 Good morning everyone. Good morning to our week five of class. Hope all of you are doing well. Welcome to all of you who joined in online as well as to those who joined in at the e-learning portal. We trust that you're doing well and keeping good. So shall we just start with the word of prayer? Let's just get straight into our lesson for today. Let's just start with the word of prayer. Heavenly Father we thank you Lord for another week that's gone by. Thank you Lord that you continue to speak to us. You reveal more of yourself to us. Father God even as we look to your word and look to today's lesson. We pray Lord that we will personally take time to evaluate and to be insightful about ourselves as well as to take the help and the counsel of the Holy Spirit to change, change Lord for your kingdom, your glory, change Lord for the relationships that we have, for the marriages that we have. Thank you that you are our ever present help in time of need. Lord we pray for all students here who are listening in and who logged in. God thank you that you have bought each one of them. Pray Lord for the rest of them who are yet to come in. Lord that you would bring them here, remove every hindrance, every obstacle that comes in the way of a class of us learning together. Thank you for being with us. Holy Spirit we invite you here today. Amen. So welcome to week five of our class. We have been going through different lessons and today we are at chapter five of our lesson in Managing Family and this I would say is a very important chapter, not just when we look within the context of marriage, but also for us as individual people to grow and to learn about ourselves in really determining and understanding how we respond to different things in life. Okay, so for those of you who are following in the notes, if you have the physical book with me with you, it's page 55, but if you are following through the digital, the book online, it's page 55. Sorry, not 55, it's page 52. Yeah, we're on page 52. Okay, all right, so let's move straight in. Now in this chapter, there are certain, you would see the chapters heading as attitudes, temperament and behavior. Now these are certain words that we use quite often, it may be in our conversations or maybe while describing people, we use this quite often, but then I think we need to really break down to see what each of this specifically mean. Now before we understand that, before we come to that, when we interact with others, when we interact either with our spouses or interact with our children or with anyone else, what we are actually bringing about is these specific things, our attitudes, the way we are as people or our temperament and how we behave. So as we relate to one another, we are actually more than anything, we are coming face to face or encountering the other person with their understanding, with their perceptions, with their attitudes, with their beliefs, with their temperament, their responses, their behaviors and all of this could be expressed in very different ways. So you may notice that a person may have maybe intellectually very strong or they may have good skills, they may have good communication skills but they also do come with attitudes and temperament and behavior or a person may look great on the outside, they may have very good looks, they may be very smart in their appearances, they may have a lot of charm in the way that they carry themselves out but all of this comes along with something that's more deeper, which is a person's attitudes and their personality. We cannot slice away these two, a person comes with this and so also even in marriage, when a husband and wife work together, interact, when they are discussing important issues or when stress comes along, when they need to make decisions, when they need to work together, the attitudes and their personality is what really comes about and that really plays a vital role in the way a relationship develops. So let's look at what each of these words mean so that we have a better understanding of what it is. So three words, attitude. When we are looking at attitude, we are referring to the way a person thinks or the way a person feels about something, their attitude towards something. Like for example, their attitude towards money, what do they think about money? Now all of this could come from certain experiences or certain framework that they have been born with but nevertheless it's something that they carry and something that they use to determine different things in their lives. So attitude is the way a person thinks or the way a person feels about a certain or a particular thing. That's what we say in attitudes. For example, another example that we look at is let's say a person is going through certain hardship. What is the attitude towards hardships that come? Maybe a person is very pessimistic when stress comes that nothing will work out, this is going to be the end of things. That's the way that they perceive that or you may have others who have a more positive or more optimistic attitude that shows that we will get through this, we will be able to overcome whatever challenges we come. So anything that you look at, each of us may have a certain thinking or a certain perception about that and that's what we call as attitude. So once again, attitude is the way that one thinks or one feels about anything, about a person, about a thing, about an issue, about a situation, the way that they see it, the way that they think about it, the way that they feel it. Moving on to what temperament means, temperament is the actual nature of a person or the basic inclination of a person towards life. It describes how they are. It describes what they may be inclined to do or inclined to think or inclined to feel. And so that's what we call as temperament or in other words, you could also use what we call it as a personality, the way someone is inclined to something. So you may hear words like, I have a calm temperament