 Okay, good morning. Once again, welcome to class. We've been going through a new portion of our lessons and we started looking at elements of a healthy marriage and we started off with talking about communication the last time. And yeah, so maybe you know, would someone like to quickly unmute and a quick recap of what we did last week, quickly in 30 seconds. Anyone would like to quickly unmute and just a quick recap. Yes, inviting some students to do so. Yes, maybe I'd like to hear somebody we haven't heard in such a in a long time. Uh, Dinesh, would you like to attempt? I suppose you were the last class. Would you like to attempt as to a quick? Sorry, I missed the last class. You were not there. Okay. No problem. No problem. Okay. Anybody else? Mangi, were you there last week? Were you there last week? Would you like to give us a recap of what we did last week? Yes, I was. Yeah. Last week we looked at. Okay, last week we started looking at the responsibilities of husband and wife. And you say that the wife and husband are all co-eco, except the responsibility that God has given us is different. Then we went to look into the characteristics of love and what love is and what love is not. And then we went to Timothy, first Timothy, and we looked how we spoke about sex and marriage and how sex is given to enjoy for husband and wife. And then we went to see how to build characteristics of building the strong marriage and what's needed, communication and opportunities of issues and building trust between husband and wife and how trust takes time to build. It's not something that comes easily. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much, Mangi. That was wonderful. Thanks. So I hope you all were able to take some time to do the you know, the previous chapter we did on love languages. I hope you took that time to do that questionnaire. Did anybody take the time to do that and found out something new about yourself as well as your spouse? Okay, if you haven't, I encourage you to do it. It'll be an eye opener for you. Okay. All right. Okay. I think before we get started, I do also want to mention that your first assessment will be put up by the end of this week. And you will need to complete the assessment and marks of this assessment will go towards your final grade. So ensure that you keep an eye on the classroom. You'll also get a mail saying that I have posted an assessment. So please do ensure that you complete the assessment. There will be a time limit for it, which will be given on the assessment itself. You will have a good number of days to complete it, but please ensure that it gets done. And because this counts towards your final marking scheme. And the chapters that we've done so far, that is chapters one up onto chapter five is what the first portion that we worked on, not the current chapter that we're doing, not the chapter on communication, but chapters one to five is what you will be having for your assessment. Okay. So please go back, read, go through what we have done. If you've attended class, it should be fairly easy for you to crack it. But please ensure that you do the assessment because it will impact your final grade. And if you're doing your next year, that will impact your entry into that as well. So please do ensure that you do the assessment on time. And definitely with going through your lessons. Okay. All right. We're going to proceed on with what we had started off with. We were looking at communication last week. We initially spoke about the different levels of communication. Then we focused on the three important elements in communication, which is trust, time, and transparency. We started looking at what are some of the benefits that communication brings to within a marriage. We were beginning to look at the elements of communication. We started off with listening. And that's why we are wrapped up. We looked at how in Scripture it does encourage us to really work on the way that we listen on being able to be quick to listen. And some of the aspects that we looked into was how we could be attentive as we listen. We need to be open. We need to be patient. We need to be responsive and being sensitive to the emotions, the feelings of the other person. We also, through the comments, we also were talking about how listening also comes through observing the body language. And the basic goal in listening is to ensure that we understand what the person is saying and not figure out an answer as we're listening. I hope you also took time to do the listening questionnaire. It really gives you an understanding of how well you use the years that God has given you. If you haven't done that, go back and do it. And each of those items that you see over there is something that you can work on for yourself. We're going to be looking at the next element of communication, which is expressions or which is how is it that we speak or how is it that we express ourselves. Now, before I get into expression, I just want to add a small element that usually comes in between listening and expression. So when you're listening to somebody, a good listener always tries to give a feedback of what they have heard. So let's say your spouse is saying something to you. Before you express or you respond or you speak, it's a good