 So I had to I had to up my game this week as you could as you can see Yeah, you really put me to shame last week you had that the nice tie-on and and I and the shirt with a monogram and everything and all I had was this like Seven-year-old sweater from J crew or actually I think that sweater was like ten years old Still hold up nicely. So today I am wearing my break the internet in 2010 outfit the khaki cotton jacket with a blue Ice blue shirt and a how that's ice. It looks like white. That's cool knit tie It tie it does have Bottom very nice. How do you feel with the with the tie knot of knit ties? Do you double them because I feel like they get really thick and I don't like that. Yeah, I do only because I Have a really short torso Mm-hmm So ties tend to be really long on me. I don't matter. Yeah, as a matter of I have long legs in a short torso So as a matter of fact, sometimes I have in the past with a really long tie that I can never get tied right even if I like Double-loop it and around twice and everything. I actually like cut the the back off Yeah, no one sees it there. They've only been a couple of times. I've done that but no people know Now now people know right. I do hate tying knit ties though I feel like it's really hard to get a dimple the way I like it and they always kind of like go over to the side and I Always pinch the knot when I'm done to just get it like in this this kind of kind of triangle Yeah, this is I with a knit tie like this I like to use just a foreign hand or a double foreign hand most of my other ties I use Like a I guess it would be like a variation on the Nicky knot. I don't know if you know that one No, I don't I only use a plain knot. I don't use any other not. What's a plain knot? It's just you wrap around once Put it through then again. That's just I as far as I know, it's called plain not plain not Yeah, so just like a really really simple one. Yeah, I like the Nicky knot or whatever variation of it that I use For a couple reasons. It's like a it's not perfectly symmetrical Mm-hmm, which I like a lot of people like sometimes on the channel. They'll get we'll say hey you're not sucks It's not symmetrical, but it's not supposed to be symmetrical. I think the the more perfect things are The less right They look absolutely. That's why Italians started spritzatura like to they leave out small details But on purpose to make it look Unperfect and that's imperfect. That's what some people complain about but I like that too like window though The the the shorter end is longer than the the other one. Yeah, that's if you leave your monk straps That the one of one of the straps open. Yeah, I like that too. Yeah Yeah, and the other thing I like about that other than it's not exactly symmetrical as it makes like the perfect dimple Perfect every single time and then when you untie it, you don't have to There's no knot in the tie. It just unties all perfectly. Nice. That's why I like that Think we could do that we can make this a thing like next time I'm gonna dress up again, and you're gonna be dressed casual. That would be kind of cool that you think People guessing. Yeah. I Know that shirt that you're wearing. Oh Tell me about it. Where's it from? No, oh it looks like it's Pini Parma The polo with the long plaid. Yeah. Yeah, it's the the color tones very similar, but this is this is eaten Yeah, oh you time good stuff. How do you like the Pini Parma app? I love it. Absolutely love it I have as I as I mentioned my captions I just love that you only need two pieces of them like the shirt and trousers. You already look super classy Yeah, that's hard hard to achieve when we did the video when I did the Pini Parma try-on video I had a conversation a phone conversation with Tomas the founder of the brand and it was really interesting to talk to him because he Used to work at Boji. I think you know that yeah, I told me Mm-hmm, and he just wanted to do something a little more sartorial and I love how they just stick to basics It's it's if you if you happen to buy the whole collection, you're good for a while You probably wouldn't need anything, you know absolutely. Absolutely, but that's where you end up because everything's so nice that you just you can just Get everything and you're set. I was super impressed with the pants Oh, yeah, the trousers. I've never found a better off-the-rack fit for trousers than PD Parma I think the waist was perfect. I like that. It's a little bit higher, but not too high I got the pants with the pleats and the taper on them was absolutely perfect I was blown away I agree with you It's the first time that I really had had a a pants that really fit on the waist I was talking to him about the size and he said measure your pants you got now So I'm sending pictures on WhatsApp and he said they are this looks like you need a 46 and I'm like, I don't think so He's like, yeah, you need a 46 so he sent me 46 and you know what I need it 46. Yeah, it was right Yeah, well, he knows he knows what he's doing. Yeah, were you gonna you thought you needed a 44 48 I'm used to 48. I've always got 48 and this is the first time that 46 and he was super right about it And as you said, it fits perfectly. Yeah, I I was blown away as a matter of fact I got a 46 as well, but I also got a 48 because I was I was on the I was on the fence I didn't believe it either. So the 48's actually had to have taken in So there's there's something else I've been wanting to ask you about as I've been looking at your stories and Instagram and everything That's a the watch you've been wearing recently Which one the Giger, yeah The master ultra thing. Oh, yeah, I love that one in pink gold. Oh my god I love that watch when we were in London as a matter of fact. I had the Steel version of that that I that I wore for a couple shots That's it's such a nice watch and then when I went to visit the manufacturer. I wanted to Try on the pink gold, which is the one you're wearing now, right? man, and Alex the photographer that they use all the time. He took some really great pictures of it. I love that watch There's there's like there are so many watches that I want. That's up there though