves go into the cells and tell the cells to start building more collagen and elastin. All right, so I think that the statistic that we're going with right now, or the one that I've been seeing in circulation a lot is from Elizabeth Lloyd and that is that 75% of people with vulvas do not orgasm from penetration alone. So I'm a part of the 75 who has never had a penetration only orgasm. Oh, I don't know, I'm okay with that though. That's okay. I have great clitoral orgasms and I like the combo of the two together. Yes. Is the O-shot and G-shot designed for somebody like myself? Cause I did read, I think when I first researched it it said, if you don't already experience it it may not do much for you. It's mostly for people who already experience it, it will enhance more. So I have found that the O-shot by itself can increase vaginal orgasms but not as much as doing it with the laser. So for people who've never had a vaginal orgasm which I've had many a patient and I won't name some of them. When we did the combo, oh right. Which is okay, it's not something to be ashamed of. It's just for those of us who have, we're like, oh you're missing something. Just wait till it happens and then the light bulb's gonna be like, oh, okay. I thought clitoral was something. So I'm trying to find that balance between celebrating the pleasure I do have while putting myself in a position to invite more without being disappointed if I don't achieve a certain kind of result. Yes, absolutely, I understand that. And I would agree, you should definitely embrace the fact that you are enjoying sex. Yes. You're not gonna complain, right? And there's nothing wrong with leaving the door open for more and I think that's fantastic. Cute of Bruno Mars music, hey. Ha ha ha. And I'll talk to lots of women they don't know which is fine, of course. We aren't born knowing these things and they certainly don't talk to us about them. That for some women getting ready to have a non-clitoral orgasm without clitoral stimulation will feel like you have to go to the bathroom. I have educated so many women. I'm like, does it ever happen that you're having sex and you feel all of a sudden like you have to pee? Yeah, I'm like, you're getting ready to orgasm. That's what that feeling is. You're not going to pee, I promise. You're not going to pee on them. Instead of then shrinking away from that feeling, like, oh my gosh, I don't wanna have an accident. Just go ahead and let yourself fall into that feeling. And so many of them have had success with that. They're like, oh my gosh, you mean it is real. Why invest in your pleasure? Because it really leads to a happier life, in my opinion. Those endorphins and those feelings so we have less depression, less anxiety. It brings you closer with your partner or partners and it feels good. I mean, it's kind of like stroking that id, like the sense of you and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I mean, I hope not, cause I did it. So it's too late. If there is, then I'm wrong. I'm dead ass wrong. Dr. Poochay, thank you so much. My pleasure. My pleasure, bitch. My pleasure. Soon to be your pleasure. I give you a little numbing injection first, just in the clitoral area. That takes 15 seconds. And then I follow it immediately with the PRP injection in the clitoris. And then I go down below and I do the second part of the injection in the G-spot. Oh nice. So it's about one minute. She's gonna tap you to help keep you distracted. Hello. You may feel a little burning sensation as the numbing goes in your skin, okay? So I feel presence. I just don't feel pain. You can't get rid of the pressure. You still could actually feel hot and cold and you can feel the pressure. It's called proprioception. And those nerves work slightly differently than the way the pain part of the nerve works. Okay, done. All right, I'm amazed. Okay, so I wipe it and then we chat. Perfect, we'll see you when you come. Okay, I'm not gonna lie. It wasn't not painful. What's my aftercare? Do I go into the car and have sex now? Am I gonna be numb still? Guess what your prescription is, go have sex. If you enjoyed that short clip, you were going to love the full 45 minute episode. Go to the info box to click to listen to the full thing. Please follow the podcast and rate and review. That'd be an extra bonus, but following would be huge. You being here is huge, but that would be like really huge.