practice to give a feedback of what you have heard. Now, because we're using a medium like language or words, and very often it gets misinterpreted or misconstrued when it moves from one person to another. And we may be very selective in what we hear or what we listen to. And we respond out of our understanding of what we have heard. So what does a feedback do is you respond accordingly to the understanding that the other person is trying to communicate to you. So when you give a feedback, you're communicating, hey, this is what I have understood you saying, is that in line with what you were trying to articulate. So as a good practice, I think it's important when you are talking to somebody. And you could do this with anyone. I mean, it could be with your children. It could be with your spouse. It could be with your colleagues or whoever you're working with. When someone's saying something to you, and especially when they are emotionally laden content, it is good to give a feedback about what you heard. Because then you know you're in track with the person who is communicating to you. So in between this listening and expression comes this feedback, which is a very good practice in building a good communication. Okay, so now coming to an expression of how do we, how is it that we express or what are some things that we keep in mind as we speak or as we respond. So a good communication needs both, you know, you need to listen as well as you need to respond. And sometimes we notice how is the feedback different from a response. Okay, so a feedback, okay, the response is, okay, now when someone is saying something like, for example, I'm saying, I'm telling somebody, hey, you know, last night, you know, you really, I'm trying to get a situation, okay, last night when you, when you came back, you, you know, you didn't, you didn't acknowledge me at all. Or, you know, you just went, no, last night when you came, you just went straight to bed. Okay, so that's what I have said. Now a feedback would be in some words, repeating what the other person has said. So, so the feedback would something, okay, what I hear you saying is that when I came back last night, you felt bad that I didn't acknowledge you. So this is not exactly what you heard, but this is the way that you understood it. Okay, so when you give a feedback such as that the person say, yeah, that's right, you got that right, you know, I felt unacknowledged when you came. And the response is going to be, it's either your explanation or it's your apology, or it's your justification, whatever. So feedback is different from response. I hope that answer got that, the scenario got it clear. Charles, I hope you understood that. Or is there, is there any additional thing you'd like me to, yeah, okay, all right. So, so, so what we mean by feedback is you are probably repeating or paraphrasing the content someone has given you and also picking up the emotion that they have, they have articulated so that you feel you've understood what they're trying to say. Okay, because or let me give you maybe my feedback is probably wrong. So I may be saying, Hey, you know what I heard you saying that when I came back yesterday, last night, you know, you were worried that I was so late into the night. Okay, so then that may be a different. I probably didn't think of it. That's a hey, I'd say no, no, that's not it. It wasn't that I was worried. It was that, you know, I just feel you didn't acknowledge me. So when you give a feedback, you actually help to let the other person know what is on your mind. So you give you're able to even correct it. When you get a feedback, you're able to correct it. And as a result, the communication becomes a lot more healthier. Okay, so in expression, so as we're coming back to expression, sometimes the way that we express, we there are very different ways that we can express. You know, each of you can probably think of the way that you tend to respond to, to somebody's question. Okay, you could either respond in the respond or express it in a way just to state certain facts. Okay, you're just giving some objective information or certain facts of the content of the communication. Whereas some, when you express, there's a lot more emotions that are brought into it. There are a lot more of feelings that come by in in what they may be saying or what they may be doing. So let me bring again an example. So when you're talking, so I'll get back the same example. Okay, that, you know, the question, the content is that the person that maybe it's a wife telling the husband, you know, I you came back really late yesterday and I was really upset. Okay, so the person who talks with, you know, giving facts is a hey, you know, there was a lot of traffic on the way. You know, I got late, my boss gave me, you know, 10 things to do before I came. So it's a lot more of factual information that is that's been expressed. Okay, so that's where you state facts are very objective in the way that you respond. Okay, maybe for someone who's emotional may respond differently, they may say things like, Oh, I'm, I'm really sorry, I didn't think that this would concern you. But you know, I was steeped up in so much of work, I was quite anxious to finish everything, there were, there were 10 things to