 Ladies and gentlemen Tony Gaskins here Want to pop in you know, I hurt my back this week. I was on Lifting the bed for my wife threw my back out So, you know last couple they been down Land down been working that same time to though finishing up a little writing. So Didn't get the opportunity, you know The do a video so want to pop on the day and do it live because I miss some and For those of you who are members of the blessed tribe, you know, that's one of my Things I try to do for y'all supporting the channel so let me see if I can Get this here things situated here, right there Yeah, I'm in my new office, but it ain't done yet I still waiting on my desk and my chairs and all of that, but I got enough room in here to Sit down Miracle God bless you. I've been talking to this guy 22 for almost a month and he mostly messages me at night He's an entrepreneur and busy, but I don't understand why he can't just text me during the day well If he's texting you every night Then that's a good thing if he's not texting you every night, then that's a bad thing and It's really no telling why he can't message you in the day Really no telling how many women he he's talking to and the other thing you got to realize is 22 so at 22 you you can only take a man but so serious and To be honest with you on the time I say a man can't text a woman is if he under the water Meaning he on a submarine ship he in the Navy, you know or cuz the pilots in the air could text they want me So it really ain't no job and if he entrepreneur and busy, it's like what are you doing working for the Pentagon? He's 22 years old. You see what I mean? So ain't no man that busy now. So you got to be careful with that Call my ex sorry and that really hurt his feelings. I apologize, but was I completely wrong? Yeah, you was wrong just for being petty just for stupid and you know calling names because what if he would have called you the Equivalent, you know, what if he would have called your name? So, yeah, you you wrong Patty But it's your ex Question talk for one year met the first time Call him out for being one hour late. No flowers or food He got hurt because I said he looks different than the video now He only texts once a day says need space meaning and that's a that's a classical Sign of you've been waiting for too long For your man and you getting frustrated you getting frustrated and you getting fed up so Cuz you expecting a lot now for one the hour late. Yeah, you got to check them on that don't worry about no flowers Okay, that's not that big of a deal cuz players bring flowers Pinch bring flowers. You see what I mean? So don't worry about the little stuff that really don't matter Now no food either. Okay. Yeah, he trippin and then he looks challenged. He looked different in the video so You just really in his mind. That's like you just hope you're looking and spit it right in his eye So in a situation like that you might as well go ahead and Start looking elsewhere move on with your life Tiffany God bless you not even a mr. Gaston question in your opinion Why would God or would he show a woman who's her husband, but in a season where he's not spiritually mature issue abstinence well God never going to be able to show you a perfect man So if he's not spiritually mature then or if he's spiritually mature He may not be financially mature if he's financially mature He may not be spiritually mature if he's financially mature and spiritually mature. He may not be socially mature So it's always gonna be an area that your life has to be a witness to him so You can't really Expect a man to come fully ready made But if you got your legs closed then he can't do nothing with you so then he has no Choice but to get right Denise. God bless you now sweet light honey. Bless you Tony What is the best way to diffuse conflict situations? I accidentally took a man's seat and when he got all rowdy about it my man stood up But to diffuse it I move seats. You did the right thing You did the right thing Now I'm gonna have my wife go to your class my wife be about to have me Shoot somebody at the soccer games But you did the right thing My ex when he was down on his luck Said he wanted to take things slow and see if everything was still there in the process I put a car in my name and fast forward now. He is on vacation with someone Well, that's good. Go ahead about your business. He even showed you what he own and This your ex he's your ex for a reason. It's time to get ready for your next Can men be involved with a woman for years and when they break up he doesn't have a soul tie with her No, he's gonna have a soul tie. He may not show the soul tie. You may not see it See what you got to realize about a soul tie is that's a that's really a private matter Now some people show their soul ties publicly, but that's a private matter meaning stomach ache headache Sleepless nights being distracted at work thinking about you the whole time, you know missing you thinking about you all day So that soul tie, that's a private matter. You won't you won't see that but he definitely has one Then yeah, God bless you now when talking about The three B's is brain Education body health and brand business determined by our satisfaction Or is it until we have reached highest potential? Well, you'll you'll die before you reach your highest potential. So as long as you make in progress and it is determined by Realistic goals So some people just personality will never be satisfied But that doesn't mean that they haven't accomplished what they need to accomplish in their health or in their education And education not just formal education, but self-education Knowing who you are and learning love and then brand It can mean business, but it also just means you as a whole it also means Something that you're creating that you can't be fired from even if that's a blog that don't make any money Maria God bless you now. Is there such thing as a guy? Just genuinely not liking to talk on the phone or will the guy who's really into you call you regardless No, there's there's no such thing as that because Like I told you if a man like you he gonna talk to you under the water He gonna talk to you in the air He gonna talk to you if he had the before the phone the man was selling selling telegrams. I I Love you man was selling telegrams. We're sending handwritten letters. So if a man like you he gonna talk to you Yeah, he got to sit down. Just you know, think about it hoping you getting the message through his mind He gonna talk to you So it's no excuse for a man not to be calling you if he say if he says he likes you and want to build something Coach Chris God bless you now does the desire of a man wanting marriage decrease the more successful. He becomes Entrepreneur with more options not being tied down so he can travel it. Yeah, that's not a One size fits all things so not across the board All men but for a grown boy. Yes If the man is not mature in the areas he needs to be mature and then yes That it will be that case he He he won't want to be married so he could do what he wants to do He don't he don't want to answer to nobody. So yeah, that'll be the case on that Now what do you question y'all? I just got to grab the last one that's sitting there now. Okay Recovery with Amber coach is always thank you for your wisdom. God bless you. I appreciate you now Let me see Lorenzo. God bless you. Hi big brother Tony I'm diving into my full service business and was wondering when did you decide and know you were ready to drop your CPA and do your own taxes and take care of tax related requirements Well, they got turbo tax now, so now the CPA that's a personal choice it don't don't don't Do what somebody else does if you comfortable with a CPA then keep your CPA. All right Don't let me stay you're wrong now, but me personally long they got turbo But no, you know CPA is good for what they good for but um They got your own software out there now and it's like you starting your full business So you really don't need to be paying a CPA to count up, you know I'm lit to you Bobby flay, you know You Bobby flay and you you whipping out plates and you making thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars. Okay, you know You're looking for some good write-offs, but you know when you first start slanging them plates And you making a couple hundred dollars a week You know it you be paying all your earnings to the CPA Amberley God bless you. What is your opinion on a sibling and their spouse calling your child bad and stating your child is not Allowed in their home anymore. Is it right for them to say that about your child? Well, they can say what they want to say about your child now But don't let them say it to your child and if they say it to you Then you could tell them don't call don't speak that on my child But your sibling and their spouse Not gonna call a good child a bad child. So Take an ounce of that and see if your child is bad Because that's the issue with some mommas is they child is bad and they don't want nobody to tell them they child bad So take a good look at it down. Take a little look And just go ahead and see now y'all got a whole I got my 10s unit right here I keep this thing cranking give him one second. Yeah Yes, I got to keep that stimulation you it be Throw that bike out of frame Sweet like honey. God bless you. Thanks for that. Bye. Someone wanted the man I was with to tell off the other man But I know that there are crazy people in