 Welcome back to the channel. This is Kelly from House of Virgo. Alright you guys, so if you're new please do smash that like and subscribe button and yeah happy holidays to everyone. This is a Virgo channel, Virgo Sun, Moon Rising, or Venus. So keep in mind some of the messages may or may not resonate, just take a fence, leave the rest. Alright Virgo, let's get into this message, see what the love message is here for you. Going forward, December into January 2023. Okay, rest of the love messages. Pay attention to red flags here Virgo. The signs are cautioning you, okay. And you have make some type of an effort. Great love is worth taking the steps you're guided to take and this could be the one, okay. Interesting, okay. So someone's coming with some red flags, okay, or someone's showing up here with some red flags. They're making some type of an effort because they think that you could be the one, but they're also looking for red flags as well, okay. So I feel like there's a connection here with someone where it's like you both come to realize that you know this is the person for me, vice versa, and like want to take a risk. This is a great love, put in the effort, but there might be some red flags here and you know trying to figure out what is what at this time, okay. So seven of wands is here. So there's a very defensive energy. So this red flag could be that someone is doing a lot of that pushback, seven of wands. Protecting themselves, there might be someone here that you connect with where you feel like yes, this is the one. You want to make an effort with this person, but they're very self-protectives. They're not really showing too much. They're kind of like they might not be a motion available in some ways or they kind of push back if you try to get too close to them, okay. Let me see here. Could be a fire sign, okay. This person shows up single, high status, someone that has good money, they're solo, very independent. They show up like with total package, like this person is complete, you know. There may even be accomplished in some way. I feel like this person has plenty of money. They look good, they dress well, they show up, they show out that kind of energy, but it's like they're just pushing back, okay. Don't get too close. Don't get too close. You're going to mess up. You'll put fingerprints on this fine glass. Don't get too close, which makes me feel like this person is very fragile. And if anybody gets too close to them, then they might see that they're easily breakable. So yeah, and I feel like somebody here is, okay, it could be another Virgo. There's definitely a connection. This is definitely someone here that you can connect with or that maybe you already do connect with and you feel this. Like this is the person, but these red flags or this person is student office or isn't very open and pushes you away, okay. So interesting way to start. Yeah, okay. So there's death here. Yeah, okay, that just makes me feel they're saying like if you get too close, if you put fingerprints on the glass and very fragile and this, you know, it's weird. They're just saying like this person is so fragile. They put up this defense, they put on this mask, they make themselves. And I'm like, why Virgo do you think this could be the one for you? Because you see something you see through the veil, behind the veil. You see something in this person that is pretty amazing and they are fearful. If you see that, it'll be the death of them. Wow. Okay. Wow. Show me this death card. Okay. Yeah, look at this person here trying to like make everything. I'm hearing performance. Maybe they perform to a pentacles energy trying to like keep up the facade, keep up the appearances. It's like Virgo, you see this. And these are some red flags. And I don't know, some of you might just be like, oh, I don't know, you know, like how can you have an authentic transparent relationship with someone who is, you know, doing a juggling act for all. Okay. Maybe this person works in some kind of performance field where they have to, they show up on stage and they show up and make everybody be wild and in awe of them. But they're wearing some kind of a mask like they don't like to see anybody like, for anybody to see who they really are. Okay. So they kind of show the representative or they define themselves by their riches or their career or how, you know, like how they are. And I feel like this person, they have to keep some type of facade up or protect themselves from anybody getting in and destroying them. Because if they do, then that death card shows up where things will end or I'm just hearing like gotten like impressionist or got to impress Virgo and keep Virgo like, don't get too close. That's what I keep hearing. So, you know, but I also feel like this person feels like you could be the one and I see them trying to make an effort here during that time period from now through January. But they're still kind of like, okay, I'm going to reach out. I'm going to keep Virgo entertained. I'm going to keep Virgo interested, but I'm not going to let Virgo in too, too close. I'm going to protect myself still. Okay. Why? Why? Okay. Issues with the mother. Hmm. Issues with a mother in their childhood. Yep. They have mommy issues. Now maybe daddy issues. Something happened in their childhood. That empress energy in the upright is very nurturing and loving. Let's see what were the issues with the mother? Yeah, mother was way too smothering. So this, that would make this person avoidant. And that's what I was picking up. Like in a very, very, the mother of the father, somebody was too smothering of them. And that generally when you have a parent that's like way too smothering, that, you know, can cause someone to be very avoidant. Yet, yet Virgo, this person, they're all mixed up because they see you as being that love, like, you know, they want to make this effort with you. But like, I don't know, they're also looking for red flags. Like, are you going to be too smothering on them? And, you know, or have you been and then they push away and they get very avoidant. So there's this dance, this dance that happens here. Yeah, five of pentacles, smothering and then abandonment. 