 I'm going to try to get out right now. OK. Welcome to Dare to Dream Award-winning podcast. I've been doing this show for 13 amazing years this June. And how fortunate am I to have come across this? I was just talking to somebody in the music business today. And it's always really interesting for me to experience my roots when I share with somebody. Like, I'm always moved when somebody's in the music business because that was my life for so long. I come from lineage in my family, who's who in international music composers, Grammy winners, and so forth. And I was a singer, a professional singer and actress for most of my life. But that hasn't been my reality for a long time. This has been my reality. So what I do is this show. What I do is master level conversations with people like I'm going to bring on today. And what I do is I offer to you how to write your book, how to get your book taken to a guaranteed international bestseller, and how you can be interviewed on radio and podcast with great results. So that said, I was having a conversation with somebody today. And I thought it was worth repeating. This is something I really want to go back and watch myself. Apparently, Bernay Brown was in 16 minutes. And he'd never seen her before. So it's really great when someone new gets introduced to Bernay Brown. And apparently, she was talking about all the things she talks about and we know about. And so interesting, the interviewer had asked her. And of course, this is hearsay, what my friend told me. But the interviewer had asked Bernay Brown, I see you've written this many books. And I understand your books are self-help. And she said, I really don't prefer that word. I really prefer the idea that we help each other. And my friend, he's a man, he started getting really choked up when he was saying this. And it just was really appreciating his emotion around it. Because I'm feeling the same. I'm watching people come together and help in ways that are really important. And I had a neighbor who stopped by and knows I have absolutely no wipes today. And she went out of her way to somebody else's house who picks up lots of things like that and gave me half. So I'm sad. And I have somebody else who ran and got me a painter's mask. At a time when all the things I ordered like that, all the packages literally got shut down and transit. Because all the hospitals are meeting them, so they're re-appropriating. So I didn't do anything. This was the angel's hands taking care of me. I'm super grateful and I'm super receiving. Aside from Bernay Brown saying something so beautiful, and I hope you're one of those receiving, giving at the same time. And I think it's a really important time, how we show up showing up. I also think it's really interesting that, my friend was saying the one who's got all choked up about how spiritual this time feels and how interesting. And it seems a very interesting person to be noticing things like that. And I said, yeah, I think it's like God said, I'm shutting it down, man. I've been trying to get your attention and you're not. You're killing each other. You're killing the planet. You're killing your animals. You're over consuming and it's exhausting. And I want you to stop. And I've been asking you to connect with me for like a really long time and here I am. And what more powerful way than to shut us all in inside our homes and say, okay, deal. Okay, deal. And I also wanna be very empathetic and compassionate right now. Because it is said that none of us are gonna go unscathed through this time. That we're all gonna know somebody. I already do. I already know somebody who died in New York. The story is so horrible. It's so horrible. His widow who had to go, she's infected too, but not like him, left her apartment to claim his body at the hospital and had to be sent back to her apartment to be quarantined for the next week. So she's grieving all alone. It's unthinkable. So send her love as I say this, you know? Her name is Jan and she lives in New York and just send her love. That's all, everything's energy. And I know somebody else who got tested, two people and I know because of their circumstances, they are probably infected. And so it's gonna keep going. So it's really important this time how we show up. And I don't mean this out of fear. I mean it really like who we are, who we really are, our oversold being. This is more important than ever, ever, ever before. So, okay. I'm going to start our show. So those of you who are interested, and this is saying I'm no longer alive. Boy, this is a pain in the kahuna here. All right, if I have to start again, I have to start again. And but somebody else says I see you. So if you can keep typing, that would be great. It looks like it's moving. So I'm gonna assume something's happening here unless I hear otherwise. Doing my best with this very interesting, interesting equipment right now. So we are on radio, on podcast, also on social media live all at the same time. And what a glorious time to be doing all of the above. So if you don't mind, great. Thank you Jennifer for letting us know we are seen. Yay. So today's show with Debbie Dashinger Dare to Dream on the podcast, I'm gonna be featuring the business intuitive and the medical intuitive, my friend and colleague, Sherry Unsharm. I'm so excited to introduce you to her. She's going to be taking your questions. We're also gonna be having conversations. So chat below. I also ask you to subscribe to all of the Dare to Dream shows for these conversations. 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Do you wanna heal today at the cellular level? Well, my guest, medical business intuitive Sherry Anshara is an international bestselling author, professional speaker, former radio host of conscious healing and contributing writer to national and international publications about the Anshara method of accelerated healing and abundance and wellness. Sherry utilizes her experience and expertise as a medical intuitive for the groundbreaking work she does with cellular memory. She can help you rid yourself of unwanted limitations, restrictions, negative thought patterns and toxic behaviors at the cellular level. To learn more about her, sherryanshara.com. And I welcome Sherry Anshara to the Dare to Dream show. Sherry, welcome. So great to have you. Thank you. I am so delighted, thrilled and honored to be here. Yeah, this is so great. Finally, finally. So we just were talking in your bio about Anshara method gets rid of old traumas, limitations, negative thoughts. I cannot think of a better time to have you here talking about this. So cellular waves are what we're referring to. How does that work? How do you access what's happening in somebody? And then how do you rearrange that? So it's a healthy wave instead. Well, your body is the intelligence and intellect. Your brain, they keep searching for intelligence and brains. It's not gonna happen. And plus we're only utilizing half the brain as a computer, but the body stores all of this fabulous cellular memory, but it gets memorized over by belief systems. Like, you're not good enough Debbie, or you're not smart enough, or you can't do this, or you know, program, program, program, which I call duality. But the cellular memory, it's as simple as that. If you cut yourself, whether you put an antibiotic or not, the body knows how to heal itself, correct? You don't have to sit around and wait. It just begins right away. So in this method that I created, all emotions, all emotions are the foundation of every issue in your tissues. Because emotional, mental, physical, spiritual, financial, those five words mean the same thing. Is it your clear consciousness, or is it based on a belief system in one of those paradigms within you that says you can't do it, or you don't have the intelligence, or you don't have the where for all, we didn't come from the right family, or you didn't come from the right place. So all that is memorization, but your body can access the core of the trauma within 10 minutes or less. So core of trauma, and the dramas, and the dramas, and the mamas. So what is that like for you? What is it that you see? That's what I'm curious about. What is it like to be you while this is happening? Well, actually, I'm very grateful because as an intuitive medical, you know what, intuition is so simple. It just means a natural innate ability to discern. That's all that means, like trust your gut. So are we discerning that this is working for us or not? And that's based on feeling, feeling, not thinking, thinking, because how many times do we talk ourselves out of self? So as a medical intuitive, and even as a business intuitive, I have the ability to look into that person or that business and see where their structure got goofed up. I'll give you an example. I had a lady come to me and she had these