this world plus I think that man embarrassed himself you're right because me and you you never really want your man I have to get into anything because men don't don't fight fair and it's a lot of men Then lost a life over a little stuff just like that I know a guy where I'm from got shot and killed at a city league youth football game over a little Regular argument. So you did the right thing. Mariah. God bless you I'm 24 years old with two babies by ex fiancee 28 years old who left me changed his mind about wanting to get married Dated for six years total thoughts Well, it's time to go down to the child support office Gonna put them on earl after liquor child support They got available to your disposal down at the courthouse Because look here playboy if I'm you look you're not finna be with me. No six years Have me bad for the pregnant every other year nine and a half to your kid now. You can change your mind. All right child support You got to put it on a south and and then you create your co-parenting We got coach Chris who asked the question in here She's a co-parenting coach. You all see the thing up there my mentor dot life is dot life That's the new things to the dot com my mentor dot life. We've got co-parenting coaches on there Branding coaches relationship coaches health and wellness coaches all kind of coaches get your co-parenting coach and get you some Standards put in place on how you're gonna deal with your children's father General God bless you now Being courted by somebody he puts in effort Respectful good character, but he is younger. I'm 22 19 my toxic X was 37. How do I stop comparing? Well, if you still compare and that means you haven't fully healed from your toxic X So you need to take some time and make sure that if you're gonna be dating this young man You still need to be healing you still need to be reading as many books as you can watch as many videos as you Can talk into as many Coaches as you can and really getting that in your spirit because if you still compare and that mean you haven't done the work to heal La Sonia God bless you now Trying to keep up with y'all now alone Amanda God bless you one year talking to a pastor currently going through a divorce I have Given so much of my time and emotional support Financial support and he doesn't pour back talk to other women calls me nightly at 11 p.m And I'm just so exhausted. I love him Amanda, okay Now see I try to be patient with the men of the cloth But there's right there you talking to a pastor When the pastor doing all of that there what you saying that mean you talking to The spawn of Satan that mean you talking to one of Satan's minions because a Man of God ain't gonna be doing all that So when a man is a pastor and he acting foul the way he acting Amanda you got to get from around him because God gonna lift his hand off of him and that man gonna be open for attack of The adversary and what that means is he might get sighs white and Call be spinning and hit the medium and got to get neck back Get neck and back chiropractor. You see what I mean? He might it might be a bald eagle just fly through his window and You know, he got to get a whole new windshield. It could be Anything could come upon this man when you plan with God So when a man doing that right there You got to get as far from him as possible and see you say I love him But what where you failing at is you're not loving yourself It's okay to love somebody, but you got to love you. You can't just let somebody, you know Love you can't just love somebody and not love you. You got to love you No question just want to say thank you Britain Brown God bless you just want to say thank you Especially for the video about the clothes these days. I haven't laughed that hard in a minute. God bless you the queen of your boys. Hey, bless you now bless you and y'all try to keep the chat clear and Um, it's called a blessed trial for a reason. So act like you bless act like you got some sense in the chat now I'm sure on the God bless if you know a man really likes you. What reason would he start being Well, he start being consistent, but still being Respective and distant. He strategically text early for our date early that day and counsel Sure, I really don't that's a loaded question right there now I really don't understand what you mean in there because you hit me with a new word respective and Had not heard that one Respective and it could be a typo, but I don't know what it's a typo for maybe respectful still being respectful And but that don't go together with distance Yes, so Ronnie you might need a little coaching. She's running might need to look on or just Rephrase the question rephrase the question take it take your time sometime our thumbs get the best of us on here Elena God bless you just broke up with boyfriend of two and a half years Said he loved me and wanted to marry me, but always delayed the proposal never met his fam and Met kids a few times blamed a lot on anxiety said he never cheated thoughts Well what what it sound you was with a grown boy who did not know what he wanted so he's a man and A male but hasn't become a man and did not know what he wanted and so you was What they call his hold me down you held him down meaning You was there for him. You were a placeholder. You were a test dummy You were a practice dummy and he used you for them two and a half years That's why I tell y'all all the time at 12 month mark and season got to be made 12 month mark up season got to be made 12 months It's time to get engaged between 12 and 18 months by the 18th month if you of age Meaning y'all not in high school y'all not in college if you of age by the 18th month and you're not engaged It's got it's time to go on by your business It's time to go on by your business and you leaving for that week or two In the bit that first couple weeks might make him gonna get on one knee because he realized you're not gonna sit around and wait And if that's what it take okay cool, but if he get on that one knee Then that way need to be set Inside of six months by the 24 month mark y'all need to be married If y'all of age meaning over the age of 25 if you under the age of 25 then Gotta take that with a grain of salt Maria God bless you now Tony thank you as always I'm wondering about what your thoughts to a person would be on a spiritual breakthrough Fasting as an example to push through to get clear Well Maria, I'm not really the person for that You might want to talk to the brother the pastor that do videos You know, I'm not really cuz I know I'm spiritual. I love Lord, but now I'm gonna eat now You see I'm saying I love Lord, but now I'm eat now I might intermittent fast and I know y'all pronounce that intermittent I'm pronouncing in a minute fast because it's only gonna be a few minutes that I'm gonna be fasting So I'm gonna wake up and I might wait to buy 12 1 about 1 p.m. Definitely gonna get me something to eat and I'm talking to the Lord in my spirit, but I'm not really the one to advise on fasting and all of that not That's just certain people what I would say as a single woman Keep your legs closed. That's fasting Don't be messing with the I know a lot of y'all got the that right there y'all love But y'all be dealing with that night. I'll be seeing memes about it I did not know that was such a thing that y'all ladies out there Nasty like that with the little operator. So fast friend if I break fast from a Fornication fast from reality TV, you know, so all this stuff is fast to reality TV secular music All that stuff could get your breakthrough too So, you know, but on the food I Can't talk I can't touch on that one. Can you be them past that and somebody trying to sue me? Sierra God bless you've been dating a guy long distance He went on vacation with his homeboys hasn't called much or text since his vacay we talk every day should I be upset? That's your personal choice on what to do with your energy, but It's a little strange That's a little strange because you know, you're not partying 24 hours a day So that would kind of lead me to believe it's a woman over there in the mix Me personally as a man come me personally from and and I'm tell you like right here It's going on vacation with your boys. Come on. Y'all y'all ladies got to get that together now Unless y'all married and these men is good God fearing men and they're going to do like like one day I might do a man's trip and I've thought about it for years, but then I'm like for what? I'm like, what is the purpose of going out the country or going on vacation with some men What we're going to be doing sitting look at each other. What we're going to be doing when men go on a vacation. It's to Don't women that's on the vacation y'all ladies got to understand that now Unless he in some kind of multi-million dollar mastermind group that they finna go over there and Concop the idea like I'm going to a little get away for two nights with some business partners But we building a business and it's just boop in and out You know I'm saying right at the road and you best believe when I'm gonna be on the phone with my wife I'm gonna be on the phone with my wife morning lunch and night So see you got to realize that now Gloriously crown I have been blessed by your mess a God blessing now God bless especially The one about holding men accountable alone one money and let it go until your message got all my money back He is 10% because if it wasn't for you Here's 10%. Okay. God bless