 the one way to make the narcissist respect you. That is what we're going to be talking about in this video too. You weren't involved with a narcissist, maybe you still are. And they've disrespected you. They insulted you, they put you down. They put you through all sorts of things and after a while you started to get fed up of it. You didn't want to do it anymore because you felt disrespected. You knew that you were deserving of better treatment. So you received treatment than what was less than what you deserved. And that is why many of you are watching this video today. Because you know that you deserve respect. And you want to know how you can get respect from the narcissist. But first we have to talk about how narcissists are completely self-centered. The world revolves around them. They don't consider other people concerned about respecting you. They're not really concerned about your feelings. They're not concerned about that doesn't even cross their minds. Unless they feel like they have no other choice than to respect you. It's only then that they may come back with the fake apologies, the false epiphanies, whatever they think you want to hear. But even then it still is not real. They're just doing that because they want to get something out of you. They're not doing it because they actually care. They love you or miss you. It has nothing to do with that. So yeah that's what narcissists are like. They are self-centered. They're self-absorbed and they lack empathy. So they don't consider you. And in fact they don't even see you as a real separate person. They see you as an object or as an extension of them. So they expect you to want whatever they want. They expect you to feel however they feel. And if you don't then they're going to get upset, they're going to get angry. But this video is about how you can make a narcissist respect you. And yeah there is a way for you to do that. And the way to do that is by walking away. Because as long as you remain around a narcissist, they are going to devalue you. That's all they're going to do. They're never going to appreciate you. Because they look at it like if you're so great if you're such a valuable person if you're really worthy of my respect then what are you even doing around me? Shouldn't you be somewhere else with someone else? That's how they think. So as long as you're around the narcissist by default all they can do is devalue and degrade you. All they can do is insult you and put you down. They'll never value you. They won't. But they will when you walk away. When you go no contact. Then they'll have no other choice. They'll be forced to respect that decision that you have made. And then they may even start to value you as we know when the narcissist discards a victim. Yeah they may go off with someone else. They may find new supply. In time what do they do? They re-idealize you. They may even see you as being perfect again. So they start to value you again. And they respect your decision to stay away from them and to focus on yourself and your own life. They have no choice but to respect that. They're forced to respect it. Because it's something that is outside of their control. So they're forced to respect your power to make that decision. But even then they're still just going to see you as an object. They're never going to see you as a real separate person because they're not even real themselves. And they can't truly value you because they don't have any value of their own. Narcissists are low value people. They have no value of their own. They have nothing of value. So they can't see the value in you. But the interesting thing is a high value person can actually see the value in everything. Because if you've done the work to get to where you were to where you are now you will see that things have potential. The Narcissists may not have been what you wanted them to be but you saw the potential in them. That's what kept you around. As well as the lies and the future faking. But you believed in that because you saw the best in them. And the reason why you saw the best in them is because you also see the best in yourself. However we treat other people it can only ever be a reflection of how we feel about ourselves inside. Let me just say that again. However we treat other people it can only ever be a reflection of how we feel about ourselves inside. And I need you to remember that when you are dealing with the Narcissist. You need to remember that because then you will be able to disidentify from the things that they are saying to you and the way that they are treating you. Because when they disrespect you it really has nothing to do with you as a person. I mean you just got to think back and remember when was the last time that you actually sat down with them and had a conversation. When did they ever take an interest in you? When did they ever want to hear about your day? But they never did that. And that is how you know that they don't even see you as a separate individual person with your own likes, interests and needs. They don't even care about that. It means nothing to them. All they care about is what are you going to do for them right now and you can be sure that they are not going to do anything for you in return. Narcissists do not reciprocate unless they think that they have to. But even then they are only going to do it to get someone out of you. So, yeah, you need to be aware of that. But as I said if you want to make a narcissist respect you all you have got to do is walk away and go into contact. But to be honest I wouldn't even advise to gain a narcissist respect. In my opinion I just look at it like why would you even think about what they think about you. A person who does what they do just look at how they mistreated you. Why would you even give a damn about their respect? Their respect is not worth anything. It's worth nothing. But I