100%. Geez. Whoever they were connected with, it may not have been a parent. It definitely could have been an ex or someone they were with for a long time that was so like on top of them all the time. Okay. And for some of you, it could have been you. If this is someone you were connecting with, the more avoidant they were, maybe the more anxious you got. Okay. And you would come after them and then maybe you would then push you away. Yeah, that kind of energy is playing out here. Yeah, 10 of cups. So for some it was like a marriage or a relationship or it was the parents' marriage or relationship. They saw some dynamics that I feel that really just made things, that's a tough place to be with someone who knows that you are the love of their life or you are the person that is the right, this like the one, the only one for them. And yet they're so fearful to have this connection. They're so fearful for you to get close. Okay, let me see what the emotions are because I just feel like we need to know here what is the hidden truth with this person's feelings for you, Virgo. Okay. Well, this person, they do love you and I do feel like you're the one for them. Their life is not as together as it seems. Okay, so they kind of pretend. They put on a show, definitely putting on a show, putting on the ritz, making everything seem like if they're all together, they got everything together. Okay, they have good news I want to share with you. They also wish they could take some words back that they might have said to you, maybe pushing you away or told you to go away. Yeah, you don't know how hard it was to let you go. Pushing away, yes, but some of you had enough and you said that's it, you're done. And they had no other choice but to let you go or you showed this person, that's the last time you're going to push me away and now I'm going to show you what it means to go and they were forced or they had to let you go and that was very difficult because avoidants don't want to let people go. They just want extreme amounts of space and I feel like you did not want extreme amounts of space. You wanted time with this person and to them that was like, no, you're smothering me even if it was just for a day. Okay, so they were forced to let you go. This person replays conversations over and over the things that you've talked about or the things that you said to them and vice versa, but they feel that you're leaving them behind. Wow. They want things to be different. They wish it could be different, but they're not sure. They do wish they had treated you better Virgo and they're wondering if you're happy without them. Are you Virgo? Are you happy without this person? You're the best thing in their life and they still want you. They lost themselves for a little while. Yeah, I'll say they got lost or they pushed you away. They're definitely afraid to contact you, but are they going to contact you? Let me see. Is anything going to change here? My phone is going off like crazy. This person going to make any changes. All right, six of one. So you know what Virgo? There's definitely going to be somebody connecting to you. They may have taken their space Virgo and they maybe have had enough. Okay, and with you walking away from them, now they feel kind of confined and they feel lost and they're in isolation and I do feel like this person is going to try to come back into your life and try to win you over with the six of wands. Oh look. Okay, the emperor. Yeah, definitely coming in with this. I think this is a dynamic they might have seen in their relationship. Parents' relationship or in their relationship in the past. So they're going to come in with this emperor energy and shock the monkey. I don't know why I said that. Maybe their name is Peter. They're going to shock or Gabriel. They're going to shock you with this energy, right? Because I feel like for you Virgo, you have finished with this and you probably got to or will get to a point where like it's a done deal. Like it's done. It's over. Aries energy here. Definitely. I see some Scorpio again. I feel like this person, we have Libra. There's also Taurus and I feel like this person is like just when you think no they're not coming back around again. Yeah, they're going to come back in because that's what avoidants do. They never avoid for very long. It's an anxious type of secure, an anxious type of attachment. So they need a lot of space. They got to push back and take their space because even in two minutes it feels like a lifetime of smothering to them. And then once they've had enough space or they feel like so it's all there's almost a dictator of dictating kind of energy with this emperor. Like it's on their turf. It's their decision. They come in and out of your life as they please, right? I don't like that. I don't like that energy because it's like they have issues. You know, it's like person that's very anxious will just smother and smother and smother without care given the other person's space. So this person avoids and avoids avoids without care of the other person's needs and then they come back in when you know they're ready. So I feel like you have somebody that's a lot of the red flags here. You know, and while you're looking at their red flags, they're also looking at yours or they're looking for some and the red flags that you give off, leaving the cap off the toothpaste might be a red flag for this person. Or they find a reason. They create red flags or they turn molehills into mountains as red flags, right? So