you. Okay. You give me some God bless him. I Would have gotten zero back. Thank you so much. Hey Right need the rest of y'all to get y'all money back Ashley God bless you Tony. I appreciate your obedience to the Lord and your willingness to serve others Your wisdom has helped me help others in addition to providing me with knowledge pertaining to me God bless you. Just wanted to bless you and say thank you. Hey bless you now Hey, some of y'all messages disappearing on me now. So y'all I'm gonna try to find them though Tau bless you met him 15 days ago Three dates calls daily man of God respectful Abstinent wants to get to know me more and Me him today asked me to cousin graduation party next Saturday not committed yet too early, right? He's 46 I'm 42 Tap y'all making way now it but at 46 he ought to know what he Knows he ought to know what he wants. So y'all moving in the right direction tap. So You know, it is too early 15 days now about by date 30 20 30 45 He'd probably be asking you will you be his woman? But what you need to be looking for in this situation? Does he have a place to stay? His that he pays the bills at does he have a car? does he have a job or income coming in He need those three things outside of his relationship with God if you got a relationship with God Outside of his relationship with God, he need to be paying paying the bills on a place to stay He need to have transportation If it's not a car then he need to have my bus pass a subway pass metro car and he need to have a job Be making some kind of income regularly Joy God bless it does difference in religion affect the growth of relationship. He's Muslim And I'm Christian both prayerful and live by God's values in our respective beliefs. Oh Yes, that does affect the growth of the relationship Because you got two different religions. That's two different foundations and Although a lot of it may be similar The core of it will be different and that's why it's a different religion would need to be a difference of religion If it was the same thing So that is gonna affect the growth of your relationship and technically you are unequally yoked Because if you were Christian and he does not believe that Christ is The way the truth and the life the son of God which Muslims don't believe that Christ is the son of God And that means you are unequally yoked So when your children come into the world if you remain with him You will be wanting to share with them the gospel of Christ and in his Gospel Christ is a good man, you know a Prophet or what have you but he's not the son of God and and that is non-negotiable in Christianity So if you truly believe The Christian belief then you unequally yoked if you with someone that does not believe that about Christ Can y'all make it work? Yeah, you can make it work you make anything work you go data lying and Turn that into your husband and he'll lay up beside you and won't eat you while you're sleeping You can make anything work, but is it foundationally sound? No, is it foolproof? No, are you gonna be under attack spiritually? absolutely 100% and You're not gonna be able to join hands in prayer in Jesus name because he don't pray in Jesus name. You see what I'm saying So you really y'all really got to understand is do you have a religion or do you have a relationship as a difference? Sierra God bless you now. I know men are very Decisive, but what do you think of the man that says? They know they would marry a certain woman from that first date or just from seeing them from across the room Well, it really what that is speaking to and what it proves is that men are visual creatures and that is true That is true. I mean if a man a man has a certain look That if he looks upon her She could Eat boo boo ice cream. She literally could just love Boo boo ice cream when I say boo boo ice cream. I'm talking about real boo boo That goes in the freezer and come out and she talking about is good for your skin if he thinks she gorgeous Hey, let me taste that so what you say so you try so what you were saying it like the feces Because it come out of the body and it's already processed that is good for your skin That ain't that bad? That's how a man will be if he think a woman look good So that's what that means because the personality is what really matters, but men looks That's why you see women who look a certain way And they got no brains might not have no ambition, but they got a husband and you like hot in the run Did she get a man? Well, that's what that's what he would he was looking. He wasn't trying to feel Now I'm gonna tell y'all some time for those of y'all who Send the blessing at 499 those right there they disappear on me now y'all got to forgive me They disappear. They don't stay up there. So I Don't know what you why you two did that but That they Why did that y'all but y'all got to forgive me cuz then y'all be looking at me like I'm crazy Latoya God bless you as a life coach. How do you deal with people who come to you just to use you for your wisdom? They never booked with you never so anything and never support basically only stick around until they get blessed Uh, Latoya my phone be Disconnected my phone. I My I'd be tired up You hear what I'm telling I'd be tired up. Oh Man, hey, man, I missed that text. Hey Forgive me by that. Oh, it's been smooth. It's been crazy. It's been so busy You see what I'm saying? You have to get busy. You can't be reachable. You got to be you got to be gone You know, you they got to let them call them talk to their voicemail when they talk their voicemail three times When they send three four texts, they don't get no answer now They know You coming to the table with a fork in your appetite and you ain't bringing no dish Now they start to realize that and they'll change that energy to be in your life But the longer you keep answering the longer you remain available to get used you gonna keep getting used Chevelle God bless you now Tony God bless you. I see you as my big brother from Christ I have learned how to cut off a grown boy and successfully done So I've listened to a woman's influence currently listening to dream chaser Also on missus, right? Hey, God bless you now. I got a lot of my books God bless you now y'all. Let me see if I could catch some of these on Messages that disappeared on me. Do you believe What a man to woman does will happen to his girl daughter Not necessarily because God God is a redeemer so not necessarily but The sins of our fathers a lot of time does come on us Tony I need advice guy met is perfect treats me like a queen only thing is he admitted He is bisexual not too sure how I feel about that uh Never reach question in I'm really questioning Give me one second your question disappeared. Let me read your question again Tony I need advice guy met is perfect treats me like a queen only thing is he admitted he is bisexual Not too sure how I feel about that. Okay. All right. All right miss Michelle Well, I'll tell you like this right help me Michelle Okay, if y'all gonna be together And other day I'll talk about the yeast infection Now what you have the what you have to realize is Men already bays every other day So beyond just the spiritual and the sin and all that that's going on Just imagine a man pulling that thing Out of some booble Okay My home boys call it a dookie shoot Just imagine him pulling that out that dookie shoot and sticking it in you. All right Now let me ask you you won't feces in there All right See sometimes you just got to get literal about it Do you see y'all get caught up in all this Twitter world and oh accept people as they are and It just if I'm a woman be like listen if I'm a woman I won't know man who coming out of that You finna come out of you've been nothing a fudge packing and now you finna And then come home and put that In in your child where you got to bear child children out of The child got to come out that canal that this man and pull out of another man behind and Coming come on. I see sometimes we got to think about it literally or rest really actually going down here You something it's bad enough the man cheating with other women now He cheated with a whole man. Now. It's one thing when another woman want to come fight you What you gonna do when his boyfriend want to come fight you using that that picture you bought some RuPaul RuPaul finna I'm saying RuPaul finna have you so bent up So you got to think about this not just the physical implications, but then not think about the spiritual Think about all the spirits that's tied up in that and so for him to tell you that And let me tell you let me tell you this right here There is no such thing as a man being by example There is no such thing as a man being by example He gave There is no such thing as a man being He like means And he forcing the interaction with women for society's acceptance He like me and he like me and and he dealing with you for society He dealing with you for a cover-up He won't you to know he gonna be cheating on you with a man But the go home to his mama his mama will know nobody boy friend. His mama see you His dad see you he couldn't see you You see I'm saying ain't no such thing as a intellectual man Yeah, he liked me So y'all got to understand and be honest with this happened a lot now So y'all got to be praying for discretion You got to be praying for discretion You got to be praying for that discerned spirit so you could sense that spirit and know if he liked me if he Like me. Okay