 Sometimes ago, in the year 2009, the university authorities were on strike, so since I envisaged we had long moons away from school, I decided to take up a job at a small company. The boss at this company was very diligent, had integrity, but was so negative it killed me how I survived those long moons at the company. I remember this was the year I started to write. I had begun writing lots and lots of poems, and a client at the company discovered my talent and was going to sponsor me to publish some poems in an anthology volumes. This boss constantly hinted that there was no way anyone could succeed in writing poems or writing whatsoever. The thing is, if you brought an excellent idea to him and even if others around you were applauding you for the idea, he would show you where your idea was drawn and give reasons why it would not work. While it may seem it's great to have people around you who see things differently than you see them so they can give you a broad view of your ideas, it is also great that you be careful around people who don't encourage you but only and always kill your dreams. In today's video, I will be sharing with you three types of people who killed your dreams. Subscribe to this channel if you're new here so you don't miss other interesting videos like this. Number one, people who are going nowhere Back in high school, I used to have friends with whom I shared almost everything. We visited each other and did almost everything together. We were so close, I always thought we would be together for a long time, but truthfully, we weren't. The reason was simple. As we left high school and prepared to face the future, I observed those friends, interesting as they were, had no particular dreams. Each time they visited, all they ever talked about were gals and getting laid and partying and all sorts. First, I had never been a fan of such. Second, I had always been one who believed in dreams and in the pursuit of dreams. As time went on and it seemed those friends wouldn't change, I caught up from them. It was painful for them because they felt but for me, it was a relief. Get this, if people aren't going anywhere and they have shown you by their consistent actions, you have no obligations to them. You don't have a single reason to ask why people who are not interested in moving an inch keep away from them and where you can't keep them at arm's length. Sometimes, we get so emotionally committed to a relationship we feel we will be heartened the other person if we just leave them alone. But if you knew I would come down to your house to set your house on fire, would you ever tolerate me being around you? It is the same as hanging around people who are going nowhere, although you may feel some outer of pity for them. Yet, if you allow them to continue in your life, they will eventually burn down your house, which in this case can be your life or your dreams. We are often a product of the companies we keep, so if a person keeps following people who are going nowhere, it is almost certain that he will soon catch the bug and join the aimless pursuit. Two, people who don't believe in themselves. Now, you really will have to pity this set of people. The believe in dreams, they may trust that it is possible to achieve dreams. They may even have dreams themselves, but they never believe they can achieve their dreams, so usually, they don't make so much effort to pursue those dreams. At some point in life, I used to be this way. I knew a lot of skills and was exceptional at what I did, but because I didn't believe in myself, I would undercharge or not even be confident to charge at all. I would spend so much money on getting resources for my work, then spend so much time learning fresh skills only to be terribly scared to name a high price for a project. That was then. People who don't believe in themselves can rob you of a chance to aim high and pursue that height because they usually always stay within your comfort zone. The reason why you should choose your company wisely as you pursue your dreams is that people around you influence you. You may think that when a person fails to believe in himself, it doesn't affect you. Maybe. But it's like saying if you're around the fire for too long, you won't get burnt. It's inevitable. Since people who don't believe in themselves hardly shoot high, you may slowly begin to adopt such mindset and soon, you would naturally find yourself not being able to aim high either. The rule of success is simple. Surround yourself with the kind of people you want to be. You see? Show me the kind of people you have around you, always, and I can safely predict your future. It's that simple. 3. Selfish people who only want to follow their own dreams Besides people who aren't going anywhere and those who don't believe in themselves, there are those who I call users. Those groups of people who are only interested in fostering their own dreams and hoping to use you to achieve that. For such people, they don't care if you wipe the windows for the rest of your life. Their dream is to have a clean window all the time and it would just be fine if you gave up your own dream to do that. This is the worst of all. Avoid them like the plague. Some years ago, I walked with a woman who paid me a farting but compelled me to work the work of five people. I constantly suggested to her that she hire someone else to assist me with the job because it was enormous. But you know, to save money, she wouldn't just do it. So one day, I quit the job and told her I wasn't returning. Of course, she flew into a rage. She cried and whined about how I had betrayed her, how I was being unfair and all those yada yada. Excuse me, excuse me. I needed to move on with my life, to learn more skills that would help me increase my earnings. But she didn't care what I said. She only wanted someone who would clean her rare so her own business would succeed. Some people encourage your dream. And there are people who encourage you to pursue their own dreams. As much as it is beautiful to support people's dreams, don't do it at the expense of your dreams. Yes, we all need each other to become all we are made to be. But we must never become burdens to each other on our way to assisting with your dreams. If there's anything you should be doing with your life, find the right support and do it. As much as we shouldn't be selfish as to focus only on pursuing our own dreams at the expense of others, we should also not give up our dreams. Dreams are more like the lifeblood of humans. Your dreams are like children. The more you take care of them, the better they grow. Treat your goals like children by protecting them. Protect them from people who aren't going anywhere because they would discourage you from pursuing your dreams. Protect them from those who don't believe in themselves, lest they inflict you with the same mindset. Protect them from those who want you to pursue your own dreams alone because those selfish lots don't care if you die in a social home as long as their own goals are fulfilled. If this video inspired you, like the video. We love you.