 How to overcome fear and anxiety in 30 seconds be confident, okay? So I'm doing this video and you probably are under the assumption that I've always been confident That's not true at all as a matter of fact I was really shy as a young man and I wouldn't even stand up in class and read Apart from a book in class. I was so shy. I just couldn't do it I grew up in a really bad neighborhood So there was always a lot of fear because you never knew what was gonna happen You know where you're gonna get attacked where you're gonna get robbed So I would put on this facade of being tough, right? Because I had to get through that neighborhood now if you've got some fear and anxiety You're gonna want to watch this video to the very end because it could really really help you out and we're starting right now Now I want to share a story with you I want to take you back a number of years at one point I was in a business where I was one of the sales managers and I wasn't the highest level sales manager as a matter of fact I was just one of the regular managers there And we had a sales force and that the guy who actually ran this business who was the general manager Did all the sales meetings, which was great because I didn't want to get up and talk I couldn't talk in front of people that was too difficult for me because I was too shy to do that one-on-one I was fine talking in a group like that. I just couldn't do well It turned out one day that he was gonna retire. He was gonna move on and I had an opportunity to actually get his job But there was a big obstacle there. The big obstacle was I had to stand up And I had to talk because I would have to do the sales meetings and I knew I couldn't do it There's no way I could do that that would just wait to blow my mind. I couldn't do that Couldn't stand in front of these people to talk so I wanted the job really really bad So I decided I was gonna try to figure out how I could actually speak in front of people So every day I would get up early six o'clock in the morning and I would go to a toast master's International meeting and they made you stand up and do speeches in front of people in different subjects And I would do that every single day to the point where I actually got good at it started winning awards at it And I built up enough confidence so that when he actually retired I did get his job and I became the general manager now I share that story with you because things can change right you can change yourself There's things you can do to make yourself more confident, but how do you do that? Okay, so the first thing I'm gonna tell you is that number one fear is a natural thing. It's a natural thing Everybody has fear fear is an every human being on the face of the earth And it's there for good reason because if you didn't have fear you couldn't protect yourself right when you saw a dangerous situation If you've never had fear right you could get hurt, you know you get injured if you go back to when You know there were wild animals and we were living in caves if you didn't know to be fearful if you didn't know to run Okay, you could get hurt, but fear itself does not really exist There's no such thing as fear what it is is fear is an emotion fear comes out of your thoughts Right it doesn't come out of a real thing. Okay, so you know a broken arm is a real thing fear is not really a real thing It's an emotion It's how you're reacting to whatever situations there and it's super important that you understand this up front that Fear is just an emotion and emotions can be controlled. Okay, so that's what we want to do with fear and anxiety Is we actually want to change it now? How do we change an emotion? Well, the only way you can change an emotion is through physiological changes So your physiological change is actually control your emotions now I want you to think about when you're fearful When you're anxious when you're scared and you know, what do you like at that moment? Okay? You're you're probably closed, you know body you may have your arms crossed You may be leaning down you may keep your head down you may walk in a hunched-over manner and this here is What causes that fear? It's your physiological Response to whatever that situation is maybe that you got to go out on stage and talk Maybe it's you got to go through a scary neighborhood, you know, whatever it is That's what's causing that emotion of fear and keep in mind Emotions or reactions to situations, you know, and your brain causes this fear factor thing. So how do you change it? What do you do? Well, the first thing you need to do is you need to understand what fear is Since it is an emotion it can be caused by external forces It can be caused by you know, your spouse it can be caused by your boss your kids the economy Interest rates, you know all these things can cause this reaction of fear and anxiety But you got to understand that these are all external things that you can't change So, you know if the interest rates get really high, I don't think unless you're you're in charge of the you know Federal Reserve, I don't think you can change the interest rates I don't think you can change the economy and it's equally difficult to change other human beings Such as your boss or your kids or your spouse All you can really do is you can react to that situation in a different way And I don't mean saying well, I'm not fearful because that normally doesn't work You literally you literally have to change what your physiology is. You have to change what your body is Yeah, the thing to remember is that emotion is created by motion. Okay? Emotions created by motion So if you change your motions if you change how you stand and how you hold your shoulders and how you lift up your head And how you walk, you're going to disintegrate that fear You actually really will but you have to physically take it on first So what you have to really do is you have to experience the fear and then check your body check yourself talk What are you telling yourself? Are you telling yourself? Oh my god. This is a super dangerous neighborhood I need to really worry and it could be a super dangerous neighborhood And you maybe you need to worry about that stuff, but you do not want to appear fearful You can't appear fearful because then you would become a target in that neighborhood And I actually learned all this growing up in my neighborhood, right? We we learned how to come across tough and mean because if you didn't you would look fearful And if you look fearful you're going to be a target. So