play boy. Hey, that's on you. Go ahead. All right. Go right ahead But don't have don't be talking about you like me and and when no gonna pick what team you're gonna play on All right, ain't gonna play now So let me see now Ramika God bless a metal guy who loves God really likes me is sweet Kind and respectful. He is waiting to be approved for disability due to a car accident trying to be open-minded about his situation How to move forward thoughts? Well The thing is is can he work now if he completely disabled and he need to wait on disability That's different. If he could work sit down at the call center Answerphone calls Be a trucking broker When you on the computer and you just broker in the trucks be a dispatcher You could be disabled when your back and your spine Legs and still be a dispatcher still be a trucking broker still work customer service work for American Express at your house Because I'd be calling the customer service American Express Bank of America people be at their house. I'd be here in the bank mama Hungry you got your child all in my bank account You at the house So he could be at his house you see I'm saying so My Recommend as a man I Would not recommend a woman be with a man that's sitting waiting on a check Instead of going and finding a job to that check come through Because you still get disability now If your mouth working and you getting disability for your back Kitty God bless you didn't talk to my boyfriend for six months due to several Cheating we never officially broke up. He was with someone for three months He works 20 minutes away from her when I asked him to relocate. He says that temptation is everywhere thoughts You wasting all your time you wasting all your time and you need to move on with your life You need to cut him off 100% completely get your accountability partner to hold you accountable Even if you got to pay for coaching every single day it'll be better to pay for coaching every day Then to be tied up with a soul ties had end up had somebody going upside your head putting STDs in your body and changing your life Forever you'd be better off getting your coach to hold you accountable and Washing your hands and moving on with your life. That's a waste of absolute time what you're doing right there Brick brick God blessing now same thing happened to me that happened to the woman about the chair situation I didn't want to move because the man was white and I wasn't going to let him tell me to move My man and him were about to fight Hmm That deep doesn't I all right all right. Thank you for that blessing now. Shout out to us the morning blessing All right Hey, I feel you know That president got full feeling bold got full feeling bold get about your seat This ain't rose apart got full feeling bold, but I feel you will see me personally I try to keep my wife I try to let her know I have to tell her baby listen Don't be don't be out here yapping and John at these men because you already know I'm not finna fight I'm a shooter. I'm a shooter my bite her to I'm sure them And so do you want me to be doing 10 years because I'm gonna lay them down I'm fit to put some hot lead on them So before you go to getting in this argument at the game just ask yourself Do you want your husband to be on a tent at Merckard or do you want your husband be in the house With a kid cuz I'm not finna play with the man. I'm finna lay them right on out Even if I got him in the knee couch Then I'll slap him come a back hurt. So I'm not finna be out there touching with the man All right Like that and then I get the best lawyer money could buy and try to beat it Try to beat it. So y'all ladies y'all coming in these situation just Don't get your ego caught up in it because man We don't do a whole lot of talking you'll lose your man to the prison system or to the grade fighting for you And so you got to ask yourself. Is it really worth it? Is it really worth it? Courtney God bless you just a little support for all that you do keep on keeping it real bless you and your family Hey, God bless you now Why about me little Apple watch this show them that I'm on YouTube on the watch Now y'all forgive me now. I miss I miss some of these questions Let me see I'm trying I'm trying to catch it, but for me to really see it Okay, Denise give me trim second day of no contact with the man I'm in love with he takes me for granted and disrespects me. Thanks for your wisdom. Hey, God bless a keep watching these videos Keep watching these videos Liz see God uses you to show us women his love for us Thank you. You need to start your online dating app because it's getting harder to date these day. Hey bless you Liz If I get the money one day to get me a app the way I want it I might do it But my app gonna be different than what they got out here. No Catch some of the question. All right for those I see on Call some of y'all that I miss I'm gonna keep scrolling through here Lady see that's your name lady. Bless you. See your message got removed Sierra Measure move Redeem what causes a man to only be active in one child in one of his child's life Kids are four months apart. He played us both, but it's with her now It's most likely just her Meaning it's she it's the spirit on her he She could have a Jezebel spirit or she could be the woman of his dreams but typically a man a Grown boy deal with his children based on how he feel about the mom Because a man The way a man's heart is wired. He could do with or without Anybody a child whoever so it depends on how he feel about the mom For grown boys and you got a grown boy. That's how he played both of y'all Y'all baby four months apart So to be honest with you I will actually follows you be thankful that he out the way you really don't even want that kind of man You'd be better off. He really was your donor So that you could raise your child with your influence and your family's influence alone without his grown boy energy And grown boy lessons and grown boy example Yes, your child gonna have questions But you'll be able to answer them with your stability and with your ambition and your growth and all of those things Miss China doll. God bless you. Hey, Tony different different question tonight. I'm starting a CNA school I'm starting a CNA school. My name is essential health careers. I can't think of a tagline any ideas idea CNA school Hmm Tagline That's a tough one. Yeah, you might have to do a branding session on that one CNA now CNA white booty now That's one thing I remember about my sister and my wife used to be a CNA when she was in high school They they got the white So me person if I and that's I feel like could be the worst part of the job having a white somebody having to bathe them so you in a bathing All kind of stuff. So my tagline to be playing awful. We get you through The s the stuff, okay Teach you what you need that, you know what my tagline to be playing off off off the mess We get you through the mess through the jump Because hey, you got to have a servant's heart do that CNA work. I know I wouldn't last a day Just a little support. Okay, I seen that one now somebody else popped up here Right Rn Now y'all got to hold on cuz see something when somebody's sending them old Colorful them colorful chats. I have to Try to honor that cuz they're going above and beyond I want nobody to be especially in this day and Age right now with all we got going on. I want nobody wasting no extra chain But Nessa look like your question got retracted Perfect. Should I give a guy another chance if he did the self-work eight months has passed and he reached out to me last week Personally I wouldn't recommend it eight months a lot of time and you really don't know if he's done the work So typically if a man want to be with you, it's gonna he gonna come back within a couple months, you know, three months My wife and I was exception to the rule it took six months and that's just how big my ego was and just my pride also I was 22 or 21 so it was a different situation. I was now probably about 22 So I was so it was immaturity if y'all of age and it take eight months for him to come back to you I keep it moving Shanice God bless you sending a blessing. Thanks today for your video on black love and colorism It gave me a totally different view on black race as a whole. I never took it as deep or that serious But now I do so again, thanks. Hey bless you if you miss my video from the day it was a little deep I had turned off the comments because I just saying won't no ignorance and now in the comments and upsetting people's spirit Caramel kisses God bless you now Oh For them shout outs to the moderators mama tish God bless you now It's a fight coming on tonight. I'm paid $65 for so y'all I got to get on going in a little bit now Main card and probably gonna be on for a while though But if being single is not a curse, which I believe is true and it is not for everyone to get married What do you do with that person who is dating? They can't date Intentionally who is dating if you date in then you need to be dating intensely if you date and you can date Intentionally because if you dating then Marriage is next if you don't want to get married or if you don't believe marriage is for you Then don't be dating because now you picking up soul ties and you going through a whole lot of stuff for nothing Hey, Tony, can you please talk about some faithful men? We hear so much about why men cheat as if there is no hope for faithful committed relationship