tremendous headaches. Now remember, trauma drama. And I said, you have the starting of a tumor and it is non-cancerous. It's in your right brain that goes to the female side. So some of your left brain, I mean, your right brain goes to the female left side. So I said, somewhere you're being restricted. And then I met her husband. I'm not blaming her husband, but he was a control freak. And actually in two of the sessions, I had to throw him out. And so it took about four months before the technology picked it up. And guess what? It was a tumor in her right brain. And when she began to realize, with the realize that she was holding herself back. Now we're not blaming him because how you're treated is how we give people permission to treat us. And so we were able to resolve that. Did she have surgery? That's what she opted for. And it didn't do any damage. But that is how she processed her anger, her frustration and being controlled. Somebody could create cancer, which is eating yourself up alive, or somebody can create an addiction. And by the way, addictions at the very emotional core of addictions is desperation for attention. Explain that one. Why is it desperation for attention? So when there is an addict in the family, it doesn't matter what kind of addict it is, who gets all the attention? That's so true. That is so true. There's, well, because I've been in a relationship with an addict before and I know what that's like. And there is a definite narcissism to that where, yeah, they control all the attention. And then the disabling enabler actually then goes into a victim program of all I've done for you. And then you keep doing it. And all that does is make the energy, which is physical, explode. Because energy is actually a byproduct. It's either a byproduct of being conscious and healthy or it's a byproduct of all these belief systems that I call duality, the BS programs. And so that is what happens, but at the emotional core of every addiction has to do with desperation for attention. Wow, isn't that powerful? And that's a wave then that people, this is healable, right? I mean, besides going to AA or another 12 step program, but this is doable. This is something that you can help to assuage so that people can actually heal from the addiction. Well, actually the need for the attention is the real problem and whatever's underneath that. Is that what you access? Absolutely. And when it started, when it started, and I'll give you an example, I had a new client that was the number one kid for seven years in the family. And then the second kid came along. So she had it all going on until she was seven. And then this kid came on who happened to be the boy, the son, the God, whatever, I'm kidding, but it wasn't that way. And then she had to start doing some kind of behavior to get everyone's attention. And that actually set up the firestorm, that wave, that particle wave based on addiction and would do anything. And then that would happen in her relationships with men. No, this is not writing or wronging it, but that is really that recycle bin of duality that sideways figurative infinity. It's just an infinity of oops, I did it again. Oops, I did it again and oops, I did it again. That sounds like a song I know. I know it sounds like a song I know too, we all do. And so when you get to the core of the information and fear is only lack of information. It's one of my cores. And one of the first steps I teach is Neil, non-emotional observer. So when you begin to observe yourself, it's not like, geez, I was stupid or I was wrong. You know, you were a kid and your brain's not developed over 25 or 26. So we do the best we can with what we have. And so when you're able to get to that place, oh my God, I've had people help people off of crystal math. I assisted him really to get his sex addiction. I said, you know, it's okay that you have, but if you're not having any fun at it, then it's no fun. I wondered about that one. I wonder what was the downside to that one? Not making having a connection. Because then it becomes wham, bam, thank you, ma'am, but there's no thank yous for it. So then it makes a difference. I mean, two of my clients wrote in a book I wrote, it's called the intelligence code. But there's two chapters in there called quantum sex, quantum relationships of how I taught them to connect, and these are CEOs of their own companies. They're very successful and very nationally known. What a difference it made for them in this relationship. So all the baggage that they bagged in an age, you know, they were able to jump it instead of keep hanging on and hanging on and repeating, and their conversations changed. So I always say, when it gets into those, the towel should say his or her is the next. Okay, so here's a question. We are in the pandemic. I brought up some of that in the beginning with Renee Brown and saying, you know, it's time to become a community. Some of my points of view about, you know, it's a wink, wink, nudge, nudge about God, God is shutting down the, you know, the planet right now to say, hey, this is not going well. This is not going right. This is not going where it's supposed to go. And yet, whatever this is, we are in the pandemic. I brought up some of that. Ah, this is so hilarious. This live is really like actually on crack to be honest, but I'm going to keep the sound off and see if I can keep working on this because the live is going a little bit. Banana is here, but it says we're live. I'm going to just trust it. Maybe that it's not a great connection. And I have to just trust whatever this is, whether I just end up talking to Sherry or we end up going deeper. With other people. I hope we really hope we can because I know she's showing up for you. And, and cool. So we also have a question. So let's deal with the pandemic. Sherry, I apologize for that. Do people have to get sick? Is there a worry to get sick? What is your contention in all of this? What is fated not fated? And how would you respond to the concerns and the perception of the virus at this time? Okay. I'll give it like a bigger picture and then we'll narrow it in. Okay. So as a bigger picture, I look at this as sort of the in between times. We're going from the old world to the new world. You know, we're going across the ocean. We're either on the Neenah, the Pinta, the Santa Maria or some boat, whatever. And some of us will fall off because we will hold on to these, uh, debilitating belief systems. The joy of it. And I've been talking about it in these in between times that we are now cocooned in our homes, whatever that is. So to me, that is the metaphor, but also the physicality of to begin to connect to our own self. So part of our issue is based on worth and value that we're not worthy enough or we don't have value. But when we begin to connect to ourselves, as you call the source God, that we connect to that heart, which is the most expanded resonance in our body. Not because I say so because actually science has, you know, resonated and the brain is like this little P brain up here, more or less in half of it. So this is an opportunity to go inside and make connections to our own self first. In this past week, I've talked to somebody I've known since the 30th grade. Another person since I've known since the 12th grade, I have friends that are calling me and sometimes I will call them and if they don't answer, you know, one of the things I say, you don't have to call me back. I just would like to hear your voice just and they call me back. And they said, you know what? It made a difference for them. So that is a connection because we do, you know, Facebook and all this stuff, but that is a real connection here in the voice. And then we have the opportunity to go inside and start asking ourselves. And I've got clients and myself writing it down. What is really the worth of my life? What is really the value of my life and these connections and these people in my life? Does that make sense? You know, yes. Very much so. Because that's actually my experience. Everything from. People and connection and how people are showing up. I've always been someone who's ice. I have a sense of how finite life can be. And so I've always been someone who expresses to people. You know, if I love you, I have had, as you know, a recent breakup with somebody and I'm really contending with, I think I need to complete with this person. I really do. I need to like have everything said. And this is the most amazing time to do that. And I understand as far as. People we knew, but it even feels like it's extending out to people we haven't known that well, how we're showing up. You know, I actually had a girl call me on Sunday that saw some of my postings and she lives here in Scottsdale. And we talked and she said, I have to meet you. She said, you have been inspiring me because I don't know