do, then there was, there was a lot of traffic and I was really tired and I was bogged down and, and I, you know, I think I just missed looking at you, would you, you know, would you, I'm sorry that I didn't see how bad you were feeling about it. So you see, the differences in the way that we may respond, some may be very cognitive in the way that they respond, some may be very emotional in the way that they respond. Okay. Or sometimes in our responses, we could be the way that we respond could be quite aggressive, like for example, you know, the husband could probably say something like, What? What do you mean? You know, I didn't look at you. So that's, that's could be a very harsh kind of an aggressive, a kind of a tone. Okay, or some may be more soft, soft spoken, say, Oh, darling, oh, you're so sensitive, you know, come here, let me give you a hug. So, you know, the way that we respond could be very, very difficult, very different. And, and so what happens is it could be through, because we are, we, we follow a certain way of expression, it may be hard to really understand what may be going on within, within us. Okay. So there may not be, you know, there are helpful ways of responding, of course, but it is important to understand that there are differences in the way that we express things. And a lot of times the way that we express also goes back to the way that we have seen people expressing things around us, right? Maybe in our homes, in our parental homes, the way that things have been expressed, right? When there is a question asked, does it come back with a question? Or does it come back with an answer? Or does it come back with silence? So there are different ways that people may express. However, when we look at scripture and good ways of how we communicate, there is a lot that scripture talks about how we express. And we will, we will just look at a few things over here as we consider the scripture that we see in Ephesians 4, 29 to 32. I'm on page 76. I'd like somebody to read that please. Ephesians 4, 29 to 32. Anybody? Anyone? Ephesians 4, 29 to 32. Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide what is needed so that what you say will look good to those who hear you. And do not make God's whole spirit sad. So the spirit is God's mark of ownership on you, a guarantee that the day will come when God will set you free. Get rid of all bitterness, passion and anger, no more shouting or insults, no more hateful feelings of any sort. Instead, be kind and tender hearted to one another and forgive one another as God has forgiven you through Christ. Amen. Thank you Charles. Thank you so much. So if you look at this scripture, it gives you principles of how, when, when we express or when we articulate, when we speak, what should we take care of? Verse 29, it talks of not using harmful words. So harmful words can be anything from insults, obscenity to things that probably bring about hate or hurt. Okay. It says only helpful words and that which builds up. So when we speak, what we are gauging to see is what if, whether, if what I'm saying is encouraging and building the other person up and provide what is needed. So we only say what is needed and not gather things from here and there to make it more flurry or to make it more fuller, but just being able to express for what the need is at that point in time, to be able to stay at the here and now, to be able to stay at the current situation that the conversation is bringing. Okay. So that when you speak, it is also good to those who hear you. So in a conversation, your good, a good question to ask is if you're speaking or expressing well is, is it pleasant to the years of the one who's hearing me? Okay. Have I spoken well or have I responded in a way that that is good for the person who has heard me? Okay. It also talks about no, no shouts, no insults and no hateful feelings at all. So these are some of the principle that we do. We do need to keep in mind scripture talks of how we align the way that we speak on to the standards of what God's word talks about. Okay. As an exercise again, there is, there is a small, there are a few, like, like certain items like a question that you can do to help to see how do you speak to your spouse? What are some of the things that you may need to take care of? Sometimes we may use sacchasm. Sometimes we may use, you know, we, we beat around the bush, or we do not, we do not focus on the point that needs to be discussed. So the way that we express ourselves is also very important in building that communication. Okay. All right. Now, if you, if you are to look at page 77 and 78, there are many proverbs that's, that is there on communication. Okay. And it talks of how the, our words or the things that we say impact and influence the other, influence the other person and as well as influence us. So, you know, maybe as homework or something that, you know, you can do together with your spouse is to look through the scripture and really find out where is it that is, you know, it is not an alignment with what scripture talks about and how really can you begin to apply this in your marriage and apply this in your family. So take up a couple of scripture and do this and it can be extremely enriching as you, as you work on this together because