 Today, I'm with Moitza Hedigman, and we're going to talk about purpose and Alignment to our day-to-day life as well as courage Moitza. Great to have you here Hi, George. Great to be here with you as always. Yeah, thanks for doing this. So Moitza I'm gonna read your bio for the audience and so that they have a sense of who you are and then we're gonna get into this as Fun conversation. So Let's see Moitza is a life coach with a creative soul Passionate about helping people live a more conscious Courageous and empowered life. She's a qualified neural neural linguistic practitioner NLP practitioner as well as a Voice dialogue facilitator and she has a master's degree in communication She works with purpose-driven women to unpeel the layers of self-sabotage and create more fulfillment in their work and in their relationships and most of all with themselves and I'll put the links to Moitza's website and and she also has a Facebook page where she puts great content as well as her Instagram as well. I'll put those links in the notes of the videos. So be sure to check that out Moitza is also a member of my Master Heart group coaching program. It's always great to have her On the various sessions and her presence is great there. So Moitza, thanks so much for doing this Conversation and so I know there's there's a lot we can we can talk about because you work with clients on some really big stuff and of course in practical ways in their life, but Let's start with the biggest topic. Let's talk about life purpose. What does that mean for you? Or how do we clarify our purpose? Yes, so first of all, thanks for the lovely introduction George It's always a pleasure to interact with you as well and of course honored to be Talking to your audience in this way as well. So yes purpose is a big word, isn't it? It seems to be more spoken about as well lately and I think as people just realize that it's Meaningful life is is not just kind of a fancy lofty dream, but it's actually possible and When we have, you know sense of meaning in our lives, it just life seems worth living It's like there's this sense of purpose is something that really drives you Internally it's like an internal kind of force if you will or a calling even that Yeah, that that moves you forward and You know get you to do what you do in it with a sense that you want to bring to it So to make it more specific It's not for me life purpose is not just what we do Even though it's often understood as our calling, isn't it our purpose in life It's often sort of our calling, but I see it and then I work with my client on that as well Purpose being also the person you are being so your life purpose is Being the kind of person, you know, you can be sort of the best version of yourself if you will and not in the perfectionistic sense But just showing up as your best self, you know as much as the time as you can give me one second here Sorry about that interruption. So you were saying that Purpose is not just about our calling, but it's us really about being Who we are so say more about that. What does that mean? Yes? It's more connecting with what drives you internally. So it's Clarifying your your deep desires. What do you really want to experience in your life? And not just experiences as in going places, but really You know, what states do you want to experience? How do you want to be feeling on a daily basis then thinking about your values, right? That are really dear to you and seeing, you know, where where are those values in my life now? Because the more line with we are with our values the more purpose we tend to feel in our lives So that's one piece of it Then it's also Looking at because we come into this world Unique as we are we all have our unique strengths, of course We nurture them and develop them as we go through life So looking at strengths is really powerful as well to get the idea of you know The kind of person that you are and and then being able to connect to that person more consciously So I mentioned values desires strength and then another piece that I sort of put on the One's purpose is the impact that you want to make because the impact that you want to see in the world Is I see sort of part of the purpose in terms of that action, right? But I said it's not just that but it's also that so It also shapes us the per the impact you want to have in the world shapes us as people The way you want to show up in the world, right? How would we want to contribute to the world if you will so yeah those four elements? I find like quite a good place to start to clarify your your purpose and then when you're conscious of those you can Be more attentive to bringing them into your every day more Yeah, that's that's that's very helpful Yeah, I actually haven't heard of this definition before and I think it's really helpful So you're saying our desires are a natural Sense of it kind of points us a little bit toward our purpose our values what we really think is important in the world, right? Would you say what those right and then our strengths like what what are we able to contribute to the world? maybe more than most people are and then You said the last one was impact like to actually see what kind of impact we want to make and and whether we're making impact That's that's really nice that so you work with clients on kind of clarifying these these things so that they can see the bigger picture of their Of their purpose that right? Exactly to see that you put it really well to see the bigger picture. That's the point Yes, and then when you see the bigger picture, then you can translate that into the details Yeah, that sounds like a really it sounds like it's fun work And it's really important for people to to clarify that for themselves and working with a coach is really helpful because a lot of times we get stuck in our own Whether it's our own journaling our own thinking about it We get kind of stuck in myopic because we're just we're just in our own head But when you when you have someone to bounce ideas with Who's talked with many other people about this kind of stuff? It's helpful to kind of get a better perspective. So that's that's the perfect kind of work for a coach Yeah, yeah, it's true Sometimes it's hard to see your own kind of bigger picture or even you know to know which questions to ask which you haven't asked Yourself yet like we think okay, we covered all the corners What else do I ask myself and that's where the coach comes in so handy because we just we we're unbiased kind of external person but interested, you know invested in client success. So Yeah, we can we can help them see a different picture that they've seen so far by asking those skillful questions Um, is there an example you can think of whether it's a Client you've worked with or or in your own life where you saw that the clarifying of these things Helped helped the person Hmm. Yeah. Well, it definitely I can see it in my own life how I Went from my corporate career into coaching And sort of I've I've known about coaching before and I've just haven't seen myself in this role and then When I became more aware of what I really need in my life