 To tell me when just let me know guys if you're unaware Geno marbles did that the last time shit hit the ceiling on this platform And I'm going to turn that into tradition now by the way my makeup today. Wow like honestly. Oh my god. Oh my god If this was a makeup tutorial, you know, I would have fucked shit up Good thing this video isn't about the makeup because whoa. Anyways. Hi friends. My name is What's my name? I'm getting really creative with these names Freddy Fazbear today because Turns out tricky Jesus bankrupt if you follow my Twitter, you know that I'm not afraid to be vocal about Everything that can be considered a bad thing and I think two weeks ago I tweeted something like my dad and I just got a three-hour argument about black lives matter And then I tweeted I managed to convince him that black lives matter after we argued and I asked you guys Would you want a video about? That debate a lot of you guys said yes, and I'm just hoping that this video isn't a waste Hopefully this will help one person when they're debating their friend family person on the internet Actually, don't bother with the internet part. By the way, my nails are purple and they match they do Love yourself more does wonders to your ego So basically I'm going to be reading off a transcript of my whole debate and before I start just in disclaimers if you want to just educate yourself about Literally a bunch of problems in the world because earth sucks. They'll be in the description Also, there's gonna be some other resources where you can donate sign petitions If you can't donate if you literally have no money There are videos you can watch where the adsense goes to that and try to add links in the comments If you want like as always Spread information also I am no stranger to debating with my dad because I had a debate with him for four years straight on accepting Me being gay, I use straight and gay in the same sentence that doesn't happen often and that started when I was 13 So I've learned a little bit on how to talk to my dad. He's also from China. He's an immigrant So there's a little bit of context for you. Also, this is not gonna work for your parent 100% It's not gonna work for your friend 100% Okay, every situation is unique because everyone comes from different places and different beliefs And that's the most important thing to learn when debating in my opinion And I'm not trying to be like I know everything about black lives matter that that not it don't twist my words I'm just trying to share with you an experience that I had that's all take this as a story time or a learning Thing so this is all in my notes. Unfortunately didn't record myself talking I don't know why didn't come to my mind this whole debate started when I was asking him Can I go back to New York in the fall semester and he was like, I don't know You have to be careful careful about what COVID you think I'm gonna die still No, you need to be careful about the protests and I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, what? What about the protests? I don't have to be careful about he's like the riots and I said I Don't think that I'm gonna. I think I'm gonna be fine guys I'm gonna say he said a lot by the way my dad said wait Do you like the protest? Do you like the riots? You know what? Maybe I should go back and forth like this This is when I'm talking. This is when my dad's talking. I'm gonna sweat a lot doing this by the way Yeah, I support the protests and the riots. Why do do you not know? Listen, I support the protests I don't support the riots and it was at this point where I was like, okay, here we go. Let's Let's do this. I'll do it again with you, dad Would you care to explain to me why you don't support the riots, but you support the protests? By the way, the stuff I'm gonna say is my opinion. Let me have it. I'm just very anti-violence I don't believe violence is the answer for this or almost anything Okay, I see where you're coming from. This is good I can work with this and here are some things that I had to teach myself when debating because I used to not do this The first episode know where the person you're arguing with is coming from in their mind even if it's wrong So my dad doesn't really isn't fond of black people. Why? Because in China there's a lot of anti-blackness. There's not a lot of black people in China It's mainly Asian people if you didn't notice and typically as humans We stay away from or we don't like things that we don't know or understand So when my dad immigrated here, that was his first time even seeing black people and white people Like it wasn't something common in his area. I'm not trying to excuse him here. Trust me I'm just trying to tell you that you have to understand That's the part you have to work with and I've also known that he wasn't really fond of black people because of the way He talks about them like in middle school He used to say this word that I can tell was not a good word I just didn't feel like debating my dad in middle school You know, I was like, I'll wait until the time comes and if you don't bother trying to think about where they come from You're not gonna find a middle ground because before when I debated him about me being gay I was always like, I'm right. You're wrong. Shut up. Let me talk all this. I wouldn't even let him speak I wouldn't care to listen to him and it's hard to do. Trust me I hate having to do it But you have to listen to them and their words even if it's Really bad words and this gets worse remember Because we're not black and we're not actively participating in these protester rights right now You don't really get to speak