what. She said, because of the way that you're explaining this. And so in making these connections, look what your neighbor did for you. Because, but this is the change. You know, you know, I'm going to change this that we've been taught to do something to or for someone or they do it to or for us. But in this paradigm shift, we can start doing it with each other. Which is so wonderful. We've all been so separate. We've been separated from God's source universe. We've been separated from each other. We've been separated from ourselves. Yeah. We've all been separated from God's source universe. We've been separated from each other. We've been separated from ourselves. Yes. And that is the point of it is that we don't have to do this separation anymore that in that connection. And we've been taught to be fearful of ourselves. We've been taught to be afraid of our own power. I mean, I wrote a book. I put a plug here called Take Back Your Power, You Becoming You. It's really a manual on how to do it. Because I love sharing with people that if you do this, this will happen. If you don't, it won't happen. It's okay. But we've been taught to self judge ourselves that, you know, that we don't have the good enough, whatever it is. So this to me is a time to connect with people. I love that. I have something to add there. I also, when I'm listening to your list, besides judgment and criticize and sabotage, we also sacrifice ourselves, right? There's a lot of us out there who have learned for whatever wound we grew up with. Oh, I think I just show up here and keep giving and enabling and giving and giving until I'm empty. And then I'm going to resent the F out of you, right? And I think it's really interesting. Also, paradigm shift, no more sacrifice. It's doing a with, it's not codependence or independence. It's interdependence. Yes. And Cubby coin that years ago. So that's why I love it. And I teach horology is your biology. So I love that withness. Now, give me an example. I was at the bank. This is what you have to do. And you can't go in. You have to do the drive through. And it was like 30 minutes. So while I was in that line, when I got up, there are three people and you can tell they were like exhausted. You know, because people were crabby and all. So I got up and I said, you know what, just thank you so much for being here. You guys are on the front line. You should have seen their faces light up. And thanked me profusely. That is what we've got to begin to do is use our language, whatever it is, in a more productive way to have those with connections. But it has to come from the heart. It's the only place to start because all that matters, which is physical matter is what matters from the heart. And so to me, these are opportunities to make connections, even the stuff that I've been posting on Facebook, because I understand about energy and energy is physical. I've cleared properties and, you know, homes and buildings all over this country, either there or whatever. But when it's, when we are spewing from our bodies into a room, I'm stuck. I hate it. Why do I have to run? That energy, which is thick, snotty, gelatinous, goopy, sticky, icky is actually embedded in your walls. It's embedded in your furniture. You know what, I'm still seeing clients and they're very safe. And a couple of them said, I love coming here because I feel safe and I feel secure. Or even when we're working on the phone. But the point of it is what I'm sending out to them is just support and listening. And this is another opportunity that we stop hearing hearing through these computer brain ears. Because when we do that, we filter from our programming in the past. But when you get into listen, let's take this deeper, Sherri, because we have people writing in who want to interact with you. And I'm, thank you guys for sending your questions. I'm so happy that you're doing it. Because what an auspicious time to connect with somebody like this and PS, I'm just saying as a metaphysician, don't you know that this is another reason spiritually. I'm very clear this is happening because people like Sherri and other magnificent, brilliantly gifted people that I hang with in a regular basis. Guess what? No more being buried under middle America or question. Now is the time where then ever the people are turning to them because, you know, as light worker, we're here. It's finally our time. So Sherri, here's the first question. This is from Amy. I'm just going to give the first name. Amy says, my question is Sherri, is my hip pain related to something locking my forward movement in my life's work and financial growth. And I'll add to that or otherwise. That's Amy's question. Absolutely. And I'd like her to tell me which hip is it left or right? And then we'll go in a deeper dive. Okay. Amy, I'm going to need you to write. And I'll do the general of that. Okay. I'll do the general of it. The hips are actually in the old seven chakra system. Cause I teach 13. Is the creative chakra. And it's how we create the female side creates in the male side. Manifestous. Manufacturing. Manipulates. It's not gender. And so when we have hip issues, that's our creative chakra. But if you look at the first chakra, that's the pubic bone and the tailbone. When we're holding on to belief systems that says you can't do this or you're, you're not qualified. Whatever you're doing, whatever you're doing, whatever you're doing, whatever you're doing, whatever you're doing, whatever you're doing after you move on to space, or you're not qualified whatever qualification is. You can't do that. That energy now, the movement you talked about the movement, we'll move up to the second chakra. And we will get shut down. That's why people are able to create something, but they're not able to manifest it or actualize it. Cool, And Amy writes in it is on the right hip that is giving her that. somewhere she's blocked in there. And see, I work in the unconscious. The subconscious is the, your body's like a house. So the subconscious would be like your attic, your garage, your closet. You know you have to clean it out and it's there. But where I work is in the unconscious, how it got programmed so that right hip has to do in the creative process of not being able to take the step in the manifesting it, and then the next step is to actualize it. How can she assuage this pain, this blockage, if you will, for her life's work, for her finances and make it an easy way for her to move forward instead? What would have to happen? Okay, then she'd have to recognize when it starts. Now I don't know, I just know her name, but what's intuitive to me is this really began at seven years old for her, second grade. So it could be someone in her family that was an authority figure that said, you know, like the boy can do it, but you can't do it. Now this is what I'm intuiting. And usually it happens. So when you, and this isn't without judgment. And so there is a fear. So this is what fear does, lack of information. That's all fear is. It's not false evidence appearing real. But in that fear, we will validate the invalidation of ourselves to validate the authority figure outside of us that said you can't do it, so we will validate them. And so I'll give you an example. I work with this client and her dad was going, for 30 years he hated his job, he hated his job. And he would tell everybody, I hate my job. And he would tell her, don't do it. Well, she ended up working for a company in an area for 35 years and hated it. And when we got to the core, she was actually validating her dad by invalidating herself. And when she figured that out, she was out of that job like this, like this, completely out of it. And began to develop a different relationship with her father. And this was all going on unconscious. And that's what we've been taught to do. I have a saying, I am the only one that can validate me. And for those outside of me who validate me, I thank them, whoever they are, it doesn't matter. And for those that don't, oh, well. So that's how it is. Self-sustaining and self-validation. Well, I'm hoping Amy that that helped. And if you pick up anything else for her, we'll go back to that. I'm gonna take a very quick break here. We'll be back in just a minute. We have other questions for Sherry. This is Debbie Daschinger on Dare to Dream. And if you would like to write a chapter in an anthology book, I'm producing a book called Dogs Are Paradise. It's positively fantastic. Go to debbd.net slash anthology. It's D-E-B-B-I-D dot net slash anthology. You can be a published author and not have to write an entire book. I am having everything done for the authors, the editing, the formatting, the book cover, the launch to international bestseller, the publishing, the print book, and the ebook. How does it get any better than that? So if you have a story to tell