 The narcissist will make you feel like a fraud. They will make you feel like you are intending to deceive other people. They will make you feel like you are unjustifiably claiming or being credited with accomplishments and qualities. They will make you feel like an imposter, as though you're not who you really think you are, or as though you have hidden motives, because that's what they do. They are deceptive and exploitative. They will make use of a situation and treat people unfairly in order to gain an advantage or benefit. So they assume that you must be the same way. They project their negative traits onto you. They know that they're fake. So they assume that everyone must be the same as them. They don't understand that some people are genuine. Some people can engage in an interest or activity authentically, and without intending to take advantage of anyone. But the narcissist will assume that this is what you're trying to do. Because they lack empathy. They lack the capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing from within their frame of reference. They cannot put themselves in your position. They see things only through their own perspective of the situation. Without considering how you might see it, the narcissist will look down at you, as though you are not capable of achieving your aspirations. They will treat you as though you are not deserving of your hopes and ambitions. They will make you feel like you are not qualified, as though you are not competent or knowledgeable to do something, as though you are not entitled to a particular benefit or privilege, as though you do not fulfill the necessary condition. It makes you doubt your abilities. It makes you doubt your means and skill to do something. And it makes you fear being exposed, where you are constantly in this vulnerable position or situation. You may be involved in a particular interest or activity, and you may be seeing the results of your efforts. You may be very productive, but inside, you feel like you are a fraud. You feel like you are not good enough, as though you are not worthy of the results that you have achieved. When you are around a narcissist, you will constantly doubt yourself. You will experience a lack of confidence in your abilities, and this will be constantly supported by the narcissist. They will encourage you to doubt yourself, which then fuels your lack of confidence in yourself. They gas like you and represent you as less in your true value and importance. They devalue you. They constantly compete with you, which only reinforces any existing fears that you already have. The narcissist feels like they are a fraud. They are constantly in fear of being exposed. They are very insecure. They fear that people may notice their deficiencies. They fear that people may say that they are not that successful, or that they don't have enough money. They fear being caught out in their lies. They fear that someone will reveal their true, objective nature, and then make this embarrassing and damaging information public. But this is different to when they make you feel like a fraud, because you have achieved something. It's just your view of yourself that has been distorted by the narcissist. You've achieved everything that you said you've achieved. You just feel like you're not deserving of it, because the narcissist is very insecure. They project their insecurities onto you. They target your sense of safety and security and leave you doubting yourself, which may then cause you to limit yourself. It may limit your progression and development, because you feel like you are not deserving of it. It destroys your potential. It destroys your capacity to develop into something in the future, because it causes you to doubt your qualities and abilities, which would otherwise have been developed and led to future successes or usefulness. The narcissist lives in constant fear of being exposed, but they disguise themselves with entitlement and grandiosity. They can be impressive and imposing in style, and they can display pompous superiority and pretentiousness, as though they are inherently deserving of privileges and special treatment. But this is only to protect themselves from being exposed, and it causes people who aren't entitled or grandiose to feel like they're frauds, because a lot of people don't realize that narcissists are just great liars and actors, but narcissists benefit from this. They want people who are establishing some level of power to feel like they're frauds, so that they can make them feel less powerful and confident, because those people are a threat to the narcissist. They have the potential to expose them. Narcissists are very insecure. They feel like they're not good enough. So even if someone may appear to be beneath them, they will still see them as a threat. They live in constant fear of people seeing them the way they refuse to see themselves. You can email me at coachnetnarksurvivor.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.