 What's important to know and to understand is that there are not types of girls there are not sluts who have this special particular style of life that You know these wanton women and there's a whole mythology that is created around this and Women will I definitely try not to identify themselves with this group and they will because of the judgment that's placed upon it They may many women will have just as much if not way more sex with way more people than sluts But they're good girls because they're just really quiet about it Yeah, and they have to be because of the judgment that is placed upon them What there are is there are women going through different parts of their lives looking for different things out of men the very same woman Over the course of her sexual life may go through something of the following sequence She'll lose her virginity. This generation will be about 14 15 16 maybe Yeah, which is kind of like shocking, but that's the way it is so she'll lose her virginity in her mid to late teens and she'll that'll probably likes to be some random encounter and Then she'll probably go through a period of sexual experimentation Where she'll go I get all this attention from men. They want me. I'm experimenting and she'll sleep with a bunch of guys And then probably one of these guys is going to go and brag about it to all these friends And then she's going to get start getting called a slut and it's going to damage your reputation herself esteem She's going to feel shit about herself and then she's going to stop Having sex with guys or she's going to make suddenly not talk about it and she's going to hide it Yeah, and then she's probably going to start at some point decide that she liked her boyfriend She's going to get a boyfriend She may stay with him for two three years and then she's going to go through some horrific breakups And she's going to come out and she's going to be in this situation where she's Focusing on a career or studies or travel or something. She's like I just don't want to have a relationship I don't want to sleep sleep with a bunch of random guys I'm going to start sleeping with that guy who works at the coffee shop once a week Because he's chilled out. It's no big drama and she'll have some You know gradual Long-term fling with this guy. It doesn't mean so much then she might go on a holiday to Ibiza and just go wild and fuck three guys in a week or five guys or whatever else and so on and so on throughout her sexual life and This girl because of the way that she is that societies around the world judge women who decide to have sex because they like sex Will tend to keep the overall demeanor that she is a good girl that she is not that type of girl Yeah, and her sexual life will only really be evident or hinted at when she has a boyfriend Yeah, that's why I mean When when you get in when you get very good with women and you get a lot of them into bed often You will hear these words coming like almost with it's it's like you can't help but not laugh When you hear this girl say over and over again just before they have sex with you just so you know, I'm not that kind of girl I Don't usually do this I'm like She maybe she doesn't but they they all feel the need very very regularly to say these words to you now What I do here is something very sneaky, but it ties in with her fears here girl says I Don't I can't have sex to you. I'm not that type of girl Yeah, or I'm a good girl and I say to her I know you have a really good heart. I can see that Now what have I done with that in that moment? It's sneaky, but it's also actually demonstrates a lot about my understanding of women If I she said I'm a good girl brackets. That's why I can't have sex with you tonight and Then what are I done? I've redefined what it means to be a good girl Because she's thinking that If I have sex with this guy right now, he's gonna think I'm a slut or a bad girl. I'm not valuable Yeah, and I've said to her whether or not you decide to have sex with me is irrelevant in terms of my judgment of you as a person I've said to her I can see that you have a good heart That's why I like you if you have sex with me. That's not gonna affect that In fact, that's going to increase my respect for you And therefore she feels okay about doing what she actually wants to do If you want to be a man who has a lot of sex in your life Then you are going to need to be able to wield a very powerful sword, which is the sword of non-judgment You are going to have to show women that you Understand they have sexual desires and They have rampant sexual desires not just for sex with their boyfriends of multiple years And yet they're putting this really difficult situation Where they're not actually supposed to they're told they're not allowed to have these eyes They're not allowed to express them Except within very very confined areas That's the situation and as he starts to look at this you start to realize that Beautiful women don't live in this amazing privileged world that we we can't ever touch They actually live in a really complicated maze And they have to navigate through this by you know always looking great Being you know friendly enough to keep people Involving the lies but keep certain amount of distance with people who