 Good morning and welcome to another episode of the morning brew with Hunter Drew I'm your host under drew it today. I'm joined by none other than Alexander Juan Antonio Cortez aka AJAC aka Chad Jesus who has risen back from the Twitter dead AJ Welcome to the show man. How's it going Hunter? It's going so let's just dive right into this You're back on Twitter after a hiatus. What the fuck? Yeah, so I Have no doubt there's gonna be some people that will swear like it was a it was a stunt or oh, you're always gonna come back No bullshit when I got banned last week. I think it was like what Tuesday Wednesday. I Legibly thought after two three days. I was permanently banned from platform. I made completely Different separate Reinvention plans like I I had accepted it You know, why was banned that here's the thing some people are gonna want to know I don't know Twitter never told me what it was. I never got normally when you get Suspended or you get like a warning. I mean, you've even had that happen They say like delete these tweets or you tweet it out this something I got nothing like that It was just hateful conducts you you violated hateful conduct policy. It didn't say what it was I got repealed it four times four times it came back. I Had you know people that you know even messaged me like in the sort of tech industry They're like, hey man like let me like yeah, like let me see if I can ask like this for you Like yeah, I had some friends even were trying to like help me out with it the working tech and after three three four days by Friday I was like, well, I guess it is with this So I had a yeah, I guess and I accepted it. I had made separate plans I had this whole idea of reinvention of what I'm gonna do not not involving Twitter I'm not getting back on Twitter. I'm not gonna try making new account Twitter's debt. It's gone. All right I can I can move on. Yeah, perhaps You know, you like you can't rely upon one thing. You know, it's my mistake I should have done this that had conversations with people I trusted and then yesterday evening just randomly I Had some I guy messaged me. He's like, hey, man, you know, you're back on Twitter. I was like Are you what? He's like you're back on Twitter. It's like there's a I just like bro Are you fucking with me? He's like, no, no do your back on Twitter and I go and look up the account My count obviously and I'm back on and this was after they'd sent me four or five messages that you were perfectly spent from the platform So and then they sent me a message last night saying, hey, sorry made a mistake Your account was the algorithm by your spam. So that's why we suspend you forever You know, like So, yeah, I was I was kind of blown out But apparently dude like counts active again and I got back all seventy thousand and point one followers So All right, cool. I'll take it Before we kick this off I was talking to you about how, you know My wife had my phone when the text came in and it said, you know, I'm back on Twitter Dude, I couldn't believe it and and people they are going to think like, oh, is this stunt or whatever you're hanging off No, man, like we had conversations where you're like, I'm done. I'm moving forward. Here's a game plan and The topic of this show was going to be reinvented because you're off Twitter So you've got to reinvent yourself and I'm like, well, we got to spin this to your back So now what are you going to do? So since you're hiatus and since you saw how quickly you can be removed without any cause whatsoever You know, what kind of mindset has has there been a mindset shift and how you're going to treat Twitter? Oh, yeah, massively massively. I mean the thing with twitter I said this in my email and I meant it Twitter is the best platform in the world for networking bar none. It's Unbelievable what you can deal with again twitter You can make an account and if you tweet out if you share valuable content if you have a message or you are a signal You're not noise. You can actually connect with like-minded people You can make friends You can become a public speaker like you know, like what you like we've done. You can become a brand to yourself so You can you can find people And you can leverage sort of that personal brand social media kind of business like it is quite remarkable. That's amazing at the same time Twitter does have reputation for being a shit show. It just it does People go on twitter. It's very partisan. It's very political. Everyone's sort of fighting back and forth and there's a general Tone to the platform that encourages animosity like that's always present You know drive by like the sort of drive by tweeting sample people. You'd have no idea who they are You never met them. They'll come by they'll shun over you all shell over your tweets. They have a problem with you Yeah, so on so forth You know, so twitter is great. It's great on the one hand you can build a brand It definitely allows you to inject yourself from the public consciousness Because you can write a lot you can write you can get your message out there and people on twitter I've said this before twitter is a smart platform People that like to read don't people that don't like to read don't get on twitter So you have a very literate audience and that's great But at the same time though because the medium is tweeting you tweet something It goes away in an hour basically most tweets in a very short half life So it trains you to think very short term this by default. It just it does Because you're tweeting out truthly sentences at maximum So it has these advantages to it, but at the same time As you get into the mode of sort of being like a twitter personality I really think it has a metaphorical or not metaphorical but like a truly substantial effect on your long-term plans or long-term thinking Where you just don't really think long term. It's hard to because well, you gotta open up the app and okay Where people saying I let me say something. Hopefully people retweet those and we all do it everybody that uses twitter Consistently does that everyone does Yeah, whether we want to admit to or not. I had this conversation with Cernovich like we're all twitter addicts Everyone that uses twitter everyone's an addict. Yeah, you might have a virtuous addiction but still an addiction So the first day I was off the platform. I definitely I would not call it withdrawals. It was not in the sense of like. Oh my god. I'm sad I was not sad that it was very weird to me where I could tell like I want to like Be constantly looking at something like I was very restless And after about 24 hours that went away, you know, I really didn't use social media much the past week And like, you know, so two days went away. I'm like, all right, like I'd accepted that twitter's gone Uh, but you know that was like okay now what next so I had a whole plan Around how I was going to reinvent myself Which is kind of like the first I think you'd say like sort of like a lesson of reinvention If yourself made if you if you've run your own business your whole life where I've never like I've had bosses I've worked for the people but I've always said a business where I really work for myself And I guess it's sort of the number one lesson to speak to like reinventing yourself as a man Is that you always have to have a plan? Yeah, it's number one You can't ever be left with nothing like oh, I don't know what to do Someone's gonna tell me what to do. You know, there's there's some answers out there. Well, you give me answers Fuck you. You're not getting fucking answers. You have to come with your own answers You know, so me it kind of number two like one you always have to have a plan two You have to come with your own answers No one's going to do that for you. There's not going to be someone that comes along gives you like a thing It's like, okay, don't worry. I know your whole life fell apart in one day and like your shit's all fucking wreck But here's like the sit here's like to save your solution and you have to worry about anything like that You have to do all that yourself So I created a strategy like, you know what I'm going to use my network of people I've got the world. I have the best fucking ever kind of world I firmly believe I have the best network. I have the best friends. They're the coolest baddest motherfuckers I know the most interesting accomplished successful man. I'm like, I'm gonna actually utilize these men So I'm not like I'm actually gonna talk to these men. I build all these relationships I'm gonna get to help me get their message out. I'm gonna use my name. I use my email list I'm gonna you know, start growing my account like on youtube I'm gonna go over to instagram start presenting a model like how to be like a masculine man today in the world And actually show that team take that seriously that platform Because you have to take the shit seriously like I'm going to do I'm gonna execute So like I all the shit this shit's going in motion My ig is growing like I'm actually like I'm sitting down writing each day like strategizing like Real strategizing. Okay six months 12 months 18 months two years So all this shit's going and then oh twitter's back Okay. Whoa, what the fuck So in a way it was like it was like both a blessing like I'm very thankful But it also feels almost like a curse like okay, and well now how do I use this? More effectively than I used before how to actually leverage this audience So it's been it's like I'm still in the middle of like a mindset mindset shift with it thinking about really how to use it that way I don't imagine I mean you go back to the the way we're we're twitter addicts I'm on that every single day like every single day multiple times a day I don't know like if that was gone I'd like what I do with my hands, you know, and then I was thinking about it Obviously when you go through it, you know, you kind of play the what-if game I'm like, all right now. What if because I I tweeted, you know free agent. I'm on the list too and boom. I'm out Look, all right. What would I do and it's something kind of down this rabbit path a rabbit hole of You know twitter's like having a thought but you don't really flesh out an idea It's like here's a thought boom here's a thought boom and then you go to the email list and the blog You're like, all right That's where the real ideas are and my my email list and my blog Have reduced as my twitter has increased because I'm like, oh, I just I had the thought I threw it out I don't have to flesh through this idea, you know, so I realized as you went down I'm like, I need to to make sure I'm diving into these deep thoughts as well And with instagram, you know, we were talking about how you can kind of go a little bit further So people can see the photo and if that photo is good enough and it tells the story People want to read the story so they go in they go further So I've actually started tweeting longer. I'm not tweeting instagraming. I don't know what the hell you call that Installing captions the captions. Yeah, I've been Captioning much larger to kind of flesh out the thought to more of the idea And then on the blog i'm going back to there to go like real deep into the shit You know, yes So it's it's a different part of the brain, you know, it really does you've got to really learn to think things out It'll learn like hey, it's not just a thought anymore. Like what do I mean? You know presence not presence Let's actually fucking talk about that instead of these four words or these three words, you know You actually have to do deep work and the thing the funny thing