you didn't want to be a target So the first thing I'll tell you is Let's say you were confident. Let's say you were confident in you know a particular neighborhood Let's say it was a super nice neighborhood and it was beautiful outside and you know, there were no crime around you How would you physiologically be, you know, what how would your walk be? What would your shoulders be would your head be held up and you got to get into that frame of mind? Okay, same thing if you're going out on a stage and you need to talk to a large group of people And let's say you were super confident about it. How would you walk out on that stage? How would you hold your shoulders? How would you hold your arms? You know, would you be looking down or would you have your head up? And you have to get into that physical being if you get into that physical being and you start doing it What happens is your brain starts to shift and it says, oh, okay My body's doing this. So I must not be fearful anymore because physiologically His body is saying he's confident. So I must be confident and this actually will work You've got to force yourself to do this I know it's a crazy thought and I had to learn it myself because you know I was that kid who wouldn't stand up in class and even read from a book I was too scared too nervous and I ended up becoming a professional speaker on down the road You know speaking to hundreds of people so it was all in fake confidence fake confidence Now you say, well gosh, I can't fake confidence You can fake confidence actually you can change the way you stand the way you look the way you feel If you change your physiology first Now I'll tell you this. This is not something to only be practice when you're fearful Okay, it's not something like that. You need to practice this throughout the day Okay, if you're in a grocery store if you're driving your car if you're if you're buying a sandwich You know say I'm going to go up to the counter and I'm going to be a very confident person And I'm going to hold my shoulders up and I'm going to hold my head up and I'm you know, I'm going to drop my arms I'm going to not do a protection type stance and I'm going to go order my food with confidence, you know And in a situation like that, you're probably not fearful But you may not be coming across confident And if you do this, you know several times a day whether it's going to the gym You know and and some people are nervous to even go to the gym They feel like they're basically looking at them They feel like you know, there's problems around them. They feel like they may not look right You know, but if you go into the gym and act confident people will notice the confidence It doesn't matter, you know, how much weight you can lift or you know What your body shape is if you come across confident people get it they see it And you'll be surprised a lot of your fear that you're having now Is unfounded. In other words, you may be fearful Of what people think of you and they're not even thinking about you They're thinking about their own situation. They're thinking about their own fears their own problems So, you know changing this fear this anxiety thing understand It's just an emotion. It's an emotion to your thoughts and your thoughts come from what you see around you And you know, you got to get a handle on it. I will tell you your life will open up so much more You'll be so much more free to do so many other things You know, I know when I learned to do the sales meetings all those years ago It's opened me up to a lot of things, you know, I can speak in front of groups of people Actually, it started a business for me. I actually went on the road and became, you know, professional at training salespeople So, you know, it's amazing if you kind of push those fears and I will tell you Probably the most important things you can do in life are the things you fear the most Those are the things that are going to make you grow. Those are the things that are going to give you opportunities Those are the things that will make you grow as a human and more importantly Those are the things that will let you enjoy life more because if you do these things you're fearful of You know provided that it's not, you know, physical harm to your body But if you do these things that you're fearful of you will build a confidence and that confidence in that one area I guess what it'll do. It'll spill over to other areas. You know, if you say well I can't speak in front of groups and you learn to speak in front of groups, you know You may find out that, you know, all of a sudden you can do other things. Maybe you could make videos Maybe you could write. Maybe you could do other things because you've gained that one confidence in that one area And that will spill over to other parts of your life, you know So I would suggest to you try these things throughout the day. Try to change your physiology Try to change how you stand and you walk and how you look people in the eyes and give them a smile Okay, be friendly talk to a stranger every now and then. Oh my god. That's such a scary thing to do It was so scary for me as a kid to talk to anybody And now I have no problem talking to a stranger and when you talk to these people I will suggest that you act interested in them. Don't try to impress them with yourself I think that's the number one mistake people make is they say well I try to talk to people but I just can't quite make friends and I I feel like people don't like me And it's because you're trying to impress them with who you are. Don't do that Ask them about their situation ask them about their family their kids their interests Where they went for lunch or what did they think about something ask their opinions on things And you'll find that a lot of people will start to like you and you'll become less fearful And you'll have less anxiety and you'll enjoy life that much more So take it to heart guys. I was one of those people who's super super shy And I'm not anymore because I know that that fear is useless. It doesn't do me any good Okay, nothing's going to hurt me out there. I'm not worried about any of those things And guess what they're not going to hurt you either. So try those things out Give me your comments below. Tell me how this has worked out for you. Tell me what you've done Tell me about some of your fears. I'd love to hear about it. Put it in the comments below now Don't forget if you haven't subscribed yet, please do so subscribe below. 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