about a dog, canine, vet, service dog, you've been a dog, whatever the story is, we vet each other and I make sure you're a great fit for the project. Go to debbd.net because if you have a tail or a tail to tell, we'd love to have you aboard. And Amy says, thank you, awesome, great to hear. If you're just tuned in, it's so funny how my mouth is so much faster than my brain or vice versa. So I'm trying to catch and think everything up. This is Debbie Dashinger, dare to dream, award-winning podcast, great to have you. I'm speaking with Sherry Anshara. She developed the Quantum Pathic Energy Method. She's a medical intuitive and gets to the core of your issues, but she also can help you as a business intuitive for a solution. You can find out more about her at SherryAnshara.com. And I wanna go back up to the next question that we have and thanks for joining. And folks, if she's saying something that's helping and she's addressing your question, just type in below, I'm doing my best gorilla job here to keep with Sherry. Well, I've been doing this a long time. So it's not that hard for me, with Sherry, but also with you at the same time. So we've got a question right now, Sherry. The name is Siddiqui. I'm gonna spell it for you in case it makes an energetic difference for someone who does words. It's S-S-N-S-M-I-D-D-I-Q-I, Siddiqui. Siddiqui Ray says, my question is, my migraines, what else can I do to treat them? What is the underlying cause? Thank you. Okay, and migraines, if you look at the word, it's migraine, the irritation. Migraines start in that first chakra of the pubic bone and the tailbone. So what I'm feeling about your migraine is when you get overstressed and energy is physical. It's physical. It's thick, snotty, gelatinous, goopy, sticky, icky, but that you are holding on in that migraine of you. And actually I feel that this started in the womb that you are missing something, that you did not have the full potential to create your life the way you do it. And so that is like a headbutt, you know what I mean? So this is the crown and this is the base chakra. And so I was at a luncheon once and they said in nine seconds, tell us what you do. And I said, well, I assist people to take their head out of their assets that are working. And so that is what I see is the migraine and I feel that your shoulders are real heavy of taking on responsibility. If someone's happy it's your fault, Siddiqui, or if they're miserable or happy it's your fault. You cannot be responsible for them. It's called responsible. So it's being responsive. And so you've taken on too much that physical energy bottles up, it comes all the way up your spinal column, hits your shoulders and it goes into your head and it swells. The physical molecules of emotions are thick snouted gelatin, scuby sticky. So they get embedded in your brain cells which are fat cells that hold toxins. And then it swells up against the cranium and then pushes on all the tissue around your head. The scalp. And that is the basis of this physical emotional issue in your first chakra, that's your migraines. And it doesn't matter how much drugs you take, it's not going to get to the core of this that I feel started in the womb with you, with your parents not judging them. That's pretty huge. With your parents period, I'm not judging them period. Yeah, because you can. But it could be the dynamics of their belief systems, the BS. And I feel that this person is fighting against themselves. Like people say, I'm hitting my head against the wall, I keep hitting my, I stop, it feels good, but then I hit myself again. And that is metaphorically, but that's what I feel, that you are just hitting your head against the cement block wall. Well, the next part of her question, Sherry, is what else can I do to treat them? This is somebody who does long meditation and has a spiritual practice and has tried different doctor type methodologies and anyway still played with these migraines. What can she do? Forget about treating them. I'm gonna take that question deeper. What can she do to resolve this? Okay, in order to have a solution, you have to have a resolution. And because of the wonderful worker facilitation that she does, again, she's taking on responsibility. If someone gets better, it's her fault. If they don't, it's her fault. She is, even though you meditate, it's wonderful, but you're still not getting to the core issues of this. This is very much a self-judgment, becoming Neo, non-emotional observer and beginning to observe what is my behavior. You cannot be responsible for someone. You can't make anybody happy or miserable. You can support them in either one or not. So it's being responsive, but you've got to respond to yourself first. And that's why it's a recycle bin that sizeways figure eight of infinity. Oops, I did it again and then again. And then we have a respite. The respite is when it stops and then we go back into that recycle bin of all of the self-judgment of hers, that she's competing with herself. Okay. I hope that was helpful, Siddiqi. Thank you for your question. That's awesome. I'm gonna ask a generic question for people, Sherry. Let's see, what do I wanna tap into? Yeah, what the heck? Why do people sabotage themselves? This is a great time for people to look at the man in the mirror, look at the woman in the mirror. Why do we sabotage ourselves? What is going on there that would even make us wanna do that even unconsciously? Because when we sabotage, we're actually validating the invalidation of ourselves. We are giving our power. See, we've mixed it up on this planet. Force is left, brain, right, like force. I'm gonna force you to do this. I'm gonna force you, but that's not power. So when people do that, they're actually giving their power away and they're attempting to convince somebody else and no one can be convinced. So then it is a recycle of that sabotage, okay? How about this is going so great. Now this is unconscious and sometimes subconscious. This relationship, this experience, this business, whatever it is, is going so great. But, but head for chakra of duality. When is the axe gonna fall? And then we create the axe. It's called sabotage. And then we are in, here it goes again, here it comes. Or I thought that person was somebody else. So one of the things that I teach also is profiles. Behaviors in roles. We have to know our own profile so we don't attract in the law of distraction an experience, a business, a person to re-sabotage ourselves over and over and over again. Can you explain that? Cause I feel like I like that, what you're saying cause it feels like an FBI profile which I always found very interesting. I'd like to be profile. I should have been a profile. That's what my friends said that are in the law enforcement. What is that? What is a profile? How do we profile ourselves? How do we, like I feel like I'm intimate with myself. I think I am, but like, what does that even mean? Okay, so I take people out of thinking into feeling. So here, there's a famous actress out there. I'm not gonna name her, what her name. But her initials are, but her initials are E.T. And she was married to the same man. Elizabeth Taylor. Yeah, they were all alcoholic abusers, all of them. It didn't matter what they did, you know, and Richard got us, you know, twice. My favorite husband of hers was Larry Fortunski. She met him at May 4, and only cost her five million months. That wasn't even enough for one of her settings, got it? But four of her besties were gay and they were all drug addicts, alcoholics. If you look back in their life, they would even kill themselves from it. And so then her son, from what I understand in research, married a billionaire granddaughter and she overdosed. So that is a profile. We recognize the behavior. I use myself a lot of times as an example. I married a man that was my mom. He was so wanty-needy and like my mom, she was wonderful, but she was fabulous wanty-needy. Oh my God, I can't say I'm wanty-needy. But I thought I was getting my brothers. This is not incestuous, but they were a lot older than me and they were very dynamic businessmen and entrepreneurs. This man was brilliant at their age and he had not one entrepreneurial cell in his entire body. So I became the husband, I became the entrepreneur. So I knew that behavior of my mother, that, you know, I was always trying and trying, but just trying in her wanty-needy to fix her. That's the fixer. So that's a role. And so I don't do wanty-needy anymore and it changes the vocabulary. I don't want or need anything, but it's what I require, which is action and desire and deserve. Because deserve means to serve yourself first when the plane's going down, take the oxygen. But when we're in that wanty-needy, that's a profile behavior and role. And if you start looking at some of the people in your life, this