like people like oh instagram like Everyone has the same reaction to every platform Like a facebook. Oh, it's just fucking facebook like why you take facebook seriously, you know twitter Oh, wow, you know twitter following. Oh, you actually make money doing that. What the fuck oh twitter is a fucking shit show instagram same thing you can be you can be my point being you can be snarky towards any platform Every platform can be critiqued on some level that like it's shallow or superficial or it's stupid But I mean I said this last night in like last night's ig post and I posted where We live in a world of noise Do you think we are surrounded by a copy of noise all the time? What is noise? Noise is bullshit tweets. Noise is bullshit posting Noise is the fact that everybody is so Entrained by social media that we have to share constantly that everyone to share shit and so we have this mindset that we're sort of inculcated with that Because we are you know a digitized world and like it's global Like we have to be giving out something constantly 24 sevens continues flow And most of what people share is nothing worth sharing So we're basically like we're we're consumers that way. We don't think about that way We say no, how how is sharing consumerism like no it is consumerism because all these digital platforms all these apps everything is encouraged You need to participate you got to be participating participate participating all the fucking time But most of the participation it's bullshit It's just you fucking this putting yourself out there with nothing actually you're going to offer and now you are Now you are exposed to ads Now they can get now the companies can get they can get money out of you Now you're gonna buy something so we live in the world of noise and I really thought about this significantly being off twitter. I'm like the man of spear what we think of as a man of spear We've been very small thinkers. I've been I have been a small thinker I've I I have been a small thing everybody has Now some some of us have bigger accounts than others. Some of us some of us have blogs, of course You know, some people have done more But because we are confined to this fishbowl And even though it's 300 million people for a million still fishbowl Our thinking is dominated by the noise in that fishbowl. So like, you know, like this is a very classical critique The twitter's not the real world Twitter is definitely the mind of like the the united states, but again, yeah, it actually is not the world There's a whole another market of people out there There's a whole other market of men like young men And they're looking for role models looking for mentors. They're looking for a message They're looking for to actually look at somebody like in the flesh in a picture And see how they're looking their life. They're looking for sort of like almost like an iconic representation And you can find them on different platforms You they're all they're all out there the audience is out there But if we can find ourselves to just tweeting and like he said, this is the short little thoughts that we throw out We're always going to limit our reach We're not going to reach all the men that we could be reaching. We are not there's no way in hell It's not going to happen So like I was telling you guys like, you know the private group we have like yeah, we absolutely should use instagram Like oh instagram like yeah, bro Because the number one thing that most men tell us today all of our audience tells us all the fucking time You know this they didn't have a role model. They didn't have a dad. They didn't have a good dad They didn't have any they had no kind of male figure that they could look up to and say, oh shit. Okay. Like that's how a man acts That's how a man behaves. That's what a man's values are. Yeah, this is what this is how a man dresses and conducts himself Yeah, we might think it's bullshit. My people might underrate it But when you see a guy on a platform, he's putting forth a masculine, you know pro-traditionalist pro-man message And he's got it written out and fleshed out and defined and he is unabashed And unabashedly unapologetic about it. That's fucking inspiring You know in twitter like guess what twitter? Yeah to a really very very real level. It allows people to be keyboard warriors. You can't You know instagram and i'm not saying that anyone's like an instagram fucking warrior That's not my point like oh instagram like we're bad after instagram like no I'm just but my point is it's a platform where you actually have to show your image Okay, now you have to show your body show your show your life a little bit Take that a little bit seriously And now people can see what you look like you can see how you move They can see who your friends are they can see kind of what you do it like it's private daily routine And yeah, you can say oh highlights and lowlights. It's not real life. It might not be your whole life But it's private life You know and now now you're using imagery to represent yourself. You're using imagery to spread your message I've been amazed at the reactions. I've gotten in screaming the past IG the past four or five days. I've been using it. I'm like holy shit. This platform is amazing It's it's much like twitter like you know four years ago for myself like no one takes the shit seriously But yet of course the irony the irony to all this is that we look at really big accounts people with two or three main followers five million followers You know people that clearly have massively successful like social media brands are selling shit It's like oh man. I'd like to be at that level But you've been at the same time. We don't take it seriously when we use it Yeah, we want to have this like million man message But always treat our fucking accounts like they're just never going to be anything more like 100k like little niche things They're like oh, we're not mainstream. It's just you know, we'll do we'll do our we'll do our Or I'll sell my products. I'll meet with my boys these things like again, like it's small thinking It's small fucking thinking. Yeah, so that's when I wrote that email. Like I was dead serious about that I'm like this is this is probably probably the best thing that's happened to me in a long time Is it forced me to think bigger? Yeah, only only when you are left with nothing are you free to do anything So like I lost like my whole I lost my whole big account You know the way I jury and revenue because I had so much traffic coming in on my stuff All right. Well, you know what? What if I actually had to create a business from scratch learning everything I've learned Everything I know with the network I have what could I actually make that was one big question You know, my in my answer was for myself. I'm like you could you could change the world You have a huge you can have a massive platform a massive audience somewhere else because of everything you've learned Everything you've written like there's nothing stopping you. It's just doing the work of building that Oh, I was like fuck Yeah, I can get absolutely do this So and then twitter came back though. So I'm like, all right now I'm gonna have to leverage that audience this audience Yeah, but I mean like my point all this like my encouragement to you like all of us honestly I'm like you like we we need to not get off twitter But like we need to like this break down the barriers we have to like what we think oh This is the man of spirits this for this room like no the whole fucking world the world is 50% men Okay, so technically we have three billion guys that can probably use our message They could use the program they could use the fraternity of excellence They could use someone to help them be a better father They could use this unfair themselves getting fucking fit You know losing the body fat they could dress better. They could get their mindset right You know they could get fucking get better with women. They have all these things. We have all these resources available to guys So like are we reaching them? Are we service cop in our own brand and like you know what we think like we represent to people You know based upon you know these digital limitations You know like we got we got untangled the cobwebs No, I like it this line of thought I want I kind of want to stick with it because it's almost like we're not taking it seriously You know it's it's for the sake of remaining relevant We're just tweeting anything just to be relevant just to have a tweet go out there And no point did you take a serious tweet not you but most and myself included Sometimes i'll tweet something just to tweet it just to be like hey Hunter drew still alive. Hey come follow this You know whatever and it's not look if you are intentional and you treat it kind of like a man You know as you mature treat it more maturely. Yes, you know, it's kind of like you've got to mature as an account You know and the way you went through losing twitter and then coming back and seeing you know the grand scheme You're absolutely correct You know and it's almost as your maturation is occurring Those around you get to see it like oh shit like just now as you're speaking i'm like man, you know I've always joked Hey until i'm in the airport and somebody's like hey hunter drew like I haven't made it Like that that was my side of making you when I get recognized in public Yeah, but it goes beyond that you know when you talk about Using instagram and sharing your body sharing your life. That's a sense of accountability And what has always bothered me and the biggest arguments i've had on twitter have been with the men who have a lot of advice to give men But they're not living any of it. You're not seeing any of it in action in their life You know like oh, this is red pill. This is manosphere. This is this but i'm like there's no photos of you doing this There's just you talking a lot on like like right now. You're just a floating head on youtube You know show me show me your application of this show me in the real world. What are these you're doing? I get that we're swapping notes. I get that we're trying to help men, but there's a sense of Connection that needs to be or not even connection a sense of you know confirmation that you are what you say you are You need proof of life like you legitimately like you need proof of life. I was uh Yeah, it's funny. You talk about like being recognized in like the airport like like the past week I got recognized like almost every day You're famous not being on twitter is Dude, it was the weirdest thing And I've been recognized before like i'm like i'm pat my own ass like oh i'm so famous but Like I so i'm like going this i've been going the same gym. I'm in the same area I get banned on twitter and like yeah like once a day I went on it's out in public because I was I was also going out more too to serve like walking around You know this is like thinking I had people to recognize me like I had a guy at the gym like yesterday He's like hey, are you are you a check from twitter? I'm like Yeah I've been following you for two years. I'm like that's gotta be fucking weird man I was like oh wow bro like I shook his hand we talked for 10 minutes I'm like it's like yeah, man. You guys are crazy like I love your message But like you guys are just so bold like it's really inspiring though. I'm like, thanks, dude Like I mean like I know i'm banned now, but like that means a lot obviously i'm back but You're right like there has to be proof of life I mean I would say the lesson number three for like reinvention