or I have maybe an angry disposition or I may be an impatient personality or I have a personality that is very enduring. So you get to understand how they are inclined to think or to perceive or to behave in certain situations. So temperament is the actual nature of a person and that really makes them, that's what helps them to do certain things or in other words, it's the inclination that a person has towards life in different kind of experiences. And behavior, the last one, this is quite simple, it's what we do. It is how we react, how we respond. So the behavior is more the expression of the attitudes and the temperament we may have. So if I have a positive attitude towards let's say a person, my behavior towards that person will match that attitude. If I have a suspicious attitude towards a certain thing or a certain, let's say an organization or a certain work, I may behave very, very cautiously towards that. Towards that experience. So attitudes is the way we think or feel about a certain thing. Temperament is our basic nature or the inclination that we may have towards life and towards different experiences and behavior is something that we do. It is a more response of what happens in our attitude and our temperament. And I hope this is clear because this is important for us to understand before we move in. So I hope this is clear to everyone, the different meanings of an attitude, temperament and behavior. Is that clear? This may be a thumbs up that will help. Okay, thank you. Thank you, Anthony. All right, so I suppose that's the rest of the group also feels the same. Yes, okay, I get a second. All right, so now what we need to understand when people come into marriage, we are dealing with these emotional traits of a person which is expressed through their action or through their communication. So even as you're meeting someone, you are actually dealing with these three things, their attitude, their temperament and their behavior. So when two people with different attitudes or temperament come together to face a certain situation, we would see that it can differ from the way we think or we act or we communicate. It can differ because we have a certain framework through which we see life. And when we come into marriage, we are interacting with someone else who may have a very different framework from us. Thank you. Now, this often in when you're looking at marriage, these can probably bring up two concerns. So the one is a personal challenge which is I need, personally in my life, I need to make sure that the way that I am thinking about something, the way that I feel about something, the way that I behave, the way that I respond should be healthy and it should add or impact my marriage in a positive way. Okay. So first is a check to see whether the way my attitudes, my temperament, my behavior is something that is positive and healthy and that will help to build a positive marriage and family. So that's what we look at the personal front of it. Now, when you're looking at the interpersonal, the meaning of interpersonal means between two people, something that happens between two people. And here, just like how in the personal challenge, the way that I need to be aware of how I think, how I behave, how I act, similarly I need to understand the way my spouse thinks or acts or behaves or perceives things in different situations, so I am able to understand them correctly. Okay. Now, I'll give you a very simple example. Let's say there is, there is, I just want to make sure that I take, let's say Jack and Jill. Okay. I think that's really common names. Okay. So let's say Jack and Jill married together. Now, Jack comes from a very affluent family. He's come from a family where there, where there has been no dirt of money where there hasn't been too much of a stringent rule about money, right? That money is spent without second thoughts. Whereas you have Jill, who comes from a more conservative, more middle-class family where money has been an issue. Money has been a concern. And as a result, you know, have been very frugal in the way that she has used money. Now, when both these people come together, you would see that probably, let's say Jack is often buying things for the house that isn't even necessary. And maybe, or let's say, and I'm sure this is a common example, you know, something doesn't work in the home. Maybe it's a TV or it's a, you know, it's some appliance, some equipment that doesn't work at home. He may be quick to throw it off and buy a new one. Whereas Jill has been bought up in the sense of being frugal. So in the minute that something is not wrong, or something is wrong with an equipment, she may take it to the repair shop, get it repaired and come and spend as least amount as possible, right? And this often can become like a source of conflict between two people where one person says, you know, you're wasting your time and actually taking it to, you know, we've used it for 10 years and why do you want to use that? Just get a new one. Whereas Jill may say, you know, it's better to save money for something that we may have. This is some still in working condition. You know, we just have to pay a couple of hundred rupees and then, you know, things will be, things can be settled. So you see, this is coming from their own framework, their own attitude about probably money or getting things. But then it definitely is important for Jack and Jill to first of all understand what their perspective is from and also interpersonally understand it from the other perspective. Why is it that they are speaking the way that they are or thinking that, you know, something should work the way? Because if that's not understood, there's often a misunderstanding that happens and it can lead to conflicts. I've given you a very simple example, but this can happen in very many different spheres and spectrum of life. So these three things, the attitude, the temperament as well as the behaviour, is something that