 The other thing is I think couples would be better served in the early stages of dating is to do what I call radical honesty, laying your cards on the table, and the rules of engagement. Because couples are better served to talk about their values and what a relationship should look like for the two of them. Banging your cards on the table, that's merely unpacking your past relationship history for both yourself and giving the other person an opportunity to get a sense of what your your your it's like your job resume. And I also want to see how you ended each relationship to determine your level of emotional maturity. This is why we it's it's it's important to talk about the past relationship