that they can avoid again. Yeah, this person, they're going to come in with, hey, how you doing? They crush energy, a little bit of love bombing coming up again. The nine of cups, you know, wish come true. You know, you're like you're the buffet table of love and I just want to eat every little bit of you that's on that table and smorgasbord and you know, wish come true. The whole nine yards, you know, you make me feel better. Yeah, Virgo, pay attention to the red flags. I feel like you're being cautioned here. I want to make this work. I'm going to put the effort in to commit and then I feel like this person might be stuck in a pattern of coming in and then going away and then coming back in again and then going away and like you're spinning around your head spinning. You don't know what's going on. It's very inconsistent behavior. So I feel like for you Virgo, you may need to just choose the lane. If you've chosen the lane to leave, you need to stick with it. Stick to your guns. If you're going to go back then make sure if you go back, you're going to stay in the circle no matter what this person does. Like you have to be the one to call the shots here because this person, it seems like they're dictating based on their fears and those are not your fears and they shouldn't be put on top of you. Okay. Forgive yourself or forgive this person so you can move forward. Okay. Also integrity. Does the situation align with your values and morals Virgo? Does it fit you? Are they like the situation, the relationship is in alignment with what you want and what you need? Okay. Here and now your true love is already part of your life. This could be the one. So I do feel like this is your true love but this person has got to learn that it takes two to tango and they can't dictate this relationship. You know? And if this is your true love and you're like it's not going to work, this person is not in alignment with my values and they're not going to change and it's just going to be more of the same. You can love them from a distance Virgo because you got to protect yourself, right? You can't like you can't be in a relationship with someone who's dictating to you or dictating the way the relationship is going to go. That's not a partnership. That's a one person ship. Okay. So regret this person feels remorse for the way they treated you, right? Well they would because a lot of you decided that you were going to leave and you weren't going to engage and now they're starting to regret it and they want to come in but they don't, I don't feel like this person has learned the lesson quite yet. This person's obsessed, right? They're obsessed with you and they keep coming back in. Okay. Well for some of you the relationship deserves a second chance and that's great. A second chance not a third, fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh. I feel like if it's a second chance, fine. And then you got to go in there if you're going to do it and let this person know that, you know, you have a right to say how things, you want things to have your needs met and if they keep running away or if they've run away again when things get tough or they get scared and they can't sit and talk to you, talk to somebody else but don't leave the relationship again and if they do then be done but don't let people back with the third, the fourth, the fifth, the sixth because then they're just taking advantage of you and you know you're looking like a doormat there that you're basically giving the message well it's okay you can walk all over me one more time. Like you've got to stand up for yourself somewhere, self-care, clear your energy field and focus on yourself before acting Virgo. Today's business is going to be a little bit short because as per usual my little illness thing has come back. I've been fighting this thing for like a week and a half and I start feeling better and it comes back again and I'm just like okay what's going on? I might have to go take one of those 19 tests to see what the deal is. I mean even if it is it's like what's the point now right? So let me just take a look here and I'm gonna see what your moon message might be for you Virgo. Okay step out of your comfort zone. What is your comfort zone Virgo? Is your comfort zone to stay and fight or is your comfort zone to walk away or to run away? How can I say this right? Your comfort for some or take that back scratch that, redact that. Your comfort zone is not doing something differently. That's what they're saying. You have to do something different. There's an old saying if you keep doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results that's the definition of insanity. If you keep doing the same thing over and over and over expecting different results that's the definition of insanity. Your stepping out of your comfort zone is doing the thing that you fear because that's the thing you should be doing the most. The thing that you fear not the thing that you don't fear because there's no growth and change unless you face your fears. So what is it going to be Virgo? Are you going to let somebody back in and dictate and keep telling you or treating you a particular way or are you going to stand up to this person and say hey I need to be heard and I need to be seen in this relationship but if I'm not acknowledged and I'm not heard and you don't accept and appreciate that I have needs to be in a met as well and you can't meet them then bye bye right or for others then you got to go okay then you got to go you got to hold somebody accountable you got to call somebody out on their bowl and if they can't do it then you can't stay you know you have to leverage it in your favor and if this person is like okay okay well I'll do this you know and then they do it for like two minutes they get you back but then they don't change like you have to make people hear