or what I'm really good at and for example Connecting with people and you know, not so much being in the back scenes all the time working on my own So I need this contact with people for example And that was you know one one of the awarenesses and then all of a sudden it just clicked and I realized wow this is You know, I really found myself in that and it also it helps me do the impact or have the impact in the world that I want to have and It plays to my strengths and you know, I can I can live out my values in this way Which is a contribution helping others and and also being creative and you know have fun fun is one of my big values as well Yeah, so definitely my own example is I can think I was straight away, but also clients. Yeah that I had and To that note, I'd say that sometimes clients are almost afraid of Pursuing the purpose because it seems so out there. It seems so, you know, like a dream. That's impossible to actually Bring to life and that's where I come in as well as a coach to help them see in what ways they could start bringing that in Right, it doesn't have to be in one fell swoop But perhaps just starting to follow those breadcrumbs as you know as we say To get on track with the purpose and and that's why I also said the courage is so important Because it is a courageous action to start following that purpose that you feel is true to you But maybe it goes against what you know people even important people in your life might be expecting of you Yeah, so I don't know that if that answers. Yes. Yes. Yes, it definitely. Yeah, I think that's part of why Working with a coach is helpful because we ourselves when we're thinking about these larger questions can feel pressured by the people around us to stay with one particular path and Whether it's family or friends who have only known us for example to work in the corporate or have only You know known us to be one playing one particular role Yeah, so so somebody who can like see see your best without the bias of friends and family I think it's really helpful. So let's move into talking about Aligning and kind of bringing this big question of purpose down into more everyday life. How does that alignment happen? Yes, so alignment is about yeah first is awareness, right? Of those elements and end of your purpose and who you want to be in the world Which then guides your actions and aligning with that on its own day-to-day really it comes down to that I mean also in terms of your goals, right dependent I mean there can be shorter immediate medium term or long-term goals But I think the real work really happens day-to-day and it's being intentional Right keeping those keeping that purpose in mind being I call it being connected to that purpose And then setting yourself an intention. Let's say for a day or a week or however you want to do that But then bring yourself back to that intention, you know, it can it can be almost like an anchor for you and Yeah, it's it's almost like Approaching life in a slightly different way. Even if you can't change your life, you know completely to oh I know what my purpose would be. I would want to be this way, you know tomorrow You can start small, right? So you can start somewhere you can You can even in the actions for example, if you can't change let's say your career I do work with people a lot on their career and and to get more sense of purpose to what they do So even if they can't change their role straight away perhaps, but how can we bring more of that? you know More of themselves in that way, for example, if they feel they would really want to be creative How can you bring creativity to your day now, right? Can you carve out some time or can even bring it to your existing role? So it's about finding those places where your purpose can already be in a life in your life now You know where you can be that person already. So one is intention and and this just Mindfulness I guess right be mindful of that purpose and where you can bring it in and that's you know Contrasting to very specific actions like I said, maybe you carve out time for those activities, you know, or you know Or think through how you could be, you know more the way you want to be in your activities that you've been doing so far and then also an important one is to bring yourself into that You know kind of I guess the way you want to be more of in the world I don't know if I'm making myself clear, but what I'm getting at is Managing your state day to day, right? If you intend to be a certain person that say you want to feel more joyful, right? The new Georgia the best example for that with your joyful productivity class, which I love so much Is how can I bring joy to my work, right? If that is one of your values if that is, you know, if your purpose is to be a joyful, you know Kind of person and it's not that Simplistic, I guess not just one thing usually the purpose is a bit more How would I say like multifaceted there's exactly it's like it's like a 3d. It's more 3d. Yeah and Then yeah, but for example, just managing your state in terms of those specific Elements, I guess that fall into that as well more about what it means to manage your state I think you and I we we think in these terms because we think about productivity and things but for the person who You know hasn't really been mindful of that. What is what does what does it mean to manage our state? Yes, so state very simply state is in our internal state, right? And you can translate it as into feelings right in the NLP terminology We call them states, but it is the way you feel in any moment and the state changes throughout the day Just imagine you see a picture of someone you love, right? You probably have kind of a warm feeling unless you just had an argument with them, right? I might be a bit a bit upset, but generally right you see or you see a lot of pet that you really love Your cat or your dog and you just feel you know loving that's a state for example, I don't know you are You receive a letter or you see receive a bank statement and you like oh my god I'm worried about you know what's gonna be in there or something or you receive bills and maybe not financially well often You'll be anxious, right? That's a state Stressed is a state Frustrated overwhelmed all those states right but then also joyful is a state focused is a state Those are all states. They basically combine You know our thoughts our thought processes and also our physiological kind of Sensations in our body right that that comprises a state and when I say manage our state It means literally be more in control of that being aware that actually we don't just you know fall in and out of states haphazardly Something happens right so there is an element of trigger and if we can be triggered by something external like a photo or a letter or a Phone call it means we can also trigger it ourselves And that's very empowering because when you know that you can actually Manage your state right so be more in charge of your state You can bring yourself into that state when you need it and I find that really really Useful just really useful on a daily basis and very empowering in a jet in