as a man like you have to be intentional with what you do Yeah, I mean it's such a basic thing like you must be intentional because you cannot you cannot act randomly You cannot expect outcomes to work in your favor You know just by all me let me just do some do some things. I hope this works I'm like no bro. Take your actions fucking seriously. It's gonna echo. It's gonna have an effect Looks like they say you know a single shot can change history You know instead of just machine gunning and spraying and hoping something hits take one calculated shot Whatever that is whether it's the tweet whether it's a sharing of every post on instagram has a purpose Every tweet has a purpose, you know think about how much time will be saved too You were actually the one who brought that to my attention is you know Just go on twitter to produce and then get off And I caught myself after you said i'm like fuck you like I sometimes i'll sit and scroll like what's this guy up to Oh, that guy's talking shit. What's this guy up to i'm like that's fucking 15 minutes add that up throughout the day That's an hour. I just gave I could have been writing something else or creating something else or just doing anything else You know, oh, yeah No, I mean like whatever sent like i'm that's i'm gonna use it now like i'm not gonna pretend like i'm not gonna Like what like i'm not like shitposting. I pretty much grown up from but It's still fun at times like you like you want to show personality Obviously like you know, I'll when I last week when I was at the airport I was like I was like getting drunk in the airplane. I'm like, oh, i'm on the airplane first class like Like it's always fun to like, you know, like you'll be a joker that way But even that is intentional even the relax time is intentional Well, you're showing your face which that's the funny thing with twitter It always pisses people off when people show their face on twitter like look at this I haven't people tell me like I stopped following these you start posting pictures of yourself like you're important. I'm like Yeah, or or it could be anonymous and never post it. I'm like, you know, like you have like those are the fuck people say, right? They can't care They chose you like to level like not seriousness people take the platform But yeah, there's a little intentionality to everything. There's there's a proof of life and at the same time You know, we you again the social media chrism. We talked about like highlights versus low lights um And you know people really show themselves Yeah, you can say that but how many people really have highlights to show Like you can bullshit highlights. Yeah, you could be a hot girl and go to the location take a phone next to a car That's not yours. Hey, here's my ass in Dubai. Hey The funny thing is and I mean this seriously It's gonna sound ridiculous But I mean this seriously if you're a man, especially if you're like a middle-aged man like not like a young hot guy Trying to grow like a platform You know use your image you actually have to work a little bit Because you don't have the advantage of beauty. Maybe you're handsome You can say well, there's a handsome advantage. Okay, cool. I'm good looking that's an advantage But people when it predominantly get in social media, especially imagery. They just won't look at hot girls I'm looking at asses and cars If you don't have it like if you're not a hot girl with an ass or your tits and ass or A dude that's super wealthy showing your cars You kind of actually just have to show your real life and what you're doing It's important to you and you know and hope that counts for something somebody um Yeah, which is yeah, it's a good thing in a way. It's a good thing He's actually okay. Like what am I actually doing each day? Yeah, there's lots Yeah, I'm always maybe it may it's like with tanner Uh guzi his account. You know tanner's mormon. He's got four kids. He shows being a father You know, he actually has a strong following that he has with people because like really resonates like, okay He's a father. I'm a father. I can connect with the man You know, we we oftentimes we think these platforms and he's sort of like very ephemeral immature terms Like almost like teenagers like what do teenagers like what would a teenage boys look at look at abs and girls and cars I'm like, yeah, but what do men look for? Like there are men looking for something guys do use this shit. We wouldn't have an audience if they don't So again taking it seriously Yeah, you have to take it seriously. I was in Beverly Hills Um over the weekend. It was very weird timing. So I'm like I'm part of the war room, you know, intertates group So we had 14 guys who came in from all over the United States You know two la to fucking do a deep mastermind for three days And that was not it was not bullshit. Obviously, you know, like we were like we're going we were Diving into like how to reprogram your thoughts or something beliefs. How do you speak to yourself? How do you speak to others body language? Yeah, we covered, uh, you know Mindset in the body for like three hours every single morning. I trained all these guys three days every day Yeah, waking okay waking up. All right, let's go. We fucking got an hour. We're gonna fucking sweat Okay, we're gonna fucking bleed me in pain. I'm not fleet, but you know, we're gonna be, you know, Perspirating You're gonna feel it's like you're going uncomfortable Um, you know, those guys left they were totally transformed like I could see from their day one Their by language and they walked in how they carry themselves their shoulders their eye contact You know be kind of being down in words like, you know, leaving on sunday or leaving monday They're they're engaging. They're watching each other telling stories They know how to speak people now like fuck man. These dudes spent money on this and Yeah, that was a serious experience. We were with them all day every day For the, you know, for these four days, you know, the tape brothers flew and they talked to them He did a whole presentation talking about making money talked about having a vision for your life You know, like and on a serious level, you know, like, you know hour hours and hours of conversation, you know, tackling different issues And I was like, okay, like these guys are willing they're willing to invest this time in themselves You know, that was a huge thing for me. I was there. I'm like, this is amazing Like I never thought my life would be doing this I'd never thought my life I'd be doing playing this role of men helping men get stronger like this beat. This is meaningful to me And of course, you know, like I shared it I posted about but yeah But then like you said like you can get on twitter and this guy's just all I do is just talk You know red pill this you know, they're you know, there's theories, you know, like analyzing news and like You know what like that's fun to do and but you're like you said you're talking head If you really want to change the world in your series about this message like it really means so much to you Show your fucking life Like live that life live that life and demonstrate to people that can be done Demonstrate that that your life be your proof of work Every every aspect of it where someone could spend a day with you and be like holy shit. This really is what you're like Yes, it is Not bullshitting If you can do that Like I said, there's no limitation to you know the growth and the momentum the influence you're going to have You know, if it's just words on the screen, it's like that. It's just words on the screen It will never go far doing that Nothing nothing will ever replace the real world Accountability, you know, you're talking about tribes earlier, you know, when you first got banned we started talking like, hey What's the game plan? You know, let's figure something out. How can we help you? You know, you talk about the war room I love what the tape brothers are doing. I think the war room is fucking incredible It's we've got the fraternity of excellence, which is my group. You know, we have in february We're having our next meetup But the first one was similar to what you're saying nonstop 24 7 you were eating together lifting together We're climbing mountains together shooting together always together doing things and you get to see the real man You know and you guys in Beverly Hills Jack has liminal order ryan mickler has order of man these tribes They're showing up at doing real work. They are and It's necessary for men To find which one fits them and get into it because when shit does hit the fan and it will in all of our lives Something will happen. You have that group like, all right. It's not the end of the world I'm not alone in the on the bottom of a pit. I've got men with me Sure. I'm the one that got knocked down this time. They're here to pick me up. We can go forward so I This may not be on the uh the reinvention lessons or lists. No, but I think having a group is essential, you know for Sustained growth sustained performance because at some point you're going to take a knee You need someone to pick your shoulder up like hey, you're good. Stay focused. You're fine. We got your back. Go forward Yeah, I mean, I actually I would say that it's like let's say like lesson what number four of like reinvention Be generous generous with your time. I'll tell you why it's like, well, yeah How can be generous if I have my back in school? The thing that really amazed me the past week and I'm dead serious about this, bro Because I love you like I love all you guys Like that shit went down. I contact you guys like I once a morning like hey guys like a man like maybe we can fix this thing Okay, okay. What's going to be fixed. All right. What now? I I don't I don't concern myself like a good person. I'll say it right away I do not concern myself a good man. I would never pretend to be one I'm good at being a man But I am not someone to fall of like, oh, I have really awesome values and I'm godly. I'm like, I'm a deeply flawed fucking person Flat out But the one thing I have done that I guess I didn't really even realize and appreciate myself is that I've always been very generous with my time If I've seen people like in social media the past few years on twitter, whatever I'd help I'd retweet their stuff. I'd promote their stuff. I'd help them out to go follow this person Yeah, I'd like, you know, like I mean, you know yourself like all these other Pete guys at 21 mentioned like Yeah, that's guys. I'm just finding like I wasn't trying to do it to be like, oh, I'm gonna be I'm helping you out But I'm doing a favor. I'm like, no, this is a guy. It's like fucking living his truth being authentic Cool fucking retweet promote follow this dude. Check them out. Join his shit. I like this. I dig it whatever I did that all the time obviously all the time with people Um, and I was happy to do it. I like doing it. Like I like seeing men grow that way Yeah, and then this this past week like yourself and like all of other people that contacted me They're like, hey D help me anything. I was like, why are all these people helping me? I'm like I was I was legitimately surprised. I'm like, I I had this level of support in the background. I never expected to have ever Um, this I didn't and like it like yeah, like thanks for contacting me Like, you know what made you made you reach out whatever like, oh dude Well, you helped me out with this like you talked to me like in the DMs over and over again You know like a year ago and I had questions you sent me back