 As-salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. So first question, said, how can I refrain from idle talk especially with friends? I'm struggling make two hour for me. So first of all we ask Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala to bless you with the best of this world and the next and we ask Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala to make you and I from those people who guard our tongues and who guard what we say and whom or for whom our tongues will be a witness for us on the Day of Judgment and not a witness against us. So how do we refrain from idle talk with friends? Here I'm going to talk about two or three separate aspects. The first thing is the selection of the friends that you have is very important. The Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said المرأو على ديني خاليلة فليانظر أحدوكم من يخالل A person is upon the religion of their close friend so let every one of you look who he takes as a close friend. So when you're associating with people who their normal kind of way of dealing with things is to talk about things that don't benefit them and things that might be even sinful then for sure you know there's no doubt that that that one aspect is being careful about the friends that you keep. The second aspect is being a person who is whose tongue is busy with other things and the very word idle talk is such a powerful word because it shows us that the whole idea of idle talk is that our tongue is idle it doesn't have anything else to do so give your tongue something else to do make it busy with the remembrance of Allah make it busy with beneficial knowledge make it busy with learning and asking questions so that it doesn't become busy with other things and the third thing is to develop a culture among your friends and among yourself or with yourself that whenever you fall into something some kind of idle talk you stop yourself and you remind yourself it's very difficult in the beginning but over time it will happen you know you stop even for example someone has a habit let's say for example someone has a habit of swearing it's just a habit you know they've grown up with it that every other word they say they you know they curse and they swear for example and the person it's hard for them you know they keep falling back into it because it's a habit they've been in so what i would suggest for this person is really simple is that every time that word comes out of their mouth they make a stilfar and they remind themselves about it so i'm not going to say that again and they carry on and it may be a few days of slipping here and there but by the end of it that person has got rid of that habit the same with back biting so person i've got a habit of back biting but first time as soon as they hear themself do it as soon as they hear their friends do it it's astaghfirullah you know what it is i'm making a big effort not to do this i need to remember about that so inshallah i'm not going to do it again and they build a culture and a habit among themselves and their friends that they're not going to do that again so thinking about who your friends are obviously we're not suggesting you leave every single friend you have or anything like that but you know thinking who your friends are making a habit of remembering Allah and busying your tongue with with that which is good and when you do fall into it clearly you know stop yourself and openly remind yourself and remind yourself you're not going to do it again and over time that habit will be built inshaAllah ta'ala