 Wa Sall Alla'w Pwגhwyl, sall youn mynd ar gweithio'r Gweithio Paidha Jy'r Gweithio a'r Gweithio'r Dwar Dwi Lloeddol ychydig swydd. Nididersiaeth hwnnw yn ymwyaf'r dweud bryd y gweld hwnnw neb yn ymgyrnu'r adol ac eich ath gelbeithydd iaeth yr athlol. As-salara alaikom ddiol ei wneud wrth agnod ddiweddol i hijab ar Eitaf. Adol i hijab arhaig hodd a lŵr holled, mae ardal unig fffridd twfyn... Eich mewn llwysig yn mergynno'r profiwn i'r lleol gyll widebent, ac y leolau i'r lleolau'n Llywodraeth yng nghymchi. Felly byddom ni'n ddiwedd i mfawr o'r reilad ychydig a gynnal i'r rhagel. Rydym ni'n cerddau arbennig, môl ysbyt yng Nghymru. Mae'r siarad, mae'r rhaid. Felly y gallu y firma yw'r iawn o'r ystafell o'r amser. Byddwn ni'n gofyn nhw'n gallu cymddechrau'n ddifud y gallwn yn ddigonod ei gweithio'r hijab a'r hyn? Felly mae'n gwybod ffasbwrn gweithio'n gweithio. Mae'r gwaith yna y gallwn ni'n gweithio'n ddifud y gwaith yng nghymru o'r mwyllteisio. ychwanegau, ond rydyn ni wedi mynd i ddweud ar y God a ddweud ond rydyn ni'n dweud yn gweithio gael hynny a'r God yn gweithio. So, os ydych yn dweud ar y Choyse, rydyn ni'n ddweud â'r Cymru wedi ddweud ar y God o'r Nghymru, a rydyn ni'n ddweud ar y realysgol yw'n mynd i ddweud. Roeddwn ni wedi'i ddweud sydd wedi'i ddweud â'r God. Roeddwn ni wedi ddweud â'r Cymru, yr Ysloam, y religion that I want to follow, then there is no choice. Then it's a matter of listening to the creator who created me because I truly believe that what he is telling me to do is for my benefit, not for him. You're absolutely right. We've all chosen to follow the religion of Islam and we shouldn't treat this religion as like a buffet that we pick and choose the bits that suit us and ignore the things that we don't. And at the end of the day, Allah SWT, he is closer to us than our jugular vein. He knows what is good for us. So as a Muslim, we should submit to his will and have that taqwa. We should have that tawakil, that faith in Allah SWT that he knows what is good for us and what is bad for us. I think the problem is when we look at the rulings of Islam, we look at it with our limited knowledge one and we look at it from our experiences in the physical realm. And Islam was never about the physical body. It's always been about the spiritual soul. I am not my body. My body is just carrying who I truly am, which is my soul. My soul is the thing that will continue on the journey. And when God has given us these rulings, the reason, the purpose behind the rulings are for the soul and not for the body. But we try to understand the rulings according to our body and that's where we go wrong. And then we turn around and say, well, it doesn't make sense to me. Of course, it doesn't make sense to me because I'm looking at it from the physical perspective. Whereas the ruling is there for me to take care of my soul. Yes, that's a really lovely point actually. Another thing that I'd really like to discuss is like introducing the hijab to our young daughters. Now, many of the daughters in our community, they want to copy their mothers and their sisters and their friends. But there's an air of controversy around this. Do you think that there is anything wrong with encouraging a young girl to wear the headscarf? Not at all. I think it's really important for us as parents to role model the appropriate behaviour, role model, submission to Allah. Initially, they will follow us when it suits them and that's fine because they're very young. So when they want to wear it, encourage them to wear it. And when they don't want to wear it, that's fine too. But working towards a stage where once they become balig, then they realise that this is something that they will do because they know that God has told them to do it and they will submit to His will. Yeah, absolutely. And of course, in the last few months, there has been controversy with the recent Ofsted plans. What would you say are the pros and cons of Ofsted's view towards the hijab? I can't see any pros in the way that they're looking at the hijab. It's quite sad that they're coming from the perspective of that they understand that as Muslims, we have to wear the hijab when we reach puberty. So why are we forcing our children to wear it before then? I think it's wrong for them to presume that we're forcing our children. I think the word is encouragement rather than forcing in the same way that you would encourage your child to do homework when they don't have to as a young child. When the teacher tells them to go and read something or maybe draw something, you'd encourage your child to do that. And as they get older and it becomes more important for them to make sure that they do their homework, then obviously you're a little bit more forceful. The same sort of principle. I think it's sad that within the western world, hijab is either looked at sexualising our children or oppressing our women. There doesn't seem to be any middle ground. Yes, we can't win either way, can we? No, it's ridiculous. Hijab is so