for sure. I Love that one too. It's super classy. It's very decent People don't can't spot it and that's that's what I love about Giger is that you I ride train all the time and people See my wrist that they they can they don't know what I'm wearing and that's that's cool I like that that one's so easy to set too. Mm-hmm. It's not a it's one button to set the entire Perpetual calendar. It is it is. Yeah one button I know you love JLC. I think you have one on your wrist right now, right? Yeah, that's the the classic reverse What's the first dual face? Can you see it? Yeah, hold it up the hold it up the camera. Oh, yeah Yeah, I know that one. So the the dual face. Yeah, you can switch the dial which it's kind of nice. Yeah That's nice. I've got on I know you like Omega It's a this is new It's a pre-bond seamaster Super thin. Yeah, it's 36 millimeters. I think it's from the early 90s so it does have well the first bond seamaster was 1995 and Before that they called that's why they call them pre-bond because it was before Bond started wearing seamaster But I love the case size and it's got a really nice patina on it. I found it on eBay. I Love eBay absolutely love eBay. There's so much to find You got to be careful. I know I'm always worried, but they have a they have a good program So yeah, lucky as far as as far as I know if you if somebody says something is original in his Description and it turns out not to be you can just send it back or get your money back Oh, really first do it with with paypal But that's that's where that's where I always do it is I check the description if somebody says this is original This is yeah, the right condition and it has to be in or else you get the money back It's scary to buy watches like that online Yeah What speaking of watches? We are gonna get to the topic of this video Speaking of watches like what are a couple that are on your wish list right now? I think they're there's one protect, but I do not know the reference number one is it I don't know the reference number. It's it's a perpetual calendar as well But to be honest, I don't really want to know the reference because else. I'm just gonna look it up on chrono and That's just I got for them for now. I got enough watches I got it gotta be gotta I didn't get enough first time anyway, so better be be very Yeah, take the time for those watches and maybe in a year or something. Oh Continue with my collection. I always want to add things or swap things out I need to do another watch collection video because it's changed so much since I did the first one I was I think it was about a year ago Couple surprises. I think for people who go back that collection video still two pieces. I really want to add our Well, we just talked about one of them the master ultra thin perpetual from JLC. I really love the Longa one longer one is sort of like your length and I remember the flyback from graph Yeah, the the data graph and then the other one that I've wanted for a while is The AP it's a 4100 BA. It's all gold and the one it has a gold dial as well It's a 36 millimeter Some of them are quartz are some of them quartz the ones I have seen of are automatic, but I just love that watch The Royal Oak Royal Oak. Yeah, I think it's a classic. Yeah from the the 4100 BA I believe is from like the late 70s early 80s depending on when there's one on Chrono 24 right now. Hmm I know exactly I just at the forum for now, I just stopped watching looking at quote 24 because just it gets me into Get the stupid ideas. Yeah. Yeah Exactly. So here we are episode two. This is now officially a series. I guess Yeah, now we're locked in we have to do this People seem to really like it. What was the feedback that you got from some of your followers? Absolutely. I also got some some messages from people watching the the podcast saying was a good for conversation and Yeah, so it's it's great. Also your YouTube subscribers, I'm astonished at how Interested people are and and how much they're into the topic. It's just it's an honor. It's a big honor Yeah, it's cool. I was I'm always thankful for all of the The positive feedback that we get for the YouTube videos and everything and this one was no exception as I told you, you know Like conversations like this longer form things Views typically are a little bit lower because it's really like the super fans who want to tune in and get to know you and Hear what hear what we have to say, but the average watch time I'm like a super metrics nerd when it comes to this stuff, but like the time people were watching and The click-through rate and all that was just sky-high much higher than normal videos That's super cool. I like that hardly any negative feedback. The only one kind of constructive Thing that came out of it was people wanted to see It was a few people Chimed in and said it would be cool if it was more topical You guys just focused on one thing and that was something that we actually discussed as we were preparing for this in the beginning is should we make it topical or should we just have it be a conversation and see where it goes and I think maybe the answer is a compromise. So, right? So we've started off already Kind of just catching up and everything, but we do actually have a topic planned for this and that is Let me see. How do what how would you say it? Being a modern gentleman or what does it mean to be a modern gentleman? That's a whole Topic unto itself. Yeah, so Yeah, what are your thoughts? Let's just let's just put it out there It's such a rich topic that I Don't have any bullet points. So I'm just gonna gonna throw something in and then we'll see where it goes To me a modern gentleman. First of all starts with the mindset I think of course if you think about a gentleman, you first of all think about somebody dressed like you right now But and that is that is that is a very that is a big part of it as well, of course but first of all it is being respectful being attentive and Yeah having having It's hard to say Yeah, let's stick to being being respectful attentive and having manners for now What do you think? I agree. I want to dive into the topic of dressing and how that does