 the ultimate punishment narcissists give. At the beginning of the relationship, the narcissist tested you to see if you were suitable for a purpose, to see if you were going to be a good source of supply. So they love bombed you, they told you whatever they thought you wanted to hear, they showed you whatever they thought you wanted to see. They presented themselves as this kind character who only wanted the best for you, but it wasn't real, it was an act, it was an illusion, which is why they had to rush things, they had to move fast. Before you got a chance to figure them out, they love bombed you, they tested you, they wanted to see what you like and what you're interested in, they wanted to see what you don't like, they wanted to see how much they could get away with, so they tested the water, they gave you backhanded compliments, they gave you small insults and then they sat back and judged your feelings and opinions before taking further action to see what they could get away with. They said and did things that they knew you didn't like, they ignored you, they ghosted you just to see how much you're willing to tolerate, just to see how you're going to react to it, to see if you would still keep them around, to see if you would let them get away with it, they became passive aggressive, to keep you off balance, to keep you second guessing about their intentions and motives, to make you think that they are better than you, to make you think that they know more than you, when really they targeted you because they thought you were better than them, they thought you had more power, they thought you knew more than they did but they did it to manipulate you because although narcissists may respect power, they don't want you to use your power on them so they will become passive aggressive, they will destabilize you, they will keep you in a state of confusion because then it's easier for them to manipulate you and it's very effective for them when they finally decide to discard you because now you still think that they have all of this power, you think they know so much more than you, you think they're good at everything, you think they're so great but that's only because they conditioned you into seeing them that way, they tricked you into validating the illusions of their false self, they downplayed your perceptions of your characteristics, they destroyed your self image which is why when they finally discard you, you no longer feel like yourself, you feel like a shell of who you used to be and when the narcissist finally decides to discard you, this is when they really want to punish you, they want to ruin your reputation before you get the chance to expose them, the narcissist ultimate punishment is anything that they know is your weakness or vulnerable point, anything that is easy for them to attack and criticize and anything they know that you want, if they know that you want something, they will take it and they will withhold it from you because they have a strong and unreasoning desire for revenge, they have this desire to punish you because they want you to be miserable, it gives some supply and it makes them feel better about themselves, thank you for watching, I hope this video ends with you, please like, comment, share and subscribe, if you would like to donate, my paypal link is in the video description, thank you for watching, coach the enquiries, you can email me at coachingatnaxify.uk, thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.