isn't judging. Why do, not why do I love them? Why do I like them? And that's deeper. Like is much deeper than love. And why don't I like them? So there's actually a gal that lives here in the valley. Debbie, she drives me crazy. I do not like this woman at all in the like mode. But every time I see her, I go, she is such a blessing because I know that something in her is triggering me and it's all about me, not her. And so every time I see her, I'm like so thrilled to see her. Now doesn't that make more, because I know that she is a profile that's gotta be stuck in me somewhere. Now when I see her, I'm just happy. I don't have that. But before I had a reaction at one scene too, but now I have a response. So Shari, you've profiled yourself, right? And you realize, okay, the guys I'm ending up with not working for me, I'm marrying mom with a penis. That's great, but I've already done wanty-needy. So you go to desire, which is serving yourself first. So you have always no beautiful words, but I'm wondering what is the bridge that got you there? I mean, is it just a language? Yes, languaging, recognizing my own behavioral patterns by becoming Neil. That's quantum physics in action. You know, you plant a seed, you just put it in the ground and you watch it and some green sprout will come up. It can be a tree, it can be anything. It can be a tomato plant. But Neil. Sorry, go ahead. No, it's just observing and not getting emotional. The non-emotional, because when we get emotional, we're stuck in the past. You know what? You just said something, I gotta stop there. That was so big, and I really needed to hear that. So I just wanna reiterate what you said was the non-attachment. Because that was what I'm after here is the why. You know, I am a major mofo manifestor, major. But I also have this column here where like it's more efforting, right? Not as much manifestor. And so I've always wondered like, what? Like I live in this realm where a lot of people sit back and go, how are you doing that? It's like, right? Scooby-Doo. But you just told me something. So it happened again today, and I shared with you before we got on, I have some place to go. I'm gonna tell you right now, my best friend is pissed off at me that I'm going. She gave me such a hard time. I had to freaking meditate because I was feeling her anxiety as an empath without me going where I'm going at a time like this. But I'm clear I'm going with God and the angels. I know what I'm doing, and I'm doing a lot of due diligence. However, I also know I need to protect myself. Couldn't find a face mask. They're completely sold out. They've all been diverted to the hospitals. Cannot find disinfectants. Same, I could go on with the list, but then this takes it to another level. But I couldn't buy into her fear. I am clear, right? When my emotional wave says, you's going girl, so I'm going. But I was non-attached. And as you know, a neighbor knocked on my door and she went to someone else's house and brought me Clorox disinfectants. Someone who's in my life called me. This was all unexpected, unplanned. I didn't ask. He called me out of nowhere and said, oh, I found a painter's mask, a brand new painter's mask that I asked someone for for you. Like people are giving me and contributing. Why? Zero attachment, right? Yes, zero attachment. And now you're being with yourself so they can be with you. That's what support is. C'è l'alluno med somari. That's what I'm talking about. Absolutely. Isn't this just the best fricking thing ever? That's the best fricking thing. Oh my God. Oh my God. Okay. This is huge. This is huge. This is big. Hooj. Okay. Well, we're going to take a quick break. We have another question. We come back and we will get to that. Thank you for your patience, your patience right now. And I hope you're getting something a lot out of this conversation. Because frankly, it's for you. It's for me. It's for all of us at a really amazing time. We have such a beautiful person showing up. Sherri-Anne Scharn. I'm really so grateful for this conversation. Folks, I'm Debbie Daschinger. I'm a media visibility shaman. And I help clients to express their unique roar. I just wrote that today. I love that. I'm going to say it again. I help you express your unique roar. I identify so much with lions. I have a Leo ascending. So that makes so much sense. I am a certified coach. I offer groups as well as individual sessions. I help you write a page turner book. I have a company that guarantees your book goes to international bestseller. And I show you how to be interviewed on radio and podcast and get results and get booked today. This folks is a time when you're locked inside and you're not sure how to get yourself visibly out. Books, bestsellers, interviews, ta-da. This is your time. I am telling you capitalize. Go to DebbieDashinger.com. I am happy to help you. And if you would like to write a chapter in an anthology book, go to DebbieD.net slash anthology. And you can write a chapter about a dog or a puppy. Welcome back. I am speaking with Sherri-Anshara. She's at Sherri-Anshara.com and she is a medical and business intuitive. And bringing back the beautiful Sherri. Sherri, we've got a question. And this one is from Corinne. Gonna spell her name. I don't know if this means anything, but I like spellings. C-O-R-I-N, Corinne. She says, my question is, what should be my focus for the next phase of my business? So this is a business intuitive question. What should be the focus for the next phase of Corinne's business? I feel discombobulated like so many entrepreneurs right now. Any insights or clarity would be awesome and helpful. Okay, this is what I'll say. First, you have to stay in the moment. Stop projecting into a future that hasn't been created yet. And this is what I teach to business people. So let's say you set an objective by November 12th. I'm just making this up. By November 12th, this is what my goal, my accomplishment, my vision is my dream to make it real. So we already know we have set a date. Now stay in the moment because here is how it works when we throw our energy in the future. So tomorrow morning from nine to noon, I'm gonna sleep in. I'm going to work with clients. I'm gonna go to a movie. I'm gonna watch a movie. I'm gonna go for a walk. I'm gonna have breakfast. I'm gonna meet some friends. I'm gonna make phone calls. How many futures did I just create for tomorrow morning from nine to noon? It hasn't happened yet. Nine to noon has not happened yet. I do have a vision. So I teach people in business as an entrepreneur. I've been that all my life, even in the corporate world, I was entrepreneur. So we've got to stay in the moment. Stay out of the outcome. So the income or the results come in that you create. Say that again. Say that again. Say it was good. Say it. This is big. This is big. Stay out of the outcome. So the income and the results can be achieved. When we are always in the outcome, we're taking our body, which is here, wherever you are in the world, and you're projecting into a future that hasn't happened. So this is an example. No one knew that we would have this coronavirus and we'd all be stuck in, right? Nobody that you couldn't go out or do anything, whatever. So when you are not in an anxiety about our business, anxiety, the core emotional is unrealistic expectations. So if we're in unrealistic expectations that it's November 15th or whatever it is, and we're not in the moment, then we can't move to that timeframe and do what we require to do every day to make it happen. We are grounded. Then we are on purpose with our purposes because you have many, but you get grounded and you're not floating around and your head doesn't explode. You are actually utilizing your whole intelligence and intellect in your body. Your body is like a business plan. It knows what to do. It did the business plan. You eat something, it knows to take the nutrients and dump the rest. So what you've got to do is dump all that stuff that doesn't make sense to you. Stay in the moment, stay out of the outcome so the income results happen. So you have a projection and that's good because it might happen November 10th instead of November 16th. But in the moment, you start doing your strategic plan. It's the same when I'm assisting people to heal themselves that we have it, this is the best one. Write this down. All of you write this down. Write down the word time, T-I-M-E. Okay. And what does it spell? T-I-N-E. This is time-E. I've got too much time, too little time. Time's running out. Where did the time go? That's bullshit. I'm saying it like it is. Write this down, everybody. Time is an increment of space. This is a space time continuum. Debbie, you and I and everybody were in this space. So time is an increment of space in which to have an experience. So when you know that you're in that increment. So I