 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast, head dating coach and founder at CommitmentConnection.com and in today's video we're going to talk about what men want in a relationship. So I'm going to give you five things that men really want in a relationship. And if this is your first time to our channel, hit the subscribe button on the bottom right hand side of this video to get more videos on how to have the relationship you've always wanted. So let's get started. So what do men want in relationships? You know, it's one of those things where, you know, if I went at like the top view at the high end view and looked down and said, what do men in general want in a relationship? Like if I could just sum it up into one thing. One of the big things would be that men want things to stay good, right? And so they want things to not change. If you've ever been with a guy and you've wanted to kind of push things further, you might have heard him say something like, you know, I don't want things to change. I want things to stay the same. Or, you know, they've avoided commitment because of what commitment might mean, or they've avoided marriage because what a marriage might mean, you know, one of a guy's biggest nightmares is that the relationship is going to change. So how could the relationship change? Let's talk about five things that guys want and how the relationship could change to those things. So thing number one is that guys really want more sex than they could possibly handle. There's this, and one of the other videos that I talked about, I was talking about this guy that I know who's a friend of mine, close friend of mine actually who's married and he's in this relationship and he hasn't had sex with his wife in years, years, you know, and that's a huge nightmare. Huge nightmare for guys is that they're in this relationship where they don't have sex anymore. And, you know, that's a, men want more sex than they could possibly handle, you know, and they want a woman to have a woman that's open to sex. And I know that there's a lot of different challenges about that, but I address some of those challenges in some of my other videos. Thing number two, that men want and a relationship is a deep found respect. So men care about respect more than they care about almost anything else in the world. And so they want a woman who respects them for who they are. And I've, you know, I've had women come to me and tell me that the man that they're in a relationship with doesn't deserve respect. And that's, you know, it would be like a guy coming to me and telling me that the woman he's in a relationship with doesn't deserve love or something. And it's just, it's a really painful thing for a guy to not experience respect from the woman that he's in a relationship with. And so that's, you know, respect is like, you know, looking at him and saying that he's deserving, that he's worthy, that he's, you know, a great guy. And, you know, a guy, most guys need that in a relationship. It's not just a want, it's a need. Thing number three that a guy wants in a relationship is emotional closeness and no filter around that. So he wants to be in a position where he's with a woman who he feels safe to open up and connect with and be real, real raw and passionate with and, and tell her everything that's going on with them. And, you know, a lot of relationships aren't like that. There's a lot of relationships where guys feel like they can be pretty surface level, but, you know, going down deeper, like they're, they're afraid of how the woman reacts, right? He's afraid that maybe she freaks out and loses her mind about things or he's afraid that, you know, when he tells her something vulnerable, she like makes fun of them about it. That happens a lot with men in relationships. And so, you know, what men really want is a space where he can really be close and really open up and be vulnerable and be real and have somebody who's there who can, who will accept and love him for those things. Thing number four that guys want in a relationship is a sense of independence and emotionally and physically, like being able to kind of pull away. So guys are kind of known for needing to go into their man caves or kind of pulling away from women a lot and a lot of women freak out because their natural thing is, you know, when they have problems to go closer to connect more to do all that. Whereas a guy tends to have his natural reaction is to pull away and, and that's not always true. There's, you know, when I was a men's dating coach, I had guys complain about women pulling away, but it was usually the opposite. And so, you know, what a guy needs is for you to be okay with him having some form of independence, being able to go out with the guys, being able to, you know, recharge and reconnect himself if he needs to by kind of pulling away. And when a woman lets a man do that, it's like, she's a keeper. That's what a lot of, that's what a lot of guys think. And so giving him some space to have some kind of independence is really, really powerful. So thing number five that men want in a relationship is encouragement. So, you know, they want a woman that really like believes in them and encourages him and, you know, not as much pushes him, but like will be there for him and understands him and tells him how great and amazing he is and gives him praise and talks talks up about him, you know, talks him up around his friends or her friends and other people. Guys really want women who kind of not even necessarily look up to him maybe in some cases, but also like really feed him positivity, feed him things, feed him, you know, like the goodness of his soul, like feeding him things that make him feel stronger and feel better and feel like he can go out and conquer the world. Thanks for watching this video. If you're ready to know exactly what to say and do to attract the man and the relationship you've always wanted, click on the button on the right hand side of this video and go to our website.