you you have to be seen you can't change what they do you can only change what you do okay let me say one more I just felt the need to call one more your commitment is being tested and your this is your commitment to yourself Virgo this is not your commitment to this person your commitment to yourself is being tested right now you're definitely being tested what are you made of can you step out of that comfort zone it's time for you to heal okay heal healing doesn't mean we just lay there we do nothing healing is proactive and if you're going to make a decision to make an effort because you think this is the person and you see these red flags are repeated again then you have to hold this person accountable okay if this is a dream of yours to be with this person you need a practical plan you can't go in with the emotions because the emotions are maybe what's keeping you in your comfort zone nobody likes the feeling of you know stepping out of that stepping out of that comfort zone and having to face that hey you know what this person might not change but I can change and if that means I'm going to be on my own well what's so bad about that I love myself I saw myself there's other options somebody else will connect with me and I'll connect with them and and there will be other opportunities here you know it's it's not I mean I think it's just getting yourself in that mindset of like it's not a loss if someone isn't able to meet me halfway it's not a loss to me if anything would be a loss to them if you're there if you're mindful if you're present motivated and willing to make it work and somebody else is not they just would rather dictate how things are going to go based on their fears you can't dictate or make decisions based on your fears as far as well if I leave then I'm going to be all alone like you if you're going to leave you got to do it because you're going to be with self do you know what I mean like you're going to be happy with self because for some of you it you're happier without someone and for others you're unhappy without this person but you can't stay in the relationship because you're unhappy there too so you got to make a decision all right let's see hand of cards take a chance risk you got to be strategic you have options don't show your hand to somebody don't make old ultimatums if you're going to make a gamble here make sure you know the risks and make sure you know what the outcome is going to be here okay play your cards right Virgo in this connection if you feel frustrated in this relationship you don't feel like you're enough or it's making you feel like you're lacking confidence if there's fear ego issues if something is happening here in this connection there's jealousy being caused then you need to take a look at that okay and figure out do you want to be in a relationship with someone who makes you feel like you're not good enough or you're not worthy enough that they keep abandoning you and you get too close that's not healthy that is not healthy okay so I do feel like you're going to get a love call someone is definitely going to be reaching out to you during this December through January period expressing their love thinking of you letting you know that's very sweet if you want to address it at that time if the conversation comes up but I wouldn't spend any more than five minutes on the phone with someone unless they're willing to talk about the relationship and how things need to change and what they're going to do about it on their end and if they don't want to have that conversation and they just want to talk about other things I got to hang up I got another call and we'll keep it moving keep it moving point blank period we're only taking bloody stumps here somebody's got to be willing motivated and capable okay to become a better person and for this relationship and that means two people meeting halfway meeting in the middle compromising working things together resolving issues and not running away from the relationship when things get too hard okay um how's that saying go when the going gets tough the tough get going okay there's no room for toughness in a relationship there's no room for toughness to be tough is to be soft to be tough is to be soft and to be open and to be expressive okay there's nothing tough or there's nothing healthy about being a relationship with someone that's full pride and that's playing the tough girl the tough guy that's you know I mean I think there's something about being confident and having the ability to persevere but to be pushing away and defensive and being tough like that that's that's there's no vulnerability so then there can't be any openness or love if there's no vulnerability and look just when I was seeing that because I was thinking of the lover's card here's the lovers embracing true love and deep intimate friendships make choices from the heart vibrant health or recovery from an illness okay so this is about could be for some of you this is this twin flame or a soulmate connection what two people are making a decision about the relationship that's either to come together excuse me or to separate okay but it's a choice it's a decision that is always what the lovers is about okay it's either the strength of two together the strength of two apart so I feel like during this time period some of you I don't know exactly who has an issue to address in the relationship and hopefully you guys I hope that somebody does respond to this and actually puts in the effort makes the effort because they feel that you are the one for them and takes a look at their own red flags as well as you healing from yours all right bravo so like I said this is going to be short and sweet tonight and I'm going to actually go take a nap or just go to bed I don't know all right you guys I love you very much and I will see you all hopefully tomorrow