knew today that we would be talking at three o'clock. I was delighted. I was excited. But when I was working with clients today or I was on a conference call or whatever I was doing, though I knew that at three o'clock or November 12th that you and I would have this wonderful chat. But I was actually in my increments each step of the way so that I wasn't, so I would be fully present and grounded in what I was doing in the moment. So that when we talked, I did not over expel energy and bring my energy. Because people say, how come you, yes, I get tired, of course I do. But I'm not overextending because I'm in the moment. So time is an increment of space. So if you're an entrepreneur, it's okay to make your projections. But now you've got to do in this increment, what will I do to make this next increment of space and have it come together? It's got to make sense. Let me ask another question. I just, so I just feel it like for Corinne. So you know I'm a Claire Cynthia and the Claire Cognizant. So when I, I'm jamming on this one, but it was a beautiful answer and she's definitely responding. Thank you. She's getting so much out of it, being in the moment, letting go of the outcome, all of that. So on her behalf, I want to ask, what she is doing right now, business-wise? I got to feel her crossroads even here. Yes. Is this what she is? Okay, forget the word meant, nothing is meant. We're a free choice. But her soul is here for great purpose and obviously very gifted like all of us. Is she on the path right now doing what is hers to do? Or is she truly at a crossroads where it's time to make a left or a right? If so, can you give us a little intuitive? Yes. Okay. So see my fingers, that's the fork in the road. If we stay in that, if we stay in that paradigm, we're going to get forked again. Got it? But if we're willing to go off into another direction and not be so closed about what it is that how it's supposed to happen, does that make sense? Say more. Because then you're clear. Okay. Cause now I'm telling you, you're in my space too. Yes, because if we keep doing the same thing over and over again, that doesn't work. So we get afraid of change. Change is growth, change is experience. So I had this lady come to me, you're going to love this image. So she's this corporate woman dynamic and she walks in and she looks at me and she says, I never changed. So, so I'm going like, what the hell are you doing here? You know, because I came highly recommended. Recommended for what? So I looked at her and I said, so let me get this straight. You have always been this way. Yes. So I said, okay, that's my dear, I'm much more impressed with your mother's VJJ because if you came out with that high heels, that suit and that hairstyle, your mother's VJJ rocks. So you're somewhere between the diapers and the pins. Under where do you think you haven't changed? Isn't that the best? As her arms came and she burst out laughing, she goes, that was stupid. I said, I know it was fabulously stupid. So then she was able to connect to herself because this was a defense mechanism. And so sometimes we try and try and try to convince ourselves about something when it's not working. It can be a relationship. We will attempt to convince ourselves or the computer brain that we have to struggle and that it has to be hard. And if it isn't hard, there's no value. Crap, I can only think of one thing that's hard, that's good. Do you know what I mean? No, this is my conversation, girl. Okay. I don't want to make anything else hard. It's too ridiculous. You know, you brought up soul and spirit. The reason we have our bodies physical is so our soul and spirit can experience this dimension in the way we do, but you have to make a choice instead of a decision. Hers was, I'm deciding, I'm like this. But the choice was, and when I said that about her mother's Vajayjay, I'm not kidding this, she just burst out laughing. So we are somewhere between underwears and defense. So underwear, we change, change is growth. It's not pain. So here, as it's an intuitive pain in the body is the body's attempt to get our attention. If it's in the hip, it has to do with the creative shock or if it's in the shoulders, it's too much responsibility. If it's in the throat, it's because we can't speak our truth. If it's in our jaws, it's our hips because we can't speak our truth. So pain in the body is the body, or the head, or the head. So I get this picture. If your head is buried up your first chakra, that is very painful. And you're not standing straight. No, you're not. You're rather looped. Okay, so I hear your message for Corinne then is, you know, change, don't be so ensconced in what was, be open and fluid to what is and is coming and to have faith, some trust, you know, that all is coming and being with here. It is here. And I look at that, it's already complete. I'm just going through the actions to bring it into fruition, to bring it into physical. Oh, I like that. Isn't it? I already see that complete. When I first started writing my first book, I didn't know shit about writing a book. I don't even know if I even know now. But I had a 26 computer. Well, this is the 26th. I know, I know. And so I didn't know, but I just knew I had to get it out, whatever it was. And nobody, not even Louise Haywood, published my books. And this is way back when, because there was no category for consciousness. And I'm talking about consciousness, they would pat me on the head, you know, take a pill or whatever. But you have to, Debbie, or the scale's name, I forgot her name. Corinne, you have to trust your own guidance, which is your heart. Trust it. And sometimes when we take little diversions, it's okay because those diversions, I'm gonna give you a funny example. Years ago, I thought I would like to go on a road trip. This is before we had anything. You know what I mean? I just, so I just- Sherri, can I ask you to hold your story for one quick momento, and then we will come back. Stay with us, folks. Let me just get this going here and then we'll come back to Sherri's. Sherri, hold on to your story. Please want to thank you for your brilliance. I am gonna give this quote from Deepak Chopra. Every time you're attempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future. In the next weeks coming up, I have Brad and Casey Wallace coming on. They channel the energy, the wise energy known as Julius. You can subscribe to my YouTube channel at youtube.com slash Debbie Daschinger. Remember the secret of success is having the courage to begin in the first place. And great. That will be our radio show. And now we're gonna go on, because Sherri and I made a commitment before we started, folks. That even though this is a radio show and a podcast show and I've got to honor the time for radio, we also want to honor you right now. And for those of you and there's a lot of you who showed up, it's cool because you're on the right show at the right time, right? Isn't it, isn't life perfect? You're in the right place at the right time to hear the right message or have the right belly laugh, either one. But we welcome you here. So we're gonna go a little longer than expected just to honor all of you and get everything in. And so Sherri, please go ahead and finish your story. Okay. So we all take our paths as we talk in journey. So this is I'm young and I like the idea of getting on a road trip. I love driving. So I thought I was gonna drive somewhere and I didn't know. And so someone said, oh, you're so intuitive and you follow the signs. I said, I did. It said Chicago this way and St. Louis that way. I followed the signs. So sometimes the signs are evident but we don't allow ourselves to see them. Isn't that funny? So I didn't have a map. I went on a drive without a map. And that's when they said, oh, you're intuitive. I followed the signs. It was called the road signs. Go this way. So are you saying the universe is always giving us God, goddess, angels, whatever you wanna fill in the blank door knob, but it's always showing us if we'll drive or we'll get in the car of our life as the driver, start the engine, put on the gas and go down the road, hopefully in a straightish line that a sign will appear to say exit this way. If we go to the exit, another sign will say off to the left or up the mountain, et cetera. That's correct. Follow your heart. That is how, see, I don't mind having a lesson but I don't wanna keep re-lessening the same crap. I would just like to the experience. I'm in it as the experiencer. I love to experience whatever it is and that doesn't mean you have to stay stuck in it. I don't have to, and I'm gonna give you one more story. When I would turn 30, I said to my mother and sister who's 12 years older than me, she's my real mom, though she didn't birth me and my mother was my formal mother and I was gonna take flying lessons