 welcome back to another therapy Thursday. I spent a minute since I recorded one but that's because I don't plan on doing these weekly anymore maybe bi-weekly or once a month so I just got out of therapy I'm literally sitting in the car I just finished and it was a great session today no tears just today was one of those sessions where it was like what's the word I'm looking for like it was a session to see how everything has come full circle and to see how when doing the work and being intentional can lead to a great outcome and leads to growth and just development and happiness so what did we discuss today I'm not gonna go into details about what we discussed but there is something I actually just wanted to come in here and share that I felt was very important so I just came back from a trip a few days ago I went up by my cousin my best friend for like 10 days because I needed to get away I needed some time to just reset recharge and gain some clarity on a lot of different aspects in my life so I just I had to book that ticket because prior to leaving I was at a space where I felt so overwhelmed that I felt like I was going to explode like I was irritable I was frustrated I I just needed some self-care away from my day-to-day environment so I booked a trip and it was a time well spent very well spent I came back just feeling good like really good I feel content I feel happy and I feel ready to start pouring from my overflowing cup and hopefully I can manage to keep my cup overflowing while I pour from it but I do know life is about balance and I know that that may not be the case exactly and that I will have to take a break again because I'm a mother I'm a single mother at that and although I have help I do a lot on a day-to-day business I work I own a business I do a lot so every now and then I'm gonna hop on a flight and take a break so I didn't even post on like social media while I was gone I was barely on social media while I was gone I really just took the time to be present and enjoy where I was and who I was with I'm happy I did that I'm really happy I did that so one of the things that we were discussing as it pertained to the actual topic in my therapy session today was how this trip made me realize that sometimes love just isn't enough because you can love someone but you don't feel safe with them they disrespect you they violate you they don't add or won't add to your happiness they disrupt your peace there's so many other different things that could be a factor in this situation and all of those things should be and are more important than the simple fact that you love this person and I'm not saying you as in you but like just me based on my experiences is a realization that I came to that love just isn't enough now with me personally I completely fell out of love with my children's father before I physically left I just I couldn't stand him I couldn't I didn't want to be in his presence I didn't want to see his face my body stopped responding to him like everything just shut down I didn't love him anymore love no longer lived there so in me saying that sometime love isn't enough I started thinking about it more and I was like hmm maybe love is enough and the moment that you start to feel unsafe the moment that there's disrespect and violations and they're disrupting your peace and all of this maybe love just doesn't live there anymore and we have started like at least my generation my peers I feel like we easily mistake love for trauma bonding and that is toxic in itself and we're not aware of that and I say we because I think at one point I did the same thing but I know a lot of people that do mistake love for trauma bonding and now being where I am now I see it more clearly but you can never convince someone that what they are experiencing and what they're in is trauma bonding and not love I say all of this to say this love is beautiful I love love if you know me I am I'm very much a relationship type of girl I love all of the things that come with being courted and going out and feeling good and just being up under someone that just makes me feel good and safe and like I truly love love and I am speaking romantically because you know you love your family and all of that and that's a different topic in itself because you can do trauma bonding with family as well but right now I'm just speaking specifically about a romantic partner and love is beautiful the moment things start to get ugly the moment you no longer feel at peace the moment you no longer feel safe the moment you begin to feel violated and disrespected know that love no longer lives there do not mistake love for trauma bonding do not mistake love for how things were when things were good do not mistake love for how that person made you feel years ago or you know how that person held you down when you were going through a rough time that no longer exists remember that the moment things get ugly the moment that things become hostile the moment that anger can't be controlled the moment that you have to walk on eggshells the moment that you feel unsafe know that love no longer lives there know that it's okay to release and let go and move on I feel so at peace and so at ease right now because that simple realization put so much things into perspective for me that I'm okay with just seeing where things go and I know I'm not giving y'all a lot of detail because I'm I'm not I don't know if I ever will share that part of my life but I'm not ready to share it regardless but I'm at peace right now and I'm okay with where I'm at as it pertains to being open to another relationship and being with someone again so yeah my trip was good my trip was healing I was able to overcome some things that used to be concerning for me being that I went through what I went through and I feel good that I was able to overcome that I feel good that I was able to take my power back in a lot of different ways and I feel good to know that I'm not broken let me just put it that way that's about it you know that what I just said it was a big part of my that was a big part of the discussion in my therapy session today and I just wanted to share that for whoever needs to hear it love is beautiful love is kind of his gentle love is love is light don't mistake that for trauma bonding okay let go release it's okay to move on allow yourself to heal and allow love to find you again don't chase it anyways that's about it for this video now that I'm back and I'm feeling good I have a lot of work to catch up on so don't be surprised if in the next two three weeks I'm a little busted again but that's okay it's all about balance you know I'm gonna take the time to refill myself and then I'm gonna put myself into work but I'm always refill myself again however yeah if you're watching this and you've been thinking about going to therapy haven't made up your mind yet you're not sure if therapy would be a good option for you just take that step make that call go to a session and try it out therapy works I guarantee you that I am literally living testimony of that because my goodness anyways to all of my melanated women protect your womb by any means necessary and to everyone watching protect your peace by any means necessary I wish you all love light and prosperity and you'll see me in my next video