are just trying to use them for sex You know that if they want to have sex with with a stranger they have to do it with a whole lot of you know covert Actions they have to lie all of these things that we don't have to deal with Yeah, and if you start to show one that you understand that this world is complicated for her Particularly when she's navigating her sexual relationships and you give her respite by going when you're with me None of that shit matters You can chill out and do what you would like to do That's an amazing relief for a woman And then she can Be that type of girl be a dirty girl be crazy in bed or have a one-night stand or have a casual relationship You know or dress up like a nurse or whatever it is that she wants to do because you don't judge her on that You don't judge her worth as a person on that You see her that this is what she wants to do and you can engage with that That's really powerful so guys who have a very strong judgment about you know that there's sluts here and there's good girls here and So you marry a good girl and you fuck the sluts on the side and that kind of Madonna or dynamic which is pervasive in many societies around the world Those guys typically don't get a lot of great results with women and Women don't really like being around them Because it's dangerous for them because there's that fear of judgment hanging over them constantly. Does this make sense? Cool What do women want? There's a out of men. Okay, so there's a whole bunch of truisms and buzzwords that will pop up here So well, let's throw them out there. What are some of the characteristics that women want for men sense of humor? Confidence Value right he must be valuable. Okay in terms of the the hierarchy of his society a Leader she wants a leader, right? What else? She wants to escape. Yep, okay Security comfort. All right. Yep She wants to fill love. Okay You've you've hit on all these major ones. We've all heard these things, right and and at first you like okay cool All right, so I need to be a leader. I need to be confident. I need to What else were some of the other ones I need to make if you know be lovable and to be nice I need to have a good sense of humor Etc. Etc. Etc. And so as a man you're like, okay Well, I want to get women women like this list of things so if I become these things or I develop these things Okay, then I get girls right cool But most guys fail to think well hang on What is it about? Being with a leader that is enjoyable for her Why does she give a fuck? About you being a leader or confident? Because just you being confident is not a thing. She's like, oh wow, he's confident good for him I'll go and have sex with him because he feels confidence No She's interested in these traits because it's true I mean these traits certainly are things that can be attractive, but you're gonna look at why Why does she care? But you're a leader and That's the one that's one of the I want to look at three of these in the time that I have left Three that I think are really important. Okay, which is the first one being leadership So women want to be with a leader with the leader of the pack with the guy who's you know leader of men who's Got people following him and so on and then you ask guys well why well because he's alpha why because evolutionary psychology Yeah, okay, why does she care a woman only wants to be with a man who has authority authority to lead Just trying to lead people like I'll see this with guys who are just starting out They're like I need to lead a girl so they're chatting to and they just suddenly like grab her by the wrist and start tugging at her Like yeah, okay. I'm gonna lead her. All right. You see the girl going Yeah, and the guys I fuck lead tried did leading did the leading thing with being a leader didn't work Don't get it Because it was not enjoyable To follow this leader That's why she didn't go go with him. This is a very important point to take You can have authority to lead two ways The first one is through fear and violence Very effective has been used throughout history to lead people come this way or I'll stab you with this pike Yeah Join this great utopia or we will kill your family Yep And this exists Most of you guys live within this in your workplaces All right. No, I won't say most of you but it's quite likely that many of you Have an authority figure in your life. Who is your boss whom perhaps you don't respect or like and maybe you think they're an idiot and Yes, this person has authority over you because they can get you fired and suddenly take away your livelihood So therefore you have to follow them. I mean I know for myself. Everyone's an experience where they've lived under that, right? Okay, so this is one way to have authority to lead Doesn't work so well in seduction Yeah Trying to fear a woman into bed is not something that I would suggest Yeah, so if we can't have authority to lead using fear then how do we have authority to lead? The only way in seduction that leadership is of any value and that you have an authority as a leader is if When the person follows you they benefit Yeah, a good leader a good king leads through making sure that their subjects benefit every time they ask them to do something Yeah, that's the key to good leading