different to either of those extremes. Hijab is what gives me my freedom. Hijab is what liberates me. Hijab is what gives me my confidence. Hijab is where I want to scream out to the world, I'm a Muslim and I'm proud of being a Muslim. Why are you taking that away from me? First of all, we're not told what questions will be asked. We're not told what will be done with the answers that they get. I think the most important thing is that you're going to take a young child away from their peers because of something that they're wearing and ask them questions about their clothing. How is that allowing the child to explore themselves? Again, we're told as children, if my young boy wants, if my young toddler wants to wear girls clothes, I should be okay with that. If my daughter wants to wear boys clothes, I should be okay with that because they're just exploring. Why are you stopping my daughter from wearing hijab if she's just exploring? It doesn't make sense. Yes, it's shallow when you think about it really that they're so concerned with a piece of fabric on their head. Ultimately, I remember from being back at school, all the teachers wanted was for the students to look smart in their uniform. What is more smart than a little girl wearing a headscarf? I just think that's beautiful. I think one of the major problems and why there are so many misconceptions around the hijab is just the fact that I don't think people are willing to talk. I don't think people are willing to sit and have conversations as such. I think as Muslim women, we must be so open and we must be there to answer the questions of non-Muslims as well as our own children as well. Earlier you mentioned you would suggest encouraging a child to wear the hijab like you would encourage them to do their homework for example. Do you have any personal tips and tricks that you would use to encourage a young girl to wear the hijab? I think it's to do with all the rulings of Islam. Before I actually go into the rulings, I would ensure that my child understands that there is a creator that has created them, understands that this creator of the universe chose to take time out to create my child. So that makes her or him feel very unique and very special and again building that confidence within the child. So no matter what anyone else tells you, you're special because the creator chose to create you. That's really powerful. And then sort of getting them to build a relationship with the creator. So you know not only through the formal prayers and so forth but actually just talking to him. Making him your best friend, you know the entity that you turn to when you want to talk to someone. So building a relationship of love with the creator. Getting my child to understand that we have not been created for this world but a higher purpose, we've been created for paradise. And we can only reach paradise if we reach the potential that God has given us and that is to do with the soul. And again explaining to my child from a very young age that they are not their body, they're their soul. And there's lots of different ways and methods you can use to do that. But once they realise that they're their soul, then actually again making them understand that the rulings of Islam are there for the soul not for the body. So when God says something as Wajib, it's because the soul absolutely requires it. When he says something as Haram, it is because it's very very detrimental to the soul. It may benefit the body but the purpose of the ruling is for the soul not the body. And if I don't know what my soul looks like, if I don't know if my soul is healthy or unhealthy, if my soul is upset, if my soul is sad, if I can't tell you anything about my soul, how can I take care of my soul? And this is where God's love and mercy comes in to teach me to take care of my soul. Yeah, absolutely. I think many of us just don't know Allah swt at all. We just have this idea that he sits up there and decides, okay right, this is Haram, this is Halal, just because he feels like it, not because he cares for us. He's elwedud, he's the most loving and he wants the best for us. And I think that's really important to teach your child about the love of Allah rather than the wrath of Allah. Instead of telling your child, if you don't do this you're going to go to hell or God's going to punish you. You know what, you want to do this because God loves you and he wants to take care of you and it makes no difference to him whether you do it or not. He's doing it because he loves you and he wants you to reach your potential, your perfection and therefore go into paradise. Yes, absolutely. And I think we should all remember that like Allah is always there, he's there 24 hours a day and we can turn to him whenever we need anything. If we're struggling with our hijab or any other aspect of our lives we can turn to him and of course we have the wasila of the Holy Ahlul Bayt, alaihim wa s-salam, how many times have sisters turned to say the Fatima alaihim