as a couple, it's important to understand and also to be able to face up personally on what some of those attitudes are. Now, the fact is that when you are interacting with someone else, with your spouse, especially, if there are more negative attitudes or behaviours that are unhealthy or a temperament that can be, you know, something that seeks for a personal gain, it can often cause significant issues. So ultimately, we need to look at these attitudes. Excuse me. So ultimately, we have to look at these attitudes from what God's word says. When we need to develop attitudes which are Christ-like and have a temperament that is controlled by the Holy Spirit and a behaviour that is in alignment to the word. So when you looked at Chapter 2, when we were looking at Chapter 2 for the Preparing for Manage, there was one portion where we stressed on the need of being in good emotional health. And if you remember that, there are many negative emotional responses that needs to be addressed there. And what we are going to look at here, we are going to look at scripture and going to look at the antidote for those negative attitudes and behaviour and see what are some of the attitudes that Christ displayed or had when he walked in this earth. So as a believer, we are all called to grow into the likeness of Christ. We are to come to the stature of the fullness of Christ. And that's what you see in Ephesians 4.13. Come to the stature of the fullness. Come to how Christ is, be Christ-like. And also we read in scripture that when we abide in Him, we walk as He walked. The more that we build our relationship in Him, we get into the word, we come in close communion with Christ, we will walk as He walked. Now this is something that applies to our marriage and how we work or how we respond to our spouse and our children. So in every way that we respond, we must be Christ-like and we are called to have the same attitude as Christ. Now if you look through, digitally page 53, yeah, digitally it's page 53 and on the soft copy, on the hard copy you will see it as page 56. Now there are many scripture verses that show about what is the attitude we are to have in different walks and different things in life. And I may not read out the entire thing, but probably we'll pick up a few from that entire chapter. So let's just look at a few. Let's look at the first one, which is Philippians 2, 3 to 5, Philippians 2, 3 to 5. Would somebody please read that out? Philippians chapter 2 verses 3 to 5. Hello, can you hear me? Yes, we can. Go ahead. Let nothing be done. Let nothing be done. Let nothing be done. Let nothing be done. But in lowliness of mind, let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out, not only for his own interest, but also for the interest of others. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus. These are new kingdoms. Varsha. Thank you, Antony. Thank you. So if you look through these verses, just pick up a few of the points that this brings about. So it talks about let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit. So there in itself, Paul's bringing that out. Let nothing be done out of selfishness or any kind of a conceit. So in other words, he's saying, what is it saying? But it says in lowliness of mind, let everyone esteem others better than himself. And I think in the Good News Bible, it talks about humility. So you come to be in a place of sacrifice where you're giving preference to one another. In verse 4, it also talks about how you do not look selfishly at your own interests, but you look into the interests of others. Now that's an attitude, right? Now let's suppose there's something, both the spouse, both the husband and the wife want to do something. One may want to go for football. The other may want to go for a, let's say a musical. So it's saying, you know, each of you look into the interest of the other, rather than looking at your own interests. Then again, if you look at verse 7, verse 5 says, we should have the same mind. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus. So that's what the scripture implores us to have. The same attitude that Christ had is what we are called to have. And it goes on. In verse 7, it says, you know, he took the form of a bond servant. So he took the nature of a servant and came into service. So that's some of the aspects that we see of how Christ-like, what is a Christ-like attitude and some of these verses show that. So you see selflessness, you see humility, you see being sacrificial, ensuring that you look into the interest of someone else, not being selfish, but being more like a servant, not holding on to what you feel is right, but then giving into the other person. So that's what you see here. So there are other scriptures. We'll just read probably one or two more. Let's look at Philippians chapter 4 verses 4 and 8. Philippians chapter 4 verses 4 to 8. Can somebody read that out please? Philippians chapter 4 verses 4 to 8. May you always be joyful in your union with the Lord. I say it again in rejoice. Show a gentle attitude towards everyone. The Lord is coming soon. Don't worry about anything. But in all your prayers, ask God for what you need. Always asking with a thankful heart and God's peace, which is far beyond human understanding. We'll keep your hearts and minds and we'll keep your hearts and minds safe in union with Christ Jesus. In conclusion, my friends, fill your minds with those things that are good and that deserve praise. Things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely and honourable. Thank you. Thank you, Nina. So again, when you look at these verses, there are very many attitudes that we are called to have. So beginning with verse 4, let's look at the verses. Let's look at the verses. Let's look at the verses. Beginning with verse 4, we are called to rejoice. We are called to be joyful. We are called to rejoice. That means at every point of time have joy, exuding joy, okay? We are called to have gentleness