or does not equate to being a gentleman Because I think you know, there are some people who have what I would call An adivistic view of men's style Adivistic like kind of not of this place and time Not an acronymistic, but Yeah, there's just a certain way it should be and that was a while ago and So a gentleman is someone who wears a suit all the time and has a fancy mustache and a top hat Knows these things. That's what a gentleman smoking a pipe or something Is that is that a gentleman? Is that what we have to have to aspire to to be a gentleman today? I think that was a gentleman Decades ago and that was the the gentleman at that time But nowadays a gentleman is much more subtle much more modern He still has kind of this very classic twist, which is kind of nice, but you don't necessarily have to I think it's more. Yeah, as I said more about the mindset and in terms of dressing it's more about being cleanly dressed and You're looking looking fly looking fly Do you have to have do you have to have some sort of? Classic element to your style to be a gentleman Hmm. That's a good question You have you have classic basic elements and I would say that is something like a Chino something very gentleman, but also depends on on where you're going to If you're you're going out on a casual night a chinos and both boots shoes are really cool But well, let's let's maybe say the core of a gentleman look is a crisp shirt crisp shirt See so I would I would I don't really know the answer to this Me too, and You know from my perspective there's an Element of how you dress, but it doesn't have to be a certain way That's saying like someone who wears a suit is a gentleman and someone who prefers More fashion or streetwear type stuff. Are they can they not be a gentleman as well? That's I think where the problem comes because I think you they can Absolutely. Yeah, just because you dress a certain way doesn't preclude you or or What's the word I'm looking for Doesn't eliminate you from the category of being a gentleman, you know if I like to If I like to wear runway fashion like Rick Owens or something like that. Am I Am I not a gentleman because that's what I like to wear. I don't think so is Nick Wooster not a gentleman Personally, I've met him before so I can't really tell but from from I think I think it does convey a very gentleman gentleman style But it's a good answer good question because I don't really know what it is I think it's something about your attitude as well. You can you can be street style dress, but if you convey the rights ideas or Yeah, then then Can I just tell a quick story about an encounter I had with Nick Wooster. Oh Yes, it's funny. I've got it. It's got a story to okay. Well, I'll tell my it's awful. It's awful. Oh, no You first. Okay. I'll tell mine first. This is really funny. So back when this all started for me like launch T spoke silent 2013 things happened really fast and That next summer it was the summer of 2014 There's so there's an affiliate program here in America called reward style. Have you heard of it? I Think I've heard but it could reconnect it to something Yeah reward style and they were throwing a big party. This is back when in New York Fashion Week still happened in Lincoln Center Plaza like that was where all this stuff happened and that's where all the street style photos were taken so across the street from Lincoln Center is a hotel called the I Can't remember the name of the hotel, but it's a famous hotel and reward style was having a rooftop party for all the people that they worked with and so on during New York Fashion Week in the summer so I went and There's a huge line out the door to get in and I get in the line and the girls are you know they're coming by and like taking everyone's name on the iPad, you know, and they I was way in the back and Nick Wooster is Right behind me or he gets he's in front of me or behind me one or the other we're right next to each other So I I have no shame. So I just started talking with them. He seemed like a super nice guy So the girls with iPads coming through and she comes to me She's oh Brian because they knew me I'd been to a couple of their other events in the past Brian Come on. Just go to the front and they like walked right past Nick Wooster I'm like, who am I? I'm no one this guy is a legend and you don't even recognize him So I was like I said, hey, this is my friend Nick. Can he come with us? so we went up to the roof and It was nice and we he was he was a very nice guy We had a nice conversation and then the other funny thing that happened up there was that He people just didn't know who he was at this thing. I I couldn't I couldn't believe it But so someone some like influencer girl. I don't even remember who she was Asked Nick to take her photo like in front of the Whatever Like there's this influencer girl who's nobody asking this icon Nick Wooster doesn't even know who he is Hey, can you take a picture of me with my phone? How did he react? It was very Generous and polite and he did it. I have a photo of him taking that photo. We'll put that up for the people watching the video Yeah, nice. Yeah. No, he was he was very very kind Very smart very intelligent. We had a great conversation and that's my that was my first encounter with him and it was a positive one so Your turn So embarrassing because that was a pity wobble Um, I mean his reaction was looking back to now. He was he was a gentleman, but at that point, um I was with another influencer. His name is An instagram was jj88 fashionist. You remember this very flashy dressed swiss guy. He was like wearing white pants with color sprinkles on it and red blazers and green ties and yellow hats That's what he was dressed like what you're with. He's really cool. You're with us What year was this? Oh, that's I think that was like 2017 something around that that time and um we were downstairs in the in the pity building and um We saw nick wooster standing in a corner with the women talking And jj was like, oh, I gotta pick I gotta have a picture with nick wooster And we were like, okay, we'll wait. We're in a group of three or four people And uh, he was