and they said, well, you're too old and you're a girl. Well, not only did I take flying lessons, I bought an airplane. And then I ended up producing air shows and volunteering and talking at the Pentagon. I did not know, but this is what I say to people. If I had listened to their beliefs without judging them, I would have missed all that but I wouldn't have known I missed it. Don't miss. You can't miss unless you're not aware of what it is where you are in the moment. Oh my goodness, you know, I'm feeling some of that energy that Corinne wrote in about and I've been feeling it for a long time and then I got a call last year. You know, look, I do media. I help people with books. I help them with being interviewed. I do the same. I love this arena and this is an end. I got this calling last year. Shaman, priestess, healer, right? And I, could you give me a little more information? What does that look like? Where do I start? But you know, that's the way it was. So I signed up for classes, most of which by the way, have all been rescheduled or canceled because they literally started now while we're quarantined. And so I thought, well, what's next? I mean, I could sit like a lump or I can make good use if, you know, the universe is giving me that information. I trust source, right? So I started Visible Visionaries. That is a Facebook group. I've been there posting videos. I've been connecting with people. I don't know what's coming through. If I'm doing it right, if I'm not, it doesn't matter. I mean, I believe I'm being received. I think that's good enough. And so, and you guys can go there. It's an open, it's a private page and you'll be okay to come because if you're coming, I know you're right to be there. But join me there because this is a time where I'm really giving a voice to people who are here to be visible at a time when we're needed. So I'm also in my way stepping up. I don't know the next step. I don't know where the off ramp is yet. I don't even know if I'm on the freeway to tell you the truth, right? You are though, but what you're doing is giving a plaque to people to connect to give them the opportunity to speak their truth from their heart instead of the true BS from their head. So just allow that to happen. I never thought, if someone told me, when I was in the corporate world, I would be doing this. I go, are you people crazy? Are you nuts? And that, what got me on that path was my third near death experience. When I had a broken neck, a broken back, a smashed head, the brain out of place. We didn't even know my brain was out of place. And Debbie, I lost everything. I mean, I had a beautiful home. I had been sued for alimony. I mean, how about that for a gal? And yet, when I showed up in Arizona in 97, I was down to my last 50 bucks and didn't know anybody. But I had a vision. And so in that period of time from 91 to 97, when I moved, that six year, and I lost everything. And honestly, I was homeless, but I did it perfectly. I moved to this one lady's house and we've been friends ever since. That was gorgeous. And I got to not work for a year with no income and was taken care of. And it became besties and we're still friends. And who would know? And she came out of the blue. When it's out of the blue, it's source. When it's out of the blue, it's that turning point. And it was the best thing that ever happened out of what people thought was lost was the best game. And so you have to trust. So I'm in Michigan. I've lost everything. Been BP marketing, a national company without a college of grand, all that crap, businesses, success, God D'Avore, suit for alimony built. I'm not built. I bought this home four levels on the acre land of the pool. And I'm on a 15 year mortgage to pay it off. I was into five years of it. Who did that in the 80s? I didn't know you couldn't do it. So now everything goes away. And I'm gonna tell this to your audience, trust yourself. So these people started coming to me. And they said, teach us something. I go, you must be the most stupid humans I've ever met. My life has fallen apart. I was like, what are you doing? Stupid humans. And you're asking me to teach you something. Obviously you're all stupid. And so I said, all right, and there were eight women and two only knew each other. I don't even know how they found me. So here I am at my friend's house in her house teaching. And I said, I'll teach you something for eight weeks. I didn't know what I was teaching, but it was the information I was downloading from this first book. It lasted 13 months and they paid me. I'm going, oh my God, they're paying me. And so it changed their lives in mind. And then I moved and I got a job and then I ended up moving to Arizona, quitting job after I'm back in the corporate world, who rave her Hollywood? I'm back in the game and I know it. And then six months later, I get this message, you're moving to Arizona. I said, send me to New York. I don't get the sand and tarantulas. What the hell? I get cement and then I moved and followed my heart and it was the best thing. Absolutely best. So that's what I trusted. So when it says, what roadmap do I follow the one in my heart? Follow your map in your heart. And your heart won't let you down, but your computer brain will. You know, I wanna talk a little bit about the body. So you healed yourself like you were broken, broken, broken and you completely healed in a miracle because you had doctors going surgery and really extenuating circumstances and your inner guidance said, eh, not gonna happen. And I'm choosing differently and you literally self healed. So I'm curious. Okay, I don't know if there's a download for this, but is autoimmune disorder, especially the kind, the mysterious kind, right? We don't know where it came from or we don't know how to solve it. I love mysteries like that, Perry Mason. So what do you get as a medical intuitive about autoimmune disorders like that? Okay, number one, your immunity is suppressed because of the belief systems. But have we ever heard the word autopilot where we're on autopilot every day, we're not connected? That is why it's called autoimmune deficiencies. Are you saying disconnected from the body or from our being? Yes, disconnected from ourselves. And we get on an autopilot of the tragedy of the victim and we're victimizing ourselves. That's what autoimmune system is emotionally. We are so disconnected from ourselves. We're on autopilot, it affects, it infects the immune system, it lowers the resonance and then we get sick and they can't identify what it is when it's all emotional to begin with. Wow, okay. Wow. Thank you very much. That was a really good uncomfortable answer. I know. It's the comfort of the discomfort zone. Exactly, Lord Jesus, so connect with thyself and stop and go from victim to victorious. I've just been doing some emotional freedom technique, EFT tapping around that very subject. Moving into victorious, creating self standards, self values, what it means to be a woman. Like a lot of stuff around that but at a high level, I'm actually moving into, because some of which I have some energetic feel and resonance with and some of which is a big, incredible exploration right now. Yes. This is my tapping. Bouda. Oh. I just hit my third eye. Bouda, I got it. I should have had a V8. So, It was the best medicine. It's so good. So Sherry, I know you have some connection with this, but people who feel like they were a black sheep in their family, very bad. How does this occur? What are you? It does. I was the black sheep and I love it. We cut, as a matter of fact, when I do write my own book about it, it's gonna be called, I can't make this shit up. But the first line in the book is gonna be my mother. Sherry, where did you come from? That's the first line. And that'll give you the whole picture. Where did you come from? So we just have different views that don't fit in those boxes. We don't, and so, and I know that a lot of the black sheep questioned a lot of stuff. Keep questioning, because the more you question, the more you'll get answers because we've been taught you have to accept that that's just the way it is. My second book that was called, and the point is beyond duality, the reason the and the point is can for my mother because she would say something, this is how life has been. And I said, well, then how come we have a car, not a horse and buggy, and I've said cart and gotten into trouble? Because I had the, you know, how could I question it? So that is the idea of it. Is question, don't just accept something at face value because what is the value if we don't can't put a face on it or something that's a connection to us? Right, if there's no reference point, no understanding. I've been in that situation where I walked away and say, why didn't you ask more questions? That was weird, man. You don't even understand what