for them and have an opinion and neither can I well, why are they rioting then? That's just gonna paint them in a bad light. No racist is gonna look at them on the news and say I'm gonna support black people now even when they're rating stores It's not just black people rating stores The news outlets are very biased sometimes and not sometimes they show what they want to show There's a lot of different people rioting rioters are different from protesters looters are different from rioters are different from protesters Kimberly Latrice Jones, she put it best. I'm gonna let you watch that video. I'm not gonna speak I'm not gonna take her words, but I really suggest you watch her video. She explains it better than I ever could So at this point, it was a bunch of back and forth of you don't get to talk about these riots that well I don't like the violence, but how does it affect you? Are you directly being affected by this? No, but I just used to support black lives matter and now I don't so what do you support now all lives matter? Yes, I know a lecture chair. I know maybe you won't like that word. I didn't like it I felt some way when he said it and I was like Okay, dad, you can't say that you have to understand black lives matter doesn't mean your life doesn't it means black lives matter Just as much as others You didn't get that at first I think a lot of people don't get that at first and they still won't just dislike the video I can you go ahead at this point I think I think we've been debating about 30 minutes and it was still about the riots And then I realized that this isn't just about the rise. This is rooted in him Because of where he came from dad. Do you understand why they're even protesting and rioting in the first place? Yes, yes, I know the history of America I don't think you do because even I don't and I had to go through the education system in America And it's faulty so I doubt that you do also at this point I found out he had a Twitter very proud of him for getting a Twitter of all things and then I saw these only following Traditional news channels like Fox News and then Trump mind you he doesn't like Trump anymore But he just wants to know what the guy thinks dad You realize that your Twitter is not showing you the reality of what these protests and rights are because you're not looking at Local people, you know people who aren't on a platform and they're just showing a video for the sake of it If you don't know what I mean I'm talking about the ones where people are actively at the protest and I'm just filming that part and they happen to go viral Not what Fox tweets out not what Trump tweets out Don't don't look at that politician right now. That doesn't matter The point is I don't understand why we still have to fight for this Well, let me tell you a little bit about what happened 400 years ago in America. I'm gonna tell you I'm not fully educated yet because I still have a lot to learn because America's education Isn't the best when you live in the south the TLDR that I told them is the history of America is Stealing because all we did was take black people from Africa to here make them work in the north and the south We were so selfish that we had a civil war The states are so selfish still that we have our own state laws even though we're called the United States and even after the Civil Rights Act Martin Luther King Rosa Parks these Movements and activists. They're still not equal opportunity for black people. It doesn't click right away You know, it there's no way it would because Think about this. What would you do if I told you you should be homophobic like would you honestly switch that fast? And to me that inability to switch is what happens in a person's mind when they're racist Like it's just how they are and to switch that instantly is hard So you have to like constantly combat at them and just remind them about the other viewpoint That you believe is right but not bashed him over the head because you have to get them to listen to you not refuse to listen to you It's tiring. I know but it's important to talk to your family about this and there's some gaps in my notes But at some point my dad said black people were lazy. Yeah, I know that's how you feel but just can we talk about it? Why do you feel that way? Well, they could have stayed in Africa They didn't have to come here and I think it only gets the fact that they didn't have a choice They weren't forced to come here. They could have tried to blank four years ago They just could have tried to escape and then I had just remind him black people if anything are the opposite of lazy They are proactively trying to get their equal freedom and rights even back then like even back then there were people who tried to Escape their slave owners. There are people who fought for slavery to be abolished You had Martin Luther King. You had Rosa Parks. You have people actively trying But what happens in the end you either got assassinated sent to jail and just Constantly prevented from continuing your movement and you're having your voice like even what happened at Stonewall Like they were still arrested after they didn't want no one wanted them to continue the movement So maybe that's why you think they're lazy because you don't bother seeing that they've tried and are still trying and nothing is working So I just had to tell him let's watch a documentary. Let's watch the 13th on Netflix Can't can you do that for me because I think in the first 30 minutes you learn enough to be able to like Understand what the whole rest of the documentary is gonna be about this was at midnight at this point So I didn't