a whole email you answered You sent me a free program you've supported my work like all these things and I was like, wow I guess I've done a lot for people like that Holy shit, okay And I was like, I I never really appreciated that like I maybe I took that for granted Maybe I don't think I'm worthy of it like what the fuck so that was a bit of a mind-fuck honestly Like that made me feel a lot better very immediately within the first few days I'm like, no, you know, I'm actually I'm gonna be fine because I have like literally I'd be best friends in the world I had 30 fucking guys in my inbox in my in my messages on my phone calling text me saying You know, whatever you do, I can do this for you that for you like it's all gonna work out Tell me your plans like we're gonna fucking kill this like I felt fucking good. I'm like, all right Like, oh, I have absolute confidence. It's gonna work. You know, like my my reinvention plan Um, yes being generous with your time like, you know, what's the point of that? I rise if you if you want to save yourself and never be caught in a position where you have nothing The best thing you can do over the course of your life is to serve others Like if you can be in service to others in some way you can effectively help somebody You're always gonna have people there for you If you get left with like if you seriously get left with nothing Where you get knocked down and you don't have friends. You don't have family You don't have brothers. You don't have anyone that wants to even be there for you at all You have been living a very selfish selfish life Like you can't be selfish. No one is ever going to fuck about you if you're selfish period Yeah, and it's far easier to reinvent yourself When you lose what you have other people can give you a little bit of theirs other people can lend you a hand Yeah, that puts you in a far better position Yeah, obviously, yeah, but like I said, if you have nothing at all that way you have no connections Yeah, you're just you're stranded on an island and you're gonna die there flat out It can be genuine too, you know the connections aren't just a quid pro quo No, I have a lot of guys, but I'll retweet their stuff They're like, oh, I know I don't have any followers, but I appreciate I'm like, I don't care how many followers you have I like your message, you know, it's a genuine like I genuinely Enjoyed what it is you said at that point or whatever it is you brought up You know because there are there are men behind the screen and I think that's lost It's always like, oh Well, I'll I'll tag hunter in this list because he has you know 20,000 followers And I think that'll bump me up and I'll tag AJ, you know Because he has like fucking a million at this point for the resurrection You know and they try to tag these huge accounts and then they do something very superficial because you it's very clear You're like you just want something for me You're just using me to springboard to whatever But when somebody is genuine and if you treat your account with that genuineness Yes, you can forge real bonds with men, you know, you can have actual friendships with men We're no longer confined by proximity. We have technology that links us I mean we're having this conversation right now across the fucking nation You know, we are yeah, so to use it to make friendships use it to to build your real life up No, yeah, no, you're absolutely right. I'm like that's like I said, where's the best networking clock from the world like it is like A guy is like I mean I'm probably guys listening like that's like use it for that like you can meet these guys you can meet them You can meet them online. You can meet them in the real world. You can make you can make those relationships Um, yeah, I mean that's really what men and like I said, I mean I've talked about it I hit this point so many times but that's what men lack today more than anything else. They lack male relationships There's been this like and there's been this I call like like this gayification of like male bonding Always like you're like if today like in modern world like this is this this has been the real like propaganda line We have this idea of the nuclear family So the nuclear family is like it's your wife And your kids like oh, that's the family model like no, that's not Traditionally how people operate the real family is having a brotherhood. It's having extended family It's growing up in a village or a tribe where you know a lot of people And you have brothers and your wife has sisters and your kids have brothers and sisters And you grew up with this extensive port network where it's not just you and your woman in your house And you know this bullshit 1950s american vision of like you coming home to your wife like that's bullshit That was always bullshit. It's always been bullshit the real vision is you coming home to your home It's in a larger area and you know people and they know you And you get together you congregate and you connect and yeah, maybe you do have time where you're by yourself You know with your woman or whatever That's the real network. It's brotherhood Yeah, and men today like it's been like I said it's been the gayification where it's if you have male If you have male friendships, you want to go out and hang out with your with your boys that way It's either it's either immature You know, it's like oh like like you need to grow up like Yeah, like you know, women are encouraged like they see separating in from each other So it's either immature or it has like this sort of like homo slant to it like oh, it's kind of you hang out like you know like tape brothers They live because they've been they've been brothers their whole lives. They see each other every day Oh, it's kind of weird, you know, like you with your brother all the time or you were the best friend all the time Like you know, like you guys are always hanging out like, you know, like it's it's both teasing and you could say like it's It's a super retic it is derisive It's a sort of encouragement to like a real a real man doesn't need to do that A real man doesn't need to hang out with his boys all the time a real man doesn't need to be around other men You know, that's that's somehow like it's that's that's a strange thing. It's immature thing like no, it's fucking not All the most powerful men in the world. Not even was powerful all the men in the world They've ever existed. They have lived and gotten ahead. They did so because they had other men around them They had sons had brothers they had fathers uncles. They had extended family They had that they had that fraternal network You don't get ahead literally just by yourself No one else, you know that rarely if ever truly happens Yeah, and like and why do you need men around you because that's iron sharp and siren steel sharp and steel You know men test each other we test each other against ourselves and against other men We need that competitive cooperation. We need those role models We need to be able to talk to some man where he's a little bit better at something that we lack in And now we have an idea of how to become that ourselves So we're constantly refining yourselves. You cannot do that alone. There's you can't you fucking cannot Yeah, even the most accomplished guys in the world, you know, maybe they took a few years and they went like a sabbatical And they isolate themselves. Okay, they isolate themselves for a period of time But then they came back into the world and they taught what they knew they picked up students They led people they led men towards something You know, this this sort of like lone wolf success model You know that we see, you know, even on social media where you see that it's like it's like one guy You know like showing off all here's what I did. I'm like you didn't do that dude. You're other people that work for you You know, like I've been trying to show that to you like even in the past week Different like you know the instagram like yeah, like here's me But here's also the man I'm fucking working with here. She's behind me Yeah, that's that's where the like you know, that's that's where the momentum is coming from You know, that's the edge of the spear. You know, those are the those are the edges. I'm just I'm just the point for myself You do that. Yeah, absolutely your life will change. Absolutely Yes, I mean, that's like I keep saying when you can use it You can use this platform on the platforms you can take that seriously and you can recreate yourself in ways you never thought possible And I think that is the exact issue you see, you know when people bash the the dad bod You know being a husband being lazy the man Usually when he starts a family is removed from the men because he goes into that nuclear family He takes off and when I look at veterans when they leave the service, you know, when they start gaining weight Again, they left the brotherhood cops firefighters all these rugged ass dudes When they leave the brotherhood they get soft because they're no longer with you know, that iron sharpening iron there's no longer that standard to maintain and One of the biggest things I'm pushing from the family angle and I see tanner doing this as well Yeah, is that just because you have a wife and kids your duty is not, you know Delegated to someone else. It's not removed from your shoulders. You still have to maintain it And tanner and I you know, we we kind of keep harping on this because When you have a child that you need to kind of double down on the skills that you have therefore you can pass them on to the next generation Yes, you know a soft man's going to raise a soft son And that's that's a huge issue and I I see it turning Possibly because the echo chamber inside foe I see these men getting after and their kids are getting after it So i'm seeing like yeah, there's hope But then you go into the the larger picture and you're like look and as you said earlier There are so many people that don't even know we exist that all they need to hear all they need is just that one Hey, man, here's a group of dudes that want that give a shit you exist and want to help you get better They'd be like, oh shit, let's go No, absolutely. I mean like that's I'd say like let's say like number like lesson five of reinvention You always have to have standards You know, what does that mean for reinvention? It means that no matter how fucking hard you get knocked down There's still some level of performance that you are Striving for You know, even if it's nothing else like I've lost everything But i'm still gonna fucking work out and do push-ups every day and train physically You can always move your body, right? I like I always it's super impet emphasize that obviously fitness background You know being what i've done like if if nothing else if you have nothing else as a man Guess what you can still train You can be in a fucking cell and still train This guy's in prison right now for like they're gonna be they're gonna be in prison their whole fucking life They're lifers. They're still fucking training every day He's like man have to strive for something for something You can't you can't strive for nothingness You know, but modern life encourages us to get lazy Encourages us to get to get comfortable You know and like, you know, we get guys get married. Oh, well It's almost like the female attitude at times like women. They're married. Well, you know, I was hot I met my husband, but now I'm a mommy so I'm gonna get the mom bod You know, I don't have to look good anymore for anybody You know, because I got him