a you know Wider sense just knowing that you can have more control of your That's very helpful so And and finally let's let's talk about courage. What does it mean to how can we live with more courage? Why is that important and then how can we live? Yes, so courage is literally it's one of my favorite qualities and I see it so important to Be able to live true to yourself because just like I said before right there is Different expectations. It can be by specific people or even just cultural kind of you know expectations to to live a certain way to be a certain way and And that doesn't always there's not always fulfilling, right? And it's not really conducive to a to a happy kind of joyful purposeful life so I See courage as really I mean people often look almost everyone wants more confidence but I see confidence as something that you build when you go and do that thing that scared you but courage is Almost like a step before so in order to to start doing that you need courage to even start right So I see it as such a almost like that first step to do something that scares you But you also know it's important for you, right and it's it's that necessary quality to bring You know to be able to get outside your comfort zone and I really believe that growth and progress and you know Happy life lives out just outside a comfort zone and to be able to get out there We need courage does that make sense? Yeah, absolutely. So yeah, I'm courage because Our our our goals our dreams our values living those often causes we're intimidated or we're fearful of a failure of rejection of Disappointing ourselves etc. So how do how what I know we we could talk about this for hours But what's what's one thing we can how we can think about living with more courage on a day-to-day basis? Yeah, so it's for me and in my work It always comes to first to awareness being aware what actually scares you because sometimes we live in in You know our lives without even realizing we think we're doing things that we want to do But you know or we find ourselves not doing something or procrastinating Not really being aware that there's some fear involved and if we address that fear head-on Maybe we have a dialogue with it, you know, maybe journal on it Maybe talk to someone about it we could find their way through and there thereby build our courage But by not being aware it's almost that's what that's what I call self sabotage It's like we're working against ourselves by not going into those places that you know scare us and sort of block us in way and Yeah, so I also think it's it takes courage in the first place to even go and look at those places because It can be much more comfortable to sweep things under rug, you know Issues in relationships in your career. You feel a little bit of niggle of you know Discomfortable you feel unhappy and not oh it's gonna pass and you know I think it takes courage to look at those things in the first place and then When you do that, then, you know, it takes more courage to actually take take a step forward in the right direction That that will be more fulfilling to you and more purposeful for you But yeah, and I think sometimes we can borrow the courage of a coach Because absolutely by ourselves it is easy to stay in The current situation. I mean, that's because if we don't do anything by default We will continue on the same patterns. We've been living and it's it's like when you work with a coach or you have a friend Who is willing to challenge you? It's like, okay. Yes, I'm willing to Become aware of what's really going on and then start to take steps to to step into that courage and and sort of Do you have any well encouragement I guess Because it is well by default living living with courage is scary Yeah Yeah, yeah, I know it is and just one thing that you mentioned. Yeah leaning on the support that you have around you I mean being an entrepreneur. I've I've been very self-reliant all my life and Becoming an entrepreneur. I started to realize how important community is and and support systems around you and really having people you Can rely on and of course, you know, you offer the same in return. It's it's two-way street But yeah, one is definitely support system and and the second can be a coach because the coach is someone that will believe almost In you on your behalf, right? even when you don't believe in yourself the coach will be there to hold that space and believe in you and Sometimes that's what we need to be able to move forward with courage and third. I would say is Yeah, just remember that you have so much more so many more resources so much more going for you that that you're aware of I mean, I think we all do It's just those you know inner critics and those sabotaging voices inside trying to keep us small they are basically trying to keep us just like you said in the comfort zone right trying to preserve the status quo and Yeah, I just just reminding ourselves that status quo means staying in the comfort zone isn't really status quo But the comfort zone will start to become more and more uncomfortable If you don't make if you know if you don't attempt to stretch it periodically so yeah reminding yourself that actually if you know if You really want to live a fulfilling life, then I think courage is really necessary So, I don't know if that helps, but So How can people work with you if they're listening to this watching this and and they want to Have you as their coach to live with more purpose to clarify their purpose align it to their life and then to live with courage How do you work with people? So I work one-on-one with people. That's the main the main way I do my work and I have packages ranging from three months, you know and and up And yeah, people can find me on Facebook and get in touch or get in touch on my website Which I believe you're gonna post in the yes And I just want to encourage people more says very Approachable and and kind and wise so please feel free just to reach out to her if you have any comments or questions about what we discussed today and More to you also have an upcoming online Workshop experience that I want to make sure people know about Yes, and it actually does tie in with what we spoke about It's about learning how to manage your state and to align it for with your goals So you actually help yourself achieve those goals in a more I guess pleasant and ease for way rather than you know so you get there in one piece I would say and Yeah, it's it's it's basically it's gonna be around learning how to manage your state Identifying which states you need right specifically and then give you the tools so you can implement that in your life and yeah Read the results. Yes, and so I'll I'll put the info information in the notes of the video and We don't even have to say what the date is because people may be watching in this different times and yeah, we'll have You know people can buy it as a recording and you will have another upcoming workshop I'm sure when they never people watch this. So Thank you Moitza for the work that you do and for sharing in this conversation Thank you George. It's been a pleasure. Thank you so much