 So, that brings us to the debate, the question of indirect versus direct style of seduction. In my opinion, you should always be direct. And not just in terms of the opener that you use when speaking to a girl, but in terms of your life in general. A man must be able to assert himself, he must be able to put forward his desires, he must be able to go for what he wants, without apology, without shame, and also without pride and arrogance. And the presuppositions behind the indirect styles of seduction is that you need to hide what you want in order to get it. And so essentially, it is completely dishonest. And that's something that's very unattractive to a girl. And it's something that when you've gone out there and tried to be indirect, and the girl blows you out, you feel really awful. Because you know that in that moment, you were not being true to yourself. You were hiding the fact that you wanted her, and then she saw through that and of course discarded you. When I get blown out, which has happened three times, by a woman after being clear and direct with her, I feel like a fucking hero. The reason being is that I know that in that moment, I went as far as I could. I did what I had to do, and I reached an impasse that I couldn't get through because she didn't want me. And then I had to deal with that, and I walk away feeling bigger and better than before. Now in terms of defining direct, a lot of guys think that that means you have to go up to every girl and say, hey, you're fucking sexy. I want to have sex with you. That's stupid. That's not calibrated at all. Directness first comes from your intention. It comes from what you're feeling in your gut, feeling in your cock, feeling emotionally, thinking, projecting through your eyes, and communicating to somebody. You can communicate so much through your eyes. So I don't need to go up to a girl and explicitly verbally state what I want to do to her with a bucket of bleach and a banana. Not that I would ever do anything with a bucket of bleach or a banana, but some people might. I can just go up to her and say, excuse me, I'd like to talk to you. And in essence, that is 100% direct because the implication is the only reason I'm there is because I like her. There are many levels of direct. And I think as a beginner, it's very good to verbalize it, to go out there and just tell a girl, look, you're fucking sexy. I really like you. I want to get to know you because so many guys have so much fear about the judgment they're going to receive if they let a girl know that they want her. And so it's great to just go out there and put it out there, dozens, if not hundreds of times, and see that usually girls are very receptive to that. Even if they're taken or they're not interested, they will respect you for having the balls to come up and let them know that, yeah, they like you. And over time, as you get more subtle with this, more refined, a lot of that doesn't need to be stated. It can be implied through a look, through a touch, through verbal flirtation, which creates more sexual tension than overt statements of interest. And to the point where you can reach kind of Zen Mastery seduction where it all pretty much happens in the ether, in space. I think one of the most important skills a man can have in life is the ability to see opportunities when they arise and take them where other people would be scared to. And I know for myself, the reason that I'm sitting on this park bench, which is very glamorous, in Regent's Park in 2012, near the end of the world, is because I took a chance and invested everything that I had on a small opportunity I was given, I think four years ago to the day. At the time I was speaking at a very small dating conference in Sydney in Australia, and there was a guy there, very large in the life character called Vince Calvin, who many of you would know. And Vince liked my speech and he invited me to come to the PUA Summit in Hollywood. And at the time, I couldn't afford to do that. You know, the business was in its infancy, we were really just getting by, and I took a big jump there. However, I had to, I made sure that I went to that conference. And I made sure that I delivered a speech that was very unique and was something completely out of left field to what most of the guys had seen and heard before. And as a result of that, I met another young gentleman there by the name of Anthony Johnson. And I think to get what you want in life, you have to have this perfect blend of audacity and humility. Because men who are arrogant and try and force things in life tend to hit walls all the time. They tend to get judged, they tend to have to deal with a lot of conflict, and they surround themselves with sycophants. Whereas a man who is too humble and sits back and waits tends to have life passing by. But you need to have a balance of these two things if you want to get what you want. You need to go for it and just go, yep, I want this. And maybe it's not my turn. But here I am at the front of the queue. At the same time, you need to have humility and to understand where the other person's coming from and not trying to push your agenda too hard. And so when I had a chat, it was a very casual chat with Anthony over 10 minutes. And I think we just clicked on an intention level. On a philosophical level, it was a casual chat. And I'd let him know, I would like to come and speak at your conference. And that was about it. So I think it was the next year or the year after I found myself in London in almost the same situation where, again, I couldn't really afford to be there. And I decided it was a very rocky time in my life. I was separating from my long-term partner. There was quite a lot of challenges going on in my life at that time. But again, I decided, I need to fucking take this opportunity because you never know what's gonna happen who you're gonna meet. And out of that, my reputation spread a lot. I met another guy called Sasha D. Game who I've now been collaborating with for the last year and has highly influenced me and I think I've done the same to him. And now the sky's the limit. So I count the 21 Convention the first time I spoke of that as one of those pivotal moments in my life where if I hadn't