like I'm I'm gonna make him fat too Yeah, I've said this on twitter jokingly, but it's true Like women will fucking dress their men like shit and make them fat because now he can't cheat It's not gonna leave me I'm fat too. We're fat together. Oh great. I'm like, it's fucking pathetic. It's absolutely fucking pathetic There's no standard to anything Yeah, it's not even it's not even the lack of standard You know, like you have to have stairs if i'm saying Is it it gives you some level of performance and it teaches you to think in like a goal-oriented mindset It's also the level of like, how do you show up to the world? Is that your idea of how you live life that you just achieve something momentarily and then you allow it to degrade? That's your attitude I got the job. Oh, now I can fucking slack off got married now. I can look like shit I had kids. Well, I only have to be a good day out a few days a week You know, like it just encourages a lazy man. It's a cultural lazy. It's a culture of laziness It's an attitude of this entitlement once I have something I no longer have to work to keep it Is now I just I just I guess I possess it forever Bullshit If you have standards, you can always rebuild yourself Because you know you have that mental attitude you have that mindset of what it takes to reorient yourself and how to work backwards So let's see something like I'm gonna do that. Okay. Yeah, where are the steps getting there? It teaches you how to plan If you have no stairs at all like you have no idea what to do with anything is you don't work intentionally anything You don't follow anything You have nothing that you abide by that you hold yourself to So everything's equal in that way like oh, I guess I don't want to do what do I do? I guess everything's appealing to me. I'm like Yeah, I guess every everything is but like you're basically like I said you're a place of nothingness Yeah, there's no form to your being You know, like the one thing I've always been thinking for myself like I've done a lot of shit wrong a lot but I've always held myself to that one standard if nothing else I get up every day and I always fucking train I always train. I'm always in a state of physical readiness that if I need to go do something I can do it and I have the energy for it and I have the energy to put into something So, yeah, I can get fucking my teeth. Y'all metaphor be knocked out. It's all right. I'll get back up I'm still alert. I can still move. I can still keep going. We're okay If I didn't have that I'm gonna fucking kill myself years ago You know, like what like what's there to live for? You've got a a lot of men in the chat that are glad you're back and appreciating the message As you were talking something that was standing out to me too is the lack of why A lot of men don't have a why in their life whatsoever So when they do the hard thing to give up, you know, and I recent I'm writing a Kind of a series on the family man side hustle about men who have families But they want to do something more and one of the biggest points I'm making one of the biggest lessons in there is having a why because when things get hard Why are you working out? There's got there's got to be some reason in your head You know, why are you choosing to stay up late to to build the business? Why are you in between? You know, everybody else is resting at at the job, you know going to lunch You're sitting there typing a blog post or something You know, there's got to be a why to what you're doing and a lot of people have zero Zero mission what they wake up. They go to work. They come home Nothing fucking outside ever enters their mind and they're wondering why life isn't the way they want it to be Well, you've not worked towards anything because you have no mission You have no goal. There's no buoys for your ship to stay between so you can go towards a direction You're just existing you're not living and that's when you know, you're talking about Training or having something that men are going to do They've got to have a reason as to why they're going to do what they're going to do and for some it's I want to Great like for me. I'm like, I want to have a fucking awesome family. I want my kids to be awesome I want to make I want to like a location and dependant now. I want these things So I'm going to work for them. That's my why I want to be a fucking cool dad a fucking cool man Have a cool brotherhood and have a cool fucking life and then die That's it. So that's why I do what I do Men need that. Men need to find that in some way. They need to have a why No, I mean dude number six you like yeah, let's make that read mention you have to have a why You have to have a reason for what you're doing like this. You have to have a reason Like I said that you know that reason like that's in you as to what your reason is and for Yeah, some men it's going to be very much something they have in common lots of other men But like if you have nothing that way like you are just really Locked Yeah, like if you have a why like, you know, let's just make this let's say like number seven Like yeah, let's say you have a why like you'd find your why number seven like that gives you a voice Like you're gonna reinvent yourself. You have to believe in what you're doing. You have your why okay great Now you have to have unrelenting fucking self-belief in this irrational self-confidence. Yeah You like I call it it's a confidence that is proven only by itself. Why are you so confident because i'm so confident It's just a fucking circular logic loop. Yeah, it doesn't make sense. It's not logical. It's not like a equals b It's a equals a equals a equals a equals a over and over and over again That makes you fucking bulletproof. Now you literally have to get killed to get does it get stopped? If you if you have that then anything you apply yourself to You have the potential to be successful at it that probability massively increases If you don't have that and you don't believe what you're doing The world's just gonna fucking eat you up You're gonna become that person where Either the the crowd or the audience or people's opinions or something. It's gonna knock you off course Yes, so many guys today. They're You know, they're like they're like sheep They want to be more they want to become something else. They see these things. Maybe they're exposed. It's like, oh man That'd be really cool to you know, like, you know beat like embody that quality, but they're afraid of being criticized They're afraid of critique Yeah, I I mean this I get messages like this all the fucking time from guys like man Like they all like normie families. I kind of like family. I'm trying to change like, you know, they don't like this They don't like that. They don't like my action like fuck all these people You know, I mean if you have supportive people, that's amazing a lot of people don't though They get pushed back from everyone they know You see everything you're doing runs up against somebody's sensibilities You know, they can't share if they really think they can't show the really think he's all I'm like a judge for it You know, this person might not like me anymore. It's gonna it's gonna cause conflict with somebody I'm like who gives a fuck what media media people think about your goals You know, you having standards and that making someone uncomfortable. That's their fucking problem Is now they have to go look in the mirror and reevaluate how they feel about themselves You have to go reevaluate what their beliefs are You know, it's either it's really a moral quandary. You know, oh, yeah Like something generic like oh my whatever like someone I know my family's liberal. They can't stand that I support Trump Fuck them Yeah, they don't want to get along with you. Okay. They're fucking from they shouldn't want to see an influx three years made themselves mentally ill Yeah, like you're gonna cause issues with people I've caused it dude. I've got issues with my own family Like my parents love me. I've I've great parents. My parents love me 100% like I'm not gonna pretend Oh, I had but I had amazing parents had great fathers But guess what like I have not had a stable career at all Yeah, my dad wanted me to go to fucking uh A pt school and be a physical therapist You know, this shit went down on twitter like, you know, like You know, my parents turned out like, oh, you got kicked off twitter. Well, what are you gonna do with your business? Like, oh my god, we're so worried for you. I'm like, I am fine 30 fucking years old Like, you know, like I mean parents are always gonna worry about you this regardless usually They're like, yeah, my especially my mom's jewish. So she's gonna worry about fucking anything, but You know, like what are you gonna do? I'm like, I'm fucking fine. I got plans. I'll make it work. No, I can deal Yeah, I mean, I haven't been living at home for fucking years and years and years and like what Don't worry about it You know this that I get messed. Yeah, I'm looking at my messages just that like you should pick something more stable Like why don't you do this? Why can't like I'm not that man? I'm never gonna be that man. I'm doing life. My I do life my way I've chosen to make myself a figure for men and to lead men towards something to create a better future And no shit that's gonna cause issues and but there's gonna cause conflict that's going to happen Okay, but somebody has to be that person Leading from the front who's gonna expose themselves to that kind of fire or the platforming Or you know be that kind of role model like yeah, no, not everyone's gonna like you. We live in that kind of world now That's it. That's how it goes You know, like I've said, I never expect I never expected to be in this position Yeah, I was not my career goal 12 years ago. Like I'm gonna be a leader of men I I still like I had to get comfortable even saying that to myself. I'm like Even like past weekend was with the war and guys like I am a leader of men like these guys genuinely look up to me They genuinely they listen to everything I fucking say I'm like God damn like I really I need to take myself Seriously, I need to take what I'm doing seriously. Okay. I'm I'm gonna do this. I'm willing to do this I accept this. I want this. All right. Like I have a why here like and I really like I've truly realized the past year awesome Of course the other people like they're not gonna get it. They don't need to get it only you need to get it That's absolutely correct. And that's Dude, if we could bottle that up and just give it to guys it would solve so many problems. That's the elixir right there. It's just look Find comfort in the discomfort Don't don't search for stability. I like when tanner says don't your your maximum aim for style should not be comfort Stop trying to make yourself always comfortable. You know, it's gonna be weird life does get a little rocky but at least and Jeff Putnam just said it from regular legacy, you know, you're gonna be judged by someone no matter what Might as well be judged for doing your life. Look people are going to judge you even if you're playing it safe So you might as well go out and do things on your terms You know, you might as well Just try to be you instead of being the guy you think people will like just be yourself And you'll find a lot more people like you and the ones who don't like you. Fuck them Like they at least they don't like you but when you try to pretend to be somebody and then people like that guy Inside your little lizard brain, you still know they don't like you So you don't even get