Well, even it's kind of like We only got so much time on earth and We only got so much time to talk So use better to be prepared for the bad then to just harp on the good what's understood don't need to be explained and Now the other part of this is I live with myself as a man But I really don't know what other men do in their life So I can't really speak on faithful men because I know a man could cheat in five minutes So unless I see a man 24 hours a day, I don't know that he's faithful I just know that I'm faithful and I'm not gonna talk about myself every day and be harping on it So when I talk about the faithfulness, it's really just telling you about my love for God And that's why I'm faithful to my wife because of my relationship with God It's much deeper than love because love won't even keep a man faithful You know a man could love you and still cheat on you and that don't make sense to you But it's levels to love Because I could love this here remote. You see under me. I could love this here hat I could love this here office, but it's levels to love So to be to love and then to be in love. That's two different things And so a person a man could literally love you to the point to where he'll take somebody life for yours He could love you to the point that he would give his life for yours for you And he still could cheat on you. So for me, it's a combination of loving my wife loving and fearing and respecting and revering God and Having tapped into my purpose see because when you tap into your purpose now you have people that count on you Whether it's your football team you coaching whether it's your staff at work that you supervise Whether it's your community that you are Influencer in or whether it's online your platform. So If I think about cheating, I'm also gonna think about y'all I'm gonna think about how many y'all will be let down if I cheat on my wife Now when I couple that inspiration with the love of God and the love for my wife That's what keep me faithful But all I could speak for me. You said I mean on that does situation because I Know how much of a challenge that is, you know for men to do Queen heart is a dear John Convo necessary with a friend who was acting funny a blessing on Queen heart a His girlfriend heard me giving advice on how to get closer with his daughter She preferred him to refuse convo with the mom and interfere with their visits um You could do that Queen heart, but you've got to be prepared to get cut off But me personally I typically do those, you know, I ain't heard it called dear John But I get where you're going picking up what you putting down But I typically do those and get cut off. I get cut off by everybody You know cuz I'm gonna tell you the truth. I'm gonna tell you y'all see how I be on here I'm gonna tell you the truth now. You're gonna be mad. You're gonna hurt, but I tell the truth to myself That's why I'm where I am in my life as far as my faithfulness and my walk with God is because I tell myself the truth I check myself and so Anybody in my circle, I'm gonna tell you the truth It might hurt your feelings you might not ever want to talk to me again But one thing I know is when your head hit the pillow, you're gonna know I ain't lie to you When stuff hit the fan, you're gonna know I ain't lie to you And so don't ever be that person that sees somebody finished up in a snake pit And you just say I ain't gonna say nothing I'm saying I'm gonna let them go and get bit. Then I'll take them to the hospital No, I'm gonna let them know and if they still want to keep going now, they can't be mad at you when they get bit Keeley God bless you now. Keeley you need to change your picture now I remember your picture now all them blessing you to sin been gone a minute still watch faithfully been pouring into my 20-year-old daughter your wonderful teachers and getting her back to college grateful for all you do blessing you on your family Hey, God bless you now God bless you Let me see Are you generally good vibing? What? do You do when dealing with repressed anger Um, now I'm good vibing now until somebody crossed me now when they cross me now Listen here. I'll check them in the name of the Lord now I don't I ain't had to put no hands on nobody I ain't had to do no harm to nobody but I'm a region from left to right Talk the bottom without yelling and without cursing. That's just how I get down. I Was talking to a man today. He's doing the granite. He's doing The countertops my wife switching from granite the courts Calcutta courts and It's a little more expensive and then he didn't come and got half of my money in cash money And then he tell me they can't unhook the plumbing that they don't know how to do the unhook the plumbing So I told him I say that's something you should have told me Before you took my money so that I could factor in the cost and I could price in a plumber Because y'all change the countertops. I'm thinking y'all know how to do everything that come with it I'm so sorry. I thought I mentioned that you didn't mention that You you now you mention after you got my money because you ain't want to add you want me to calculate no extra costs And how you come so I checked them right like that right on the text message. He sent a long apology I left them on red just let them feel my energy. I had some men in the house the other day They they I circuited my My power the next day they came here. I say listen here Don't put nothing don't don't touch nothing in my house that you don't know what you doing Because when I'm from we don't go to court. We did graze this money right here It's hard for me to earn and I transition from the streets to get to where I am today Don't come in my house mess with my money. It was two men And I told them straight like that. So I so what I want y'all to understand is that Jesus flipped over them tables in the church Now, you know all of them use our excuse, but for me When you try me like a basal, I got to let you know I ain't gonna slap you now unless you swing on it But I'm gonna let you know straight like that right here So don't don't don't you know how good vibes, but you got to be able to put people in their place, too Cuz in this world here folks will run all over you She reached God bless Tony it's been a while, but I've been watching and listen glad I made it a day God bless you Hey bless you now My best friend of seven years just got out of prison He stays with another woman now do him being on Probation due to him being on probation. He says he wants to marry me once he gets himself together Should I give him a chance? No No, go about your bidding go about your bidding Go about your bidding He looked somebody else stay with cuz for one you say best friend You don't ever marry your best friend if this was your boyfriend and y'all friends But it's your boyfriend y'all being lovers. That's totally different You also can't trust a man when he talking in prison You also can't trust a man when he fresh out of prison especially after seven years So don't believe nothing. He's saying and he lived with another woman do to him being on probation He could have put your address on now. He could have put it mama address on that He could have put an auntie address on there. So he lived with another woman if they ain't no Ken What you think he got her doing? Acrobatics you mean Acrobatics breaking her back Somebody say why the fast from the vibrator that ought to be common sense now come on now For one when you doing that what you just you just doing and you just looking at the ceiling or You lusting you think about your old man To you altering your body you altering your body chemistry because a man not gonna be able to duplicate that His tongue or his body part. Nobody part on him gonna be able to duplicate that little viral So now your body getting used to that so now when you get your real man You can't even respond to his touch cuz you use the battery you use a You used to all that and ain't nothing on that man body gonna be able to duplicate that and I read years ago Now I read by that years ago It was a study on this and say that it changed women body chemistry And a lot of y'all don't want to admit that cuz you want that little fix Cuz cuz you don't want to have to Discipline yourself to go without that little fix But it said change woman love It I saw a lady say you gonna go from walk to a dap the d-snap for dry and They say that what the vibrator is doing taking y'all from To dry I'll say all right. Okay. Yes. What the study say y'all want to read studies. So all right this y'all study But I could imagine so a need to lay off that for your spirit and for self-control Consecration you need to lay off of cuz they ain't change. It ain't better than you like Jasmine God bless you saw this movie Of a man cheating on his wife and in the movie. He said to his mistress is leave my wife out of this She's nothing. She has nothing to do with it Do you agree men cheat not because of the wife, but because of their decision and the opportunity? Absolutely a man don't cheat on the wife. He cheating on his low integrity He cheated because he ain't no good. He cheated cuz he's he he ragged it and sorry but a woman can't make a man cheat because if A woman that bad a man or leave before cheating a man or leave So a woman can't ever make a man you could never believe a man say I cheated because she yelled at me I cheated because she cheated on me or I cheated because she ain't no good I