 Jojo says, when does unforgiveness turn to not standing up for yourself or being a pushover? Forgiveness and being a pushover are two different things. Being a pushover, we are never commanded to be pushovers. We're commanded to be bold. Jesus was not a pushover, but he was also a forgiving person. And I think what happens is our pride gets in the way. Our pride, our flesh, our anger sometimes gets in the way of forgiveness. Let's read a couple passages. As a matter of fact, let's also, I want to deal with a few other passages. Well, I want to deal with two passages in particular. But the first passage on forgiveness, this is a command. This is a command. There's no if ands, buts about it. He says in Matthew 615, he says, but if you do not forgive others, then your father will not forgive your transgressions. Guys, you have to forgive. There's no if ands, buts about it. You may not like it. You may not like the way it feels. You may not appreciate what the person has done to you, but the command is to forgive. If you don't forgive, then God is not going to forgive. You walk around harboring feelings and anger and bitterness and so forth, then God is going to, God has a, has a right to do the same thing since you clearly, you clearly do not trust me. You, the guy, the point is to love as God has loved. Again, we are to reflect God to the world. We are to reflect God to an undeserving world. We are undeserving. It may be that the person doesn't even merit forgiveness. That's not what he says. That's not what he says is all. As a matter of fact, let's pull up Ephesians 432. He says, be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. That's just, it is what it is. Sometimes they don't deserve it. Sometimes we want them to do certain things to get forgiven. You got to ask for, you got to ask a certain way. You got to do this. That, that is not what he says. That is not what he says. And so there are people and I, we all know, we, we, we can name probably five or 10 people off top of our head who have a hard time forgiving people. But then let's take the attention away from people that, that they need to forgive and look at the person who does not want to forgive. That person can tend to be bitter. That person can have a, can have a bad relationship with a lot of people. It's a, it's a, it's an ungodly perspective upon not the people that you think need to be forgiven, but it's an ungodly perspective on yourself. And so you don't, you don't need to forgive these people. Yes, you do. You need to forgive them in full view of why God forgave you and others. Cause the fact of the matter is you didn't ask God for forgiveness before he forgave you. You did not ask God for forgiveness before he forgave you. How do I know? Well, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. He is the reason why we even approach him to even ask for forgiveness. Our heart was changed. Why was our heart changed? Because he first forgave us. He did something to us. Then we in turn, Lord forgive me. I'm a sinner. Whoa. That's after he graciously laughed upon you, him, he regenerated your heart. He caused you to be born again. That's him forgiving you first. You cannot then turn around and say, well, uh, this person did me harm. The past that we read earlier where the brothers of Joseph come to him and asked for forgiveness. He says, you ain't got to forgive me. Listen, no big deal, no harm, no foul. Am I not in the place of God? What you meant for evil God meant for good. Praise God. Same thing for us. This person did this to me, stole from me, lied on me, cussed me out, whatever. Am I not in the place of God? Am I not where God wants me to be? And so the fact of the matter is you don't have to ask me for forgiveness. My heart is such to where I want to forgive you because my heart is such that I'm thankful that he forgave me and I want to be a light to the world. I cannot be a light harboring bitterness and the passage are clear. Paul says so, but even more so, Jesus said so. Period. And if you can't get along with that, well, then you can't get along with God.