want him to watch the whole documentary because he would have fallen asleep And I said will you go into this with an open mind? Will you allow them to speak and not trying to rebuttal every second because I had a feeling that he would try to Combat at this documentary since it does show mainly black people speaking. This is foreshadowing by the way. Okay, fine Let's watch the documentary. Yes, I'll listen. Of course. I'll listen I I always want to see both sides before I form my opinion. He said that I was like bullshit But I won't call you out yet. We watch it in 10 minutes. He's like, I don't think this is the right No, there's only black people on the screen. Yes, you're right Because who else is gonna talk about you think Asian people are gonna talk about this You think white people are gonna talk about dad really well I just don't like it because of course there's gonna be a bias when black people are speaking on behalf of black people And I feel like if I saw it from someone like you Frederick, I would believe it more Maybe you might disagree with me on the analogy, but I worked on him So if you watch a documentary about the Holocaust from the perspective of a Jewish person who survived the camps and a Nazi Which one would you believe dad? Oh, you can't compare the two I think I can because I think you're trying to defend the other side instead of the person who was marginalized and discriminated against Yeah, I'd probably listen to the Jewish person Yes, you should which is why you need to listen to these people speaking on the screen because there is no Asian who would talk about this dad I mean, you know what I mean Also, he didn't know that the protesters were being tear-gassed He thought that the protesters started the riots and that's why he didn't support the movement because his Twitter feed never showed The parts of them being gas what news channel would show that Tell me one. No, I don't believe they're being tear gas. I refuse to believe that So I showed him a clip then I showed them another because I had these saved on my phone I showed them like five different clips of them being gased Another five different clips of people saying don't shoot then the rubber bullets start shooting ones of people at Philly Because we live near that of like my friends just like doing this, you know Letting down saying don't shoot and it starts peaceful and then the police start to make it violent You know how he said violence is never the answer I used it against him because sometimes you need to use people's words against them that helps them click So I said you told me violence is never the answer The police are being violent dad. Are you gonna tell me this is false? I'm a bad actor. Oh my god Yeah, this isn't right. I didn't know this was happening So finally desserts are understand after after that of all things dad This is why the riots happened in the first place Because you keep telling me that violence isn't the answer and that it shouldn't but there's no other option because they've tried Protesting they've tried speaking out about it. They tried being active back then They tried to fight for their freedom They've tried for so many years and nothing still works and even after being peaceful it didn't work So the next step is just to there's no other step and they're angry and told my dad like How do you think the protests end? Do you think at some point at 6 p.m? Every protestors like we've done this for two hours. Let's go home. No, they usually end because Someone ends it for them. You didn't think about that part So then he understood and then I told him like, you know that Like basically black people had to build this country and even when they were given freedom They tried to build their own communities and those were taken down as Kimberly Jones said in Tulsa and in Rosewood then he said like oh This is so similar to what's happening in China and Hong Kong and he said that around ten times And I'm still not educated about that But I I think he supports the protests there So I just didn't understand why he didn't support him here Then I realized it was because he doesn't like black people that much Because then he decided to say this and when we talked about the crime rate because he was saying like well Black people typically have a higher crime rate and I said, why do you think that? Do you know where it comes from which the 13th did inform? This was prior to watching it I just remembered he said what would you do if a black person came here right now at midnight In a white or a white person came here at midnight and knocked on our door I knew what he was trying to get me to say and I just told him I would I wouldn't like anyone at my door at this time I wouldn't no one should be here at this time because we're fighting about nothing at 1 a.m Dead and he said oh, I would be more scared if it was a black person I was like, yep. Well, why do you think that and I just had to get like I just had to tell him like he doesn't like black people as much as Asian people and white people because he wasn't surrounded by them and he's just Wired to instantly not like them or think of the stereotypes and profile them Which is what happens the whole that's why this shit isn't right because you keep people keep profiling I'm getting a little angsty Like he told me Well, why do you think like George Floyd happened because they profiled and I was like, well, that's why it's a problem Because you profile him you can't do that dad that they do that to us too Like why don't you get it and he keeps saying like but I don't think America is this bad I don't I didn't know the police were