that person was saying or what that meant, or yes, ask questions 100%. And little kids are stopped. I remember being in school. I raised my hand and said, well, if Columbus has governed America, how come people lived here? This was the answer. The teacher gave me the best advice. You know what he told me? Just memorize it and pass the test. And inside I didn't know the F word. And I thought, well, I'm not gonna learn an effing ducking thing in here. Memorize it and pass the test. And I actually became a researcher back then, but I didn't know it. And then we had a thing called a library. What do you mean? What do you mean memorize it and pass the test? That's what duality is. It's nothing but a bunch of BS that we've been memorized, cellular memorization. And so when you are the black sheep, that's the biggest light in the family. You know, I have a little bit of connection with that. I'm not sure that I felt like a black sheep, maybe a little bit, but I will say that I felt like, you know, looking back, I didn't know it at the time. I had no idea. But now, as an adult, I look back and say, I came out full of joy. Like I think I was 100% certified joy in a really dark home, like a really negative dark family, meaning my home that I grew up in. And that was really, that was very disturbing, I think, to have come out indigenously one way, but feel very oppressed by what was around me and then not know how to process that. And I think there was a lot of self-blame and self-flagellation, like that disconnect it is. And that's what happens. We've been taught to disconnect instead of detach, go back to Neo. So I detach, but it doesn't mean I'm not connected. But when you disconnect, you're not there, you get disconnected, go along, go along, go along. And then something fires outside and we get back into that non-productive connection again. And then it's, oh my God, here we go again, the axe fell. So when you detach or observing, do I really choose to participate in this or not? Then you have a choice instead of an emotional decision. The emotional decision are based on the belief systems that you have to. Now you don't have to at all. But the choices, decisions is why we get stuck from the past, but a choice is you can choose it and then you can choose something else. You know, I always tell people, well, I can't change a decision. Yes, you can't. Do you decide to wear your same underwear every day for 20 years? No, you change it. And so that change is growth. Sherry, I want people to experience, so I've had the experience of you doing this. So can we take what I just said? Wow, I just had like three things come up for me all at once that we could do this with. So I'm gonna leave it up to you. But you know how you take someone through like a new proclamation so they can clear out the energy and bring in the new energy. I'm wondering if you will do that with me for others to have that experience with you. And specifically, so it just like, whoa, that was an interesting. We started out talking about black sheep and not fitting in. But then it also, I also got a component of pleasing in this, right? Being a people pleaser because, so I know you get it. So will you take me through? Cause everybody I believe will really benefit from this gift of yours. That would be good. Cause at 430, I've got a conference call. But here, this is what I teach. And I even handed out my classes or to my clients. So this is what I would say. And they would repeat it after me because their body listened. It's knowing at my deepest knowing I cannot change the past. It is unchangeable. But what I can do is release the past where it no longer serves me from my cellular memory. Forgiveness simply means for me to give myself the opportunity as the observer only. No longer. Somebody will write that down. Forgive me if you can catch it. See the way we taught forgiveness is that we still are a victim. I will forgive you, but I don't forget. This actually clears it out. So forgiveness simply means for me to give myself the opportunity or opportunities as the observer only. No longer a participant to go back when I'm working with them, whatever age or stage came up. And to see that both my parents or siblings or perpetrator were more afraid than me. And they had absolutely no idea who I am. And I did not have the words or the language or the experience or the knowledge or the vocabulary to tell them. And they couldn't listen to me. They could not. And no one told me about the contract. So in this moment of this now, in this very moment, I'm canceling the contract of not being good enough or being the black sheep or trying and trying to fix people or being a pleaser. Those contracts don't work for me anymore. I'm canceling them. It doesn't mean I'm canceling people out of my life though I can, but I'm getting rid of that profile and freeing myself. I am the only one that can validate me. And for those outside of me that validate me, I thank them. And for those that don't, oh well, oh well. And at that age that comes up, I say, I think my seven-year-old or fetus or whatever for coming to the surface to free me so I can grow. Everybody let go of growing up. Growing up is fricking boring. Grow. Grow in all directions. I'm not growing, I don't know what growing up is. They call it about adulthood. It's a hood we put over ourselves. And then they take childhood and put another hood over like shut up. You're hilarious. Sherry, I'm getting you out of here on time at our last four minutes together. This is there to dream. What are you next year to dream? What are your future dreams and goals? For me? Yes, my dear. Or for me, you can create goals for me. I'll take it. I may not love them. I may not accept them, but. Now, what are your goals? The word goal means go for all. I like it. Isn't it? Go for all. And intention means this is what you intend at your ion or cellular level. So make sure that your intentions and that your goals are compatible. And time is an increment of space in which you have an experience. And so begin to write it down. You don't have to journal or don't make it difficult. But if a thought comes to you, I do that all day long. I can be working with the client. The thought will come up. I'll write it down. And the next thing you know, I have my next article. Trust your intuition. It is your innate ability to discern. That's all it is. What are the ways that people can work with you? Well, I work with them over the phone and over Zoom and I work in person. But 20% of my clients is getting 25%. Now, I've never met them. I work with them over the phone, but because they have this ability to bilocate or connect, we just have fabulous results. So I love it. I've had clients get rid of stage four cancer when they were told they had two months to live. And I go, that's just somebody else's BS. We're not wrong in the doctors because they're going from what they think they know, but we're going what we know, what we feel. And so I love working with clients over the phone. It is like the coolest. I have packages. Actually, last Saturday, I had a gal come for a VIP, half a VIP day. A week ago, I had somebody come for a full day. And then the week before that, I had a couple come in and they flew in and I worked four days with them. Oh my God, it was fabulous. Was that personal or business that you worked with them on or both? Both. So that way we don't separate ourselves. Make sense? Yes. Hey, man, I love you so much. I thank you so much for coming on today. You're at thebomb.com. You are. And the best part about meeting you Debbie is I was at a conference that I wasn't supposed to go to. I didn't know you weren't supposed to be there. Were you supporting? Because a lot of clients came up to me and talked to me about you before I even met you. Oh, Sherry changed my life. I'm like, who is this woman? So were you there supporting them? No, I went for myself, but it was like it was the last minute thing and I was sorry I couldn't go to the last one, but I already had had things down. But I thought, you know what? My intuition told me to go. And I said, okay, I'm gonna make it happen, but the last one, this previous one, I couldn't. It just, it wouldn't work out, but I just made it happen. Isn't that hilarious? Yeah, like we're supposed to meet though, right? Yes. And I'm so grateful. Just so grateful. Me too. I'm full of gratitude for you two and appreciation. And thank you for delivering such a beautiful show today, my friend. You rock and you are hilarious as always for those who didn't get to hear this entire thing or watch this entire video, you must go back because you'll pee in your pants and have the things that Sherry says. And as a reminder, her website is Sherry Unshara. What a gorgeous name. Unshara.com. Go ahead and check her out. 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