standing there and standing there and waiting and I was like, what are you waiting for? He's like, I don't know. I think he's talking to that woman. I was like, yeah, but do we want to go upstairs? So hurry up and uh, so I was like, I'm gonna do this for you. I went up to nick wooster was like, excuse me Mr. Wooster, can we have a picture with you? He's like I'm in an interview right now. Oh, can you please? Yeah and I felt kind of kind of like he was he was uh Being very respectful towards towards the women because uh, he was in an interview situation It was just a random guy coming up and disturbing them And that was that was not cool of me. But to me in that moment, I felt so ashamed and I feel like if if he sees me again, he exactly knows who I am because he felt Really, he was very mad at that moment. Oh, that's too bad. But you did but it was you didn't know I mean, you didn't know she'd have a microphone or anything. Did she? I can't remember but um, yeah, that's that's the only reason that's your memory haven't been It's like he's telling me like dude back up Oh, no I thought you were gonna be like, well, you know, there were A couple guys with boom microphones and there were like 10 cameras around their video That's that's the only memory I have of nick wooster and uh, yeah It's it's funny that you always always remember something something negative so so intensely I mean, he didn't do anything to me But he was just being kind towards her and I felt kind of insulted but at the end he was super Super correct and very polite towards her and that was that's a good thing. I'm sure it would be water under the bridge If you met him again I hope so, but I don't think so still Do you is there anything else you want to say about dressing And how that equates to being a gentleman or not being a gentleman I don't know if there's an answer really I like your idea of Putting some care into it. Yeah, I think that I always say that how you dress It says something about you, but it also says something to other people sort of It shows respect to people in some way absolutely That you respect them For being there for example, I'm working on a video right now What we recorded it No, we didn't record it yet, but there's a video topic. I'm going to do How many suits do you need? really And the first guy us is a this is a preview of the video perhaps But the first guy I had is the guy who never wears a suit And I said the guy who never wears a suit still needs to have one suit Because there are certain events that you go to That you should wear a suit too. I'm thinking specifically of weddings and funerals Right, so even the guy who never wears a suit should still have a suit and if he says, yeah, I don't I don't need to wear a suit to that Yes, I think yes, you do you do because You owe it to show the people who you are attending The event for whether that's a wedding or funeral that I think it shows a measure of respect Absolutely because you're that's your message if you should with everyone's dressed in a suit To a wedding and you're the guy coming up in blue jeans Yeah So I think we can agree that Okay, we'll agree that there's some element Of dress involved and it's just care you put into your personal appearance whether that's You dress in suits or you dress in casual wear But it's not the main thing Right to being a gentleman and you brought up some things that are more on the personal level Such as being respectful that I think that gets more to the heart of what a modern gentleman is today Yeah, absolutely. That's um, I see it the same way like like uh, like we we have this image of this Super well dressed guy with a hat and that was a gentleman Decades ago and nowadays kind of switched into a more because dressing is versatile That's why it's getting more into to a character thing and also like making like sharing sharing positivity and and happiness with people and just being being polite and Yeah, showing people that you care. That's being a gentleman like as I said I write the train a lot and just if there's somebody running towards a train and you see the doors close and they're automatic and just hold up the door and wait until this person's inside and That moment you're just being attentive. You're being respectful and and the person's happy and It's you know, it's just this very small acts you do and Those are the things if you dress well and you just sit there like it's not my business if this person gets a trainer not I would say I'm still going back to the I'm still stuck on the how do you dress thing and people who you know people who Say you have to dress in a suit to be a gentleman. My question is back in the 1920s and 30s and 40s when all these people were wearing Suits and looking dressed like that like our picture of a gentleman. Were they all gentlemen? Probably not Mm-hmm Right probably not right Don Draper From madman. You're familiar with the show. Oh, absolutely. I've watched the first two or three episodes seasons. It's awesome Yeah, he dresses like a quote-unquote gentleman, but I would say that he is does not act like a gentleman right absolutely, right Those maybe those things evolve over time, but we're talking about a modern gentleman and that is definitely not a modern gentleman I'm pulling up right now a post that I wrote three years ago in 2017 and I called it welcome to the year of the gentleman. It was like the first post I did on the website of 2017 and we'll put that up on the the feed for the Video that people can see Or it'll be the show notes too people can refer to that if they're listening on their podcast platform of Choice, but I said I'll just kind of paraphrase here as I'm looking at it Okay, so Here I said three years ago More than three years ago being a gentleman goes beyond the clothes that you wear A man is a sum of his parts his life his work his interests his passions his sense of curiosity and adventure So when someone says being a gentleman it sounds like a bygone era There's a lot of information how to dress like a gentleman shave like a gentleman drink like a gentleman But it's presented in a way that the truth of that the art of being an