tell you what is worth something your respect for yourself that is worth more than anything in the world. And the reason why is because if you respect yourself people will begin to respect you. When you take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally other people will begin to see you in a new light and they will begin to give you the respect that you deserve. If you're not already getting it right now. But narcissists no, they can't do any of that. They will never respect you in the way that you may want. The closest you're ever going to get is if you walk away. That's the only power you're ever going to get in this situation and I can promise you that that is the only hole that you will have. That is the only thing that you can do because anything else it's not going to work not with a narcissist. You're not going to get what you want from that and in fact it will only irritate them the more that you try to get them to understand to respect you that's just going to wind them up even more because they don't want to see you as anything valuable. They just want to see you as an object that they can use whenever they want to and if they have to see you as something valuable then that means they have to give something back to you and if you're dealing with a narcissist they don't want to do that. They don't want to do that. What they want to do is they want to gain access into your life and just take whatever they can and then take off unless they can use you as their supply this emotional regulation tool this emotional punching bag, emotional tampon this doormat, this fool yeah if they can use you for that they might stick around for a while but if you put yourself in that situation you're disrespecting yourself and if you disrespect yourself how can you expect anyone to respect you? This is why you have to take care of your body you have to take care of your mind because when people see how you treat yourself you're showing people that you value yourself and then other people will start to say oh I can't treat this person like that this person isn't going to tolerate it other people will start to see that and then they will begin to treat you differently but this is for those who if it's not just with narcissists just people in general you find that you're not getting the respect that you deserve you don't have a voice people aren't listening to you so that's how you do that but like I said with narcissists no they're never going to respect you in the way that you like they're never going to listen to you they're never going to understand you and you have to stop seeing that as a problem because that's not a problem at all the only problem is that you're not walking away and go contact when you need to that's their problem if they can't connect to you don't see that as something wrong with you because it's not you're fine remember when you got into that relationship with them in the first place you were trying to build something with them you desired something meaningful you desired something long term so don't let them put you down don't value you don't let them make you think that something is wrong with you because it's not the only thing that's wrong and what you should take responsibility for is for letting someone like that in your life in the first place someone who couldn't see your value someone who couldn't even respect you yes you need to take responsibility for that so that it doesn't happen again but everything else, no, it's not your fault and I need you to know that so don't let it get you down you just have to leave the narcissist in the past you need to move on because trust me there are far better opportunities for you out there to get what you want whatever it is that you're looking for yes you can have that but it all starts by leaving the narcissist behind because then you can make space in your life for what you really want because I already know what you've got right now you don't really want that you do want someone who values and respects you and sees you as the individual, separate person that you are with your own likes, interests and needs because that's why you found my videos, isn't it? because clearly you weren't getting that from the narcissist that you were with but I promise you that you will get that it all starts by leaving the narcissist behind because they are taking up space in your life and at the same time you're not getting what you want you're not getting what you want and that's really my goal, my mission when I come on here is to make sure that you do get what you want because I want you to have that and I know that you will but sometimes we undervalue ourselves we look at the person that we're with this narcissist, the selfish person and in the back of our minds we really think that this is as good as it gets you need to start valuing yourself more you need to realise that you are made for better things because you are made for better things and soon you will realise that so yeah, I don't want to stay too long on here it may start to rain again soon but I hope that you got what you wanted from this video I hope that you now know how to make a narcissist respect you because I can tell you that all of you who are watching my videos you do deserve respect you do deserve respect and you need to remind yourself of that every day so yeah, just like to thank you all for joining me thank you all for your support and if you'd like to show your appreciation and support for my content you can give this video a thumbs up down below share the video, subscribe and for what I'm on coaching, you can book on my website which is narksviver.co.uk on my Instagram, you can check out my posts on there and you can send me a message as well it's narksviver.co.uk on Instagram alright, that's all for this video thank you all for joining me and I will talk to you in another one very soon