as we deal with men. Let your gentleness be known to others, be known to all men, okay? Then it talks about don't worry or don't be anxious about anything. So let's say when stress comes about, don't be anxious, but you know what to do. Pray and let your requests known before God. And what will happen when you are not anxious and when you put your trust in God, the peace of God will rest on you. You enjoy the peace of God that keeps away that the peace of God that is beyond every understanding is what will keep your heart. Then verse 8 is full of good things that we are supposed to be filling our mind. It says, whatever is true, is noble, just, right, pure, lovely, honourable. If there is anything praiseworthy, meditate on these things. So it says that's the kind of things we are to fill our minds with. Looking for things that are noble. Looking for things that are lovely. Looking for things that are pure and honourable. So even maybe in the midst of things where everything seems difficult, let's say in a relationship, things look difficult. Looking for things that are that are praiseworthy. So similarly, there are very many scriptures and if you look through that entire page on 56 in your soft copy, so in your hard copy, you see a lot more of attitudes that are there. If you look to the page next to it, it will show you all of this is summarised. They are summarised, all the attitudes are summarised and I will read that so that we have a fair account of whatever has been written. I am on page 57 in the book and in the in the soft copy, I am on page 54. I think it is in a tabular form over not 54. Yes, 54. It is in a tabular form and I just want to read them out. So the opposite of these positive Christlike attitudes are what we call negative attitudes that this is the list of those negative attitudes. Anger arrogance argumentative blaming others bitterness controlling condescending cowardice complaining critical cunning cynical demanding depressive dishonest dissatisfaction discontentment deceptive envy greed guarded guilt hatred inadequacy indifference intolerance insecurity responsibility jealousy judgmental low self-esteem lust manipulative negativity overly assertive overly aggressive pessimism prejudice pride resentment revengeful rude sarcasm secretive self-centeredness selfishness shame skeptical stingy suspicious thoughtlessness unforgiving untrusting unsympathetic and victimized. So these are the list of attitudes negative attitudes that you know we may find but when you look at scripture and all of this that we looked at that there is an entire list of what we how we should be living. Okay. And again that's that's also there in the as a tabular form in the in your book but again I'm just going to read out some of this. Okay. So selflessness humility sacrifice giving preference to others looking out for the interest of others not being self-centered being so having servant hood not insisting on your rights being joyful thankful prayerful not complaining not arguing being innocent rejoicing being gentle yeah I do that yeah being gentle not worrying enjoying God's peace thinking on things that are good that deserve praise that are true being joyful in trials being full of faith being patient not complaining about others praying singing not lying not insulting but not threatening not retaliating now all of that has come from the verses that that's that's a little bit so this is what we are called to have these attitudes are what we call to have okay I'm just going to answer Jackens question she said can you please clarify on what it means to be guarded okay so guarded is when you're not being when you withhold certain information or certain a certain feelings certain certain thoughts about something you withhold that from the other person and sometimes for example maybe maybe you you're holding a certain hurt against somebody and what someone's someone's done to you and even when they have asked you a couple of times what's wrong you're very guarded you do not you you kind of place a guard around not allowing the person to see what's happening with them so being guarded is refusing to share when when you're going through something or when you're going through something that's difficult or when you have something against that's what guarded means not not being open and not being willing to engage in in a clarification or a conversation because either of the fear of what it can bring up or the fear of you're not wanting to rock the boat so guarded is that just just ensuring that you keep away from discussing something all right jack and I hope that helped I hope that was more clear right now what happens when when there is a negative attitude remember when when we have a negative attitude it can affect everything that we say everything that we do and everything that we see so it can having a negative attitude can affect or in fact the way we respond or we do things all right now what happens is that our attitude sorry yeah the negative attitude it just doesn't have a bearing on yourself but it definitely has a bearing on on other people on the person that you may be interacting with okay and so much so in marriage and often this will affect the way that you respond to the other person especially let's say you have a negative attitude towards the person okay that you're talking to you may exhibit some negative behaviors you may complain or you may find fault you may always be in a place of criticizing okay and it often results to a lot of lack of peace within the relationship attitudes also can impact your expectation it can impact your experience and it can also impact what we call like an exit like so for example let's say you're going to do something like maybe you're starting you're going to start a new course you want to go study and you want to start a new course and your attitude will set your expectation you may look at the course and say okay nothing good comes from it or even before you get