this bad. I I haven't seen racism that much. I I don't I wasn't I don't see it. He doesn't see it apparently. So I said dad. Do you know what happened to me in South Korea? Like, do you know My childhood and my middle school and high school. No But did you know that South Carolina has a lot of black people there like 27%? Yeah, I wonder I wonder why dad In charleston. Did you know that in eighth grade? I was taught that the civil war wasn't really about slavery It was more about separation of state. That's what my teacher told me. Was he white? Yeah, she was white You think they would let a black person talk about this history? I don't remember one black teacher in South Carolina that I had you think that my school would have let a black person Teach history us history charleston history dad. No, they wouldn't well Did you experience racism? Uh, do you know where that midget asian came from dad? If you don't know that used to be my username. No, I don't know Well, since third grade people called me dad because I was short and I was the shortest person in the school And I was one of the only Asians there and they would mock me. They would still do this They would do this they would do this. I got makeup on so i'm not gonna do it They would slant their eyes. They would say chinese japanese korean philip Whatever shit they would stereotype. They would be like, oh my god. Asians are so smart Well, she's like don't do don't do that. Oh my god. That's a whole other topic, but Yeah, I experienced it since elementary school dad. You never knew Because you never listened to me. Well, what about in high school? Like how many black people in your grade? I remember three In my grade out of a hundred people and I always thought that was weird in high school because I couldn't I only saw three Really, there were only three But the population is what yeah, what what you said dad the population is 27 black So why are the three people in this school dad? So that was another case of me taking his own facts and using it against him and I told him Dad, how you really think there's no racism. Do you have any black friends? You didn't say any do you have any black co-workers when you were in charleston? I had some name them He got like four workers and there were people a lot of people at his firm So dad when you say you don't see racism Have you ever thought about the fact that maybe it's because you are racist and you think everyone's actions Are just okay. Did I lie? Did I lie? You know my co-workers back inside krillinna did talk about black people in a negative tone I know because I was there when you took me to work one day and At this point He just didn't want to talk anymore because I think he got like when I told him that he was racist I think that was like him. Oh Shoot that's probably what he thought so we ended the documentary He went back to sleep and I was like, did you learn something today? And you're just like He didn't want to acknowledge that he was wrong or something. You know how dads are Uh, maybe you don't I don't know and then after that I told him like follow me on twitter I'm going to DM you links every day about what I see on my feed versus you And I'm going to show you things that I think could educate you more So I've been DMing him. I think he I asked him are you reading them and he is when he went to sleep I also followed some people that I think he should follow on twitter. So I follow people like aoc New york times just accounts that helped me Learn to when I'm looking at stuff and sure maybe if you're against black lives matter and you are still watching Why you're gonna say well that yeah, that's just you showing your bias. Yeah, that is my bias We're only pushing the new york times and those types of people and articles But I believe I'm on the right side of history for supporting this. Of course. I'm going to show my bias right now Why else do you think I'm making the video dude? And yeah, that's that's it. Um We haven't talked about it since but I do want you guys to know to like not attack my dad Because he was embarrassed when he saw when he read my tweet after I followed him He said like, why would you tweet this? I was like, do you think I just don't tweet anything When we argue even back then like I've talked about this on my channel many times He's just like don't that's embarrassing to me about my beliefs and I was like, yeah good You should be embarrassed about your beliefs change them and I am glad he's changed them even about being gay and like Even this stuff. So just know that I'm very proud of him. I'm not trying to shame him I don't guys don't shame him. I think that everyone has the ability to change It just depends on if they can find someone who can Speak to them and get them to understand without causing chaos and arguments also change takes time and know that like I've It took me four years For the gay thing took me three hours for this one. So it will take you a long time To do this with your family if you choose to but the most important thing is don't give up constantly do it try to not blow up Is the best thing I can tell you if you can keep your inside voices It's easier. That's all I have Hopefully this helps someone as always black lives still matter. Don't make it a trend. I'm not gonna shut up. So if you don't like it Leave and educate yourself And that's all I have if you enjoyed this video give a like leave a comment down below Subscribe for more videos every week turn on my notifications. So you don't miss them And as always I love you guys. Everything is less than three. I am ready to use it I'm I will I will be here for you. Okay Bye