cheated cuz she ain't she don't cook. No you cheated cuz you're a weak man Because of she that sorry your butt should have left You cheated cuz you're a weak man with lower integrity So get that straight and so that's all that be So yeah, he right His wife and have nothing to do with it. Sorry, but and the person who wrote that know that that's why they put it in Now you gotta remember art imitate life Pronounce Vanilla Vanilla all right now Having a good time when they name you Vanilla bless you now Do you think long distance relationships work? It's been a year and seven months Now don't let me speak on your situation. All right. Don't let me don't let me speak anything negative on your situation Okay. All right. All right. All right. You hear how I'm asking you? Okay. All right long distance. All right I got a video on long distance, but a god bless you now to each day on When be me I started talking to a guy a few days ago. I haven't heard from him one day bad sign a Few days ago, it ain't that bad it ain't that bad But if a man is really into you he's not gonna let a day go by he gonna talk to you every day Tony I heard so many bad stereotypes on dating service men for example Dating service men. Okay, police officers fire fighters and military men thoughts You heard right you heard right You heard right now if you go through a hundred of them you might find half a one that's decent but Majordom gonna be trash just because For one you got to realize Those aren't being a police That's not a desirable job so Because who want to who want to do a job to where you go get shot? Being in the service. That's not a desirable job Who want to do a job to where oh crazy president can send you to get shot? Okay being a firefighter Who want to run into a burning building? So a lot of times men get those jobs from a place of insecurity Now it's you got one out of a thousand of them that get in there because they just really want to serve They just grew up. I want to be a fighter fighter. I want to save babies and cats from the fire Let's go and they that's that's they really want to do that. The rest of them is a paycheck They saw it's a suit that come with it. They know what come with a suit They heard all the stereotypes about a man in uniform and they trying to get a piece of that action I'ma just be honest with you as a man because I'm about to be a police I'm about to be I'm about to go to the army. I'm about to be a detention deputy I'm about to do all that but that's why because a lot of men We weak in our spirit and we want to be in a job that represents power That's why you see Polipa Allen that why you see this going on with what the police doing is because it's weak men Who got in a position of power? Because he used to get slapped round growing up So because he used to get slapped round now He won't him a badge and a baton and a gun so he could take somebody else's life Out of his pain and insecurity And so that's why when you dealing with the men in uniform You it's a lot that come with that and it's some of them. That's pure but they are Few and Far in between So you got to be you do got to keep your eyes open Started talking again after his mom's service. He should know right Sandy, I don't recall don't know what your question piggybacking off of Hi, mr. Gaskins first. Thank you for your work. God bless you. I'm 24 ambitious and Etc. I don't want a guy with children. What do you think about that? You're 24. That's that's that's fair That's fair you 24 of you 44 Then 99% of the men you meet gonna have children at least 90% 24 Your dating pool is totally different. So that's a okay standard So, you know, you're doing pretty good right there Make sure you put the hashtag Q in front of your question Would you share if a man has reached out to you? But my intuition lets me know he is trying would you share? If a man has reached out to you, but my intuition lets me know he is trying Surround I don't know if you talking about if he reached out to me. Um, it sounded like you said if he reached out to me Um Or you now if he reached out to me, no, I wouldn't share it, but if I'm not understanding That's not what you're asking Now when y'all put a question in there, I'm gonna try to see it. Yeah, you got to wait that I'll stop talking That's when I really see it. I know I missed a million of them though So I got a bottle Let me see. It's 10 20 I got by When I got about 25 more minutes unless my phone died Do you and your wife have rules on the type of guests that can stay at your home? For example only family And no girl slash guy friends can stay overnight Uh, well, well actually not a keyword you said is wife. Okay, so see this my wife So because she my wife, I don't have women friends and she doesn't have men friends Because when you marry you don't have friends of the opposite sex when you marry you may have colleagues That you know of from college That you bump into and say, hey, how you doing? How the kid doing all right by But it's not a single man Texting my wife Phone as a friend and it's not a single woman texting my phone as a friend Now me being a coach, I have clients who are women and they text me business questions But not hey, how you doing tony? What you working on? What are your dreams? What are your hopes and your fears? What is the lord putting in your spirit? That's a friend Don't have none of that. So so for me in my house We will serve the lord meaning for me in my house ain't nobody staying over here Ain't nobody staying over here Family ain't staying over here too long. Okay, you be my mother-in-law live with with us. We got an apartment The lord the lord didn't allow us to be able to put you in apartment. Okay. Bye. All right, see Okay, it's been nice. Have you all right Family ain't even staying over here. You hear me? I need my peace Hey tony is there a deeper meaning behind a guy telling you he doesn't know what he wants It means he doesn't want you That's really the deeper meaning is that he is he trying to tell you he don't want you But in a nice way So when he say he don't know what he won't he just trying to that's what he trying to say That's the meaning of that Uh, you are a beautiful god bless you tony you hit the nail on the head about people seeking power because of pain and insecurity How can we be strong in our own spirit when dealing with people like this so we don't give them a reaction well To not give a person a reaction You either gonna have to remove that person from your life Or you're gonna have to remind yourself of who you are and what you do And your principles, you know your code your guidelines In order to not give them a reaction, but some people They know how to get that reaction at you. So If you know that they got your number and you you know, they know how to push your buttons Then that's when you're gonna have to remove yourself Now redeemed i haven't seen this name here a few times now, but see whoever this here They know how to drop them question in right when i'm finished talking So they pop right up all right somebody to figure out Winters lily, let me get this because i'm a senior dean in here A lot of time. How do you feel about women who try to pursue men? They just desperate. I feel that they desperate. I feel that they unlearned That they haven't had a man in their life who who loves them and who is honest with them And so they don't understand the implications of a woman pursuing a man They don't understand how desperate it looks to the man. They don't understand how dangerous it is they don't understand how it up ends and derails the natural occurrence of things And how they start that relationship upside down So that's really how i feel about that now Gina god bless you. Why do men talk about sexual market value? And is it true that a man will want a younger woman? The more successful he becomes Well, that's just grown boys, you know who see women as meat Who see women as a play toy see see women as Usury something to just use for his own insecurity immaturity So that's grown boys speak right there a grown man. Don't talk about that And a grown man don't want no younger woman either because You want a woman that's on your mental level? I'm 36 years old. Yeah And i'm a successful man And I could buy what I want to buy go where I want to go And i'm living my purpose And it's not my dreams, but this is my purpose my dream would be to pro athlete and make that but this is my purpose and so I don't want no younger woman And i'm a real man and real men we move the same we think the same real men grown boys think the opposite grown boy wanted a younger woman so he could raise her so he could tell her what to do So he could run game on her that she never seen never heard uh A grown man wanted a woman who got some maturity and some intelligence that could articulate herself That could think at least on the level that he on if not a little higher So that they could build together grow together and they can strengthen one another that what a grown man wants so what it is is you listening to the Mid towel and the red pill Lames online and that's where you picking up these little words from but you ain't never heard sexual market value on my page Or nobody pays that's like me that that's a grown man Who want to be faithful who want to be who want to love a woman the way christ love the church? You heard that on a grown man mouth? Uh, why does the bible forbid divorce and remarriage? You know, I can't tell you that