that satisfaction You know, they like the persona the the makeup you're wearing You're a clown dressed up with a smile on even though there's tears and a frown behind it You know, and that's just one of the saddest things in the world You know, if you're gonna do it, you know, do it on your terms and like fuck them. Seriously just Fuck them. Live your life. Own your life. Go forward. I don't give a fuck Like that's one of the best things about what's happened in throughout my entire internet like a presence Again similar to you, but I left the navy. I had no fucking clue. I was gonna be a writer I didn't know I could write, you know, and now here we are, you know What four years later, you know doing this thing. Yeah And it's I've had so much shit said about why I shouldn't be talking shouldn't be writing My my message doesn't all this fucking shit. You're just an average dude. Yeah, fuck you. I'm gonna write anyway And guess what that resonates No, no, absolutely it does No, there's always gonna be those people like it's you know, like I say it's not because of the crisis I'm like, oh it gets to you like No, I mean, I know it gets to people because when you start trying to express your voice initially I mean, I've been writing a long time professionally You know, we start trying to express yourself initially and you have like a message you've learned something as man You want to share your knowledge share your experiences? You will find out very swiftly that like everyone has tall poppy syndrome Everyone wants to be successful. Everybody you everyone is told encourages you like. Oh, yes. It's like succeed grow set goals You know aim to be be something But not too much Not too much You know like we want everyone Yeah, we have this culture of uh What do you call this like the self-esteem culture the self-esteem culture and success culture? Everyone wants to get ahead keep head up over the joints. Oh, yeah do that But if you stand out in a way that defies status quo if you defy the crowd Yeah, if you if you step over the line of being average mediocre and being excellent Well, that's gonna upset somebody so then you're gonna get that push back again So you do so you do I remember I remember like five six years ago the first time I ever wrote articles in fitness industry I'm getting them so you can publish online. They're on a website Um lefts now. That's a personal trainer. So I'm not I'm not talking about like power I'm talking about like training clients things like tactic strategies things I apply And I had a lot of positive feedback, but every article I ever wrote it was hysterical This is back when you still say this that people they look at my background like who the who's this who's this ballet faggot Why why is he writing about being big and strong? This is bullshit. I'm like Oh You know, like I was like I was looking I'm like I didn't expect anyone even fucking care about that. Yeah, that's always a weird thing You have a certain expectation maybe like oh, no one's gonna care what I have to say But then not only do they care about what you have to say, but it upsets them that you'd even say it Yeah, who are you to say it? Who are you to speak? I'm like, who the fuck are you to fucking critique? Who is anyone? Yeah, who's the man the arena here me who's the man watching the guy in the arena you You can be as loud as you fucking want. You're never gonna step in here ever ever No, but no, there is no one in history that in the in these fucking critics There's no one in history that we look up to my man. That guy was the best critic in the world. He changed the world That's not a fucking thing Yeah, there's that cliched shit quote that I is stupid like a like well behaved women don't make history That quote's bullshit by the way, but I'll flip it around. It'll be a basic bro Well behaved men don't make history You know why because everyone fucking hates agreeable men If you being ultra agreeable and being along with everybody and being conformist and never being upsetting You're fucking forgettable. You don't stand out to men. You don't stand out to women. You don't stand out to yourselves at all Agreeable men are fucking useless You know, obviously I'm not saying to be hyper aggressive and start fights with people. No, but if you stand for everything Yeah, if you stand for nothing for nothing exactly fucking nothing Yes, you know, so fuck that fuck being agreeable When you look at it too, you know, it's and it's all fucking ties together I mean we're talking about the 10 lessons, but I mean they're all one lesson When you are confident you will be disagreeable. You're not afraid to confront You know when you have a plan you're confident because you know where you're going you have a direction When when you're intentional what you're doing it gets you to where you're going which makes you more This all is it all ties back into itself. This is all being a man And going all the way back to how we started with twitter and the use of social media, you know that Treat it like a man not a child not a teen like a man should treat it and a man. What is he? He's intentional what he shares You know a lot of men who are on here They're wasting their time just going on there and trolling going on there and just I'm gonna yell about politics today Save your fucking breath man You or start a blog and talk about do something that actually matters instead of just wasting time scrolling on twitter And you know flipping out on somebody who says go trump or hashtag resist, you know like fuck it Do your thing stop worrying about everybody else's thing do your thing very very well Yeah, I mean I said that point like let's say listen great like the do real work like do real work Yeah, like if you're gonna like especially with reinvention like you have to do real work That's be something like you're saying it moves the needle forward It's something people can like people can read and Yeah internalize and it gives them some direction. It's not just that's just commentary You know like it's not just simply gossip Yeah, if you're gonna if you're gonna create in this stuff like I mean, that's just such a basic thing Like are you willing to do the work? Yes or no? Okay, I have these really strong beliefs. Okay. Well actually make that constructive and useful for people Do that work to set up an example Do that make that happen, you know awesome. Cool. Okay, great You know or or you can just you know, you can fuck around Fuck around you can say some shit. You can gossip about bullshit. Um gossiping. Look, I have opinions It gets what we all got fucking opinions. Don't give a fuck about your opinions No one gives a shit unless you can truly become that Level of person where your opinion somehow married to hundreds thousand people Great if you can do that If you're some fucking dude like a lot of guys are with you know, like this no social traction It's throwing shit out throwing up darts because you want like jump in on the fucking the next bandwagon rodeo Or whatever you're told to care about today important the play cold partisan world Oh, Jesus. Are you fucking wasting your time? Like go waste it doing some I rather you play fucking video games and do that shit at least entertain yourself At least get some joy out of what you're doing and oh, it was fun If you're gonna waste your time wasted, I'm gonna say it's waste you're gonna Spend your time on something that's not momentum based go have fun doing something Bullshitting that's not fucking fun. That just leaves you fucking angry and pissed off And now you've got you know, you're in a negative emotional state with nothing to show for yourself And people will say well on youtube, we're just talking well these conversations Inspire action this conversation somebody will DM one of us like hey, I saw your show I thought about this. I'm gonna start changing that boom That's what this conversation is the whole point of these talks the whole point of being on social media is to share the message Because when you share it somebody's like, oh, I didn't think of it that way or I didn't realize I was bullshitting on twitter I didn't realize I was using it immaturally, you know in all that's the point of all of this You know you your podcast you've been doing that forever. You're not just talking to talk. There's a reason you're talking There's an intentional reason you're talking, you know for for your instagram There's an intentional reason you took that photo you shared the men There's a reason that we're having this specific conversation, you know This is this is all done with the purpose of being applied by another man Like apply it. We've got 36 people watching right now the chat's full of dudes Apply then the conversation apply the knowledge. It doesn't work if you don't it's just a conversation that does nothing for anybody No, it doesn't I mean like I like lesson number nine like you cut off dead weight Like you know, we're talking about these things and doing things from tension Yeah, cut out those things to get the or dead weight to you Whether that's people whether that's habits whether that's You know whether that's possessions like you have to eliminate those things They're fucking dragging you down with those that are those anchors around your neck You know a lot of men have those things it might be it might be beliefs too But you can't be adaptable. You can't move forward. You can't move ahead You can't you know lose everything and then rebuild yourself back up if you've got all these useless, let's just say We're gonna call them like sort of this like these useless like fucking like rocks around you, you know Like this fucking atmosphere of just inertia A lot of guys have that today And they might not realize it but like because they're slave people's opinions because they got You know, they're held back by their own mindset of like, oh, I think that's not about myself It makes me weak the way they speak themselves You know, or even the fucking shit they own You know, they're identity that's wrapped up in their possessions their materialism That's all gonna slow you down Yeah, and the point obviously it's not it's not to not have friends or know you can't own anything You know, but how much in your life really keeps you moving forward? You know, where are those things that feed that where are those things that feed the virtuous cycle? And make you like a man momentum. What are those things? You know, what's this there? Because you're you were told it's supposed to be there and you're told you have to have these relationships with people Yeah, how much how much in your life really serves you that way? If you know like I that's one thing I've been good at is that I don't allow anything to ever slow me down I don't maintain things that make me slow whether it be food habits You know exercises Your relationships I do not do that at all and that allows me to move very very fast You know, I'm not in service to anything with the chain around my neck ever You got countless chains You know, I say you're either a fuel or an anchor, you know, your family's fuel or it's an anchor your friends are fuel Or they're an anchor they're holding your ship back or they're pushing you forward You want to be better because of the people and things around you but also when you said, you know, the there a lot of people think that happiness and joy in life is An attainment through possession. It's a physical place you go to Oh, when I get this new car when I get this big house when I buy that new thing Then I'm there when I get a million followers, then