into the course you're saying whatever I have joined has never worked out well or I have you know someone has told me that these teachers are not good so you're either expecting something that will help you or you're expecting something that's going to go against you okay so what happens is it affects it affects the way that you enter into a certain situation or a certain concern or for example let's say even marriage when your attitude towards marriage suppose you have a very negative attitude towards marriage you're going into it expecting that there is something wrong that something will go wrong or the person is not going to do this way so that in itself will affect your expectation of how this happens will also affect your experience whether you're going to enjoy it or whether you're going to going to have trouble whether you're going to do the best to stand up or overcome every challenge or situational issues that come about or whether you're going to succumb and experience something that's negative so it really determines whether you're going to be able to pull yourself out through that entire situation or sit back and just wait for the wave to come over and damage you and so it affects your the expectation you have something it affects your experience and it also affects how you exit that is the way that you leave the entire journey either you take the best out of it you take the most out of it or you go on go back holding the grudges against it right maybe this course like for example I was saying you're in a course because you've expected that you're not going to learn anything or that the class is going to be boring it's going to affect your experience your journey through it and when you go out of it you've actually come out of it really just complaining and saying oh that was a waste of time there wasn't anything about it so it affects these three things it affects how you get in it affects your journey and it affects how you leave it as well now it's important to understand that our attitudes usually our negative attitudes can be learned it can be learned through maybe wrong models that we have or because we have gone through a certain life with some negative emotions at its root especially when we hold back our emotions especially the signal emotions of maybe anger or of jealousy or of sadness when you hold back those emotions it tends to come forth in a negative attitude and behavior when you hold a negative attitude towards someone maybe it's anger you're always looking at mistrust at people and this comes in the form of words maybe sarcastic words it can come in the words of critical remarks or it can come in the form of maybe abusive language or abusive behavior so our attitudes often come because it's a learned one not just from others but something that we have used as a pattern of coping so now when you're able to realize this it's not something that we need to live with you can it is a choice that you have to change that attitude towards something or towards towards others it's something that you can make the choice and you have the Lord to help you that's what we're going to be looking at at the end of this chapter whatever attitude we hold on to is definitely going to make a difference in the way that we think and the way that we respond to difference so what is it that we need to do the when we do when we have an insight about what what attitudes we are holding remember that for those when we believe in the Lord when we are open to the Lord He is the one who will transform us into the image of Christ by the Holy Spirit and that's what we see in 2 Corinthians 3 18 that he will transform us into his likeness in an ever increasing measure so he's the one who transforms us into the image of Christ by the power of the Holy Spirit so he will do his work in us to change all of those negative attitudes where he will help us to deal with the core of it with the root of it so that there is a change that comes which is lasting a change that makes us open to his healing so Philippians 2.13 says he works in us and makes us willing and able to do according to his will according to what is right so when the Holy Spirit works within us it transforms us so we come to a place to pray, ask him to help to work through these negative attitudes and behaviors so it can be changed and we become more Christ like so the more that we abide and the more that we depend on him the more that we see that that change happens okay the next thing we're going to be looking at is spirit controlled temperament now the temperament or a personality often is expressed through like I said through the way that our behavior or the way that we respond okay so when you look there are different kinds of personality types and there are very many theories that comes about different personality types but the book has bought about a very simple form of different kinds of personality types now even though it may look as if these are etched in stone and once a personality you can never change it we need to understand that these things only help us to develop a good understanding or a good framework on how to understand our personalities with its strengths and with its weakness but regardless of what our personality type we may have whatever we recognize we need to understand that it is a choice and it is something that we can develop and bring about a change so we are not held on or we are not trapped in what we have or the kind of situation we grew up in or what we learned as a behavior but if we choose to unlearn what is wrong and develop what is good that can happen and as believers we have the power of the Holy Spirit we are influenced by the Holy Spirit so when we are filled with the Holy Spirit you will only bring out what is inside of you like when you shake a coffee mug only coffee will come out tea or juice or water doesn't come out it's coffee that comes out similarly when we are filled with the Spirit when we are influenced