this is straight from God's word teaching you how you can well express yourself, how you can be one who listens well, who, who understands each other. Okay. So take time to do that. We'll move on to the, any, any questions here else we will, we will move forward. Okay. So we're going to look at two, just two more portions of in communication is one is, what is it that causes problems in communication? That's one we're going to look at. And we are going to be also looking at a law, the spiritual law of communication. Okay. Now, this is a time for some, some candid talk. Okay. How, how, what has been your experience on, on having trouble communicating with, with somebody? I mean, needn't only be your spouse, but where is it that you have seen that you may tend to shut down and not communicate in a relationship? What are some factors that you see contributes to a bad year or a breakdown in communication? I'm sure, I mean, we all communicate on a daily basis, right? And I'm sure some of us have not communicated because we've, we've felt something. Yes, Charles, go ahead, please. Thank you. One of the area where I find that I have to keep quiet and shut down is when I have identified something that is not good. And when I express it and it requires for my spouse to say, sorry, she will not respond well. And what I do, I keep quiet. Okay. All right. Okay. Okay. That's good. Thank you. Thank you, Charles. Okay. I think Anita has written where people are not open to another's perspective. Okay. When you feel someone else does not consider your opinion or consider your viewpoint, you tend to shut down. Okay. Sam, you've said when it comes to saying that I'm hurt or disappointed. Okay. So you're saying that if, if you needed to communicate to her that you're hurt or disappointed, you would, you would rather shut down. I think that's what I think it meant. I suppose so. Okay. Yeah. Okay. And Prabhakar, you said if the person is ignorant, we tend to stop speaking. Okay. All right. So, and I'm sure there are, there are many, many more examples that each of us can come up with. Let's say if you have someone who's silent, you're talking and there isn't anyone responding on the other, other end, you're, you're talking to a wall, you may tend to shut down. Yes. Or at points of time, when you feel criticized, you're saying something and you know, there is, there is criticism or there's a judgment that's coming. Yes. When you, when you are not getting attention from the other, you're trying to talk and, you know, they aren't paying attention, then communication gets shut down. Okay. When you're probably expressing your emotions and they dismiss your emotions, right? They say, why are you crying? Or what's the need for you to be angry? Or why are you making a big fuss of this? You know, then it, you tend to break down in communication. Yeah. Great. Wonderful. Okay. So, before we get there and how is it that we can, what is it that we should attempt to do is understand that the fact that intimacy builds is through communication. You, you would understand that you become closer to someone when you're able to communicate your deepest thoughts, your, your ideas, your feelings, your vulnerability. When you're able to express that is when there is a intimacy that seems to be built. Okay. And what happens is when, when we, we listed a lot of causes which, which breaks communication. So, if those things were to happen, what tends to happen is that we rather, you know, we, we kind of feel that it's better to put a wall, okay, or wall ourselves so that, you know, we don't feel hurt and we tend to withdraw and then we tend to isolate from them and as a result, communication begins to diminish and that can be a troublesome, troublesome place. All right. So, knowing that there are these certain causes or conditions that may cause us to break down communication, we, what we need to do is not let it lie, not let it leave it at that, but be, to be able to address it. Because if we let it be, then as I said, it turns to a withdrawal, it turns to an isolation and then there becomes a distance within the marriage. Okay. I think Maxon said something when I noticed that she doesn't understand what I'm trying to address yet she's arguing. Okay. Yeah. So that's again, another place where communication breaks down or even at a time when someone is so emotionally overwhelmed that they are angry and they probably, you know, maybe become very aggressive or probably could be abusive or could, you know, shout or use a high-pitched volume that also can tend to become like an, like a communication barrier or it breaks down the communication. So let's look at some of this that we have spoken about and what, and I know that these situations are not easy. Okay. Because the very fact that there is a barrier or a breakdown in communication is what needs to be addressed. Right. So maybe it has come with some situation that you wanted to address, but because of the issue in the communication, the entire communication has broken down. So, but you come back to address those faults or those loopholes that you see in communication so that, you know, the other person also does get a feedback about, about why you may be tending to shut down or the other may be tending to shut down. So it is