you know that that's what god put in place and It was dealing with the times It was dealing with Covenant So that people have to honor their word So that people have to Honor their family their lineage so that The the wiles of the world the youthful lust because see what god knew was that if marriage and every if if divorce and all of that was just willy-nilly free reign There was nobody would work for a marriage. You're getting the one argument up. We done. It's over bye So that was put in place And so but what you have to realize is that god Knows and understands all and so When it comes when and a lot of times people say well, oh the bible only okays divorce if There was infidelity And what they're not taking into account is that it doesn't say If there was abuse because that was allowed A man in that age in that day and age could beat his wife The breaks off of you hear me in public everything so but today That is a crime And the bible tells us obey the laws of the land meaning don't break the laws That is in your land. That's why the bible even speak of and condone slavery Because that was legal in that bible time in new testament. That was legal Didn't mean that it was right. That's why he freed the slaves from Out of Egypt But that's why I was saying the other day that People who don't understand spiritually and how to serve god by spirit and in truth Will read the bible and it will contradict itself because they'll say oh he delivered slaves Out of Egypt in the old testament But then in the new testament is to say slaves work until your master as you Working until the lord so how do this go together? But when you Read and with discernment and with the spirit of god and you serve him in spirit and in truth Then you start to understand the elves and flows and you start to really have a spiritual and relational connection with god not just religiosity and so therefore you understand that if You need to get a divorce God is not about to cast you into The pit of he double L That the same way if you in sin for leaving for your sanity for leaving for your safety If that was a sin, then guess what it's forgivable just like the rest of the sins you're committing All the other sins you commit you see what I mean, but sometimes people What people will do Is there a sin in every way possible? And then they'll say well, I can't leave this toxic marriage because the bible is against the voice But really don't care about nothing else the lord say don't do Breaking all the ten commandments But a state in their toxic marriage because they don't have the courage or the strength And they don't they fear the unknown they fear starting over So they let the bible hold them as prisoner in a toxic marriage when god never intended for you to suffer at the hands of man And so that's what we have to understand serving God in spirit and in truth not just in letter and our minute comprehension skills What does it mean when an ex tells you he doesn't know who he is? What should you do? Well, the key word that esmeralda is your ex. So what you need to do esmeralda is stop talking to your ex He's trying to tell you stop talking to me because you keep talking to me. I'm gonna bring you down Just glendale. Oh god bless you. God bless you, tony piggybacking off the sexual marketplace value question Do you have thoughts on how much older slash younger women should date? Older slash younger women should date You should not date a man More than ideally No more than five years younger or five years older Now you got a little wiggle room in there So really you want to be at about that five years younger would be the max really you don't You really don't want to deal with a man more than three years younger Then you so you kind of want to be You're gonna have two years younger At the max typically now i'm giving a little room because sometimes you can have a super mature man Now when they come older than you you really don't want to be over five years, but 10 years max So really between five and seven years about the oldest you want that man to be older than you because The older a man is then you the more likely he feels he can control you or he could re-raise you So you got to be careful with that I said what I said Tony men are confusing how is a blind man going to cheat on his wife or how is a woman Or how is a husband with a younger wife? Choose to pursue an older woman though. He did admit he wouldn't divorce his wife for her The key word right there is men are confusing So you ain't gonna understand and see what you what you're doing is You saying men you got to remember it's a difference between a man and a grown boy So when something like that happened don't make sense You that's when you realize you dealing with a grown boy and you got to start wasting your time my time all time Your money and go on about your life. You see what I'm saying Jivar Scott bless you. I would like to bless you and your family Also, I found out that the woman I was talking with was testing me till I broke on religion And she wasn't like that herself Was she wrong Testing me until I broke on religion And she wasn't like that herself. What's she wrong? Well, I mean technically she was wrong but Again, just like I tell the women you got to know what you stand on So we can't take and blame somebody else for fooling us Fool me want shame on you fool me twice shame on me So what you have to do is yeah, technically she was wrong but when we get fooled Then we got to learn that lesson from it and realize, you know what I should have stood on what I stand on I should have stood my ground. I should have stuck to my guns. I should have did what I knew was right But I gave in and I lost it So think about that now keely. God bless you now. God bless you Now now keely been blessing me like this since before uh They started giving stimulus and sba loans and ppp and unemployment keely keely been blessed now she been blessed going and coming she'd be blessing on him. Lord bless him now I'll be praying over y'all when y'all seen them blessing now. I'm trying to tell you Let's try have a peaceful evening Turning in y'all listen to this bless young man. I can say that being 58 Okay, keely. I know you 58 now. God bless you now Again blessing to you tone in your purpose. Good night. God bless you Men who don't compliment you although they are clearly into you thoughts Some men fear, you know putting you on a pedestal. I heard a guy tell me in college one time He said man, I don't compliment my woman because If I put a woman on a pedestal that means she's looking down on me And I was like wow And I try to do that every now and then with my wife. I try to go. I'll try to go a day Without giving a compliment just to see if it'll change her energy. I'll be like, let me see if this right here make a comeoff son But I can't do it. I can't do it because I truly love her So that's another thing is like When a man is in love, you can't hide love I'm gonna try to be like man. I'm a simp Man, I'm so but man Because I'm sitting there in the bed the other day I I get an email from Adidas I go and I I do Adidas haul for my wife Now my wife get paid From our companies and she made great money And here I am I spent probably a thousand dollars on this Adidas haul When she get paid and she could buy what she wanted to buy two days later. I got an email from Gucci I went in there First I was like, okay the boy called. Oh, okay. Yeah the boy called. Oh, all right. Let me get my wife a shirt order a shirt And I'm like Why am I doing this? Like why am I getting these for nothing gifts? Because I know gifts is one of her love languages quality time is one of her love languages So what I've been doing I'm talking to I the day I'm looking at her. You know, we right beside each other in the bed I'm looking a dead in eyes I'm looking in eyes and I'm gonna tell you now. I look my wife in eyes Why she was talking to me about um The school clothes and the lunchboxes she bought for the boys I look her in the eyes for about 30 seconds and Mr. Johnson Stood up I say what's going on I just looked at my wife for 30 seconds. That's love when you in love So let me help you understand this when a man in love he can't hide that love He can't fight that love. It ain't no silent treatments. They know holding back compliments Ain't no holding back love. Ain't no holding back gifts when a man in love His body gonna react his mind gonna react and he gonna show you And you're gonna feel the love and it's gonna be overwhelming to you. So understand that now Hey, Tony, what do you say about a woman who gets with a man who they know have a child That he does not take care of but has that man living with her Um Now what you want me you want to hear me talk bad about the one Uh, that's just that's just a Woman that's just a woman, you know, I heard a woman tell me one time And this woman was claiming to be a virgin She was telling me one time she say she say Tony as women We don't care Nothing about you being taken We don't care about a man being taken that just lets us know that he's willing to commit now I just need him to commit to me I would like wow So what i'm noticing from a lot of women today If they see this man And he a warm body and he willing to be with her And put that pole on her and help pay a couple bills He don't she don't care if he got 10 kids that he don't take care of She'll slap every lap one of his kids in the nose That gun that that don't love you She'll