acting like a gentleman is transcendent so There are these things that equate to being a gentleman throughout time Uh, so I had listed here several things that I think people should think about And we can talk about each one of them perhaps it's still relevant today Uh, so There's never been a better time to think about conducting yourself with dignity respect and kindness towards others And that's what you are just talking about. I think that's perfect And so that's why I said we're calling 2017 the year of the gentleman Challenge you to embrace it, but I think you can call any year the year of the gentleman It's always I think it's a good thing to aspire to to be better yourself be more polite and kind to the people around you Absolutely, and also like being a gentleman is a constant state. It's just not something you it's like you take off like a tie when you're done with work It's it's your whole mindset behind it Yeah, I like that a lot Yeah, it has to be you have to embody it So several things to think about and the first one I listed was politics Always gonna let that hang there politics so When it comes to respect, I think what I was trying to say here is it's Unless you're with like a really close knit group of people who you know share your viewpoints If you're hanging out with new people or you're at a cocktail party or some kind of event just just Out of respect for everyone. Just leave it out of the conversation if you don't have to talk about it You know Okay, okay interesting. Yeah, I I never really get into into politic discussions with people because um Yeah, that's it's a never-ending story, you know, yeah, and it's it's also a Kind of a situation killer with some people either you're super super into it and then you get into a discussion you're just Nobody can follow or you're just not interested in it at all and you don't want to follow. So yeah Um That's why I have my views and I have friends with different views and but they were very close friends And we'll we'll argue every now and then about it But I always kind of come when I argue with Not really argue, but if I get into something someone I always feel like I could like spend time better With them, you know, I understand they have different views and no one's going to come out winning Really, you know, we just have Yeah, go ahead. Sorry. That's also what's sorry. That's also what being a gentleman is about like And being being Kind of a good politician in terms of Letting people have their opinion And being able to mediate between people. I think that's also a gentleman aspect like not really Insisting on what you think is right, but accepting what others think even though you maybe you might not really agree, but You know, like giving the person the the feeling that you you heard what the person said that you respect What the person said and even though you might be of a different opinion Just don't maybe sometimes don't really show it if it comes to politics Yeah, I think in general anytime there's not just politics, but anytime there's a competing, you know, two sides of a story it's always good to hear both sides and try to understand and empathize with both sides and you can have your opinion, but I think not only does that go to being a gentleman, but that's also a quality of a good leader You're able to hear What both sides of you know people maybe that you're in charge of are thinking And effectively communicate What those issues are and hopefully affect change in some kind of way What just comes up to my mind is um As we said a gentleman Decades ago was was dressed in a certain way and since these people don't really this kind of dressing doesn't really exist anymore It's just awkward seeing somebody walking around dressed with a hat But I don't think that the the spirit of being a gentleman is gone. That means Even though people are not dressed like that they still exist So that means it's not really that much more about the dressing but also like the bigger picture of the person Decades ago was it was just addressing and now it is much much more Yeah Let's talk about now Another thing I think is important to have in this discussion. That's phone etiquette Phone etiquette. Would you phone etiquette? Like always being on your phone not present in the moment If you're with a group of people everyone's just kind of Looking at their phone. Yeah, uh-huh Yeah, remember the gisela culture event we were just talking we were talking to each other looking into each other's face And that means being attentive being in the situation with the person and showing the person that you really care about What he's talking about and not just Wanting to talk for yourself because a lot of people are always in this kind of state where they just They're just waiting to to talk again and don't really listen and Generally listen to listening to somebody is Is a beautiful feeling for that person and you start wanting to to to talk more with that person I always I've said in the past that i'm a terrible blogger or social media person because when I go to events like that I probably don't do as much as I should For you know being at the event or like chronicling the event But I would much rather Enjoy it Enjoy the absorb the experience and be selective with with how I share What I what I am experiencing rather than constantly being like hey look at me and everyone's here and That's just I don't know Absolutely, I think bandett is that a tricky part about about being a blogger or being on social media is First of all being invited invited to to to a nice party or or great events But also being in that situation and and Like engaging with people but afterwards engaging with the community as well. That's why I do it the same as you do That's why we had such a nice discussion that evening. I mean we could have Both do our job and just be on the phone upload something but then we wouldn't have Genuinely met and sit here and talk right and that's why I also upload also at night that night I think I uploaded like two or three a.m Mm-hmm. I do that too. I'm it's not real time usually after when and there's an event. Yeah, we're talking