important to bring about some kind of a remedy through this. So let's look at a few of them. What happened, what is, I think that that's something that's not mentioned on the table. So I'd like to bring it up first is what do we do when someone gets extremely aggressive or abusive? Okay. I think the first and foremost remedy is when someone is angry or in, in an extremely overwhelmed emotion, the best thing to do is simmer down. Okay. The best thing to do is call a timeout and say, Hey, you know, I don't think this is going anywhere. Let's come back again later when we are much more in a calmer situation. Okay. Because, you know, if you've seen dogs barking, you know, one dog barks. And what does the other dog do? It barks louder. And then it keeps going on and on, right? Till there is someone, somebody else who throws a stone at one of them. And then they're all they disperse. So similarly, when there is someone who's angry, you do not overpower with anger, right? But, you know, simmer down, calm down like scripture says, you know, just being able to keep away, you know, maintain that peace by probably at that moment, a good thing to just leave the place, ask permission and say, Hey, let's talk about this later when we are both calmer. So that's one, one way to deal with it, not getting into an argument when, when things are already heated up. Okay. The next, another point probably is another one of these causes could be, you know, when, when there seems to be criticism or judgment that comes about, okay. Now, all of this, all of these remedies can only be done when in a commerce, commerce time or a calmer situation, not probably at that point of time, you know, but come back and, you know, come to some form of an agreement that or, you know, share that you feel judged or you feel criticized when certain remarks are made or certain, certain responses are done. So coming back and sharing that I feel this way, I feel criticized, I feel judged when, you know, these pointers are bought out. So coming back to a place of saying that and coming to an agreement that we will ensure, we will take care that we don't try, we don't use those words of criticism or judgment. Okay. Sometimes things happen when, you know, you fear that something will be that's that, that your partner or your spouse will take something that you've said in the past back again. And there again, you know, you agree to deal with the situation at the here and now. What is present? What is current? Let's look at what, what the issue is right now and not bring and not, you know, collect things of the past into the current issue. So coming to an agreement such as that, the third one is when there is inattentiveness or, you know, there is a disinterest. So there again, you know, addressing it and letting each other know that when there is a communication happen, you will ensure that everything else comes to a halt and there will be more attention that's paid either there is a i2i communication that is sitting, you know, one facing the other. So any form that shows that they are paying attention, or maybe, you know, so sometimes in counseling, I, you know, I hear husbands saying, you know, I'm steeped at work and that's when maybe my wife comes in and she's talking to me and she gets offended when I do tell her that I'm at work and, you know, that I will, I will discuss this later. So, you know, expressing maybe maybe the so what I do encourage the husbands to say, you know, express to her that, you know, hey, what you want to tell me, I'm sure is important. I am at work right now. Can I take time at this maybe tea time four to four thirty, where we can sit and discuss that? Would that be good for you? So then, you know, some of these remedies do help in helping the other person who's probably very, very agitated to come and discuss this. Charles, I will take your question in a couple of minutes. The other one is being too busy or not having time to talk. So that's where, you know, you ensure with your spouse to set aside that time so that you can communicate. The biggest one where communication breaks on is when there is suppression of feelings. When your feelings are dismissed or when you're not, you decide that, you know, that it is not okay to share your feelings because the other person will not understand. Now, this requires a deeper sense of a communication, of helping them see that, you know, like maybe what I'm feeling is real to me. It's big to me and all I'd like you to do is probably listen is to come to a place of being open to listening and not judging that I should or shouldn't be feeling this way. And sometimes we do it very, very quickly or very flippantly. We say, you know, what's what's a big thing to cry? Oh, this is such a small thing. But for us to be aware that the emotions that the other person may be going through is something that is very strong or very important for them. And if they're able to express it, we've given them a space to share what they may be going through. So agreeing to be supportive through that time, willing to take that time to listen and engage with those emotions, even if they may be something that is hard to, to comprehend or to understand, but giving them that space to be able to do that. So of course, now these are we seem