wa s-salam or say the Zainab alaihim wa s-salam and asked them to help with their hijab and then they've just become so strengthened and empowered with their identity. That can only happen if that child knows something about that holy personality, if that child has built a relationship with that holy personality. You know just knowing the name of the holy personality, knowing their birthday, death day, knowing where they're buried, that's not going to build a relationship. So actually like for example getting them to go to Ziyara, getting them to talk to the holy personalities, making them realise that these holy personalities, their physical bodies may be dead but they're not and they can hear us and they can answer to the salam that we give them and you know knowing a little bit about their lives so that they can actually use them as role models. Again our children look up to us as parents for role models. I think it's really important to teach my child from a very very young age that you know there are better role models than me. I'm going to mess up. I'm not an infallible. I will mess up. You don't want to use me as a role model. I choose to use so and so as a role model but you have an option of choosing any of the 14 mastermind. Choose whoever you feel closest to and use them as role models, build relationships with them, talk to them and again like you say ask for help. I remember my daughter when she was she she had to go swimming to I don't know pass some sort of swimming test or something and obviously she was in the full brookini and everything and she was very conscious of it and she actually told me you know she went into the changing rooms and she was very nervous and she was you know very very upset and she came out of the changing room and she was a totally different person. She was very confident. She came out she walked out and she just walked and I said to what happened and she said I had a little word with say the Zaynabalai Salaam and and I know she's got it sorted. It's fine. She's by my side. She's taking care of it and just you know for her it gave us so much confidence and again when she strutted out there with confidence no one batted an eyelid because she had the confidence to pull it off whereas when we go there quite meek and worried about what other people are thinking we're sort of opening the doors for them then to make us feel uncomfortable because we've made ourselves feel uncomfortable if that makes sense. Yeah it does make sense and Marsha Allah like we really are spoiled for the choice when it comes to the alabay to lay in the salam like you know we so many great personalities and even you know figures like such as Abu Fadl al-Abbas al-Abbas al-Abbas salam who was so concerned with the hijab of his sister Sayyda Zaynab al-Abbas salam and yes the going on Ziyara I know for me personally it's one of the most powerful things because what inspired me to wear the chadr every day was visiting Iraq for the first time and when I saw all these ladies wearing the chadr and seeing how beautiful they look like I was reminded of Sayyda the Fatima al-Abbas al-Abbas salam and the ladies of the alabay even though we don't have any pictures of them we don't know what they looked like but like it's just the feeling that you get from that it's just it's so hard to put into words it's so powerful but it's your connection right with these amazing human beings that God has created and that that's beautiful and I think I think that's I think one we feel our children a lot of the times we feel our children are too young to take to Ziyara so we wait till they're older and we don't realize the positive effect of the Ziyara even on babies the spiritual energy and the positivity that they get from the Ziyara it's amazing it's you know we shouldn't belittle it at all and we shouldn't wait till they're older we should take them you know as soon as we can and as many times as we can and secondly those who do take them I think we need to be cautious that we don't make it a tick box exercise where we go there and we feel we need to recite this Ziyara and this Dua and this this and that's it and there's no sort of connection there's no you know like no sort of reflect self reflection a lot of the changes that happen are from the self reflection where am I where should I be why aren't I where I am how is this holy personality going to help me to get where I am you know what am I going to learn from this holy personality how do I connect to them how am I going to take this back home when I'm in the west where the Zari is not in front of me yes so I think you know it's really important to actually not only just go there but actually use that opportunity to connect to these amazing amazing things that God has created and learn from their lies subhanallah thank you so much system maeson wejafed um unfortunately we've run out of time but dear viewers please stay tuned for the next segment where your thick questions will be answered by Sheikh Ayub Rashid