about Yeah, I'll take videos and then Put them up later Maybe edit the photos So I think another topic that's the interesting to talk about is how to treat a woman How to treat a woman. Yeah, ladies first Is that chauvinistic nowadays? No, I don't think so. It's also um I mean, there are some some parts of those gentlemen rules concerning treating a woman that are antiquated like if you're you and if you enter a restaurant to me Like holding up the door is something you just you just do because it shows her as I said being attentive It shows her like hey I I I I see that you hear I open the door for you to to help you and if I enter the door first like No, I don't mind what's happening after me And that's the wrong message But what I find and antiquated is if you go to the table and you you insist on Like pulling the chair back something like that, you know, if you do too much Classic gentlemen style it wouldn't be like I am not used to this. What is happening? You got to find the right balance We're we're there's an age difference between us. You're 2089 28 28. Okay, and I'm 42. I'm an old man So that's my 14 years difference. So probably, you know, maybe I don't know what 20-year-old women expect These days you nothing. That's why like you get very careful with being a gentleman now That's that's my experience. Have you ever done something that you thought was You were being a gentleman or being polite and it was not well received by the the girl Well, there are a lot of women that just That are not used to it That's why they find it kind of awkward receiving so much attention and somebody being that nice. So the some of them are like I don't want one. I don't want someone being that nice to me, you know, and that in that way being that attentive It makes it feel awkward That's um, but yeah, like they generally I'd say I'd always I always evaluate the situation and if I have the possibility of showing like hey I'm attentive then then I do so and if not I Yeah, just don't do certain things Women are very modern, of course. That's That's maybe the stupidest thing I've ever said but But um and and my wife too. She's she's young a little younger than me And she she's a very strong Uh Woman and and likes to do Her own thing. She doesn't need my help with anything, you know, but she she enjoys Oh, she lets me know if I forget to open the car door for her just say Even yeah, I think even someone like robin who's who's very modern and and sophisticated and and She can she could do it on her own. She's still and she she likes When I do little things like that because as you say it shows her that I'm thinking about her I agree Yeah, I wonder if people will have a different reaction to that because I feel like that's a whole topic We could talk about we could even bring in A couple I think we should talk about this again and bring in a couple of our female friends serious because else else As I said the topic's too rich to just talk about a few minutes and then go on with the next topic There is I think they're also while thinking about it And that's why I'm very interested in seeing the comments afterwards if people have some topics They want us they want our opinions on I would love to to have that input and be working on that because as I said You just can't fully grasp the whole Theme in in just a few minutes. Yeah I had a few other little bullet points that I'd wrote in this post and one was I just looked at it and I totally just forgot about it Oh Stop complaining. That's what I said. Don't complain I don't Complaining is a waste of time and energy and it's very german. Is it oh a hundred percent Complaining is very german. Oh Because I I got it in me to be honest really. Oh, what do you think mine about I find myself everything I find I find myself complaining a lot and that's why I'm I I'm very german in that but that's why you got to hold back you got to realize the situation and Think about that you're with people and you want to create a positive positive situation and not Like of course, you can exchange negativity, but where's the fun in that? Hmm, let me let that sink in a little bit because I was thinking I was thinking That's a german attribute. I didn't know that Oh, if there are some I I saw one one guy commenting that he says there's a fellow german Uh, he saw me as a fellow german. So this guy a hundred percent knows what I mean, okay What are some other german traits that you have because I think we established in the first conversation that you don't like beer I thought that was a german trait Oh, it is. Yeah, um, and some some terms are very german some knots and that is drinking beer But what else is very german? um I love I love details and perfectionism same that is that is also very german. I have a little bit of german in me my mother's family well, they were irish And german kill cullen was her made a name But her my grandma from her side was german her name was muller So maybe I got that some some of that from yeah, that's mullers. That's very german. Yeah I love details and all that systems approach to things like you have a problem you make a plan to do it and you execute it and Oh The problem's gone or you you've you've accomplished something in a very System systematic way. Well, I have a question. You said germans are very detail oriented and you didn't you forgot to plug in your laptop, that's It's a big detail to miss That's why like maybe that's that's that's one of the parts that's more into the I don't drink beer Anyway well two more modern things I wanted to to throw into the conversation here and that was This is only modern because of the times we're living in right now and that was shaking hands I always thought that shaking hands was a nice gesture To someone extending your hand Feeling, you know the grip and everything Obviously, we're not shaking hands right now, but how do you feel no? In general, you're absolutely right in but also did that term. I think It depends on your the pressure of The handshake and the way you shake the hand It's like some people really try to get the upper hand be like this and also like grabbing grabbing your ankle like