very easy when it is said in these few words, but of course, it takes a lot of practice. It takes a lot of time. It takes a lot of intention. It takes a lot of togetherness to work through some of these breakdowns that that could happen. Okay. Yes, Charles, I am you could tell me a question, please. It's not a question, but I wanted to speak about intimacy and the and how it is related to communication. Someone said that when there is intimacy, whispers are very, very loud. In a way that when your spouse is in the bedroom, you are maybe in the sitting room, you will speak with a whisper, they will hear you. But when there is no communication, you are in the bed, you are both together closer, but even the the route, the shouting will not be heard. It will be too faint. They will talk. I will talk on top of your voices because intimacy has been lost. So proper communication is is like you are removing a wall and when you have no intimacy, there is a wall in between you, even if you are together in the bed, you will talk as if you are talking behind a mountain. That's what I wanted to do, to talk about it wasn't a question. Thanks, Pastor. Thank you. Thank you. That is that is really insightful. Yeah. So I think when when we look at the word intimacy, it also means becoming into one another, right? And that's what so when we're looking at communication to build intimacy, we are looking into the other to understand more than just facts and information or data that is coming. It's a lot more things that you can't see and feel and tangibly hold with your hand, but things that come from an expression. So that's why intimacy, emotional intimacy is built through communicating of innermost thoughts, vulnerable feelings, vulnerable positions, needs, things you hope for, you aspire for. All of that is what builds intimacy because you are getting into the other person, you are seeing into the other. Thank you, Charles. Thank you. Okay. All right. We're going to look at the last portion of communication where we understand that even as we are talking about something as basic as communication, there is a certain law, there is a certain spiritual law of communication, because everything that we say has an impact. The fact that someone is trying to get it. Yes, madam. I don't see, could you, Maxine, could you kindly ask them to try once again, please, because I haven't seen any pop up. Could you please ask them to try again? Thank you, Maxine. Okay. Okay. Okay. Yeah. So, yeah, we were at the spiritual law of communication. So there is a law of law, you know, that there is a law that holds everything in our space in the world that we live in. So also, there is a law that holds the words that we speak. There is an impact of the words that we speak. And we need to understand, and scripture talks about the way that our words have a significance in our conversations, words have a significance in our own lives and in the lives of others. So the words we speak connect us to the spiritual realm. Okay. So what we speak towards ourselves connects us to the spiritual realm of our own future or our own present. And so also, when we speak to others, it connects them to their spiritual realm of their present or future. So when we look at scripture, we're going to be looking at what kind of power our words have. So if, you know, a very common verse that we, you know, we generally say in our declaration is Proverbs 18, 20 to 21. And it says, A man's stomach shall be satisfied from the fruit of his mouth and the produce of his lips he shall be filled. So you will be satisfied with what comes out of your mouth. And it follows the next verse follows death and life are in the power of the tongue. And those who love it will eat its fruit. Okay. So your words or our words when we speak has the power to bring life. It has the power to bring death. So our words are so significant that it has the ability to shape things around us. It shapes and affects our present and our future. So the words we speak needs to be life. And because it's like this, you know, we ourselves bear the consequence of what we say. So we must ensure that we speak blessing, we speak words that encourage that build that bring life, okay, which, of course, are aligned to the promises of God. Romans 10 17 says, So then faith comes from hearing the message and the message comes from preaching Christ. So faith again comes by hearing the word of God. So we use our words to inspire faith to build the faith, not to destroy it. So when we speak words of faith, what we're doing is we are building the faith of those around us. It could be a spouse, it could be a children. When we when we speak over their lives, you know, it could be, I mean, I think we can speak about that in every different situation. Maybe it is to do with something that they desire to do. I hope the person has joined it. Yeah. Okay. Something the person desires to do, it is to be able to build faith to speak in faith over their lives. But if in converse, if we were to speak fear, or we were to speak doubt, you know, that's something that gets moved into them, that gets absorbed into them. So we must choose to speak faith over our family, over our children. Okay, Matthew 17 20. Jesus said this, you know, Jesus demonstrated this, and he said