by the Holy Spirit whatever shakes us only the attitude and what the Holy Spirit has put in us will come out and express his character when we are filled with the Holy Spirit so even though we as individuals may have our own personalities and temperaments but when we are influenced or filled by the Holy Spirit then we begin to express the nature and the character of God we are still our own people but we are submitting to the Spirit of God and that's why we call ourselves control or call ourselves being filled with the Spirit so it's his nature it's his power, it's his strength that helps us to express that and glorify God through that okay so when we continuously do this, when we consistently have this way of life, when we continuously walk in the Spirit then we are characterized by what Scripture tells us is we have the fruit of the Spirit so that's what you read in Galatians 5 22-23 it says there are nine fruit of the Spirit it's love, joy, peace patience, kindness, goodness faithfulness, gentleness and self-control so when we are Spirit filled when we are Spirit controlled what happens, these traits or these qualities in our life become it comes out in a certain way, when we show affection to other people we rejoice in things with life we have a sense of peace and calmness despite the kind of tribulations that may go by we have that endurance the ability to stick on with things that may be difficult we show compassion and love a sense of gentleness kindness to others we want to bless others this all happens only with the work of the Spirit we continue to be loyal to whatever God has called us to do we stay humble and we always we ensure that we are controlled in our desires and in our wants so when as we read in 2 Corinthians 3 where the Spirit of the Lord is there there is freedom so the Holy Spirit is the one who brings about the ability for us to live a life that is controlled by the power of his Spirit and we live in that place of righteousness, peace and joy the Holy Spirit is the one who brings that as we read in Romans 14 17 so that's what we see when we are in accordance to the Holy Spirit the next part is our behavior now the whole of scripture talks about we see that the word of God is truth the word of God is faithful and it is true and so the truth of God's word is that's what corrects us gives us instructions it brings us to a place of rebuke it equips us as we read in 2 Corinthians 2 Timothy 2 Timothy 3 16 to 17 I'm just going to read that from another version apart from 2 Corinthians 3 16 to 17 it says all scripture is given by the inspiration of God what does it profit you it profits you for doctrine it profits you for reproof so what does it say it profits you for instruction it profits you for conviction of sin it profits you for discipline for correction it trains you it trains you in obedience it instructs you in righteousness and there is one more sorry lost it and for correction it's profitable for doctrine it's profitable for reproof for correction for instruction in righteousness so this is what God's word does so that we are qualified and we are equipped so that we are qualified and equipped for what for every good work so when we look into scripture we when we are able to see how we are misaligned by what God would like us to be or how we should be responding or how we should be behaving so when we focus on God when we focus on our love for God to please him it helps us to align ourselves in obedience to what God's word wants us to do so what we do what we say when if we are aligning ourselves with God's word which is truth which corrects us then we find that our relationships also work well it applies to anything that we do right our relationships work well so there are a lot of scripture that you will see again to show us throughout scripture there are nuggets of it but nevertheless we have taken two scriptures and maybe we will just read that so that we know and understand what as God's people as the people of God what kind of behavior should we be aligned to so could someone read Colossians chapter 3 verses 12 to 15 Colossians chapter 3 verses 12 to 15 Colossians 3 12 to 15 can someone read that please therefore as God's chosen people holy and dearly loved clothe yourselves with compassion kindness humility gentleness and patience bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another forgive as the Lord forgive you and over all these virtues put on love which binds them all together in perfect difference verse 15 to let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts since as members of one body you were called to peace and be thankful thank you Jaqen so you will see that some how the word instructs us on how we conduct ourselves how we need to behave so you know it's beautiful it says in Colossians 3 12 to 15 it says you must clothe yourself with what with compassion with kindness with humility gentleness patience being tolerant being forgiving verse 14 it says add love be in perfect unity verse 15 it says let the peace that God's given you help you or guide you in the decisions that you need to make be thankful right so and there is first Peter 3 7 to 11 also talks about that so looking at the word it shows us what we need to align our behaviors with okay so the first part we just looked at attitudes temperament as well as behavior we looked into scripture to see what are the Christ like attitudes that we have a choice to move into how we can our entire temperament or our personality needs to be controlled by the power of the Holy Spirit so that we manifest and we exhibit the fruit of the spirit and lastly the behavior how we can change and conduct ourselves differently by doing what the word says okay now in our next next hour we will look at how we can align ourselves into moving from our current attitudes temperament behavior to what God really desires of us okay we will take a break for 10 minutes its 10.51 on my clock we will resume back at 11.01 okay