dude, let go I think it's also in that case we're having the right balance and Showing appreciation and but yeah shaking hands is something like touching a person in a respectful way is a sign of A respect like a handshake a good handshake So there's one part of being a gentleman that I think we can't end this conversation without talking about and that is online conduct Like how you conduct yourself online like whether it's leaving a comment on a social media post or posting on forums That's sort of a very very big part Of how we engage with each other now And I think it's too easy as I see As someone with a youtube channel and i'm sure you see as well on your instagram It's too easy for people to be anonymous And leave hateful comments And say things that they wouldn't normally say to you if they weren't right in front of you. Absolutely um, I would also say that um that is part of of empathy is also a big part of of being a gentleman and in that case having the um knowing knowing how to Put yourself in a situation of the other person and like seeing his point of view his or her point of view like How does the person I send this message out to perceives it? I receives it and um, that is a that's something I think a lot of people don't really think about And um, if they would get a comment like that, uh, like a hatred comment Um in my situation they would or in your situation, they would be Angry and that's that's all that's all I always approach people sending me I don't really get hatred messages, but Like very impolite messages like where's this from and sometimes I just reply like hey Do you ever talk to people like that just being so demanding? people you don't know like No, I'm not like just showing So you she'll actually like call people out. Oh, yeah I like just just to that person like I'm just it's always always direct message conversations That's why I do that. I sometimes don't do that anymore because it's just Also negative feeling for myself But sometimes I feel like you do have to educate some people I've been like, hey, you're talking you're talking to a person you've never met before How do you think I I receive your message? And did I go back? Oh, yeah, you're right. And that's what I have to say like a lot of people are very Um open to that like hey, you're absolutely correct. And also there are a lot of people saying like hey, um Be being very very polite and I uh, I got I think you've got really Uh, really polite followers. So I don't really get into those situations. What about you? Same in in general, I Rarely get a negative comment on instagram on youtube though. That's a whole different thing because people I always know when a video is getting a second life In a way because there's the initial when you post it. There's your initial subscribers but then people will discover it later on and so on and then Maybe six months or a year later. It finds a new life somehow And then I always know when that happens because then all of a sudden these really negative comments start rolling in and Yeah, it's it's frustrating. It's frustrating. I I just part of The gig and part of how people are on youtube and that's what I'm saying. It's It's easy to be anonymous like what I don't think people would leave those Would say something like that right to my face if we just met But like you some of them A lot of them I will just ban from the channel because honestly, I don't have time to deal with to deal with that I have a commenting policy and there's all these things if if it's racist or you know swearing and you know Misogynistic or anything just really nasty like I just don't if you're gonna leave that kind of comment like I don't need you to view the channel Some of them are sort of borderline though. Yeah, and And I I will challenge people from time to time Just like hey Can you it's these one word answers or two word answers are like this sucks or most terrible in the world? I'm like Okay, well, they want to engage But if they want but if they're going to engage in the comments, they need to give something a little bit better than that So I will actually engage those people and say what do you mean exactly? I'm honestly I want to hear your opinion, but I want to Cultivate like a discussion here in the comments and we can only do that If you are contributing to the discussion in a constructive way So some people some people will I think some people kind of sit up straight a little straighter like oh I didn't think that someone would actually take the time to respond and be respectful Some people delete their comments after they're called out. Um, really? Yeah There's all different all different kinds of people just like everywhere, right? Yeah, I I feel like, um Yeah, sometimes if you're you're in a in a Patient mood, let's put it that way and you take the time to respond and take the time to really think about a good response and if I start in a very Understanding kind of way like hey, um, I think I see your point but would you mind like giving me a like a A closer description maybe more more precise and because I really really want to stand what you're saying Basically what you just said is like being very I'm very open to what you what you really mean and then people don't really they never really Um They wouldn't have expected this positivity and that's very interesting how people react then that's how I always try to do it And coming from that point of view like being hey, I'm on your side But why don't you tell me a bit more people like oh Somebody's hearing me so and then then then people get kind of kind of nice but it's interesting that some people really need this this Etiquette push It's just too easy to fire things off like that and not think about the consequences or You know say you say something really terrible Who's gonna see that eventually? It's maybe someone figures out that that's you that's making all those nasty comments like a future boss or Your parents or a girlfriend or something. That doesn't really reflect well. So Have you also realized that if some if some someone really um Sends one if there's just one comment. That's negative then some people kind