that the faith in God is released by what we say. So it says, so Jesus said to them, because of your unbelief or surely I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, move from here to there, and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you. So we release our faith through the words of our mouth. So it is necessary. It is essential for us to release our faith in God, and what he will be, what he will do for our spouse and for our family. Okay, scripture does talk extensively, and James brings about this as to how is it that we need to be careful about the way that we use our tongue. And if you look at that entire scripture, I'm not going to read that you could take time to read it later. It's on page 80 in your books. It's James three, two versus two to 12. It talks about, you know, it gives an analogy of our tongues. Okay, and how our tongues are like fire that, that you know, it just just like a forest fire is built up by a very, very small flame. You know, that's enough. The small words that we use, the few words that we use, although it may seem small, it may seem insignificant, it may just come up for a second. But that's something that can steer our lives, you know, just like it gives again, two analogies to examples just like how the bit that you give a horse controls controls the horse or the rudder of a ship, you know, rather in a ship is something that can steer the entire ship into different directions. So similarly, even the words that we speak, as small and insignificant, they are can blaze a trail of things. Right. So we are James in his, you know, in, in that, in that entire portion, he, he encourages, he exhorts us to, to tame our tongues, to have a good tongue that is to, to, he inspires us to ensure that we use God's word. You know, it says in verse 10, it says words of thanksgiving and cursing pour out from the same mouth and says, my friends, this should not happen. So it is not right for for our tongues to be used to praise the Lord as and at the same time used to curse another who is made in the likeness of God. I mean, James says this should not be, it should not happen. Okay. So we, we, we need to ensure that we keep a care, a way to tame our tongues. And that, of course, is got by the power of the Holy Spirit. You know, in that there are so many times, I think even through the sessions that we, you know, that I do have for, for counseling is even among believers just being able to tame and even though they've had a salvation experience, understand scripture to, to come to that point of having their tongues edified and sanctified. Okay. So it, it is not appropriate. It is not right for, for, for us as believers to have, to speak words of curses or words of death over, over another. And we come to God, we, you know, if that's a place of struggle for some of us, bring it to the Lord and ask the Lord to sanctify you and, and to change you and to renew that area of yours, you know, by one, of course, by coming back to scripture, meditating on what scripture says and putting it into practice through the power of the Holy Spirit. Okay. Other laws of, of communication is, if you would see, you know, in the New Testament, in the Old Testament, Moses had, had instituted to the, to the priests that they should be pronouncing blessings over the people. Okay. He and, and if you look in number six, 22 to 27, this is, it's usually sung also in song, right? It's a song of blessing, where it's a principle you use to speak blessing over people over, over, over your spouse, over your children, over, over things around you and declaring that those blessings of God and the promises of God, because as scripture talks of, you know, he will protect his word, he will watch over his word to accomplish it. So speaking blessing over your spouse and your children, your marriage, your home, your, your church is, is another law that we need to remind ourselves. Also, just like we, we, we do this, we also need to use the spoken word to, you know, as our weapon against the enemy. Ephesians 6 17 says, take on the sword of the spirit, which is the word of God. So when we yield to the word of God, we use this against the enemy as we speak God's word. We see this even when the Lord was tempted, he used the word of God, he said, it is written, and we must develop that similar discipline of using God's word to fight the enemy. Okay. So these principles that we have learned, you know, we, we, we can take this over our marriages, over our relationships and understand that whatever we speak, whatever we say, okay, they're not just natural skills or good manners that we do, but we recognize that our words have impact. It has influence over, over the people who are with us. So the law that we need to understand is, you know, we need to be stewards of what we speak, because our words bring about a lot more of things than, than we can even ask and imagine. So let's speak in line with God's word and do what God's word says and use our words correctly to bless and to help those in our influence. Okay. I completed this, this chapter here. Is there anyone who'd like to ask any question, any remarks, anything at all? Okay. If, if we don't have any questions, then we'll have a break and we shall get back into class in, in a few minutes.