I'm there Happiness joy all that that's a mindset You know, you can be fucking dirt poor with nothing But you you know and your dog and be the happiest dude in the world because you're mentally you're already in that state You found that's the there. It's a mindset and then everything else comes from that You can all right. I'm good, you know, like you were saying you can strip everything from the man and the man's still good That's what it's great about being a man. We can embrace the suck We can be in in the mud wrestling with the guys, you know, it's fucking sucks. I'm tired I'm sore and I'm happy as shit because like fucking I'm a man and that's okay And it's allowed to be uncomfortable. Again, this goes back to finding comfort in the discomfort You know, it goes back to having the people to fall back on it goes back to all the lessons up to this point You know, when when you can do all that your mind goes to a place where you are enjoying everything Every day I wake up and I'm like, fuck. Yeah Today's the day like today's friday. So a lot of people are cool and in the work week. No, fuck the work week It doesn't matter if it's friday if it's tuesday if it's monday. It's a day smile. Have a good time You know, it's a you're allowed to have joy. So but stop basing it on I don't have to go to work and that makes me happy, you know tomorrow. That's not that's not a mentality That's a that's another physical place. I don't have to wake up early tomorrow. Come on now You're better than that. That's not life You know, you can hit that point too when you just stop basing on other things and go inside Fix yourself. It's your mindset and boom all of a sudden you're a happy dude Yeah, I mean, I I'd say this we said we we said we come with 10 lessons like number 10 Like I'll say three things, you know pain tolerance perseverance fortitude. Those are all kind of all in one Like you have like you said you have to embrace the suck You have to embrace suck and one of those the gifts that men have been given by god or my nature Men have fucking pain tolerance. We can keep moving. We can keep going Yeah, I'm not Yeah, I think probably most of the guys listening. I'm not like a fan of let's say I'm not I'll say this. I'm not a proponent of the idea that everybody needs Deep therapy and you had a traumatic childhood and all you got issues and we certainly especially for younger guys That like grew up in that sort of like almost like zoomer culture where like it's fun to have a mental illness That's normalized. It's part of your identity like oh, I have anxiety. I'm like fuck that Dude, I had the most like fucked up childhood and I'm like fuck it Like I'm not gonna base who I was doesn't dictate who I become. Okay, you have anxiety because your parents didn't love you enough Or you know, you didn't get told you're good. You're good enough to go. Okay. That is such bullshit All right, it never really it's both it is bullshit. We have we have this social atmosphere now But it's like a social mental illness You know other people have anxiety other people have depression. I guess I'm a sad boy You know boi, do you fuck your fucking sadness? Okay, there's fucking kids that went through the fucking holocaust and fucking camps They came out and were fucking still alive one had families had kids They weren't fucking giving into their fucking apathetical, you know momentary Depression anxiety You know like the vast majority of these of these men need to fucking get the disaster and levels up lift weights Go out in the fucking sun get out of their fucking room like quite literally they actually do They need to fucking realize that they're they're negativity this internal emotional inertia. It's not fucking real It's you making yourself feel a certain way And because you have the feeling and because you've been told by this fucking culture of basically like women That were right that probably raised you fundamentally that feelings are real That somehow that's who you really are. That's not who you fucking are You know an emotion is transient it passes in time The things that define men as men are those things that are permanent muscle is fucking permanent bone is permanent strength is permanent action is permanent movement's permanent Actually has cancer that physical effect your feelings fuck them Fuck them. Yeah, sometimes there's such a thing as disregarding your emotions Not saying not to feel emotions. You know, obviously we want to feel joy and happiness and romance and all these things Yes, we do but not everything you feel Is provable and proof of life simply because it's within you. Some of those things just pass because it's normal It's normal to be sad. It's normal to be unhappy. It's normal. Maybe it anxious at times. That's not your fucking personality Anxiety is fucking bullshit. You know, like, you know, I see this all the time with guys They're they're afraid they have a fear of like, oh, yeah, the fear in so many areas and so many things You know fear becomes endemic to you You know when you start to find yourself by what you are afraid of and that's your first fucking reaction to everything That you challenged with like you are in for a life of fucking hell You're going to avoid pain. You're going to avoid anything it requires for to Yeah, all those things that like you look at and like, oh man, it's gonna take a long time Oh, I don't I don't know if I can do it. You're catalyzing your own failure from the very beginning You're setting yourself at your obstruction in your life for failure over and over and over and over and over again Yeah, you you want pain tolerance. You need to do things that are gonna make you fucking hurt And that that's how you prove to yourself that you can fucking not only do them But you prove yourself your capability of what your potential is Perseverance is potential Fortitude's potential all these things increase your probability to become the man that hopefully you actually can be that's within you If you can't pull that out of yourself, your fucking life will destroy you I think you hit the fucking nail in the head and I think that that's a solid number 10 as So many messages I've received fall into that category My life sucks. Well, what do you do nothing? That's why your life sucks Like this is this is the loop you're in like it's it covers almost everything You just answer your own problem. Yeah, exactly. Kyle Trouble has been on this huge kick recently about Uh hydration, you know, he's a guy start drinking water and I'm like fuck People aren't like they're I don't like water. Who the fuck doesn't like water How are you? How are you at the point now where you need such a carnival in your mouth with everything you eat and drink That you can't have the like the one thing that your body needs more than anything And like, oh, I just don't like it If you can't drink water, you you don't deserve the title being a man You don't deserve the life you say you deserve you can't drink some fucking water Never mind work out never mind go out in the cold for a walk or something Like if you can't drink water, shut the fuck up like you don't deserve it Bro, I I'm always amazed at like This is from personal training when I was training actively that grown adult men Who need to be told the most basic shit by me? There's a market for it. Like we can't say there's not It's like, hey, man, you need like not eat like shit. Oh, yeah, you're right I I should I should stop stop being Wendy's and McDonald's all this every day. You need to drink more water Oh, I guess you're right. I should drink more water. It's good. It's good to lift weights Yeah, I guess it is good lift weight. I shouldn't start my this is so fucking basic Yeah, not to be like your fucking father when you're five But you know a lot of what men actually need and what they need to be doing It's like what you tell like a six-year-old child. Yeah, or a 10-year-old boy You know go go outside exercise You know go it's like boy should be strong You know, don't eat fucking like don't eat like a fucking, you know, five or eight like an adult This basic shit They're like, you know, we say it's basic, but then you have all these men a day where it's like they got fat They got lazy. They're drinking fucking soda You're on their goddamn couch like quite literally they are It's like no standards. No fucking pain tolerance Not striving for anything Yeah, no sentiment and fucking ambition for the future They got none of it Yes, they've devolved in this weird sort of like You know, not obviously caricature if devolved it's like this weird like sort of like amorphous blob Don't be a blob I like that. All right, we're closing in on wrapping this one up I always ask the chat if they have any questions for the panel So I've got a few questions for you from the guest. So the first one's from anthony solid dude solid father solid men What do you do to pick yourself up when you're feeling unmotivated and exhausted from being from being consistent in doing the hard work I don't do anything. I I don't believe in the motivation or exhaustion as being like, oh, I can't do anything. I'll be some tired make Action a habit irrespective of how you feel This is like going to the gym every day or training every day Make that a habit to the point where it's not about whether you feel like it's not emotion It's not motivation. You can't let those things affect your ability to work. Period Period I know this is gonna be but what if I don't give a fuck It does not fucking matter Those men who accomplish things way beyond myself. I'm not that accomplished those guys in fucking who are billionaires Those men who create things there are just truly substantial massive in scale They do not wake up every day seeing if they're gonna feel like doing anything They don't get out of bed. Am I mowing today? Yes or no? No, the day am I tired right now? Oh, I don't want to go to the gym if I'm not if I'm tired They don't fucking care they act Regardless of their internal emotional state regardless of their physical exhaustion They will go until they're fucking dead Yeah, like if you like you like imagine this imagine you have a villain Imagine imagine that you have a guy who looks like you who's a clone. I'll borrow from like fucking tape He uses a great thing with a Mac double imagine. There's a guy that looks exactly like you He's your clone, but your clone fucking doesn't get tired you're double your um What's the term for you know, what do you have someone that you're doppelganger? Yes, you're doppelganger when he's tired. He still goes to the gym when he's not feeling motivated. He still gets up and works In every moment where you would stop yourself and be like, oh, I'm not feeling you right now He keeps fucking going because he knows what he needs to do He's like the super build. He's like that super build version of yourself of what you could be So use that as your example. What would that guy do right now? Would he fuck would you take fuck off and not work today? Would he let himself get motivated when he'd slack would he take shit from a fucking woman? No, he wouldn't do any of that shit. He'd keep fucking going So what's stopping you from doing that? Yeah, your feelings Your body being a little like lagging then fucking dial down the workout a little bit get something done versus Maybe you can't go 100 go 50 50's more than zero Yeah, I I'm I'm dead serious about this. I do not believe in the fucking relying on feelings ever Unless you have worked yourself to exhaustion when you learn you need a day to recover recharge Like you