of see get the courage to also Write something something hatredful because I feel like that's that's with some people if they they see there is potential to just unload People will unload For me personally, I think what what I've seen is that If one person does it let people who leave comments like that. I don't think take the time to read the other comments So I don't I don't necessarily think that's the case for me One thing I will do though Little little trick is if there is sort of a very negative, but well thought out comment That's very contrary to what I said in the video or what the majority of commenters are saying that Saying about that video. I pinned that comment to the top So it's the first comment that people see so sometimes if it's I'll leave a hateful comment up like that just to see what You know make up to let allow other people to engage with it and engage with the person who obviously Wanted to engage, but it's rare and it has to be a very well thought out Counterpoint that's cool because you're showing you showing people that you really care about what they're saying And you're interested in discussion and not not just letting your opinion rule and that's that's a good thing That's yeah, I like that. I like that approach. Yeah, well, I mean I'm not an expert about Everything I talk about I just know from my own experience and that's what I'm sharing So I'm happy to learn more all the time absolutely Well, this has been a great Discussion I like this topic. I'm glad glad you suggested it. I love I like this topic too But I also think there's just so much more to it. That's why I think this is a good start But there are there are much more aspects to it and I'm very interested in In hearing more from the people I think we need to get a couple of our female friends on here to talk about the The the how to treat a woman In the modern day modern gentlemen. So we'll talk about that and figure out Who will have and when we'll do it that'll be a future episode. I I agree. That's a great great future topic Now that I'm saying I'm a lot I feel like I'm getting to the end of I don't have much more to say So maybe this is a good time to wrap it up. I think this was a good episode Yeah, it was fun. It was fun. I'm getting into it as well like with the language. It's cool It's cool. Yeah, I need to check out sapiens sapiens sapiens sapiens. How far into that? Are you? Oh, I'm stuck with at 120 pages. I think because it was just so much work the last couple of Two other the last two weeks. That's why like if you wake up me like today I gotta do this and that and there's not really I don't really have the the patience to read Yeah, there's one thing I wanted to add concerning concerning the comments. Um, that's it's very interesting because hatred comments that really depends on your character How you how you deal with that because to me you said you just you just leave it at that You didn't read the rest of the comments because to me I'm very I'm a very harmonic person and I need harmony around me And I try to create harmony and that's why if I receive negative comments hatred comments, I'm I just get into this I try to solve it. I try to make people happy And that's that's why I can't really deal with those comments. That's why I'm very lucky that I don't get much because really annoys me and uh kind of kind of kind of Desperates me sometimes. No, I get it One thing I've learned is you can't please everyone. There's always going to be someone but I always try I know it's it's tough and what I think people don't understand that As much as I can say like, oh, I'll I'll just let this roll off Like there are some that it bothers me, you know Like the first thing you wake up in the morning and you see like a bunch of negative comments like this isn't how I want to start my day Screw you guys You know, so it does it does affect you in some way, but I think as you say how you deal with it says a lot about you How you deal with it outwardly and to people, you know what you're showing other people because like listen, we're leading by example in a lot of ways for people and I think it's important to Be conscious of that so Very well said because um, it's interesting because I felt like Social media really helped me to become a better person to be honest. It sounds weird But what I mean is before I was like, you know what this is just me neither take the way it is or Don't I didn't really mind. Um, but once I I got I got a following I really I way and some people start, um, recognizing me on the streets It doesn't happen very often to be honest. Um, but if they do and once I started doing, um, I was like, okay, so It's people see me people see my actions. So you better be Nice to everyone even if you're not in the mood just be nice because I know at first it was like people could know you but this really turned into a whole new state of conscious and That's honestly, it's a beautiful thing to really This makes me a better person. It's nice. It's cool And I think that's gonna be the final word. That's a great place to leave it So we'll be back here in a couple weeks or so With more and until then we we're gonna invite everyone to comment down below We're going to be I know there were some questions about Wanting to not just be able to see this but to be able to download it too and we're working on getting It up. We'll have it on apple podcast. I'll put it on stitcher spotify And tune in if there are any others that people Who've watched to the end here and listened want us have it on we can certainly we can certainly hook that up I heart radio. I don't know So it's very easy to do just let us know down in the comments and suggest some future topics for us as well and chime in with your thoughts about all of these Things we've been talking about for the past hour about how to be a gentleman Now today a contemporary gentleman a modern gentleman. So use this Another good episode. Good to see you Good to see you too. Thank you very much for taking the time to talk to me. Oh I didn't take any time. We're talking to each other. I'm not talking to you All right, we'll leave it there. Thanks everyone