 What's up you fine ladies and gents? I realized a few weeks ago that I'm 31 that means I'm old as hell No, and all seriousness listen I get a lot of emails from people and they act like life is over at 30 now in this video I want to share being 31 the things I wish I knew before 30 because now that I'm old and crusty I guess I have wisdom or something like that. I hope this helps you these are the five things I wish I knew before 30. What's up guys Alex Hine here author of the book master the day PS did you see that new sexy cover? Check it out All right now listen the first thing that I wish I knew before I turn 30 is that at 30 your life does not end You know average life expectancy of humans now is like 80 something people talk to me They think they have to have everything figured out by 30 like the partner the job six figures traveled 30 countries by 30 all these arbitrary goals and it's like okay. Let's say you're making 50k doing what you enjoy by 30 That's great. That's better than most people. Let's say you're dating someone. That's pretty close to what you want by 30 That's great. Let's say you just get one of those goals one of those big rocks That's great. Like your life is not done at 30 I mean I'm 31 and I'm only now having even a little bit of financial success doing work I love but it's progressively gotten better every single year now I'm doing better even easier with less stress and next year It's gonna be the same thing even better more fun less stress better more fun less stress Like your life as long as you're focusing on growth Your life is gonna continue to get better every year. It's this odd arbitrary thing like after college your life's over It's not how life works if you focus on life getting better each year each year It'll get better. There's almost no upper limit for how good your life can get think about that The second habit. I want you to think of here is that deep ruts are already worn by 30 This is kind of interesting because one of my favorite quotes is by Earl Nightingale and it says a Rut is just a grave with the ends kicked out. So a rut is just like a grave. It's done It's over. It's the same thing with the ends extended forever your whole life You know, I have friends now at 30 31 30 40 50 pounds overweight from the couple beers a night. They've been doing since 24. I have friends married and divorced already I have friends that are Married divorced and remarried since 30. I have friends that are in the same job since 24 Maybe capped out on their income 70 K or so 60 70 80 K now They're gonna do the same crap until they're 60 years old 65 The reality is that by 30 many ruts are already worn, which is crazy because it's so young And if you don't consciously think about taking care of good care of your health Financial life always improving always upgrading career. Are you doing what you love? If not, don't give up. Are you with the person that you want to be with and not? I just married him or her because I'm 30 and I'm getting old That's really important. Do not settle for something as important as a marriage or a career Those are things you're gonna have to deal with with your whole life. And if they're not right, you're screwed Happen number three if you have not found work you love yet Do not give up because it gets harder as you get older Now look the good thing about if you're in your 20s watching this is you have all this leeway to play an experiment Like I bought a one-way ticket to China. Who the hell does that a 22 year old is who like you can start 15 companies they can all fail and at 30 you still have plenty of time to keep trying that The big thing though is I believe that the two big rocks in life You have to get right as best you can or work in love like Freud said and love especially Because the person you date is or marry is probably gonna be the most important life decision for your happiness or your resulting depression and I think these are really really really important things to focus on but guess what I'm 31 I didn't find work I loved until 29 and I was working my ass off from 22 my only focus in my life from 22 on Was how do I find work? I love that can support me in the family? Took seven years So imagine people who aren't even really all in trying to pursue work. They care about Good luck Like that is something you should be focusing on because when you have to pay a rent when you have bills When you get that new car and it's a $500 a month lease payment and your rent is $1,500 a month And you have student debt payments for a thousand a month You're living on a poverty salary making 40k you have no money And then what happens when you throw in two kids now, huh? And then your partner decides to stay home because someone's got to take care of the kids or you put your kids in daycare And it's $3,000 a month Find work you love and make that a priority Find or build work you love work in the after hours after your full-time job work a part-time job to build the company You want make it an absolute priority because your happiness has to be a priority in your work The fourth habit here is that sometimes you have to struggle and it doesn't mean you're off course The big thing that annoyed me that annoyed the hell out of me honestly was in my early 20s I thought that you know being an intuitive I would just like follow my intuition and it would lead me to my magical path for fulfillment and enjoyment but it didn't happen like it didn't happen for years and When I started businesses and I got jobs None of them were what I was really passionate about and it confused me because I thought Maybe I'm living my life wrong or I'm doing something wrong if nothing is speaking to me in my life I must not be following my intuition, right? I think in life though. It's cyclical like chaos and order chaos and order you feel like you're Chicken little the world's ending and then a year later It's all fine and dandy like one year before you were the worst person you've ever dated and you hate your life Next year you could be with your dream person and I think it's okay But you have to understand these cyclical things order and chaos are natural fluctuations Sometimes in life you have to push one of my mentors said like you want to of course Go with the flow whenever you can whenever you can flow in a relationship And it's easy and it works or you flow in a job and it's easy and it works But guess what a lot of the time in life It doesn't and you want to exercise that muscle of will or you train yourself to swim upstream Because if you get used to that when it's downstream life is such cake like for me It is a cake walk now in my financial in my career life I love it, but it wasn't the case for most of my adult life The fifth habit here is that life will get better every year if you get better continually So this is weird thing in American culture where people are like, you know Once you go to college those are the best years your life live it up and after that. It's all down hill as if 21 is your most fun year of your life and then three four five six seven eight And then it's all going straight to hell Makes no sense Like why would you not have more fun every year like okay? You have more responsibilities You got to pay your rent you may have kids and a family you may struggle financially You may not have time off, but you can change almost all of those things and improve your life I know for a fact the people I respect the most actually describe the 20s as the worst decade of their life Because that's when they were figuring things out and building their career and doing all this stuff Finding and dating bad partners till you know to get that contrast to learn really good ones are and That to me was so inspiring and I instantly knew it to be true because every year since 22 Since I found personal development my life has gotten way better like way better Like consider that I wasn't in a good relationship till 25 that lasted five years So if I was expecting any relationship before 25 to be the best I would have been screwed if I expected the most money I would have earned doing the most enjoyable work I would have been screwed every year my left gets better because every year I think about how to make my life better How could I have more fun at work be have cooler friends date more amazing women or Go in deeper with the woman. I'm dating Travel more like work less stress less work more on what I love Your life will get better if your focus your singular focus is how do I get it better? And it seems like a lot of the people who peak later in life The 20s suck as they figure things out the 30s 40s and beyond are Exponentially better. I know a lot of my family members that struggled young and they say 30s 40s 50s 60s 70s those were all the best years of their life and for me I certainly can see that probably coming true because right now every year It's gotten better and better So don't believe the lie that it's over when you're done with college because if you're living your life that way Then I feel bad for you because it probably is over. All right guys I hope that video helps it all revolves around the same old stick I do here every week which is that if you focus on growth and consciously designing your life Why wouldn't it get better every year? 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