can't physically do anything like you can't okay. Yes. There are exceptions. No kidding We're all human we need sleep need to eat we need shelter Yes, my argument against that We need relaxation But beyond that as a man your life should just be purely fucking momentum All the time as much as possible I like how because of the environment that we've been writing in for so long That you now put your disclaimers like if you and I were sitting having this conversation you would not have said All right, if you have worked yourself to if You have to like leave that little caveat because somebody somewhere is going to be like well What about this one except you're like fuck like all right I'm gonna give my disclaimer this one guy is in the special forces Yeah boot camp for this week and they're tired and at the end and they want to sleep like no shit really like how Yeah, like haven't I like one you're an idiot two like stop thinking binary three You're not capable of extra thought four If you're thinking is that limited where it's either this or this and you can only think like in words Like well, you know what fuck like you're right. I'm wrong go do life your way you clear You know more than me like I'm not gonna fucking argue with idiots It's funny Oh, man. All right next question I would be interested in what AJ's plan is on youtube as far as what type of content and format you're going to dig into Well, I mean the initial plan is basically just to start posting daily and so here's the thing guys for like any kind of social media growth This is the space basic as it gets you have to post every day Period that has to happen posting every day has to happen That's number one I've already started the daily like youtube vlog Number two I'm gonna start interviewing the guys I know posting that you know making podcasts posting this podcast in university youtube They'll start getting traction gelling. Yeah, number three in the long term. I'm actually make the content I'm actually gonna make the channel a nice channel. It's gonna be professional looking nice looking videos I'm gonna show both my lifestyle of how I actually lived my day to day life as you know regards like bring my businesses You know like basically like the lessons like you know the models I use Yeah, and also show like role models of like men to follow whether it be other men or whether it be You know this principles that may not abide by so it's gonna be a mask in the mail working a channel Like here's how to be a man the 20th century and be successful So then and everything that entails You know, which is basically like I could go and what there's probably about a million subs I could talk about even today. So cool Next we got we got two more and they'll wrap this up Curious about your overseas experience. What was it like? Was it just romania and do you plan to stick in the us now or are you gonna be heading out? No, I'm leaving in two months. I'm out. I'm leaving the United States. Yeah, I was in Brussels. I was in romania I was in belgium. I was in I was in belgium. I was in romania. I love romania But no, I'm I'm leaving the us for various reasons not because I think the us is like a failed Place it's like oh, it's all all is lost, but I'm 30. I have absolute fucking freedom I have my income is taken care of like I have the money to do practically almost anything I want I have no desire nor interest in staying here and having a routine life With you know, like oh my girl. We just do the same shit every day and you know, like I'm not doing I'm not doing that I my plan when I turn 40 is to speak five languages And I've traveled to like a hard fucking countries and have fucking adventures and that is what I'm going to do That's fucking cool. I don't know if it was an email that you read but it's talking about freedom And you know actualizing going out and doing the thing. Yeah, we might have been a message might have been an email I don't remember but I was like that's fucking cool. Like that's that's the way to do it all right final question At what age did you feel you started coming into your own? Uh, yeah, that's a good question. Yeah, I would say I always had a very defined personality from when I was very young I was never someone that wasn't conformist. I was not a guy that really cared people got along with me And yeah, I was like I was alone for a lot much my childhood So yeah, I mean I could say on that level like I've always I've always had that independent streak You know, but as far as like coming to my own or like I feel like oh, I'm really getting like successful Like this is fucking cool. Yeah, I would say honestly probably the last like two years. Let's say like 28 Yeah, around two years ago Um, you know, and I you know, I think that's I think I think that's normal for men. I think Yeah, as as a young guy it takes about 10 years to really mature Your brain keeps changing until 25 when you're 18 You know no matter how successful you are you know high school sports, whatever you're fucking 18 There's so many experiences you have to go through as a man You know, whether it be with women whether it be with failure whether it be with challenge whether it be with Perseverance whether it be with this accomplishment whether it be with being promoted You know like being being financially independent You know moving out of your home making your decisions facing the consequences That takes time. You can't really speed up that timetable too much. It's you really can't So yeah, I would say it takes about 10 years like by the time you're 28 29 30 You should be pretty well-defined in who you are what you're about and what you're aiming for and striving for If you're hitting 30 and you don't have shit to show for yourself and I don't mean like you need to be a billionaire That's what that's not my point, but you don't have to show for yourself. You're not fit You don't have any sort of financial future. You have no financial security. You have nothing you're good at You have no competency. You have no confidence You have you have nothing cool that you've done Like you don't you have you've had no women like you don't have any of those basic elements Yeah, I mean you're still you've been You know doggie paddling at zero for quite some time You know like I'm like I see you're shortening the drain But you're at a disadvantage now because you're 30 and 30 people have the expectation that at 30 like as a man Okay, you hopefully is you can pay for your own shit and Yeah, you can take care of yourself Yeah, if you're even struggling to do that where you like this the the the aura of laziness comes off of you Entitlement like god you like you're working from like negative like you're like you're not even at zero You're like at like negative 10 right now. You have a big hill to climb But yeah, I mean as far as coming to my own I'd say 20 29 30 You know, I've like the last three years have really been like where I felt like okay like life is just Blasting off. I've clearly done something useful in my time the past 10 years. I can see it. It's having an effect One of the guys in the chat said that he was 20 and he's kind of feeling that and I want people to Keep in mind, you know as AJ is telling this, you know the time frame You're kind of building the foundation from which the rocket takes off of so you're not going to have immediate results But the things you keep doing sitting in the right direction. It's it really accelerates that Explosions later on So you just keep putting the work now and eventually it's just like like to the moon It's not one plus one equals two It's like one plus one equals nine if you make if you do it properly actions compound. You have to take advance That's what I was looking for compound. Yeah, yeah, so compound interest compounding actions Compounding actions yet like apply that principle to your whole life everything you do compounds everything Yeah at 20 I've heard young guys tell me that too as well. It's like, oh man. I'm like I'm 21 22 Like I just turned 20 like I feel like I'm behind I'm like Like what are you looking at that's making you feel that way? Like I I mean, I don't know I really it's a real question like what like how are you at 20 and you're somehow looking at What social media and like oh i'm behind Because like you're seeing some dude bullshit with like fake cars and women like Yeah, I mean, you know, maybe maybe that's what they're watching. I don't know I mean like yeah, like the god the tape is a really good friends of mine They're in their 30s It took them like over 10 years to get really fucking successful where they can You know show up that flash that way for pretty much any man. It's going to take 10 years So being 20 and seeing I don't know some chuckle fucking social media who random who like the jimmy I know I've seen because I have seen guys do this I've seen them and I know it's bullshit Like behind the scenes where they've legitimately like stood next to car. They don't own Got some girls that they've never fucked and it's like, oh, hey, like I'm gonna take a picture to try to look successful I'm gonna try and look cool right now Stop stop worrying about trying to look fucking cool for people and go do the goddamn work Go do the uncool shit Which is fucking effort repeated every single fucking day and setting a fucking goal and showing up go do that shit You know like you know worrying about the sort of success accompaniments that you think matter at 20 Like you don't fucking need that shit You need to fucking go to the gym do incline bench press go to your fucking job Get your fucking paycheck get promoted develop your skill set do fucking that Yeah, having that fear anxiety at 20 yours free as you're ever going to be You have all the energy you're ever going to have applied to something Worry about not working hard enough Yeah, worry about that Yeah, don't worry about the success that you think you should have because social bullshit told you that some guys Supposedly they they create that for themselves Because I don't know e-commerce some shit. Yeah, and how come you don't have that fuck that bullshit Go out and do the work and you know work in silence if you have to you actually probably you should work in silence Don't don't distract yourself with training like show, you know proof of something that you're not I I you talk about the stress and anxiety, you know imagine being the guy taking that photo near the car near the girl He is so afraid of being found out The back of his brain that has to be on his mind like somebody asked me what if you get doxed hunter? I'm like you fucking know me. You know my whole life. Like there's nothing to show or share That's not really your jeep. You're in Yeah, right You see these accounts they fly up. They're famous and they burn the fuck out because it's all fucking facade and they're just like I'll delete I've seen that so many times and like I saw I saw that the fitness industry as well And like those those people they always fade away always always you can only get away a thing fake for so long Be real build something real All right, it's been a solid fucking show man All right, dude All right, thanks for tuning in for everybody that got linked up next show will be on monday zero nine eastern standard time I'm not sure who's going to be on there. I'm gonna a surprise guest. We'll go we'll go with that So I'll find somebody over the weekend. AJ. Thanks for coming on everybody. Thanks for tuning in If you liked it subscribe like share, you know the work All right, you're talking to y'all talking about