have just bitten the bullet and gone for what I wanted, then maybe I'd still be just hanging out in Australia doing all right instead of conquering the world. In 2011, I first spoke at the 21 Convention here in London. And that was a very challenging experience for me because although I'm very skilled at being able to be calm and remain present, I was actually going through a pretty rough time. And if anyone can look at the video and pick it out, then you're doing well because I know how to look stoic and in control at all times, even when I'm not. But that was a really fantastic experience for me because up until I remember trying to write that speech for quite a long time and I'm a good public speaker and I usually am very confident about what I'm gonna do. And up to the last minute before I stood on stage, I really didn't know what I was gonna say. I had prepared some things, but I just every time I went to go and practice this speech, just nothing was coming out. And I got up and I think I did a pretty good job. And I think that's a testament to the fact that I have conditioned myself through a whole range of experiences to be not dependent on my state in order to be able to deliver what I need to deliver. And I think that's an important message for guys, particularly when they're looking at approaching girls or seduction. You're not always gonna feel on top of the world and confidence is not a static state. It's something that comes and goes depending on what's going on in your life or what experiences you're having, your mindsets and all those kinds of things. And confidence really comes from in those moments of challenge, in those moments of feeling weak, stepping out into the abyss and doing it anyway, and seeing that it didn't destroy it. The worst thing that could have happened to me in that moment is I would have got up and choked and some dudes on some forums would have laughed at me and life would have rolled on. And instead, something good happened. So that time in my life was actually really pivotal. It was me testing myself once again against the edge. And that's what I love to do in life. The moment I feel really comfortable, like everything's cool, I'm in control, I just dismantle it and throw myself out into the deep end again, which is what I'm doing now, moving to Budapest in two days. I don't know anybody there. I don't really know how it works. And that's awesome because that means I get to be tested once again. So the experience at the 21 Convention was fantastic. It was really enlivening for me. It gave me a real shot in the arm and really kicked me back on my track so that when I hit the Euro tour after that and dragged along Steve Mayeta and Sasha Degame, we had the best tour we've ever had. I've spoken at a lot of dating conferences around the world, which I have positive things to say about all of them. But what I've noticed about the 21 Convention is that it tends to attract the cream of the crop, the very best in my opinion. You know, I might be wrong, maybe they're all liars, maybe I'm a liar, I don't know. But in my opinion, the best that the world has to offer. And I think that's obviously largely in part of the, I think that is largely to do with the discerning judgment of Anthony Johnson because he's the guy at the end of the day who decides who's speaking. But also, it's because guys who can't handle it, who are not good enough, are not willing to stand up there and be exposed. There are other places where they can get up and waffle and do convoluted sales pitches and use NLP tricks and it'll kind of pass, but here it won't because the other speakers know what they're looking at. Game respects game and recognizes this game and it's a pretty horrible thing to be in a room full of people who know what they're doing and to be standing there pretending that you know what you're doing. So I think a lot of guys just would not be willing to put their balls on the line to be exposed. So the convention attracts high quality because it demands high quality. And as a result, the attendees reflect this as well. And I see this in my own business is the guys who come to me for training are awesome. They're guys I would be friends with, the guys who tend to have their shit together in other areas, but for whatever reason have just not refined their social skills or maybe they have and they want more or they want better. And that's a fantastic thing to come to a convention where every guy that comes and asks me a question and all that I speak to is a legit person. Is somebody who can look you in the eye, who can shake your hand, who's not trying to prove themselves or amog you or cut holes in your theories just to validate themselves. They're people who are there willing and able to learn because they have already reached a certain point of their own personal evolution. And this is simply a reflection of what we're putting out there. Anthony came with pure ideals. I'm sure they will change and grow and evolve over the years, but his integrity has remained the same. He's attracted men to speak with integrity and attracted attendees who want to live that, live that truth as well. Internal awareness to understand your own emotional state, your thinking processes, the way your physiology and your emotions and your thoughts interact. And in this industry, as a leader in this industry, it holds me constantly accountable. And I think some people are okay with having a product or a service they sell, which they don't believe in or they never know because you never know what's gonna happen who you're gonna meet. And out of that, my reputation spread a lot. I met another guy called Sasha D. Game, who I've now been collaborating with for the last year and has highly influenced me. And I think I've done the same to him in creating industry standards, which is not far away. Because you're seeing a lot of complaint, which is completely justified from a lot of guys who've been burnt along the way, but not through, you know, forcing anybody, but making people think, by exploding their realities, by questioning their presuppositions about what is and what is not possible or what you shouldn't and shouldn't do. Because I've done everything you shouldn't do, really.