be in the little girl. Yeah You know, I'm a grown woman and I'm gonna just tell you the truth Your daddy really only picks you up because your mother makes him pick you up He really wants to be here with me Oh, yeah, it's women and told it's women and told that man daughter that night Oh, yeah, it's women and put too much salt in the man food in the man kids food women He letting her hold the baby She she thumping the baby in the nose because the baby can't talk she pulling the baby ill She's like, oh, I'm gonna make your ears big so that you look ugly So he think my kid with him look better than you I don't have women tell me. Oh, she gave him a girl. I got to give him a boy first And then after I give him a boy, I'm gonna give him a girl. So he don't need to be over there with her. Oh, yeah Oh, yeah, it's a lot of nasty women now We be talking about the men and how the men are but it's a lot of nasty women too And y'all know it. So that's all it is. It's just a woman who's nasty bitter And desperate So you can't really get at too much thought Because that'll trip you up That'll trip you up So let me see now if I miss a question. Okay, chantel. I see your question Outside of the same religious beliefs on what levels and or aspects of life should two people be equally yoked Thanks in advance coach t um uh You you have to that has to be decided by you And what matters the most to you? But for me it's foundational beliefs. So like for example My wife she want a vegetable pizza I want to meet lovers pizza My wife want to ride a roller coaster. I want to go to the movie My wife want to work and get everything done in one day. I want to take my time My wife want to do the work around the house herself. I want to hire a handyman See we completely we total opposites But you know what we agree on we agree on the way we raise our children We agree on politics We agree on religion. We agree on money You see what I mean? We agree on family relations how we deal and interact with family We agree with friend relations how we deal and interact with friends So we we agree on the foundational beliefs that will determine Of the relationship But what she want for dinner what I wanted for dinner don't have to be the same Because that doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things And what does it look like when a woman is pursuing a man? How do I avoid doing that? When you call in him every day instead of him calling you Am I being selfish wanting to know where I stand? No, you're not being selfish unless it's under You're not being selfish wanting to know where you stand if it's under three months Then you being desperate wanting to know where you stand Okay, I'll see the first part of your question All right, y'all I got about five more minutes on here now Tam rock god bless you now. Thank you for that blessing I don't know if you meant to put a question but put your question if you meant to put a question Lovely heart bless you. Tony. I appreciate you so much. I am 23 years old and before I started listening to you I really didn't understand a man's nature. Although I am close with my dad. You broke down relationships for me Hey, god bless you now God blessing Yeah, this thing, you know most daddies ain't gonna go in all this because you gotta realize I'm talking y'all an hour a day now But so, you know, it really ain't gonna be Many daddy that's gonna be talking to you Five or seven hours a week about a man So, you know, you're gonna get us you're gonna get something on here a little different Yep, because Sandra Um painted my office now see a lot of people thought this office was black This is it's called navy polo This ain't black these walls ain't black. It's called. It's navy blue This navy blue But I wanted to go with a you know darker color and Houston more yellow white walls And uh, and I bought these hill logos put these hill logos up And my wife got these hill bookshelves off of facebook marketplace for a hundred dollars got two of them in here Now y'all make sure y'all go on my mentor dot life if y'all in Y'all didn't see it now y'all go on my mentor dot life And get you a coach and if you are already a coach Then make sure you join my mentor dot life so you can get you some clients and you can help Gigi god bless your parents are divorced due to infidelity. It's been a month contact the dad He doesn't want to talk to me. He has other kids with another lady. I'm 24 Give him give him that space because see when you call him you represent his failure He failed with your mama. So he failed you he let you down so Give him that space let him go in the corner and sulk or pray and get a little healing And he'll reach out to you if he don't reach out to you in a couple months reach on out to him And and just keep praying for him portion. God bless you I married a grown boy and he has been using aggressive tactics to scare me in the past I have initiated divorce, but he is constantly begging me to take him back every day How will I make him stop? You're gonna need coaching portion He ain't gonna be able we ain't gonna really be able to dive into that here on this here this right here for a little little bit more Less complicated questions, you know, but that right there That's a serious situation and when you when you say aggressive Aggressive can turn real bad. So, you know, it's a lot of liability with a question like that. So You you're gonna need professional help on that Brother gas and what type of environment should a queen in her 40s place herself in to meet like-minded kings? God bless to be honest with you a lot of times I get that question, but It's not really about the environment. It's really about you just being prepared, you know So if you a queen, you got a look like a queen. You got a dress like a queen You know, you got a walk like a queen. Your energy got to be like a queen. Your smile got to be like a queen What that what that means is elegant pleasant you know wholesome Respectable, you know that energy that if you around royalty, they gonna have energy because they raised for that They raised to be royal they raised to be You know prestigious and elegant and classy so You don't have to go to a certain place It's really about you embodying that that mindset And you becoming that and and then when you just step out and you go to the grocery store You go to the gas station. You go to church. You go to the lounge on friday night to hit a live jazz You you know a fluent somebody throwing in there that might mean money though So I ain't talking about a fluent because you could be a queen and be broke And so you when you step out They just the man could see that you love yourself just your energy your aura your flow And that's what that's what bring them out because me and everywhere you ain't got to go to a certain manhole You know demand cave demand group Which uh with your short dress on you literally got to become her and then you attract him Anywhere you at? Hey, let me turn off the chat real quick and um Wrap it on up the night god bless y'all. I really appreciate you for being on here now Now what i'm seeing i'm seeing a lot of tonight a lot of questions, you know that's coming in Really trying to understand men and understanding the difference between a man and a grown boy And that's really what you got to get down to and you got to really get to that place to where You start to differentiate between grown men and grown boys and you don't mix the two and you don't hold A grown man at the level or the standard of a grown boy And you don't deal with a grown boy calling him a grown man thinking that he's going to change And he's going to grow and he's going to do something different If all he's showing you is grown boy tactics and grown boy behavior You got to be able to recognize the two and pull your britches up get off your back Open your eyes. Open your ears. Close your mouth Put your shoes on get on out the door Get on out the door move on with your life. See the thing about it is y'all giving people Too many chances and you're giving them too long You're giving them too much time to waste your time You give somebody 12 months to show you who they are At that 12 month mark you ought to be able to say this is my husband or this is my wife And you ought to be able to move on with your life at that point So hey god bless y'all i got the gold Daisies and roses bless you god bless you tony my favorite advice of yours has to be If you have to ask yourself whether a man loves you he doesn't you tell Me men are simple and they go after what they want. Hey I'm glad you got that right now wonderful wonderful bless you. Thank you so much. You have been such a blessing Hey bless y'all if you missed any of this you can watch it back watch it back You're gonna hear questions if you didn't get your question answered You probably would just wait on your question to be answered, but you could go back Okay, so i'm gonna love Be having workers in the house. They'll be leaving the doors open so they can walk right in like what y'all My man raised you your mama raised you in a barn like they close my door. Well, you don't know how to Turn the knob and come on in you got to leave the door open just because you're working He may be you running out my academician close that door You gonna be inside outside like my grandma used to tell me So now I got all this stuff flying around could eat boy Men right here working around working on my house leaving the door